# Instant Gentleman's cool vibe: calm and self-assured, or just submissive? **URL:** \ **Category:** Men's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [September 18, 2008, 4:08pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/instant-gentlemans-cool-vibe-calm-and-self-assured-or-just-submissive/19814 "2008-09-18T16:08:57Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 18\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![dsouza](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/dsouza/32/840_2.png) [@dsouza](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/dsouza)\ **Post date:** [September 18, 2008, 4:08pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/instant-gentlemans-cool-vibe-calm-and-self-assured-or-just-submissive/19814/1 "2008-09-18T16:08:57Z")
I’ve searched this entire forum and it appears that a universal agreement is made in that IG creates a cool vibe and feeling. But what do you mean by cool? Are we talking Johnny Depp cool, or are we talking don’t lose your temper cool? if Johnny depp cool what exact details can you tell me on how “I will act cool”. be specific what behaviours did you notice. thanks Dsouza ---
**Author:** ![snakeeyesontheparadise](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/snakeeyesontheparadise/32/791_2.png) [@snakeeyesontheparadise](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/snakeeyesontheparadise)\ **Post date:** [September 18, 2008, 4:54pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/instant-gentlemans-cool-vibe-calm-and-self-assured-or-just-submissive/19814/2 "2008-09-18T16:54:50Z")
You amy find it has a calming, or assuring affect on you, like kind of a “don’t worry, all will be ok, just fine” feeling. I find it to be very self-assuring, calming and I feel a happy “in-control” type of feeling it when wearing it, almost like no matter how angry you may get with me, I’m going to take it in my stride and stay calm and cool about things and not let them affect me. Also makes me a little more open especially around females and can make them a little more open around me. I also find it makes me do more “old-fashioned gentlemanly” things when I’m around women, like take pleasure in opening doors for them and they really appreciate that treatment more when I wear the IG. Those are just my feelings and observations from using IG, but others may feel the same or slightly different with the product too, as we are all different and react differently to different things. ---
**Author:** ![dsouza](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/dsouza/32/840_2.png) [@dsouza](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/dsouza)\ **Post date:** [September 18, 2008, 5:00pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/instant-gentlemans-cool-vibe-calm-and-self-assured-or-just-submissive/19814/3 "2008-09-18T17:00:51Z")
It sounds to me like it makes one a wimp. is it like SOE? Can you still act like a man or does this make you so submissive and cool and relaxed, that your basically castrated! 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![renny](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/renny/32/2104_2.png) [@renny](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/renny)\ **Post date:** [September 18, 2008, 5:41pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/instant-gentlemans-cool-vibe-calm-and-self-assured-or-just-submissive/19814/4 "2008-09-18T17:41:12Z")
Frankly I could care less how it makes me feel. I like the way it makes women look at me like they might fall in love with me. The fact that it has a warm masculine feel is a bonus. ---
**Author:** ![ntk23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/65b543/32.png) [@ntk23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/ntk23)\ **Post date:** [September 18, 2008, 5:41pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/instant-gentlemans-cool-vibe-calm-and-self-assured-or-just-submissive/19814/5 "2008-09-18T17:41:45Z")
> [@dsouza](#): > > It sounds to me like it makes one a wimp. is it like Scent of Eros? > Can you still act like a man or does this make you so submissive and cool and relaxed, that your basically castrated! 🙂 cool != submissive… Think of James Bond, he wouldn’t just lose his rag and start yelling, even when things went awry. But a lesser (beta) secret agent might 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![bubblebob](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/bubblebob/32/2120_2.png) [@bubblebob](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/bubblebob)\ **Post date:** [September 18, 2008, 6:30pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/instant-gentlemans-cool-vibe-calm-and-self-assured-or-just-submissive/19814/6 "2008-09-18T18:30:21Z")
> [@dsouza](#): > > It sounds to me like it makes one a wimp. Just curious… Which part of snakes description sounded wimpy?? 😕 ---
**Author:** ![dsouza](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/dsouza/32/840_2.png) [@dsouza](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/dsouza)\ **Post date:** [September 18, 2008, 8:14pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/instant-gentlemans-cool-vibe-calm-and-self-assured-or-just-submissive/19814/7 "2008-09-18T20:14:48Z")
This part of Snakes message: almost like no matter how angry you may get with me, I’m going to take it in my stride and stay calm and cool about things and not let them affect me. Answer Thats like the guy who never blows his horn when driving. Timid is a better word. ---
**Author:** ![bubblebob](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/bubblebob/32/2120_2.png) [@bubblebob](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/bubblebob)\ **Post date:** [September 18, 2008, 8:26pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/instant-gentlemans-cool-vibe-calm-and-self-assured-or-just-submissive/19814/8 "2008-09-18T20:26:12Z")
Well in fact I see it the exact other way round - not being easily affected by other’s people opinions or deeds, keeping one’s cool and staying in one’s own reality is much more a sign of ‘manhood’ and especially confidence than (over-)reacting, starting heated arguments and fights… Your vision of manliness reminds me of some late teenager who’s trying to prove his status. ---
**Author:** ![dsouza](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/dsouza/32/840_2.png) [@dsouza](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/dsouza)\ **Post date:** [September 18, 2008, 8:42pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/instant-gentlemans-cool-vibe-calm-and-self-assured-or-just-submissive/19814/9 "2008-09-18T20:42:27Z")
Johnny Depp is cool but he’s not a mute. Mutes get walked over. ---
**Author:** ![Im4Vikes13](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/858c86/32.png) [@Im4Vikes13](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Im4Vikes13)\ **Post date:** [September 18, 2008, 8:56pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/instant-gentlemans-cool-vibe-calm-and-self-assured-or-just-submissive/19814/10 "2008-09-18T20:56:23Z")
I think what he means is it helps to let the little things that do not matter slide. Really, what do you accomplish by honking your horn at someone who already cut you off? Maybe you should try this stuff. It might help prevent your future ulcer. ---
**Author:** ![renny](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/renny/32/2104_2.png) [@renny](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/renny)\ **Post date:** [September 18, 2008, 8:56pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/instant-gentlemans-cool-vibe-calm-and-self-assured-or-just-submissive/19814/11 "2008-09-18T20:56:51Z")
Bubblebob is quite right! Blowing your horn in traffic is a great way of telling the world how frustrated and needy you feel. Being cool is at it’s essence being unaffected by things outside of your control. Learning what you have control over and what you do not is the path to maturity. It’s not easy and takes some of us much longer than others. ---
**Author:** ![WildFlower](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/wildflower/32/1260_2.png) [@WildFlower](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/WildFlower)\ **Post date:** [September 18, 2008, 9:24pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/instant-gentlemans-cool-vibe-calm-and-self-assured-or-just-submissive/19814/12 "2008-09-18T21:24:29Z")
[Instant Gentleman](https://a314.com/product/gentleman/) certainly doesn’t make you a push over. It probably won’t make you anything your not already. For me it just makes my movements smoother (like everything is in slow motion almost) and my mood is more calm and content. How you react to others actions is completly irellevant to the effects of Instant Gentleman. It does make me laid back but I’m laid back naturally. You can be the most laid back person ever and you won’t get walked over unless you are also wimpy. Laid back and wimpy are two different things entirely. ---
**Author:** ![BadBoysDriveAudi](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/badboysdriveaudi/32/2292_2.png) [@BadBoysDriveAudi](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/BadBoysDriveAudi)\ **Post date:** [September 18, 2008, 9:35pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/instant-gentlemans-cool-vibe-calm-and-self-assured-or-just-submissive/19814/13 "2008-09-18T21:35:16Z")
> [@snakeeyesontheparadise](#): > > Also makes me a little more open especially around females and can make them a little more open around me. I also find it makes me do more “old-fashioned gentlemanly” things when I’m around women, like take pleasure in opening doors for them and they really appreciate that treatment more when I wear the Instant Gentleman. As a trained gentleman, I must point out that a true gentleman opens doors for both females and males. You extend courtesy to all, without regard to sex, looks, or desires. You come across as less honorable if you only open doors for beautiful women, or only for women and not men. ---
**Author:** ![BadBoysDriveAudi](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/badboysdriveaudi/32/2292_2.png) [@BadBoysDriveAudi](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/BadBoysDriveAudi)\ **Post date:** [September 18, 2008, 10:25pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/instant-gentlemans-cool-vibe-calm-and-self-assured-or-just-submissive/19814/14 "2008-09-18T22:25:00Z")
> [@dsouza](#): > > It sounds to me like it makes one a wimp. is it like Scent of Eros? > Can you still act like a man or does this make you so submissive and cool and relaxed, that your basically castrated! 🙂 _smiles_ How about we meet up at a field for a friendly game of football? Forget the pads and helmet; let’s just run into each other repeatedly until one of us gives out. We’ll then see who’s the wimp. 🙄 Honestly, being a gentleman has nothing to do with being a wimp! In fact, being a gentleman is a lost art…an art of not imposing yourself on someone just because you’re physically capable of doing so. Being a gentleman forces you to exercise your mind instead of your braun. Being a gentleman means that you exercise courtesy to your fellow human with no expectation of something in return. And should you desire something, being a gentleman forces you to build and use influence to get your way instead of using physical force to “influence” someone. There’s a big difference between being a gentleman and being a wimp. I’ll be sure to demonstrate that to you if you ever take me up on that offer for a little football practice. 😉 Perhaps I’ll extend you a hand and help you up…only to drive you back into the dirt on the next play. ---
**Author:** ![BadBoysDriveAudi](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/badboysdriveaudi/32/2292_2.png) [@BadBoysDriveAudi](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/BadBoysDriveAudi)\ **Post date:** [September 18, 2008, 11:06pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/instant-gentlemans-cool-vibe-calm-and-self-assured-or-just-submissive/19814/15 "2008-09-18T23:06:52Z")
> [@renny](#): > > Bubblebob is quite right! Blowing your horn in traffic is a great way of telling the world how frustrated and needy you feel. Being cool is at it’s essence being unaffected by things outside of your control. Learning what you have control over and what you do not is the path to maturity. It’s not easy and takes some of us much longer than others. I certainly agree. The guy making the comment about blowing your horn in traffic doesn’t prove to me that he’s a man; it proves to me that he isn’t fully in control of his thoughts and actions, and is certainly not one that I would entrust with anything important. By the way, every time I see one of your posts, it makes me want to book another cruise! I already have a NextCruise option sitting at home; I wonder how long before I use it? 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Gone\_with\_the\_Wind](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/gone_with_the_wind/32/2227_2.png) [@Gone\_with\_the\_Wind](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Gone_with_the_Wind)\ **Post date:** [September 19, 2008, 2:52am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/instant-gentlemans-cool-vibe-calm-and-self-assured-or-just-submissive/19814/16 "2008-09-19T02:52:48Z")
> [@dsouza](#): > > It sounds to me like it makes one a wimp. is it like Scent of Eros? > Can you still act like a man or does this make you so submissive and cool and relaxed, that your basically castrated! 🙂 SOE and IG both have significant amounts of rone. > [@dsouza](#): > > Thats like the guy who never blows his horn when driving. Timid is a better word. > [@dsouza](#): > > Johnny Depp is cool but he’s not a mute. Mutes get walked over. You’re absolutely right. IG is probably not the product for a man of your stature. You might want to try 50 mcg of anone. ---
**Author:** ![Socrates](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/3bc359/32.png) [@Socrates](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Socrates)\ **Post date:** [September 19, 2008, 11:21am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/instant-gentlemans-cool-vibe-calm-and-self-assured-or-just-submissive/19814/17 "2008-09-19T11:21:23Z")
> [@dsouza](#): > > It sounds to me like it makes one a wimp. is it like Scent of Eros? > Can you still act like a man or does this make you so submissive and cool and relaxed, that your basically castrated! 🙂 **lol to prevent a ‘wussy’ vibe, I believe this is the way one should behave when wearing an ‘easygoing’ pheromone vibe (the posts below talk about Alpha-Androstenol but I think the same applies for the mostly Androsterone-product, Instant Gentleman). Ideally one should be like this all the time but especially so when wearing products like Scent of Eros or [Instant Gentleman](https://a314.com/product/gentleman/) without any added AndrostEnone…** [Sexual hits with nols: does heavy Anol from IO or IH dull TUTH's Anone?](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/sexual-hits-with-nols/138/8) ([Sexual hits with nols: does heavy Anol from IO or IH dull TUTH's Anone?](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/sexual-hits-with-nols/138/8)) MHarris (February 14, 2006): “…Quote: Originally Posted by **Cloud9** _I know I sometimes can come off as too serious or I “need to live’n up a bit”..“get loose”. At the same time I am very well kept and I guess you could call me somewhat of a metrosexual…I certainly don’t wear anything flamboyant though. I wear toned down colors._ Try 40 to 100mcg of alpha Androstenol ([Instant Openness – Ice Breaker Pheromone for Men - Alpha A314](https://a314.com/product/instant-openness/)) to “loosen up”. **Be funny, but make sure your behavior communicate that you are still in control, and a higher value. Keep your head held high, stand straight, talk loudly and deliberately, etc.** Like a successful, professional comedian, you have to still control the room when you’re exercising humor. (“bad” or inexperienced comedians are notorious for losing control over the crowd and being “walked on” by the audience)…” From LS:- Gegogi (October 26, 2006): “With chemset 'Androstenol and Scent of Eros I’ve only found “the more the merrier” so far. Increasingly higher dosages only make people friendly and more open in my experience. At a certain point some women start to lose it and become motormouths, totally losing control and saying whatever pops in their heads. Quote: but have had 2 incidences where a woman has acted a bit “not respectful”. Are you sure they weren’t pulling the “cocky 'n funny” routine on you? I love to tease women and oft they will tease right back, trying to out do me. And women really know how to cut to the bone as they’re usually better observers of character than men. However it’s all in fun and such little tug-of-wars often end in bed. **My experience with pheromones is they enhance and amp up the real you. If you’re an engaging, confident man, you’re even more engaging and confident in their eyes. I’ve never been treated with disrespect while wearing 'Androstenol.** However, respect is something you earn. It is not something you win instantly by bulling someone or putting them down. They may stop dissing you to your face–out of fear–but in their mind you’ve graduated to an even larger level of dip-shit-ism. I suspect if you’re a wuss at heart, depressed or negative pheromones will not be helpful as they broadcast and amp up your weakness.” ---
**Author:** ![tye](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/d6d6ee/32.png) [@tye](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tye)\ **Post date:** [September 19, 2008, 5:58pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/instant-gentlemans-cool-vibe-calm-and-self-assured-or-just-submissive/19814/18 "2008-09-19T17:58:03Z")
instant gentlemen=STRONG AND CONFIDENT with a calm cool vibe not an agressive vibe. for me its very consistent