# Indecent Proposal **URL:** \ **Category:** Women's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [September 17, 2008, 8:35pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/indecent-proposal/19768 "2008-09-17T20:35:32Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 4\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Bella](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/bella/32/1738_2.png) [@Bella](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Bella)\ **Post date:** [September 23, 2008, 6:49am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/indecent-proposal/19768/22 "2008-09-23T06:49:30Z")
> [@OoohYahhh](#): > > _ **Dear Bella,** _ _ **You are different.** _ Sometimes it’s a curse. 🙄 > [@](#): > > _ **From the time I arrived in this community, you have been a kind and tolerant friend.** _ I’m always friendly and kind 🙂 unless I have a reason not to be. > [@](#): > > _ **Yesterday I was writing you a long post with a nice section on thrills, risk assesment, and the effect of pheros on both** _. Thanks for your concern. Please don’t take this the wrong way…I may be a babe but I’m hardly inexperienced when dealing with men, dogs, snakes, rats, pigs or jackasses. And the effects of pheros? You do realize that even the most well thought out application and preparation can draw unpredictable responses. You can’t control the actions and thoughts of others through the use of pheromones or anything else. (Well, maybe those special mushrooms. 😃 )So no matter how experienced you are wearing them and no matter the circumstance, situations arise that are unforeseen. > [@](#): > > _ **The heart of the problem with my reply to your post came from my careless reading of your original post filtered through my own admittedly twisted proclivities** _. Well, I try to read throughly. I want to understand clearly and get the whole story before commenting and I try, my best, not to judge when doing so. I don’t want to be misconstrued or make an off the wall comment. Saves a lot of explaining and apologies later. > [@](#): > > _ **From the very first moment that you were alone, he was hitting on you. He had decided before he ever got there, he was going to make a pass at you. He probably figured out just what he was going to say. This was completly premeditated.** _ Yes, that was also our assessment, easy to see in retrospect. 🙄 > [@ooh Yahhh](#): > > _ **In no way did I ever intend to imply that any covert sex ever actually happen. What I did imply, and should have been much more specific about, was that I thought that this was the intention of DrEd.** _ > [@OoohYahhh](#): > > _ **You would think that a really uninhibited person would be aware of possibilities like that.** _ > [@Bella](#): > > _ **I’m not sure what you’re fishin’ for Mr. Mushroom Man, but I’ll bite. There wasn’t anything to be aware of that I wasn’t aware of. I knew Ed’s history and up to our encounter at the wedding, it simply didn’t apply. There must be manifestation before awareness arises. Ahem. What does being “a really uninhibited person” have to do with it?** _ But you _were_ implying _something_ here with _this_ statement…about me. And you didn’t answer my question. What does being “a really uninhibited person” have to do with it? Allow me to clear up any misconceptions you may have about me, my behavior, and anything I’ve said about myself. Being “a really uninhibited person” does not entail outrageous behavior in public, of any kind, on my part. I was at a family function. What was I suppose to be aware of that I was not? That Ed was going to hit on me? There was no previous indication in word or deed that he’d committed, around me, that would make me think he’d hit on me. I’ve never seen him behave that way toward _anyone_, so again, what does _me personally_ being “a really uninhibited person” have to do with any of it? People who know me well, know another side of me. But for all intents and purposes, I’m rather reserved. My being “a really uninhibited person” is true in the respect that I have no trouble being friendly, open, honest and truthful with people and expressing myself that way, as I did with Ed. I may not have punched him in the nose, but I was crystal clear. 🙂 😉 Besides, Wolf can always bail me out if need be. If you’re referring to the _other_ “really uninhibited person” I am…you’ll have to slip into Wolf’s clothing to get _that._ > [@](#): > > _ **Bella, you are not in any way responsible for creating this situation. Not by word or deed. Not by your beauty, or body language, or pheromones.** _ > _ **Your only particpation in this seduction was stopping it.** _ No sh\*t. I’m convinced. > [@OoohYahhh](#): > > _ **I’m sure that our screenplay/soap opera fans will enjoy the chapter where the brigade rides out to your rescue. In the event that you might find yourself in this situation in the future, could I suggest a few possibilities?** _ Truth is I could have mopped the floor with Ed if I’d chosen to do so. Never having found yourself in this particular situation I can see where you might think I should have acted differently. I don’t see it that way. There’s a time and place to confront people and straighten them out. In front of his wife, family and friends, on a happy occasion, is not the right time. No doubt I’ll find myself confronted with Ed at another family gathering, soon enough. I seriously doubt that after he and my darling Wolfie have a little chat, that I’ll have to worry about any more untoward advances from Fast Eddie…and Wolf won’t have to lay a finger on him. > [@](#): > > _ **Bella, if you believe that I have done anything to tarnish your reputation by my carelessness, I will do all I can to repair it.** _ The only person who can tarnish my reputation is me. And I’m still shiny as a new penny. 🙂 No worries, Cappy, we’re good. 😉 Bella ---
**Author:** ![Bella](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/bella/32/1738_2.png) [@Bella](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Bella)\ **Post date:** [September 23, 2008, 8:47am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/indecent-proposal/19768/23 "2008-09-23T08:47:35Z")
I’m sorry, BadBoy, I don’t know how I missed your response! :o Seems to be a lot of that going on around here…lol Oh Dr. remmy, where are you? 🆒 Can you please bring your eye chart? :o > [@BadBoysDriveAudi](#): > > _**Uh, you’d think that with all the worthy causes out there that need a champion, Mr. Ed would consider something positive, such as philanthropy, in order to get his high rather than something negative, such as hitting on another man’s wife. Add to the fact that it was a good friend’s wife AND he’s already married to another (someone sitting two spots from him no less), just makes it worse.**_ I know, you’d think so. I was trying to head him in that direction. I even suggested he become a Big Brother. Upon further reflection, maybe not such a good idea. 🙄 > [@](#): > > _ **I may be a young’n, but at least I know what constitutes being a gentleman.** _ It was the first thing I noticed about you. 🙂 😉 > [@](#): > > _ **Perhaps this conversation would take a different route had both of you been single** _ Eddie may be a somewhat, interesting, attractive, sophisticated man. God knows he’s wealthy. But he’s really not my type. His head/ego is too big and his line of BS is too much for me. He’s certainly no gentleman and that’s a deal breaker for me. Truthfully, I don’t think I’m his type. He’d be good to go until he got what he wanted. Then all of a sudden…😮. No thanks. > [@](#): > > _ **Even so, that doesn’t allow him to presume that he can put his hands all over you!** _ > > _ **there’s simply no excuse for this man’s behavior; especially considering the nature of your friendship.** _ > > _ **After all, pheros don’t make those around us mindless zombies, right?** _ > > _ **Free will still does reign…or did I miss that memo?** _ Exactly, get a grip. Under different circumstances I would’ve never put up with it. > [@](#): > > _ **As a side note, while I was appalled by Mr. Ed’s behavior, I couldn’t stop reading the story. Looks like I wasn’t the only one…** _ Thank you I’m glad you enjoyed it, BadBoy, and thanks for your comments and the reps! 🙂 Bella ---
**Author:** ![Bella](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/bella/32/1738_2.png) [@Bella](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Bella)\ **Post date:** [September 23, 2008, 9:02am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/indecent-proposal/19768/24 "2008-09-23T09:02:33Z")
I also want to thank the people who commented and repped me privately. 🙂 It’s always difficult for me to report as the hits are usually so personal. I’m happy to know that most of you, from your comments, know where I’m coming from. Your understanding and kind words mean a lot. 🆒 😉 Thank you so much, Bella ---
**Author:** ![mark-in-dallas](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mark-in-dallas/32/860_2.png) [@mark-in-dallas](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mark-in-dallas)\ **Post date:** [September 23, 2008, 12:33pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/indecent-proposal/19768/25 "2008-09-23T12:33:25Z")
OK then, I feel better now! 🆒 😛 [Previous page](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/indecent-proposal/19768.md?page=1)