Lor: You mean you aren’t a black kitty with a very predatory look 
Cookiegirl: You’re so lucky to have swam with dolphins!
I’m also a little afraid that someone I know (umm… TG) will find out about my phero usage. Luckily, my BFF doesn’t believe in it at all (he’s the only one who does know).
Idk, I just think it ruins the magic of the pheromones if they know somethings influencing them. Its like trying to go against something just because you know its there and you can. I dnt want people to do that. That would totally ruin the purpose. I’d probably only tell someone if I had a partner in crime :3
I’ve been thinking about mixing something up with IS/a or TAL and some social buffers. Great to read your info. I have huge problems with IS/a ramping up my confidence to unapproachable levels. I’m already “intimidating” (ha, ha, look at my profile pic) so I was wondering if IS/a or TAL buffered with Instant Honesty/Betanol or TAA would produce an effective blend of “respect and fear me” yet “feel close to me, come closer, it’s okay…”
And then bite.
YIKES! I’d be TERRIFIED of telling my TG-turned-LTR (if it were to happen, hypothetically) 3, 6, 9 months in that I had been using pheros the whole time and NEVER TOLD HIM.
How duped, used, manipulated, lied to, or cheated would you feel? I think it was Mark-in-Dallas that had post in his journal about telling people you are truly interested in investing emotional time and energy in a LTR in about your pheros up front, or at least the third date, when you know this could go somewhere. It’s been stated before that it’s 10% pheros and 90% you, but this is US, on the forum, who know this. Think about the outside world that knows next-to-nothing about pheros, then hears we’re wandering around with cops and Instant Honesty. “What, like you mind-controlled me and made me sleep with you?” It could make someone doubt not just you, but the fabric of your relationship.
Scary territory there…
On the other hand, many people think just the opposite, that pheromones are just a scam, and don’t do anything at all. It could work out that if we “came clean” about phero use, the person might just think we are totally weird, and kind of flaky, to actually believe in such things.
Maybe its not deceiving to not tell, after all, do you discuss your deoderant, your perfume, or your (hypothetical) use of anti-depressants or sleeping aids (all of which might influence your attractiveness, or your personality)?
Yes, yes, non-applicable, and Yes.
I’m not talking about a casual acquaintance or a fling. I’m talking about someone who you see as an equal, a partner, a LTR, a potential life mate. How can you keep something like this from them?
1st, if they’re going to be your partner/equal, hopefully they’ll have enough of an open mind or be smart enough to realize/listen to what pheros really are. 2nd, you want to share your life with this (hypothetical) person! A “little online forum” may be “nothing” but in reality… its a chunk of your life, your experiences, your persona that is not being shared.
You are absolutely right on that, and any potential life mate who would judge you negatively on that should not be a potential life mate.
I do agree that any potential life mate, LTR partner, etc, would be aware of the personal things that you do. I was kind of playing “devil’s advocate” 
And I agree with you - “flings” need not be informed… unless they cross over to LTR territory.. 
Exactly!!