# Male Pattern Blindness **URL:** \ **Category:** Lounge\ **Created:** [February 23, 2008, 1:16pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/male-pattern-blindness/9368 "2008-02-23T13:16:37Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 3\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![mindset](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ccd318/32.png) [@mindset](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mindset)\ **Post date:** [February 23, 2008, 1:16pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/male-pattern-blindness/9368/1 "2008-02-23T13:16:37Z")
Yes, even though I am equipped with the knowledge to recognize the subtle cues given by the ladies, I am currently smacking myself around due to self-actualized idiocy. Remember guys: the fuckin’ anxiety is way worse than the potential rejection you face. Why? Because you can get over rejection with a good night’s sleep while regret sticks with you until you actually act on your impulse. I have to wait a week until I can verify whether or not I’ve wasted my time beating myself up over not acting out in the first place. Ok, so… 3 drops of A314; 1 spray of AMMO; 2 shots of Shine. As always when I walk in, people stare, crack jokes, girls twirl hair, haters yap and I’m wondering what the fuck is going on. It has gotten to the point where I don’t realize I’m wearing [pheromones](https://pheromonelabs.com/shop/) anymore, or what the effects are like without them. I’m so used to the reactions that I’m completely blinded by the extra attention. I mean, something is going down when two chicks exit the double-doors and simultaneously stop to hold them open for me; at the same time, completely stopping their dialogue as if they were expecting the Dean of the school was directly behind them! lol. This has happened on several occassions. Walking from the bookstore, atleast 10 feet before reaching the door an HB stops and holds the door for me for like 10 seconds, which is an incredibly awkward amount of time for common courtesy, but I still brushed it off as being just that. You see, I don’t have a battle going on inside of my head, I have a fucking jihad going down between my newfound confidence and oldtime avoidance. Yes, those hypnotic inductions work, folks. It just takes action to solidify and move past those harbored emotions you have terrorizing your mind. Anyways, the good stuff… a total flop on my face, possible demotion to retardum. The hottest girl in my class asks to sit next to me, and of course, I invite her. Ok, so we already have broken the ice since it’s a personal growth class, and all we do is sit in a huge circle and talk about our lives. I presented my chapter in the book a few weeks prior, and apparently I conveyed higher value to the class, because everybody is coming up to me asking about psychology, self-help, nlp/hypnosis, seduction and all of that kind of shit. I personally felt like I bombed it, since I was nervous as hell and I’m not particularly good with conversations as I just battled getting over agoraphobia a few years ago. Anyways, so I banter with her every now and then, teasing her about how she always brings Burger King to class, but never bothers to share. Later on in the class, we broke for a discussion while the next person was preparing for her presentation, and this is when it happened. This chick laid it out before me, and what the fuck did I do? Second guess her implications. HB: “I want to go to Chili’s. I haven’t been there in awhile.” ME: “Yeah, me neither.” HB: “Man, no guy has asked me for tommorow night. I only have a few guy friends.” ME: “Oh, I thought you had lunch with that one guy.” HB: “Yeah, I wish this was Friday night. A guy should ask me out.” Points her head down and blushes. HB: “We should go out.” ME: “What do you mean?” ( 🙄 hello dumbass…) HB: “…As a class, you know.” …breaks off into deeper rapport about relationships, and she apologizes for putting herself out there…blah, blah, blah… we talk about how finding the right person would be awesome for both of us; she mentions the secret and how the opportunities are often staring you in the face, but you need to just remain positive and act on them. lmao. HB: Takes out her planner. “I don’t really get out much.” ME: “What?” (LMAO. 😮 ) HB: “…We as a class don’t get out much.” ME: “Oh. 😕” SO, I bet you’re asking what the fuck I was thinking the entire time these cues were handed out to me. Yes, I think you got it. Analyzing way too much bullshit; wondering why a hot chick like this is actually asking me out; and determining that she was probably leading me on. After extensively analyzing the dialogue, a point of which I cannot entirely convey in a post, it becomes clear that male pattern blindness is a real phenomenon and that I need a brain transplant. Luckily I see her every Thursday night, so I’ll just jump in and ask her out after conversational build-up, etc. I’ll find out if what she said was as obvious as it seems, or if it was misconstrued. ---
**Author:** ![Eldros](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/eldros/32/279_2.png) [@Eldros](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Eldros)\ **Post date:** [February 24, 2008, 9:18pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/male-pattern-blindness/9368/2 "2008-02-24T21:18:04Z")
I know how you feel man, I still kick myself for a whole bunch of things. ---
**Author:** ![mark-in-dallas](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mark-in-dallas/32/860_2.png) [@mark-in-dallas](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mark-in-dallas)\ **Post date:** [February 26, 2008, 1:53am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/male-pattern-blindness/9368/3 "2008-02-26T01:53:16Z")
Mindset, If you don’t mind a bit of advice, here’s what you should do: Pick up 2 tickets to a concert, movie club or whatever. Next week make sure she sits next to you again. Tell her that last week you were not really yourself and had a lot on your mind, but you’d like to spend some time with her outside of class, then drag out the tickets and put them in her hand and say "you didn’t have any plans for (date) did you? And, most importantly…STOP ANALYZING! 🙂