# IOI or not? **URL:** \ **Category:** Men's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [June 3, 2012, 5:31am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/ioi-or-not/55755 "2012-06-03T05:31:31Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![stuttgart-man](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/stuttgart-man/32/1615_2.png) [@stuttgart-man](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/stuttgart-man)\ **Post date:** [June 3, 2012, 5:31am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/ioi-or-not/55755/1 "2012-06-03T05:31:31Z")
When I am dancing on the dance floor in one of my favourite disco’s it sometimes happens (or often when I have wore sexual mones) that a woman dance direct in front and near to me, although there is a lot of room around (I prevent overcrowded discos). Sometimes when I change my place, short time later she dance in front and near to me again. When she would look in my eyes and/or approach me (what happens sometimes, but not so often) than I would say this is a clearly IOI. But in most cases she do neither look in my eys nor approach me, she do only dance (very) near to me, in front of my and (often) looks in my direction but not in my eyes. So I do not know - is this an IOI or not? 😕 ---
**Author:** ![mobocaster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c2a13f/32.png) [@mobocaster](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mobocaster)\ **Post date:** [June 3, 2012, 9:30am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/ioi-or-not/55755/2 "2012-06-03T09:30:21Z")
I’m intrigued at how you “prevent” overcrowded discos - Scythe on the dancefloor perhaps? 😛😃 I’ve seen this a lot - It is an IOI but only at the lowest level. She’s looking for attention or for you to start dancing with her but not that much interested, yet. It may well also indicate her being wary or concerned - how often have we seen a guy blow it totally by going all/grind-crazy/octopus on a woman during or just after a single dance? If it were me (I wish! - this bloody foot is stopping my dancing 😠 ), I would try to draw her into your dance and see where it goes but I would expect that the vast majority of times, she will move-off to some other guy/group after dancing a while with you. Still, its a dance with someone and the more you are seen dancing with women, the more women will want to dance with you - so its win all round. 🙂 Otherwise, you are quite right - Its the eye-contact that makes it a much stronger IOI. If she’s dancing near/towards you and holding your gaze the whole way - Get right in there and right into your phero cloud! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![M\_M](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/9fc29f/32.png) [@M\_M](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/M_M)\ **Post date:** [June 3, 2012, 1:29pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/ioi-or-not/55755/3 "2012-06-03T13:29:07Z")
I’d ignore her on my first or second trip to the dance floor. IF by chance she comes near you on the third dance … I’d shove in the verbiage. Still … when dealing with the opposite sex … it’s a roll of the dice. Roll’em, accept the results, and keep notes. Don’t tell anyone M&M said this. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [June 3, 2012, 1:36pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/ioi-or-not/55755/4 "2012-06-03T13:36:43Z")
Its an extremely low level IOI. If there were no men on the dance floor women would do the same thing to other women. When dancing for fun we tend to like to dance with other people or at least not be the center of attention. If your out there all alone that makes you the center of attention and to a lot of people it can feel awkward. Now if she makes eye contact with you, smiles, gets very close in your space (not just near you) makes some sort of body contact even briefly thats a stronger IOI. Tisha ---
**Author:** ![stuttgart-man](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/stuttgart-man/32/1615_2.png) [@stuttgart-man](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/stuttgart-man)\ **Post date:** [June 3, 2012, 1:44pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/ioi-or-not/55755/5 "2012-06-03T13:44:39Z")
> [@mobocaster](#): > > I’m intrigued at how you “prevent” overcrowded discos - Scythe on the dancefloor perhaps? 😛 😃 English language - difficult language 😉 It is not my native one - have meant “avoid” instead of “prevent” 🙂 > [@M\_M](#): > > Don’t tell anyone M&M said this. 😉 No worry - I keep it in top secret 😃 ---
**Author:** ![stuttgart-man](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/stuttgart-man/32/1615_2.png) [@stuttgart-man](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/stuttgart-man)\ **Post date:** [June 3, 2012, 2:08pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/ioi-or-not/55755/6 "2012-06-03T14:08:35Z")
> [@tisha23](#): > > Its an extremely low level IOI. If there were no men on the dance floor women would do the same thing to other women. When dancing for fun we tend to like to dance with other people or at least not be the center of attention. If your out there all alone that makes you the center of attention and to a lot of people it can feel awkward. > > Now if she makes eye contact with you, smiles, gets very close in your space (not just near you) makes some sort of body contact even briefly thats a stronger IOI. > > Tisha So near that I am limited in my elbow-room. If these women would be men, i would feel very disagreeable because it is much more near than you would expect with unknown people. I guess that she is not necessarily attracted with me, but she smells the odor of mones and go there where the odor is at strongest. ---
**Author:** ![still18](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/34f0e0/32.png) [@still18](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/still18)\ **Post date:** [June 3, 2012, 4:26pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/ioi-or-not/55755/7 "2012-06-03T16:26:03Z")
> [@stuttgart-man](#): > > So near that I am limited in my elbow-room. If these women would be men, i would feel very disagreeable because it is much more near than you would expect with unknown people. I guess that she is not necessarily attracted with me, but she smells the odor of mones and go there where the odor is at strongest. Ignore this behaviour, it’s confusing and you don’t know if she’s really interested in you. Open her and find out if she likes you or not. If you worry about rejection, try some light physical contact, to see if the girl is receptive. For example if she is very close to you grab her by the waist and dance, or give her a hip bump if you’re not facing her. Just some light, playful things you can do. I would avoid taking her hand, or asking, it may look needy. You could also go and stand in front of her and tell her in a loud voice “Hey! Let’s dance!” works well too.