# Instant shine and how to act **URL:** \ **Category:** Men's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [December 30, 2010, 9:17pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/instant-shine-and-how-to-act/44280 "2010-12-30T21:17:18Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 2\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![dsouza](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/dsouza/32/840_2.png) [@dsouza](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/dsouza)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2011, 2:17am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/instant-shine-and-how-to-act/44280/21 "2011-01-03T02:17:58Z")
After reading all these posts I’ve decided to tell my SO that I love her emotionally and would not LEAVE her for another woman. I told her I do want to see other women though perhaps as friends and perhaps as more. I’m not looking for one night stands with sleezy diseased women, nor am I looking for elationships with other women leading to commitment. I figure the best way to do this is to see these other women infrequently. Whether I end up being their friend, kissing them, or even having sex is really unknown. What I do know is that I have told my SO and she appreciate my honesty even though she said it hurt. I also want more of a social life in general so I will hang out with male buddies too. I know I won’t get attached to these other women and fall in love because I am TAKING the lead from now on. No more blaming others for my lack of results. From now on I am the captain of my ship. Sail , I say, Sail… dsouza ---
**Author:** ![jokerdud](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/jokerdud/32/1001_2.png) [@jokerdud](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/jokerdud)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2011, 6:35pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/instant-shine-and-how-to-act/44280/22 "2011-01-10T18:35:40Z")
> [@dsouza](#): > > I think you’re getting moralistic to too far a degree on this subject. My SO has guy friends , goes to lunch with them at work, flirts, I flirt too. We are not so POSSESSIVE of each other that we think that’s called cheating. We are definitely not religious. > > We have love that grows from taking care of each other but like many men I can tell you I can differentiate between love and sex. The two although they can go together are not necessarily required too. > > Over 50% of relationships end up breaking up and usually someone cheats. The only difference is I am bringing up the subject. > > Do me a favor and not get moralistic on me. I’m looking for gameplan and mone advice not whether or not my morals are your morals. Cause they’re not… and you can’t judge a person unless you’ve walked in their shoes. > > cheers > dsouza sorry dude, i don’t think there is a way to do it. you can’t over rule logic with pheromones in the long run. you can’t always win with them in the short run. like if someone’s having a bad day, they don’t always cure it, they give impressions, they don’t totally get rid of lifelong morals. if your Significant Other and you aren’t religeous, then why are you worried about cheating. ( I think the problem is that you are religeous on some level, and trying to deny it. if there is no god/heaven/judgement then there is no absolute right or wrong then there is no punishment in a carma/judgement/heaven/hell then there is no cheating because there are no rules, and she already knows that(you said she’s not religeous, above) so at some level, you are clinging to religeon, while claiming you aren’t) i see how this could cause frustration, these 2 ideas clashing in your head. here is what i think, 1. use the mones on your SO, tell her that you think she is fat, ugly, and out of shape in a way where she won’t get mad at you.(good luck 😛) now have the relationship you want when she drops 100 pounds, plastic surgery, and finds her lost list of punch lines so that her jokes are funny again. now that she is all you want from this other girl, she will dump you and find someone better than you. this will leave you happy that you didn’t dump her, and available for this other girl. 2. realize that the other girl thought bad of you for flirting to the point she considered cheating. meaning she is not immoral enough for you. Mones will wear off when you aren’t around, she will have plenty of time to think about things when you aren’t charming her. I don’t think you can reprogram her core beleifs with olfactory inputs. 3. Use the mones on your significant other and yourself, and make your relationship one that you don’t want to stray from. i don’t think you’ve tried the right stuff with her. give up on cheating. i recommend #3 🆒 but it’s a hard thing to pull the stripes off a tiger [Previous page](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/instant-shine-and-how-to-act/44280.md?page=1)