# I'm new and happy to be here :) **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [February 11, 2009, 5:34am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/im-new-and-happy-to-be-here/25970 "2009-02-11T05:34:21Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 13\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![joemage](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/8edcca/32.png) [@joemage](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/joemage)\ **Post date:** [February 11, 2009, 5:34am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/im-new-and-happy-to-be-here/25970/1 "2009-02-11T05:34:21Z")
I’m a 40 yr old married male from northwest Arkansas, and am curious about the use of [pheromones](https://pheromonelabs.com/). My wife doesn’t seem… interested… anymore, so I want to check this out. I am skeptical but will be happy (thrilled) to be proven wrong. Thanks! ---
**Author:** ![Mr.Feel\_Good](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mr.feel_good/32/1148_2.png) [@Mr.Feel\_Good](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Mr.Feel_Good)\ **Post date:** [February 11, 2009, 5:41am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/im-new-and-happy-to-be-here/25970/2 "2009-02-11T05:41:51Z")
Hey there Joe, welcome to the forums! We actually get quite a few married people coming here to spice up their love life, so your definitely not alone! If you use the search engine, i’m sure you can find a couple of links with tips for married couples. Would you mind telling us a bit more about yourself? Like what kind of personality do you have? What kind of personality does your wife have? Do you have any idea what the lack of interest may be from? Work, stress, just having been married for awhile? These kind of questions will help us recommend the best products for your needs, as well as help qualify you for a $25 gift certificate to try out some pheromones. Hope to hear back from you soon! ---
**Author:** ![jamesbonded](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/jamesbonded/32/2090_2.png) [@jamesbonded](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/jamesbonded)\ **Post date:** [February 11, 2009, 5:47am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/im-new-and-happy-to-be-here/25970/3 "2009-02-11T05:47:09Z")
Hi there, Welcome to the forum. It is normal to be sceptical. I was very sceptical until I use pheromones myself. Like FG said, please let us know more about yourself. Are you shy or outgoing. We need to know in order to give you the right recommendation on the pheromones. Cheers ---
**Author:** ![remmy](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/remmy/32/2451_2.png) [@remmy](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/remmy)\ **Post date:** [February 11, 2009, 5:54am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/im-new-and-happy-to-be-here/25970/4 "2009-02-11T05:54:51Z")
hey there! yeah.. i was pretty skeptical myself when i tried them out but now im an addict 😉 anyways, what kind of products are you looking for? if it’s just with your wife, it might be a good idea to invest in a bottle of turn up the heat to spice up your bedroom. but like the other two said, it would make recommending easier if we knew a bit more abot you 🙂 let us know! ---
**Author:** ![joemage](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/8edcca/32.png) [@joemage](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/joemage)\ **Post date:** [February 11, 2009, 6:09am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/im-new-and-happy-to-be-here/25970/5 "2009-02-11T06:09:14Z")
> [@Mr.Feel\_Good](#): > > Do you have any idea what the lack of interest may be from? Work, stress, just having been married for awhile? All of the above. We’ve been married for 10 years but together for 5 before that, and everything always seems to come before time for ourselves. She’s always stressed about work, cleaning the house, the kids, etc., and our love life is always put on the back shelf. She’s always been a bit inhibited, but it just seems to get more so as time goes by, and nothing I try seems to help. As for me being shy or outgoing, both, probably! A little shy at first, but I open up pretty quickly. Thanks for the welcome! ---
**Author:** ![jamesbonded](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/jamesbonded/32/2090_2.png) [@jamesbonded](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/jamesbonded)\ **Post date:** [February 11, 2009, 6:12am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/im-new-and-happy-to-be-here/25970/6 "2009-02-11T06:12:14Z")
I suggest IH, IFM and TUTH. IH will make her talk in more personal. This make her closer to you and build the relationship. IFM will make her calm, comfortable and relax beside you. She will love to stay by your side. This build intimacy. TUTH will sexually arouse her. Good to spice up your sex life with her. Good luck ---
**Author:** ![bosshank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/91b2a8/32.png) [@bosshank](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/bosshank)\ **Post date:** [February 11, 2009, 10:20am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/im-new-and-happy-to-be-here/25970/7 "2009-02-11T10:20:02Z")
Hello Joe and welcome to the forum. A lot of people - both male and female - come here to the forum with the same problem. There does not seem to be a lot of interest or “zip” in the marriage. First off, I will tell you I am in my mid-40s, married 20+ years and have kids. The next thing I will tell you is that you really need to look at the relationship. I am not saying you have major problems but I would guess there is at least some fine tuning to do. All the pheromones in the world will not help unless you fine tune the relationship. And a lot in keeping that relationship humming along revolves communication, love and respect. Now, if you want to start fine tuning that marriage and putting the heat back in it, then there are a number of strategies you can use and a number of products here that can certainly help you along the way. Rather then list each one, what i will do instead is refer you tot the thread in my signature block that talks about Married Guys looking for help at Home. I started the thread but a lot of smart people here certainly added to it. One of the big things to take away from it is to remember the power of the [social pheromones](https://a314.com/product-category/social-pheromones/) like Instant Honesty. You will see what I am talking about once you start reading. If you have any questions after you read that thread please ask. ---
**Author:** ![diamond](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/diamond/32/859_2.png) [@diamond](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/diamond)\ **Post date:** [February 11, 2009, 10:26am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/im-new-and-happy-to-be-here/25970/8 "2009-02-11T10:26:05Z")
Hi joe, welcome on board. I’m the world’s biggest skeptic and married to a disinterested wife ( sound familiar?) bosshank’s married guys link is gold, my advice to you is read it, take it on board and concentrate on the communication element ( social pheromones), most of the time, this is the key. Once this is back on track ( took me months BTW) then the physical aspect should improve by itself, maybe assisted by TUTH but whatever you do, don’t rush. Do you do your fair share around the house? If not, then it’s amazing how a guy doing the dishes or emptying the washing machine can regenerate his wife’s libido 😉 ---
**Author:** ![remmy](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/remmy/32/2451_2.png) [@remmy](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/remmy)\ **Post date:** [February 11, 2009, 7:10pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/im-new-and-happy-to-be-here/25970/9 "2009-02-11T19:10:27Z")
haha i like diamond’s idea about doing chores 😉 anyways, you should def. check out bosshank’s threads. like diamond said, they are golden. as far as pheros go, i feel like jamesbonded gave you a really great advice. i would’ve recommended the same 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2009, 8:57am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/im-new-and-happy-to-be-here/25970/10 "2009-02-12T08:57:07Z")
Hello Welcome to Pherotalk 🙂 I suggest you take a look at TUTH to arouse her. Its very sexual so dont where it out like to work but home around the wife when you know you will have time to be intimate is good. IH to deepen the feeling of connection and comfort. Ishine to uplift with a warm charismatic vibe. Stress can be a real distraction even when you using mones and this one will help in that area a lot. Be sure to read Bosshank and Diamonds links in there posts for married guys. **Your GC is on its way** 🙂 Tisha ---
**Author:** ![joemage](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/8edcca/32.png) [@joemage](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/joemage)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2009, 5:22am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/im-new-and-happy-to-be-here/25970/11 "2009-02-13T05:22:33Z")
I will certainly take advantage of the gift certificate (as well as the advice and the pointing to threads) and check it out! ---
**Author:** ![Rbt](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/rbt/32/2066_2.png) [@Rbt](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Rbt)\ **Post date:** [March 4, 2009, 8:23pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/im-new-and-happy-to-be-here/25970/12 "2009-03-04T20:23:15Z")
I would certainly give [Instant Female Magic](https://a314.com/product/instant-female-magic/) a try as well. It is primarily what’s known as A-1 (I would mention the “scientific” name but I can never remember how to spell it…). It’s great for easing tensions and creating a comforting mood which may help at smoothing things out emotionally. The Instant Openness can help get conversation going to help get things talked out. Personally I’m not a big fan of androstenone (Turn Up The Heat, and others) and think it’s over rated. I also think (and have seen from experience) that it can actually create some discomfort in women and could possibly actually make the situation worse unless the tensions and pressures (emotional) have been released/eased. Also, if the problem has been a long time building, expect the solution to take some time as well. Weeks if not months. Take it slow and easy, don’t expect sudden turnarounds. ---
**Author:** ![joemage](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/8edcca/32.png) [@joemage](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/joemage)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2009, 5:18pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/im-new-and-happy-to-be-here/25970/13 "2009-03-05T17:18:26Z")
I actually wanted to order [Instant Female Magic](https://a314.com/product/instant-female-magic/), but it was (and still is) out of stock. ☹