# Instant Openess, Shine and braking up **URL:** \ **Category:** Men's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [May 31, 2009, 12:29am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/instant-openess-shine-and-braking-up/29422 "2009-05-31T00:29:06Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 14\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Legs\_on\_Approach](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/legs_on_approach/32/2134_2.png) [@Legs\_on\_Approach](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Legs_on_Approach)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2009, 12:29am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/instant-openess-shine-and-braking-up/29422/1 "2009-05-31T00:29:06Z")
Well this week started quite crappy…my long term relationship (circa 6 years) ended and Im still stunned and a bit desorientated but it was something expected really…Well… Have been using A314 for years now and also used to use TUTH frequently…These last weeks of relationship I tried IO and IS to see if I could get more out of what had become a relationship based on lack of comunication… Started with IS only with 2 to the wrist and didnt get any hits aside from my gramma’s comment that I smelled good! lol… added 2 more: 1chest+1 hair…Im a people’s person but people were really very talkative and some of them couldnt shut up…specially mid-aged women. My GF didnt even budge…Thats it…IS alone didnt feel a thing and the smell is very similar to IO however there is something that makes me like it more than IO…I used IS alone and didnt get much report and I added A314 and still felt the alpha vibe withou any kind of attenuation really but gonna try more sprays next time. Still have a TUTH bottle to go…but not in the mood for now…I guess Im gonna try and buy IFM maybe I can “get lucky” with it for the time being…Do you guys reckon its a good option? Cos my game now…will be llllllammmoooooooo for sure! 😕 Over and out! Legs ---
**Author:** ![M\_M](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/9fc29f/32.png) [@M\_M](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/M_M)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2009, 1:01am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/instant-openess-shine-and-braking-up/29422/2 "2009-05-31T01:01:09Z")
I’m sorry about your relationship … IF … you’re sorry about it. Six years … 20 year old … things probably got booooooooooooring! That’s what normally kills a relationship. Hope you didn’t become too predictable! A killer fer sure in this day and age of the SPOILED younger generation. The mind warps when one begins to THINK they’re missing out on something. 🆒 That normally comes from their girl friends or boy friends bragging about the wild time they had last night, while she/he was stuck at home with boring Bob/boring Doris, watching Dancing with the Stars. Yawwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwn! Are you trying to hold on to her, or getting ready to venture out for something fresh? ---
**Author:** ![Legs\_on\_Approach](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/legs_on_approach/32/2134_2.png) [@Legs\_on\_Approach](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Legs_on_Approach)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2009, 1:13am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/instant-openess-shine-and-braking-up/29422/3 "2009-05-31T01:13:02Z")
Well it was a mixture of things and routine was one of them. Since we started working in the same company got worse though…dont want to dwell on it really and certainly not gonna try and water a dead flower. Well we stayed “friends” and…I most def wanna venture into greener pasture now please! Any suggestions? ---
**Author:** ![M\_M](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/9fc29f/32.png) [@M\_M](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/M_M)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2009, 1:30am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/instant-openess-shine-and-braking-up/29422/4 "2009-05-31T01:30:10Z")
Working in the same place … two have to have a VERY STRONG mind to pull that off. Society’s voice is toxic/posion if both minds are not! Well, my crackhead advice would be … when things have gotten out of hand … go back to the basics … AMMO, IS, IO, IH, SOE, AE, Chikara. Once the ball gets back to rolling, start adding back in the other spices … MXs, Ps, and others. Good luck! And remember, you are ONLY what you THINK you are, sooooooo … be kind, be hot, be handsome, and be damn irresistable! Sooner or later, your mind will catch on, and then your body will follow … and then … look out! **P.S.** Hang in there! Annnnnnd … Don’t eat anything that smells like dead fish! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Legs\_on\_Approach](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/legs_on_approach/32/2134_2.png) [@Legs\_on\_Approach](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Legs_on_Approach)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2009, 1:46am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/instant-openess-shine-and-braking-up/29422/5 "2009-05-31T01:46:04Z")
eheheh cheers mate! Breaking up from a long term relationship is like stopping an addiction by going cold turkey 😮 To be honest Im quite “scared” of this back to the basics thing 😕 but your advice was ace and Im gonna try and react in a positive way and do a proper brain reset and reframe what I THINK of me…which at the time is quite hazy and will be HUGE challenge! 😉 Any tips for that too? ---
**Author:** ![Legs\_on\_Approach](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/legs_on_approach/32/2134_2.png) [@Legs\_on\_Approach](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Legs_on_Approach)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2009, 11:28pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/instant-openess-shine-and-braking-up/29422/6 "2009-05-31T23:28:04Z")
🙂 🙂 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![renny](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/renny/32/2104_2.png) [@renny](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/renny)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2009, 11:43pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/instant-openess-shine-and-braking-up/29422/7 "2009-05-31T23:43:35Z")
Brain reframe? Do something out of your comfort zone. Party animal?..opera appreciation society. Steak and lobster guy?..peta meeting. OK that’s extreme but you get the idea. Cross train! ---
**Author:** ![Legs\_on\_Approach](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/legs_on_approach/32/2134_2.png) [@Legs\_on\_Approach](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Legs_on_Approach)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2009, 11:47pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/instant-openess-shine-and-braking-up/29422/8 "2009-05-31T23:47:29Z")
Tried bodyboarding for the first time today and Im trying to learn polish by myself…so yes I got the point… but I still feel like crap during the night and am sleeping and eating 25% less…when I was talking about reframing I was actually asking if some NLP would help? ---
**Author:** ![M\_M](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/9fc29f/32.png) [@M\_M](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/M_M)\ **Post date:** [June 1, 2009, 1:08am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/instant-openess-shine-and-braking-up/29422/9 "2009-06-01T01:08:10Z")
> [@Legs\_on\_Approach](#): > > Tried bodyboarding for the first time today and Im trying to learn polish by myself…so yes I got the point… but I **still feel like crap during the night and am sleeping and eating 25% less** …when I was talking about reframing I was actually asking if some NLP would help? Love sick/P-whipped-spanked-whopped will make you do that. Too much thinking causes a pain in your tummy. You’d better come up with something fun to keep you busy, or it’ll be a COUNTRY AND WESTERN song about’cha, Cowboy! :o You’re gonna have to man up, understand what it means to not take it personal, and come out swinging. It’s tuff, but you’ll be just fine. ---
**Author:** ![Legs\_on\_Approach](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/legs_on_approach/32/2134_2.png) [@Legs\_on\_Approach](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Legs_on_Approach)\ **Post date:** [June 1, 2009, 1:44am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/instant-openess-shine-and-braking-up/29422/10 "2009-06-01T01:44:52Z")
fair enough…! will do…starting now! gonna go to bed and sleep 😛 ---
**Author:** ![M\_M](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/9fc29f/32.png) [@M\_M](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/M_M)\ **Post date:** [June 1, 2009, 2:05am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/instant-openess-shine-and-braking-up/29422/11 "2009-06-01T02:05:34Z")
> [@Legs\_on\_Approach](#): > > fair enough…! will do…starting now! gonna go to bed and sleep 😛 If you ever master “I’m fine, and can survive on my own,” you’re gonna become picky as hell, and a woman that’s not acting right in your eyes, will get fired quick, fast, and in a hurry! There’s nothing as WONDERFUL as the company of a woman, but make sure she’s just as fun, just as nice, just as kind, and just as respectful as YOU are! 😉 ---
**Author:** ![bosshank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/91b2a8/32.png) [@bosshank](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/bosshank)\ **Post date:** [June 1, 2009, 2:13am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/instant-openess-shine-and-braking-up/29422/12 "2009-06-01T02:13:49Z")
After six years I guess the only other thing to do besides breaking up was getting married. And that is a sure way of killing a … nevermind … Seriously - sorry it happened but I think the advice you have been given so far is great. Break yourself out of your rut. Have fun. Go out and do some new things. Fun things you have been wanting to do but have not. Maybe because of the old girlfriend. Go out and do some new things that have lots of women around. A college course. Ballroom dancing. You are now free to build a better life. ---
**Author:** ![M\_M](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/9fc29f/32.png) [@M\_M](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/M_M)\ **Post date:** [June 1, 2009, 2:18am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/instant-openess-shine-and-braking-up/29422/13 "2009-06-01T02:18:30Z")
My last input … Do anything except start doing, OR up your alcohol and/or drug intake! 🆒 ---
**Author:** ![Legs\_on\_Approach](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/legs_on_approach/32/2134_2.png) [@Legs\_on\_Approach](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Legs_on_Approach)\ **Post date:** [June 1, 2009, 10:10am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/instant-openess-shine-and-braking-up/29422/14 "2009-06-01T10:10:10Z")
Im getting my ass kicked here 🙂 thanks guys! Some of my mates gave me similar advice…Im not that hung up on it but I do feel sad and nostalgic. I have always been picky lol and it is true it is getting worse. Bosshank is correct about the marriage thing and Im not into that at all lol we didnt even live together after such a long time…It was a relationship that I thought it was solid because of a lot of things but ended up deteriorated and we eventually decided to brake up with mutual consense…oh well Im a lecturer at a arts university, where my ex-gf is a PR, so there’s a lot of women around so thats not a problem and I decided to travel a lot in August (vacation month) so Im going to London, Tokyo (was supposed to go with her but not gonna cancel it…going alone cos I have a mate there) and maybe Holand and Poland as well to visit some mates too. When I rationalize the issue I feel great but when I go through memory lane I feel like crap…but come on it was just 2 days ago!!! well off to the gym 😉 cheers for your coments! oh…and the only “drug” I did up was candy 😛 Im a healthy guy im not gonna destroy my body over a woman.