# It Took a While for Me to Say Hello **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [September 30, 2008, 3:40pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/it-took-a-while-for-me-to-say-hello/20612 "2008-09-30T15:40:29Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 6\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![love\_1](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/love_1/32/1095_2.png) [@love\_1](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/love_1)\ **Post date:** [September 30, 2008, 3:40pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/it-took-a-while-for-me-to-say-hello/20612/1 "2008-09-30T15:40:29Z")
Hey everyone. I’m a long time lurker (maybe for about three weeks or so), but a first time poster. I signed up a while ago, too, but I never found the time to work on an intro post. Well…yeah. I’m a relatively young girl. I’m mainly using pheros to help myself out socially and mentally and to help myself get more people interested in me (that’s the big one), either as a friend or something more. This school year I’ve been working on my image and taking a lot more care in myself - the years before, I had terrible self-esteem and while I’m still working on it, I’m much better now than I ever was before. 🙂 And, I’m also trying to help get my ex back. We’re still best friends. Sort of. Things can get kind of awkward, sometimes. I hang out with her afterschool atleast once every week, but usually with another friend of ours so it’s not like I can make any big moves other than light, sometimes disguised flirting and hugs and things like that. We were in one of those secret more-than-best-friends relationships, which ended horribly last year due to me being jealous of her and a guy friend of hers, and due to her never opening up about ANYTHING. However, I’m over the past. Things have changed and more importantly, _I_ have changed. I’m not the same person I was before. She has been expressing interest since this school year started, but she’s very on the fence about having a relationship with me again. I’m not gonna push her in either direction. All I’m doing is giving her little nudges and checking every now and then how she feels about me. Partially thanks to my new image, she seems to think of me as a mean person. So, I’ve been proving her wrong through many little ways. I make sure to watch my words, I put more control on my facial expressions, I go out of my way for her, and meanwhile, I’m doing it all in a friendly, smooth way so it doesn’t look like I’m trying too hard. It’s kind of weird, because over the summer when I was changing myself, I had resigned myself to the fact that we weren’t gonna be together like that again, so yeah, when she showed me that she was kind of interested in trying again, I was like, “what?” Last year, I had been head-over-heels obsessed. I dealt with a lot of my depression over her in some bad ways that I won’t get into. This year, eh, I’m not doing that again. I’m not obsessed or anything, but I wouldn’t mind trying again, even for a little while, and if it doesn’t work, we can move on. I’m not going to make a big deal out of anything with her again - it’s far too dangerous to my health and my recently built-up self-esteem. So, not only do I want to attract back my ex, I also want to attract other people, meaning either males or females. 🙂 I’ve got a lot of pheros now that I’ve been using every day at school since the 16th. Yeah, everyone’s right. It does take a while to figure out your dosage and what products work best for you, but once you do, it’s amazing. The whole world feels…different. I don’t know, hahaha. I love Instant Shine (x2). It took me a while to realize how much everyone around me was effected by that stuff. I’ve got it in the x2 power as a ToGo and I love it. I didn’t notice it until yesterday how much all my friends were so happy to talk to me. Everybody had a smile on their face. Out of all the pheros I have, I think Instant Shine’s been working the best for me. But could that be because I’ve been using it every single day and people are just more used to that signature now? The Instant Sexiness ToGo - is it IS/A or IS/B? I thought it was IS/A but I read somewhere that it was actually IS/B. Which is it? Whatever it is, I’ve gotten a few hits with it, but nothing extremely amazing. I do like the confidence I feel, though, and I do seem to get more respect and a few random stares. Like I said, nothing extremely amazing, but I do like it. I think I’ll just have to keep using it for a while, just like I did with the Shine. Instant Honesty ToGo - I haven’t used it a whole lot, because I was planning to use it during alone times with my target girl. [Instant Openness](https://a314.com/product/instant-openness/) ToGo (x2) - Can’t remember if it was because of this or the CTTM, but I sprayed it on me before with Instant Shine and the people I sit with at lunch just wouldn’t stop talking. I don’t know. It kind of feels like to get this to work, people have to be kind of close to you, like sitting right next to you or something. I’ll have to do more tests. CTTM (a free ToGo! Thanks for the gift!!) - Made some people chatterboxes, but only like the above. It’s like it doesn’t reach people very far or something. I’ll have to do more tests with it, like with the Instant Openness. How close do I have to be to get these pheromones to work better? Am I simply spraying too much on sometimes (lol, I think I did that once with the Instant Sexiness and it was like, wow, everybody seems kind of intimidated or something) or do I need to use better application areas? How long does it take for the pheros to wear off? Instant Shine lasted a long time yesterday, for whatever reason… Oh, and the hits seemed to get more noticeable since I started wearing Pink Sugar sometime last week. People wanted to smell me more and I think that’s what’s getting people to smell the pheromones more. 😃 Anyway thanks for reading and answering my questions! ---
**Author:** ![Vespero](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/vespero/32/988_2.png) [@Vespero](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Vespero)\ **Post date:** [September 30, 2008, 4:23pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/it-took-a-while-for-me-to-say-hello/20612/2 "2008-09-30T16:23:58Z")
Welcome, love.! Wow, if everyone else reported as well as you do, this forum would be even better. You ask if you’re spraying too much on, which would caused something called “ghosting” which causes people to sort of avoid you, or may cause them to feel intimidated, but you didn’t say how much you actually sprayed, or maybe I missed it. How many sprays of each do you typically use? As for proximity, the closer to the person you are, the better, as far as [pheromones](https://pheromonelabs.com/shop/) go. Of course, if you’re too close and they’re not very familiar with you, it might just freak them out, negating the effect of the pheros, so you really just have to watch them and gauge their comfort level based on body language. I need to get myself a nice cover scent as well. Maybe for Christmas. I’m sure some of the girls will be here soon to answer your question about IS/b. Good luck! Keep reporting! ---
**Author:** ![river](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/river/32/934_2.png) [@river](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/river)\ **Post date:** [September 30, 2008, 4:37pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/it-took-a-while-for-me-to-say-hello/20612/3 "2008-09-30T16:37:07Z")
Welome to the forum love! What an awesome intro! Looks like you’ve already got the pheros that I would suggest for you and your situation. I’d stick with the [Instant Shine](https://a314.com/product/shine/) and give that Honesty a try. I think you’ll like it. As for ex, I’d still recommend sticking with those two products. Pheros aren’t an instant “fix” as I’m sure you know so just give it some time. Keep working with the dosage to figure out the effects they are having on those around you and what kind of responses you are getting. Vespero gave some good advice there. Everyone is different so it just takes some experimentation. you said: “Am I simply spraying too much on sometimes (lol, I think I did that once with the Instant Sexiness and it was like, wow, everybody seems kind of intimidated or something)” How old are you? I ask because younger people tend to produce a lot of natural pheros and I’m guessing the neg response may be because the Instant Sexiness just puts it over the top for you. How many sprays were you using? Try 1 spray, guage what the response is, then work up from there since you already have the product. BTW: The TOGO is version B which gives the softer, more kittenish vibe. ---
**Author:** ![theperv584](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/theperv584/32/890_2.png) [@theperv584](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/theperv584)\ **Post date:** [September 30, 2008, 4:39pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/it-took-a-while-for-me-to-say-hello/20612/4 "2008-09-30T16:39:40Z")
Hey there love., Welcome welcome! Better late than never, some say. 🙂 Pheros can edge your ex into the right direction, yes. I wish you all the best with your experience in the products you purchased. Busy now. Gtg. Take care and have a great day! Kai ---
**Author:** ![ntk23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/65b543/32.png) [@ntk23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/ntk23)\ **Post date:** [September 30, 2008, 4:47pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/it-took-a-while-for-me-to-say-hello/20612/5 "2008-09-30T16:47:24Z")
Hi there love., and welcome to the forum. > [@love](#): > > It does take a while to figure out your dosage and what products work best for you, but once you do, it’s amazing. The whole world feels…different. I don’t know, hahaha. It sounds like you have momentum going there. It’s a good thing 😃 As you say, you’ve made a lot of changes and one way to reinforce the message is through pheromones. Look forward to reading your reports. You have made a fine and detailed intro there! Good luck with your ex, you have good ideas about what to do and it looks like you understand the “social dynamics” well. ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [October 1, 2008, 12:25am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/it-took-a-while-for-me-to-say-hello/20612/6 "2008-10-01T00:25:35Z")
Hello Love Welcome to Pherotalk. 🙂 I am glad you decided to join in instead of just lurking 😃 You have Isexiness A because only free samples have gone out in B. The confidence your feeling is most likely due to that and the Ishine. > [@](#): > > How close do I have to be to get these pheromones to work better? Distance for mone use is generally 3 to 8 feet away. I have seem somewhat longer distances depending on the environment. In closed areas like classrooms mones can work very well. Outdoors you may need to be a little closer. > [@](#): > > Am I simply spraying too much on sometimes (lol, I think I did that once with the Instant Sexiness and it was like, wow, everybody seems kind of intimidated or something) That depends on how much your wearing, > [@](#): > > do I need to use better application areas? Cant answer that till I know where you applied them. > [@](#): > > How long does it take for the pheros to wear off? The spray products wear off in 4 to 6 hours I think your off to a great start though 😃 If you have more questions just ask. If you let me know exactly how you used your mones I can give you some tips on how to get the most out of them. **Your GC is on its way 😃** Have fun Tisha