# Looking for men's opinion **URL:** \ **Category:** Men's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [July 13, 2015, 9:47pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/looking-for-mens-opinion/64645 "2015-07-13T21:47:55Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 11\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Mmj2013](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b3f665/32.png) [@Mmj2013](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Mmj2013)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2015, 9:47pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/looking-for-mens-opinion/64645/1 "2015-07-13T21:47:55Z")
So thanks in advance for reading! Just looking for a little insight into men’s minds…brief back story, I’ve been friends with this man for close to ten years. We were both attached to others for a good portion of these years. I’ve been single for a few years, he is coming out of a relationship. His choice. We have always lightly flirted. In the last year it’s ramped up a bit. He even admitted to me last year that if he were free he would ravage me..lol! So in the last six months I have been playing with the pheramones I wear around him, slowing a ping up the attracting/ sexual ones. I’m pretty reserved, and he is too. But I know they have affected him, about three months ago were were texting one night and I told him not to ’ freak out’ I was alluding to something I had signed him up for. And he went off on a slight tangent telling me that he is always quietly freaking out when he is near me…it’s my mind and my energy ..haha..good to know. His mom just passed, while she was sick. I think I was the person he went to to forget about things, I can always make him laugh. We get into these sparring verbal debates…he’s the only man I have met who can almost make me speechless with his comebacks…so needless t say I have been playing with and adjusting my recipe of mones around him. I am interested in him, find him very sexy and interesting. So…he has given me the use of his sunroom as an art studio, I go over there about twice a week to paint. I think he likes having someone around while he putters around his house and yard…this last time I was there I was wearing my fallout test mixture I have put together. He wouldn’t look at me. Just went out of his way to not look at me. Barely talked to me, was nice when he did, but it was weird…the one , ONE time he looked at me, it was this really intense questioning state, then he laughed and walked away. Did I completely strike out with my mix do you think? Thoughts…?? ---
**Author:** ![metalTree](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b38774/32.png) [@metalTree](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/metalTree)\ **Post date:** [July 14, 2015, 1:34am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/looking-for-mens-opinion/64645/2 "2015-07-14T01:34:53Z")
I doubt you completely striked out with him because of your fallout test mix. Just don’t wear that mix again. You’ve known him for almost 10 years so even if he didn’t like your vibe that one day he’s going to forget about it by the time you come over next time. So, you’ve been going there twice a week to paint and have been adjusting your mones around him? Just recall which mone recipe worked best in the past and start wearing that every time. ---
**Author:** ![mobocaster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c2a13f/32.png) [@mobocaster](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mobocaster)\ **Post date:** [July 14, 2015, 5:55pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/looking-for-mens-opinion/64645/3 "2015-07-14T17:55:25Z")
Sounds like a form of ghosting or a psychological inconsistency between his current feelings for you and the new feelings being promoted by the fallout mix. One important thing to remember with fallout is that it takes time and repeated exposure/withdrawal cycles to set-in/get under the subject’s skin and initially, results can seem highly unpromising - so its often better that the base mix is kept at a discrete level/pretty low dose and with any overt sexual elements held back until you are in a more uninhibited/relaxed position. ---
**Author:** ![Mmj2013](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b3f665/32.png) [@Mmj2013](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Mmj2013)\ **Post date:** [July 14, 2015, 11:00pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/looking-for-mens-opinion/64645/4 "2015-07-14T23:00:48Z")
Thanks guys. I’ve never heard of ghosting…? I am going to focus more on the bonding, trust mones… ---
**Author:** ![mobocaster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c2a13f/32.png) [@mobocaster](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mobocaster)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2015, 12:40am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/looking-for-mens-opinion/64645/5 "2015-07-15T00:40:56Z")
Ghosting - its where the response to your signature (usually but not always sexual) so far outstrips the subject’s impression of you that they simply shut their responses down to you and “ghost” or ignore you. It can also happen in situations where the subject isn’t in a mood or situation that would encourage them to respond positively - Work or just hanging-out together are prime examples. ---
**Author:** ![Mmj2013](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b3f665/32.png) [@Mmj2013](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Mmj2013)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2015, 3:05pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/looking-for-mens-opinion/64645/6 "2015-07-15T15:05:20Z")
Thanks. That makes sense too. This is fascinating stuff! ---
**Author:** ![justintime469](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/justintime469/32/1402_2.png) [@justintime469](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/justintime469)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2015, 4:44pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/looking-for-mens-opinion/64645/7 "2015-07-15T16:44:38Z")
SO what are your goals with this guy? This can be touchy because if something does happen will it ruin the friendship? He is in a vulnerable state with everything happening with his mother so this is a very tricky situation. I wonder if you wear some IO and IH and maybe some [Instant Sexiness](https://phera.com/product/instant-sexiness/) what will happen? ---
**Author:** ![Mmj2013](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b3f665/32.png) [@Mmj2013](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Mmj2013)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2015, 8:04pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/looking-for-mens-opinion/64645/8 "2015-07-15T20:04:17Z")
You know I go back and forth on this question. I don’t want to jeopardize the friendship. But it’s not like either of of us are 23 . We are both older, have already done all the jackass crazy stuff. Neither of us burns bridges when relationships end, stay friends with our ex’s…but yea, something to think about. Right now I am just going to focus on status quo, being there for him as a friend. It gets difficult when the flirting ebbs and flows. He’s definatley someone who likes to be the pursuer… Oh well.. Whatever will be. ---
**Author:** ![brasileira](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/5f9b8f/32.png) [@brasileira](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/brasileira)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2016, 7:15am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/looking-for-mens-opinion/64645/9 "2016-09-28T07:15:50Z")
Hi Mmj2013! I was searching something else and came across this thread. I got curious about 2 things: #1 - what did you use on your fallout mix #2 - how this story between you and your friend ended up 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Mmj2013](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b3f665/32.png) [@Mmj2013](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Mmj2013)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2016, 10:33am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/looking-for-mens-opinion/64645/10 "2016-09-28T10:33:27Z")
Hi!, wow its been almost a year… yes, my fall out mix. I tweeked it a bit but what I settled on was IH, TAC, a fair amount of cops (EOW) (since we are both older), P83 and P74. Thats when we were alone. if we were going to be in public and around other people, i softened it a bit with IS/A or B depending how I felt… and brought the COPS down a bit. To be fair I dont know how well this worked since our situation was different. We have been friends for over a decade, but I believe it helped move a long a intimate relationship that has been going on almost a year now.😉 I want some P96, but its out of stock ☹ He did slightly freak me out a bit a few times he would just stand there next to me as were would be talking and just close his eyes and inhale, I would ask what he is doing and his reply “just enjoying the scent of your [pheromones](https://a314.com/)” 😮 he doesn’t know i use these products, but he is very intune to energy and physical responses… so… haha ---
**Author:** ![Jdub](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/jdub/32/1399_2.png) [@Jdub](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Jdub)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2016, 8:51pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/looking-for-mens-opinion/64645/11 "2016-10-15T20:51:12Z")
In a word.. No I don’t think it’s possible to strike out in one day.