# Men: whats the secret to getting yall in datemode? **URL:** \ **Category:** Lounge\ **Created:** [October 18, 2009, 12:58am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/men-whats-the-secret-to-getting-yall-in-datemode/33382 "2009-10-18T00:58:43Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![LeafStamp](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/leafstamp/32/376_2.png) [@LeafStamp](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/LeafStamp)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2009, 2:50am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/men-whats-the-secret-to-getting-yall-in-datemode/33382/41 "2009-11-23T02:50:52Z")
> [@meow333x](#): > > i’m gonna have to disagree with you on this bud, i think you missed the point. women generally have lousy sense of humors. So far i’ve conversed with possibly 5000+ women in my life, i can count the number of them who were funny on one hand. I think most men give up on this trait around 16 or 17. those that don’t either are very inexperienced with women or are ridiculously optimistic. > Once again, i know i’m gonna sound like i’m bashing feminists but any idiot with common sense knows that there are huge difference between the two sexes, and you simply cannot expect the same out of women as you would for your guy friends. aka. lower your fucking standards. if i held women to the same personality standards as i did with my guy friends, every one of them would fail. am i a sexist? possibly. but lets do a quick check here: > > how many women have you met that were as funny as your drinking buddies? > how many women have you met that were as emotionally stable as your guy friends? > how many women have you met that worked on your car? > how many women have you met that got into a ball busting conversation about politics with you? > > as far as women focusing on their looks and not on their personaliites, i think this comes from a necessity rather than a choice. on some level women know that they can’t be as good as your guy buddies. there’s just certain things you can’t work on…you can’t force someone to be interested in mechanics or politics or videogames. but they can outdo your guy buddies in one department…looks. i know this is some chicken and egg kinda shit here. which came first..the girl focusing on her looks and nothing else, or her having nothing else to offer so that she had to focus on her looks? i don’t freakin know. > my point here is simple..the more women you talk to the more you lower your standards, at least in america anyway…don’t know how it works in new zealand. at the end of the day…looks are just a blanket that covers just how little college age women really bring to the table. I think you’re getting “funny” and “fun” confused. A woman doesn’t need to be able to crack jokes and bust your balls all the time for her to be funny. Those women you mentioned previously probably have completely different personas offstage than they do onstage. If you can have an enjoyable time with a girl without needing to resort to physicality - I think you’ve got yourself a keeper. There are many girls I don’t mind having a decent conversation with. The stupid ones are just so fun to make fun of. “We’re fairies!” “Like the mythical creature or the boat?” NZ women have on average 22 sexual partners in a lifetime, while men have 13. So you can hardly say that they’re not provocative here. We’re the most promiscuous in the world, and one of only two countries where women have more sex than men. But, I’ve come across many girls who are worth it, as far as personality goes. Quite a bunch of them I’m still friends with. I don’t know how things are in the states, but I can only hope they’re somewhat similar. What was my point? Oh yeah. You shouldn’t compare anyone’s onstage/onscreen persona to people in real life. It is a horrendous let-down if you do. Equated to girls looking at glam mags for their body-image. You will constantly be disappointed. ---
**Author:** ![conundrum12](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/46a35a/32.png) [@conundrum12](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/conundrum12)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2009, 2:59am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/men-whats-the-secret-to-getting-yall-in-datemode/33382/42 "2009-11-23T02:59:04Z")
Leafstamp, please read the post I just made in response to yours. The WHOLE point I was making and am making is not that we should compare girls in our lives to ones on screen. It was that there were a higher percentage of unattractive (or straight) funny women than straight women and I will stand behind this statement. However, in relation to “There are many girls I don’t mind having a decent conversation with. The stupid ones are just so fun to make fun of.” The whole point of this thread is getting me into datemode. The last girl in this world I want to date would be an idiot. Making fun of people is all good, but only when you are doing it with a smart person that you love or by yourself. Making fun of the person you are supposed to love is where problems arise and part of the reason couples break up (different levels of intelligence carry over to skills with humor, but there is not necessarily a correlation, just an association). Things in the states are rough for finding funny girls, thank you for rubbing it in 🙂. I too have found some in my life, but they have been few. Additionally, they have all been either busted (aka ugly), crazy insecure about their looks, depressed, or some other thing. So enjoy your enjoyable ones because I want what you have found. ---
**Author:** ![meow333x](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ecae2f/32.png) [@meow333x](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/meow333x)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2009, 3:02am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/men-whats-the-secret-to-getting-yall-in-datemode/33382/43 "2009-11-23T03:02:49Z")
Leafstamp, you not only live in another country, but you may as well live on another planet as far as sexual relationships go. new zealand is one of the few countries in the world where prostitution is legal. you have no worries man, if you need to bust a nut, you go and do it…it’s all good. it doens’t work that way here. i’ve seen some crazy shit happen to guys because they were sex starved. i’ve had to talk way too many guys down from depression and suicide due to their sexual shortcomings. ---
**Author:** ![conundrum12](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/46a35a/32.png) [@conundrum12](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/conundrum12)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2009, 3:10am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/men-whats-the-secret-to-getting-yall-in-datemode/33382/44 "2009-11-23T03:10:48Z")
meow’s post couldnt be more on point for guys in the U.S. The amount of time I’ve spent as a therapist to my sex-starved male friends who somehow couldnt manage to lose their virginities till 19 or 20 while “but all the football team lost theirs at 16” or whatever is ridiculous Girls love sex, just biologically it makes sense they have it less. They are at risk to bare children and carry them for 9 months if something goes wrong. Other than Stds, the only thing that could go wrong is premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction. While embarrassing, these things pale in comparison to childbirth. So unfortunately it seems that women in the US, because of biological factors, as well as cultural stigma, and imagining pain being associated with sex, this is not likely to change in the U.S. I just booked a flight to NZ though I’ll meet you at the airport I’ll be the one with the huge smile and the bottle of ammo! ---
**Author:** ![mikotorocks714](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mikotorocks714/32/1509_2.png) [@mikotorocks714](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mikotorocks714)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2009, 3:11am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/men-whats-the-secret-to-getting-yall-in-datemode/33382/45 "2009-11-23T03:11:11Z")
It’s not all about just busting a nut though, sadly these prostitutes won’t give a fuck about what you’re going to do after you leave or care at all about you (besides them also probably not even enjoying the sexual act.) Some guys don’t just want sex, but also that emotional part and love from a female. So depending on who it is a guy is still going to feel like shit even after being with a prostitute, although he will be one without blue balls. > [@meow333x](#): > > Leafstamp, you not only live in another country, but you may as well live on another planet as far as sexual relationships go. new zealand is one of the few countries in the world where prostitution is legal. you have no worries man, if you need to bust a nut, you go and do it…it’s all good. it doens’t work that way here. i’ve seen some crazy shit happen to guys because they were sex starved. i’ve had to talk way too many guys down from depression and suicide due to their sexual shortcomings. ---
**Author:** ![meow333x](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ecae2f/32.png) [@meow333x](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/meow333x)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2009, 3:13am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/men-whats-the-secret-to-getting-yall-in-datemode/33382/46 "2009-11-23T03:13:20Z")
> [@conundrum12](#): > > meow’s post couldnt be more on point for guys in the U.S. The amount of time I’ve spent as a therapist to my sex-starved male friends who somehow couldnt manage to lose their virginities till 19 or 20 while “but all the football team lost theirs at 16” or whatever is ridiculous > > Girls love sex, just biologically it makes sense they have it less. They are at risk to bare children and carry them for 9 months if something goes wrong. > > Other than Stds, the only thing that could go wrong is premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction. While embarrassing, these things pale in comparison to childbirth. > > So unfortunately it seems that women in the US, because of biological factors, as well as cultural stigma, and imagining pain being associated with sex, this is not likely to change in the U.S. I just booked a flight to NZ though I’ll meet you at the airport man what we need are some new zealand hookers!!! no seriously tho. i just don’t get it. i’m at a major university here. we have a counseling center for people’s emotional problems. we have a health center for their physical problems. but we don’t have shit for their sexual problems. how does that make any sense? i used to joke that we need to put a dam brothel in the middle of campus. ---
**Author:** ![meow333x](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ecae2f/32.png) [@meow333x](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/meow333x)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2009, 3:16am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/men-whats-the-secret-to-getting-yall-in-datemode/33382/47 "2009-11-23T03:16:42Z")
> [@mikotorocks714](#): > > It’s not all about just busting a nut though, sadly these prostitutes won’t give a fuck about what you’re going to do after you leave or care at all about you (besides them also probably not even enjoying the sexual act.) Some guys don’t just want sex, but also that emotional part and love from a female. So depending on who it is a guy is still going to feel like shit even after being with a prostitute, although he will be one without blue balls. duh dude, everybody wants to be loved and accepted, that’s just a human need. but look at maslows hierarchy of needs…your physical needs have to come before your emotional ones. if you go two years without sex…trust me…you’re gonna be thinking more about bustin a nut than having candle lit dinners. [![](https://us1.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/uploads/pheromonetalk/original/2X/7/750837a0900712d205a778fa0c8cec58961f7635.jpeg "Corn Nuts Commercial - The Real Radio Jingle") ](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dS18jHMmhAI) ---
**Author:** ![LeafStamp](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/leafstamp/32/376_2.png) [@LeafStamp](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/LeafStamp)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2009, 3:18am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/men-whats-the-secret-to-getting-yall-in-datemode/33382/48 "2009-11-23T03:18:41Z")
> [@meow333x](#): > > man what we need are some new zealand hookers!!! no seriously tho. i just don’t get it. i’m at a major university here. we have a counseling center for people’s emotional problems. we have a health center for their physical problems. but we don’t have shit for their sexual problems. how does that make any sense? i used to joke that we need to put a dam brothel in the middle of campus. Hehe, come over here then! Not that hard to get laid here, but if you’re terrible at it, there’s always hookers. I guess they’re considered blue-collar in NZ. Anyway, you can smell the STDs as you walk by backpacker’s hostels here. Yum yum! Chlamidya being the common one here 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![conundrum12](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/46a35a/32.png) [@conundrum12](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/conundrum12)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2009, 3:20am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/men-whats-the-secret-to-getting-yall-in-datemode/33382/49 "2009-11-23T03:20:06Z")
Meow: First, depends what type of candles. Second, the brothel sounds good. On my campus, it’s called being in the fraternity/sorority scene. Everyone else has challenges because they have to meet in group projects, classes, and clubs where no one is charged up sexually. Additionally, the horny girls are at the frat parties, so the non frat parties usually have the less-sexed up girls if that makes sense Edit: NZ sounds like heaven minus the chlamydia 🙂 (damn why cant i use all the choices of smiley faces) ---
**Author:** ![meow333x](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ecae2f/32.png) [@meow333x](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/meow333x)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2009, 3:25am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/men-whats-the-secret-to-getting-yall-in-datemode/33382/50 "2009-11-23T03:25:32Z")
> [@LeafStamp](#): > > Hehe, come over here then! Not that hard to get laid here, but if you’re terrible at it, there’s always hookers. I guess they’re considered blue-collar in NZ. > > Anyway, you can smell the STDs as you walk by backpacker’s hostels here. Yum yum! Chlamidya being the common one here 🙂 hey uh, how much do they go for and what do they look like? ---
**Author:** ![mikotorocks714](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mikotorocks714/32/1509_2.png) [@mikotorocks714](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mikotorocks714)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2009, 3:26am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/men-whats-the-secret-to-getting-yall-in-datemode/33382/51 "2009-11-23T03:26:52Z")
Either that or they will bone sheep… I think this is where addiction and weird fetishes come about, because of an abstinence that took forever. However, that’s not to say that lack of sex alone can have you do crazy shit or think dirty thoughts. An unstable mental state is obviously the main reason for this, but lack of sex can make you think some crazy shit and will probably lead to rape I think. So I can see the dangers of lack of sex, so sure legalization of prostitution wouldn’t be a bad idea. It’s just the Bunny Ranch type of prices that would make it impossible for some sexless men… > [@meow333x](#): > > duh dude, everybody wants to be loved and accepted, that’s just a human need. but look at maslows hierarchy of needs…your physical needs have to come before your emotional ones. if you go two years without sex…trust me…you’re gonna be thinking more about bustin a nut than having candle lit dinners. ---
**Author:** ![meow333x](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ecae2f/32.png) [@meow333x](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/meow333x)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2009, 3:30am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/men-whats-the-secret-to-getting-yall-in-datemode/33382/52 "2009-11-23T03:30:35Z")
> [@mikotorocks714](#): > > Either that or they will bone sheep… I think this is where addiction and weird fetishes come about, because of an abstinence that took forever. However, that’s not to say that lack of sex alone can have you do crazy shit or think dirty thoughts. An unstable mental state is obviously the main reason for this, but lack of sex can make you think some crazy shit and will probably lead to rape I think. So I can see the dangers of lack of sex, so sure legalization of prostitution wouldn’t be a bad idea. It’s just the Bunny Ranch type of prices that would make it impossible for some sexless men… lack of sex=rape? dude, if that was true then half my college campus would be rapists. and about the bunny ranch, man that sucks. i’ve seen it on hbo, the girls there would have to pay me to fuck them. yikes. it is well known that the us has some of the worst looking most expensive hookers on the planet. so you see how screwed we are? ---
**Author:** ![conundrum12](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/46a35a/32.png) [@conundrum12](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/conundrum12)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2009, 3:30am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/men-whats-the-secret-to-getting-yall-in-datemode/33382/53 "2009-11-23T03:30:39Z")
The only reason the Bunny Ranch is so expensive is because of its fame (tv show about it) AND the LACK of brothels available in the United States. Prostitution isn’t even legal in Vegas, just some counties in Nevada. That’s **ALL**. Imagine if every state had 5 brothels. Imagine if each brothel has 20 non-busted hookers. The price of prostitution would completely go down and prostitution would become more accepted in our society. More being the key word, of course people would try to get it shut down. It’s just supply and demand, and accessibility ---
**Author:** ![meow333x](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ecae2f/32.png) [@meow333x](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/meow333x)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2009, 3:34am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/men-whats-the-secret-to-getting-yall-in-datemode/33382/54 "2009-11-23T03:34:52Z")
> [@conundrum12](#): > > The only reason the Bunny Ranch is so expensive is because of its fame (tv show about it) AND the LACK of brothels available in the United States. Prostitution isn’t even legal in Vegas, just some counties in Nevada. That’s **ALL**. > > Imagine if every state had 5 brothels. Imagine if each brothel has 20 non-busted hookers. The price of prostitution would completely go down and prostitution would become more accepted in our society. More being the key word, of course people would try to get it shut down. It’s just supply and demand, and accessibility so true…like in amsterdam you can fuck a girl that looks like a model for 50 euros ---
**Author:** ![mikotorocks714](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mikotorocks714/32/1509_2.png) [@mikotorocks714](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mikotorocks714)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2009, 3:35am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/men-whats-the-secret-to-getting-yall-in-datemode/33382/55 "2009-11-23T03:35:12Z")
Then the next step for some of these unlucky men is lowering their standards WAY down. I wouldn’t be surprised if someone desperate for sex would do it with some girl who is at the base of the totem pole. You know what’s funny though? When these poor guys even get shut down by these type of girls/women because they have their own type of high standards as well. Which would be surprising considering they’re at the bottom themselves. > [@conundrum12](#): > > The only reason the Bunny Ranch is so expensive is because of its fame (tv show about it) AND the LACK of brothels available in the United States. Prostitution isn’t even legal in Vegas, just some counties in Nevada. That’s **ALL**. > > Imagine if every state had 5 brothels. Imagine if each brothel has 20 non-busted hookers. The price of prostitution would completely go down and prostitution would become more accepted in our society. More being the key word, of course people would try to get it shut down. It’s just supply and demand, and accessibility ---
**Author:** ![conundrum12](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/46a35a/32.png) [@conundrum12](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/conundrum12)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2009, 3:35am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/men-whats-the-secret-to-getting-yall-in-datemode/33382/56 "2009-11-23T03:35:14Z")
I also want to note we have been making extreme generalizations. No abstinence will not always lead to rape. No, not all comedians are ugly. No, not all girls are not funny. No, New Zealand isn’t heaven. We just need to take the generalities and exagerations (sp?) with a grain of salt and then everything makes a shitload more sense. I agree that sex-starved men may go crazy and end up raping someone. Do I think it’s common No. But I see what you’re saying man ---
**Author:** ![meow333x](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ecae2f/32.png) [@meow333x](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/meow333x)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2009, 3:39am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/men-whats-the-secret-to-getting-yall-in-datemode/33382/57 "2009-11-23T03:39:17Z")
> [@conundrum12](#): > > I also want to note we have been making extreme generalizations. No abstinence will not always lead to rape. No, not all comedians are ugly. No, not all girls are not funny. No, New Zealand isn’t heaven. We just need to take the generalities and exagerations (sp?) with a grain of salt and then everything makes a shitload more sense. > > I agree that sex-starved men may go crazy and end up raping someone. Do I think it’s common No. But I see what you’re saying man man you’re really trying to cover your ass on this lol ---
**Author:** ![mikotorocks714](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mikotorocks714/32/1509_2.png) [@mikotorocks714](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mikotorocks714)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2009, 3:39am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/men-whats-the-secret-to-getting-yall-in-datemode/33382/58 "2009-11-23T03:39:27Z")
Well, definitely not common as mentioned an unstable mind and other mental abnormalities are generally the main cause. However, lack of sex doesn’t help. I am sure though, that there are guys with high morals that even though they aren’t lucky with sex they still won’t go as far as getting a prostitute for respect of whatever reason or cause. Mainly I’m sure, because they want it all, not just sex. > [@conundrum12](#): > > I also want to note we have been making extreme generalizations. No abstinence will not always lead to rape. No, not all comedians are ugly. No, not all girls are not funny. No, New Zealand isn’t heaven. We just need to take the generalities and exagerations (sp?) with a grain of salt and then everything makes a shitload more sense. > > I agree that sex-starved men may go crazy and end up raping someone. Do I think it’s common No. But I see what you’re saying man ---
**Author:** ![meow333x](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ecae2f/32.png) [@meow333x](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/meow333x)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2009, 3:43am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/men-whats-the-secret-to-getting-yall-in-datemode/33382/60 "2009-11-23T03:43:21Z")
where did this rape shit come from seriously? lack of sex leads to rape? really? are rapists sex hungry if they are goin-a-rapin? come on now. lack of sex leads to frustration and lowering of standards…yes i’ve fucked more than one fat chick in my day, and dumb chicks too…why? cause i got tired of waiting for a good woman to come along. ---
**Author:** ![conundrum12](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/46a35a/32.png) [@conundrum12](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/conundrum12)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2009, 3:51am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/men-whats-the-secret-to-getting-yall-in-datemode/33382/61 "2009-11-23T03:51:12Z")
> [@meow333x](#): > > man you’re really trying to cover your ass on this lol haha what? He wasnt “covering his ass” I was just agreeing with him. At some point in almost all rapists lives, they were sane. Whether you stacked dominoes with one when you were 6 or played soccer with one at 14, they are members of society. MOST the time, which is where the generality comment came in, rape is from a mentally unstable human being. However, as said, there is a SMALL percent of rapists who just are so fucking sexually frustrated. Unlike you, they dont know about [pheromones](https://pheromonelabs.com/shop/). They dont know about pick up or it didnt work. They werent abused as a child. They were abused by women throughout life, or lack thereof. And that makes them go batshit crazy sexually [Previous page](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/men-whats-the-secret-to-getting-yall-in-datemode/33382.md?page=2) [Next page](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/men-whats-the-secret-to-getting-yall-in-datemode/33382.md?page=4)