Hey it’s only obligatory if you fancy free cash (; Welcome!
I love weekends there are so many new people here and new posts to read on the forums/journals.
I understand totally about wanting to be by yourself. Loads of us here are natural loners, me included. Too much of other people’s drama and bullsh!
Definitely check out the social products such as IO and IH. They’ll help you chat to people you barely know, or strengthen your conversations with people you do know. Why are you looking for the “this guy’s legit” aura? To seem like the nice guy everyone can rely on?
This ought to get you started.