# insecurity and confidence

**URL:** <https://pheromonetalk.com/t/insecurity-and-confidence/61749>\
**Category:** Lounge\
**Created:** [April 21, 2014, 6:43am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/insecurity-and-confidence/61749 "2014-04-21T06:43:12Z")\
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**Author:** ![nubury147](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/d6d6ee/32.png) [@nubury147](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/nubury147)\
**Post date:** [April 21, 2014, 6:43am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/insecurity-and-confidence/61749/1 "2014-04-21T06:43:12Z")

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Hi! It’s been a long time since I’ve been here!! I am not a very confident person. I am a very outgoing and friendly person. I have many friends and have a lot of fun with them, but when it comes to picking up girls or talking to females, I am just an insecure and unconfident guy. Is there an ebook or some materials that I can read about insecurity and confidence?? I am not even sure what they are anymore. I am sure there are few guys like me out there. Any tips would be appreciated!! thank you in advance 🙂

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**Author:** ![Himeros](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/himeros/32/2325_2.png) [@Himeros](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Himeros)\
**Post date:** [April 21, 2014, 12:47pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/insecurity-and-confidence/61749/2 "2014-04-21T12:47:33Z")

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Think most of the guys on this forum at some point have had some confidence issues.

I suggest you read some PUA material to learn some basic ‘tricks’ on how to frame your interactions with girls. How to approach, how steer a conversation into a sexual direction, how to use confident body language etc. BUT: in the end, building your confidence is something you’ll have to do by working on your long-term goals. Your confidence and self-worth shouldn’t depend on how girls treat you.

Some popular ones:  
The Game - Neil Strauss  
The Tao of Badass  
The Definitive Book of Body Language

Can all be downloaded easily as eBooks if you know where to look 😉

Also: some alpha mone blends can give you a push in the right direction. Have you tried A314 or [P75](https://pheromonelabs.com/product/p75/)?

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**Author:** ![nubury147](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/d6d6ee/32.png) [@nubury147](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/nubury147)\
**Post date:** [April 22, 2014, 4:23am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/insecurity-and-confidence/61749/3 "2014-04-22T04:23:29Z")

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Thank you so much for your valuable tips!! I will definitely read those books carefully over the Summer. I’ve tried [A314 spray](https://a314.com/product/a314-classic-spray/) type, but I haven’t tried any of the P series. I am thinking about purchasing A314 oil 🙂