# I'm Taken But you Want me !? phenomenon? **URL:** \ **Category:** Men's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [April 30, 2010, 1:49pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/im-taken-but-you-want-me-phenomenon/38198 "2010-04-30T13:49:24Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 4\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Katalyst](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/katalyst/32/1415_2.png) [@Katalyst](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Katalyst)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2010, 1:49pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/im-taken-but-you-want-me-phenomenon/38198/1 "2010-04-30T13:49:24Z")
New users and frequent users may find this to be of some value and insight but it is something that has intrigued me for quite some time and something that I’ve tried to put my finger on but feel it has so many possibilities that it is hard to pinpoint. There goes an old saying and probably something you have experienced for yourself. Whenever you have a gf/bf there always seems to be more people hitting on you and much more interest from the opposite sex. Contrary to this is the fact that many people both guys and girls when single feel like they are not able to meet anyone anymore and nobody seems interested in them as much as when they were taken. I will touch on some ideas I have on this and elaborate. -I have noticed this in the past from my own experiences and had to turn down 2 different threesomes and fought off a stalker for a straight year while having a gf. The girl would just not get the hint and would send me revealing photos, anything to get me to cheat on my gf with her to no avail. Then when we broke up this attention seemed like it wasn’t as profound as when I was not on the single market. Granted I still ended up sleeping with the stalker haha probably not the best idea because it just made her more crazy and even creepy at times. I think a lot of it has to do with our mood and personalities by far. When we are dating someone we really care about we tend to be very happy and more outgoing when we interact with others because we know that whatever I don’t have to win you over im going home to my S/O at the end of the night for some guaranteed play. I believe that this has a direct effect on others attraction for you and they find you to be a great person to be around because your lively, attractive, and so forth. Now if you are a gentleman (or lady) and mention that you are taken sometimes this will fuel the other person to be just that more into you because they see it as a challenge it seems? He/she must be as good as im perceiving because they are dating someone, I wonder if I can win them over. This attitude from other people may also cause this phenomenon that I have witnessed. The way we portray ourselves and the current situations we are in in life have direct effects on how others take us and find us as appealing. From all this I would like to conclude that Mones like Ishine seem to keep you upbeat and other mones like [Ammo](https://a314.com/product/ammo/), and more of the socials, A314 seem to solidify a personality mark, but if you don’t go along with them and play the part then you will come off fake and will be challenged as to your alpha status or not approached because your body language or demeanor is conflicting and confusing. Thus even if you are still heartbroken but looking to mingle since you are single, or are just in a bad mood, then you will probably tend to seem unapproachable. Everything needs to be paired and free-flowing I have missed out on some opportunities in the past when I was single just because of maybe lack of confidence. I have liked extremely attractive people in the past and ruled them out as ever liking me eventhough I have always dated very good looking women and have high standards. I usually find out later down the road that they were also attracted to me but didn’t think I was interested in them because I either never talked enough with them and opened up, or my demeanor always tended to seem like I was too good or wasn’t interested or just plain wasn’t having a good time, even though on the inside I was more than interested and im just not the person who is always giddy and running around smiling. Getting long here, sorry if your eyes are burning bye now hhaha. Ishine has given me great self effects and I find through the first few minutes of application its like I cant wipe the smirk/smile off of my face. I paired it with IH and TUTH after a shower after a long day and hitting the gym, and I felt like how ive always wanted to feel and how I know I should feel, more upbeat, relaxed, confident, and just had that appeal that I know you want me so stop playin’. Im still very new to mones and constantly learning everyday as im on these forums and meeting a lot of great people but I can definitely attest to the self effects thus far, still reporting slowly on others effects and haven’t seen a whole ton because I haven’t had many occasions to test yet. ---
**Author:** ![minimalistic](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/minimalistic/32/1676_2.png) [@minimalistic](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/minimalistic)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2010, 3:27pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/im-taken-but-you-want-me-phenomenon/38198/2 "2010-04-30T15:27:58Z")
A solid post. I agree with your perspective on things and have been in the same situation many times. Failing to capitalize because of not knowing. We learn from our mistakes though. You just started off with the mones and in the beginning the self-effects are awesome! With more frequent use you may notice the self-effects declining, especially with shine. When you apply them now, try to note how it is exactly the self-effects change you; if you can observe this well enough and make mental notes, i feel youl be able to replicate the self-effects in the future even when the mones may not be affecting (just) you anymore. ---
**Author:** ![K-Train](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/k-train/32/2253_2.png) [@K-Train](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/K-Train)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2010, 3:39pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/im-taken-but-you-want-me-phenomenon/38198/3 "2010-04-30T15:39:35Z")
This sums up the mindset I was in . And I most certaintly agree, [Instant Shine](https://a314.com/product/shine/) and A314 are excellent mones to wear to help recover your self-esteem. Nominated.🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Katalyst](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/katalyst/32/1415_2.png) [@Katalyst](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Katalyst)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2010, 3:50pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/im-taken-but-you-want-me-phenomenon/38198/4 "2010-04-30T15:50:42Z")
We do definitely learn from our mistakes and see that we should act on things because we only live once and its not the end of the world. Something great could transpire from it and thats how i landed my current gf. Dont let that little voice in your head stop you from pursuing things and living life to its fullest as best you can. Thanks so much for the Nomination K-Train, an honor. p.s. minimalistic and k-train check ur private messages, got a quick synopsis and would like some feedback. Thanks !