# My attraction do's & don't's list **URL:** \ **Category:** Lounge\ **Created:** [May 26, 2008, 6:38am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-attraction-dos-donts-list/13126 "2008-05-26T06:38:26Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Eldros](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/eldros/32/279_2.png) [@Eldros](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Eldros)\ **Post date:** [May 26, 2008, 6:38am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-attraction-dos-donts-list/13126/1 "2008-05-26T06:38:26Z")
[http://download.yousendit.com/EEF8E62F09A6471A (print copy)](http://download.yousendit.com/EEF8E62F09A6471A) The-do list 1. Do not play hard to get. A girl always rises to a challenge but if she thinks it is too much, she will probably invest her time in something (and someone) more worthwhile. 2. Find out what a girl likes by trying to work it into the conversation and then go out and buy the spray of cologne. It will drive her crazy. Just make sure that you do not use too much; a little bit is good but over-applying makes her want to run away. 3. Tell good jokes but do not try too hard. Experiment; find out what makes other people laugh and see if she reacts the same. Even if it does not make her giggle, you will be one step closer to learning how to make her laugh. 4. Compliment a girl the right way. Watch closely when you are around her. You can probably tell from, for example, how romantic and sappy she is, say on Valentine’s Day, or is she adorns her folders with cute animals and hearts. If she does, she probably like it if people are sappy to her. In this case, lay on the compliment, but do not get too overboard. If you find out that she does not do any of these things, she might find it strange, creepy and intimidating if you compliment her too much. Keep the compliments subtle but nice and compliment her one feature that she would not think you would notice. 5. Smile. The best thing that boys can do is smile. It helps if you have a nice smile and she definitely will love it to see you smile and see that you know how to lighten up and put a cheer on you face. Be happy, though, do not take life too seriously and show her that you can laugh and you are exciting. 6. Always be there for her…but when she needs you to be. Do not totally stalk her and listen to all of her conversations but when she looks upset or sad, gently ask her if she is okay and try to help her cheer up. Try and use some of the techniques from Step Three to make her laugh. She will like you so much more if she knows that you are always on hand with a big smile and a caring heart. 7. Be daring. Most girls do not like boys who always live by the rules; going to bed at nine o’ clock PM and studying like crazy. They also do not like boys who only talk about computers and math. If you are guilty of any of these things, change your ways or find a different girl. Do not just talk; listen and when it is your turn to talk, be interesting. Do not be boring; be exciting and different. 8. Be social. Do not let her think that if she stops talking to you that will be the end of the world. This sounds kind of bad but do not just stick to her. Live freely. Do not let her think that you are completely stuck on her, even if you are. If she sees you flirting with other girls, she will **want** you more but she might write you off as a lost cause if you look like a complete player. 9. Be sweet. On valentines day, get her a little teeny gift or a card or something. Don’t worry, she won’t embarrass you if she doesn’t like you back. 10. Personal hygiene is a must. Do not be disgusting, do not smell like a skunk, and do not have hair like a chimp, and keep your fingernails clean. 11. Be friendly; remember all the things that adults and other people have ever told you about how to treat girls and having manners. 12. Try to give her few surprises girls just love surprise.(that doesn’t mean buying her lots of things!) 13. when you see her make sure to greet her with a smile before you say anything. that makes her comfortable and welcomed. 14. Seek eye contact. Maintain eye contact while trying to keep underwear and armpits dry. 15. Smile. Avoid appearing overconfident as she may find you cocky, but you mustn’t be shy either. Some girls do like shy guys. 16. Approach with confidence; don’t use cheesy pick-up lines, they rarely work. A simple “Hi, how are you tonight?” should break the ice. Or, if you’re a teenager, a less formal “Hey, how’s it going?” or “Hey, what’s up?” will suffice. Being polite and friendly always helps. 17. Wait for the signals that she is interested: laughing (at your hilarious jokes), flicking her hair around, etc. If she makes any physical contact, like touching your arm while she laughs, it’s a good sign. 18. Take a hint if she’s not interested. If she’s busy, or if your comic genius is not being appreciated, then say, “It was great to meet you” and cut your losses. If you come on too strong, some women might feel threatened. 19. Take it small steps at a time. If you think she is interested, don’t overdo it: be brief, return to your friends, say, “Maybe we can have a chat later.” **-Be nice.** There’s nothing sweeter to a woman than a genuinely kind man. Have manners and act mature. **-Use your niceness correctly.** Being nice doesn’t mean you have to be timid, stuttering, and a pushover. You have to be confident in yourself. But this is where you have to draw the line between confident-and-nice and confident-and-a-jerk. Care about people. Don’t be unnecessarily mean. Don’t ill-wish anybody you don’t know, and when speaking to new people, appear interested in what they’re saying. Say kind things. Making fun of people is extremely unattractive. **-Be honest with her.** Nothing is attractive about lies. If you really want to be with her, always tell the truth and never twist stories. If you’re only looking for a one-time thing and not a relationship, tell her. Nothing is worse than a lying jerk. **-Have a sense of humor.** For the aspiring, funny guy, don’t tell racist or stupid jokes. **-Be confident.** Show that you want a commitment towards the girl. Appreciate life and your future and it may be given back to you. **-Have eye contact.** Always look into her eyes and don’t disconnect before she does. It proves your confidence. -Not all women want the same things in men. Some women might want the muscle, jerk type; others tend to shift their eyes towards geeks or nerds. Above all, just be and show your true self. -Give them that which they do not have. A woman with a “great personality” probably doesn’t hear about how beautiful her eyes are that often, whereas a drop dead gorgeous woman may hardly be respected enough to be asked what her political views on a topic are. Know your audience, and adapt. If they are used to what you are saying, what the hell gives you the advantage over the next guy? -Notice the stupidest, most minute detail. It shows you care enough to notice, or gives you a good opener in a bar. -Many women prefer a toned look-your muscles are visible but they are not so large you cant put your arms all the way down. -Scope, scope, scope! If you check out a girl _before_ you hit on her, you might actually know what to say to her. Comment on her highlights, new shoes, whatever, just make sure your line is actually smooth and not something you say to all the girls. Don’t compliment her too much. 20. Be a good flirter! To be a good flirter you need confidence, you need that “I don’t care” attitude, but then **care**. Girls think it’s totally sweet when they finally find something that a “whatever” guy cares about. **Especially** if it’s them! 21. This means that as long as you flatter and protect her, make her feel feminine and special like a flower, you can act obnoxious to others as long as you treat her with specialty, kindness, and of course respect! Realize though most girls might not like the fact you treat her friends, even your friends, or people in general poorly. Only drop the rude act towards others if you know she’s sensitive of that. But keep in mind that girls find Prince Charming and even Gentlemen at times too boring as it can seem textbook and not having any **spark** creativity. 22. Remember that one strong reason girls do in fact admire the popular boy at school is because he’s a wild class clown type. And that’s very fun to be around. The PERFECT BOY is a boy who is funny, popular at school, have some athletic strength (like basketball&soccer&baseball), and is the class clown but still knows how to treat a girl like she’s _special_ by **reserving** your **gentlemen side** for her **only**. 23. Talk to her friends. This move can work for you in a bunch of ways. First, “girl talk” girls _always_ talk with their friends before making any decision about a boy. Second, jealousy factor. If you get close with her friends she’ll totally want you more. No one wants their best friend to have the cutest guy at school. Lastly, divide and conquer. If you flirt it up with her friends you might just end up with a few girls. 24. Make sure you can back up your smooth words with something. Play sports, join a gym, whatever. Oh, by the way, girls love boys with six pack abs. Keep your weight normal. 25. If a girl turns you down, act slightly disappointed but don’t make it a huge deal. After that treat her as you usually do. A real “ladies man” wouldn’t care if just one girl turned him down. -If you’re not the kind of guy who can pull this off, try reinventing your look. Girls always notice when a guy gets cute. Grow your hair out (the Ashton cut - so hot right now) Get a new beanie (if your school lets you wear hats) If you’re a skater, try the surfer look and vice versa. 26. If you have your eye on a girl, try to hang out places she does, than next time you see her at school tell her you saw her at the mall, gym, beach etc 27. you definitely need a good group of guy friends. A guy that’s by himself and always hitting on girls is just a creep. Also girls will see that you’re popular and stuff. 28. A ladies man is always prepared. Gum, mints, body spray, gel.. 29. Once you and a girl are kind of talking, call her things like babe and hun. But don’t overdo it, and don’t let her catch you saying it to other girls 30. Get lots of personal jokes with girls, but never get them confused! Girls love a funny guy and it’s smooth when you have jokes that are unique for a girl 31. Be Funny! Girls totally dig funny guys. 32. Wear a really sexy cologne. Girls totally dig that and are really observant on what a guy smells like. That also means don’t smell like you just came from a gym workout. 33. used a deodorant not a antiperspirant, there are [pheromones](https://pheromonelabs.com/) in sweat that girls are naturally drawn to in your sweat. 34. Axe works (but not like advertised). Cheap, yet strangely effective. 35. smell is the strongest sense related to memory… 36. BE YOUR BEST SELF. Women like men who are confident in themselves. -The most important of all: be funny! Make jokes, do silly stunts, tease her in a nice way. It is near-impossible to woo a girl without humor. 37. If you two are listening to some music, sing along. Most girls think its adorable when guys sing. 38. Engage in physical engagement. For example, touch her arm, etc. If you are daring and know her well, go in for a hug. Then look at her facial expressions to see if she likes it. 39. Flirt a lot. For example, tell past experiences, and definitely compliment her hair or something. 40. If you’re with a group of friends, tell one of them to say something like, “You’re bad at flirting” or something to her and then defend her. She’ll think its sweet. 41. Smile at her a lot, even for no reason. Look her in the eyes as well. 42. Have at least one friend with you one time. Usually it’s easier for someone else to tell if a girl is interested in you because it’s harder for you to concentrate. 43. If you try to act all macho when you’re not, you are telling the girl, “I’m such a bad person that I have to pretend to be a better one.” That is probably not true. Loosen up and let this girl see how you **really** are. 44. Smile. This can help a lot. It shows that you are enjoying the conversation and that you feel comfortable, which will make the girl continue talking with you. 45. Bring something up but don’t seem too obvious about liking them. When you talk just be yourself, then you can see if the girl likes you for who you really are. 46. Look in her eyes and be serious and not desperate. But if she looks away don’t try it again. When she looks away, it’s almost always her way of saying “oh great, I don’t like you, but how can I be nice about it” 47. Act interested in her opinions and thoughts on different subjects. Listen intently when she speaks. Girls like guys that listen to them and like what they say. Don’t constantly interrupt her, let her talk and share thoughts with you. 48. Comment on her sense of humor, good taste in music, or prowess on the dance floor. It’s all right to compliment her clothes, hair, jewelry, etc., but you’ll really win a girl’s heart if she sees that you’re into more than just her outside. 49. Don’t tell girls — for that matter, anyone at all — they have a flaw unless you are obviously poking fun at them, even then only if you know they can take a joke, and know you well enough to know how to react to your teasing. Otherwise you risk putting them off. 50. Be funny. If you can make her laugh, you’ve as good as got her number then and there. 51. Be confident in yourself and don’t be afraid of saying something stupid. If you’re not afraid then you probably won’t. If you have been friends with her for years, and are comfortable talking pretend you are just talking to her about another girl you like. 52. Make her laugh (have I gotten this point across yet?). Tell her you like her ear rings for example. Maybe if you are sitting next to her you could put an arm around the chair or something. If she clearly does not want you… give up. You will be made fun of by every single girl if she doesn’t like you and dumps you in front of everyone. If you want to ask her out,do it in private, people spread rumors. 53. Stop her in the hallway just to give her a hug and tell her she smells nice. Smile and walk away. It will show her that you care enough to stop her and pay attention to details like smell (that makes girls feel uncomfortable when you do it randomly). 54. Always have manners, open doors for her, chew food with your mouth shut, and be polite to staff. - The do not want-list - Do not be a “typical boy” around girls. Sure, the boys may think that passing wind is funny and the boys may think that pulling girls’ hair is funny but be respectful in front of her. Girls just think these kinds of things are childish and annoying. Be different from all those immature idiots and show her that you **can** be mature. - Do not be rude or dirty or swear; some girls may think dirty comment are funny and flirty but most girls find them creepy and wrong. Do not bother if you ever want to get a girlfriend. - Do not be the geek in the corner with no friends. Attract the right attention instead of looking like the person no one wants. - Some girls are just as shallow and immature as some boys. For them, some of these games will probably work. The problem is, as soon as this game is over, you have nothing left but to start another game with someone else. - Remember, there is a huge difference between “being popular” and “being loved”. Most really popular kids are not really happy about it. They hate being constantly used by others to look more popular themselves. What is good advice for people to feel popular because they have a bunch of (even more) insecure people hanging onto them is not good advice for someone looking for a great and long-lasting relationship with another person. - Remember that real relationships are complex things with stuff happening on different levels all at the same time. - DON’T BE OVER CONFIDENT- it always makes you do lots of complimenting and talking…about yourself. don’t brag about yourself(even if there is something to brag about). it always makes you seem attention seeking and typical. - Do not have bad breath. - Do not act perverted around her. She will not think it is funny! - It really irritates smart women when men prefer the bimbo, no matter how nice she is. - When you scope out a girl don’t let her catch you. You want her to know you’re into her, but you don’t want to make it obvious - Never wear the same clothes two days in a row. Girls definitely notice. - If you get a really bad pimple, or anything like that, think about staying home sick. It’s so much better than having your crush see you like that. - Do not be too loud or too proud. If you love yourself and you do not let anyone else be number one for a while, people are soon going to start avoiding you. -Never let a girl know how much you are into her. Girls like a guy who’s into them, but not too into them. That’s just creepy! \*]Don’t try too hard. Girls will see you as needy and will not be attracted to you. ([Hightail](http://download.yousendit.com/EEF8E62F09A6471A)) ---
**Author:** ![carebear\_s\_niceguy](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/carebear_s_niceguy/32/1210_2.png) [@carebear\_s\_niceguy](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/carebear_s_niceguy)\ **Post date:** [May 26, 2008, 7:37am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-attraction-dos-donts-list/13126/2 "2008-05-26T07:37:07Z")
Wow!!! Thats d\*mn good advice there sparky! 🙂 REPS!!! ---
**Author:** ![Bella](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/bella/32/1738_2.png) [@Bella](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Bella)\ **Post date:** [May 26, 2008, 7:58am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-attraction-dos-donts-list/13126/3 "2008-05-26T07:58:28Z")
Somebody’s been paying attention! LOL. Reps ninjababe. 😉 🆒 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Tealeaves](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/tealeaves/32/1293_2.png) [@Tealeaves](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Tealeaves)\ **Post date:** [May 26, 2008, 8:41am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-attraction-dos-donts-list/13126/4 "2008-05-26T08:41:01Z")
Reps for an excellent guide, Eldros! 😃 Do you mind if I chime in a bit? " Most girls do not like boys who always live by the rules; going to bed at nine o’ clock PM and studying like crazy. **They also do not like boys who only talk about computers and math**. If you are guilty of any of these things, change your ways or **find a different girl.**" Hehe… one of my friends has her ex’s accounting (math-ish) homework pinned to her wall. Whoever you are and whatever you’re into, there’s _definitely_ a girl out there for you 😛 " Personal hygiene is a must. Do not be disgusting, do not smell like a skunk, and do not have hair like a chimp, and **keep your fingernails clean.**" There’s a guy I refuse to touch because his fingernails were dirty the one time I actually payed attention to his hands… then again, I have issues with touching people. Oh well. Point is, it can happen to you! Keep your fingernails clean! " Always look into her eyes and **don’t disconnect before she does.** It proves your confidence." Yes, but also be careful about the creepy unending stare… be sure to blink… it helps if you’re not completely boxing her in, too. Angle your body a bit so you don’t come on too strong. And don’t gape like a fish either 😮 " **Grow your hair out**" I love a guy whose hair I can get a grip on 😉 Meowww! Let a girl touch your hair if she asks… and if she doesn’t… 🙄 I don’t care _how_ many hours you spent in front of the mirror making your hair look elegantly disheveled… let _her_ touch _you_ if she’s willing to take that step on her own! " Once you and a girl are kind of talking, call her things like babe and hun." This works well for a lot of girls, but know your target. Some, like myself, dislike cutesy nicknames. Others, like myself and many I know, feel uncomfortable with the implied intimacy. I even dislike it from _female_ friends I’ve had since freakin’ _elementary school_. Again, know your target… " smell is the strongest sense related to memory…" …so go for something unique, and make it your signature cologne 🙂 Girls are very scent-conscious. If you’re not into colognes, use an unscented deodorant so that your natural smell is dominant. Again, great job Eldros 😛 Also… is that you in your profile picture? 😕 Curious… ---
**Author:** ![flaming](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/flaming/32/212_2.png) [@flaming](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/flaming)\ **Post date:** [May 26, 2008, 12:32pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-attraction-dos-donts-list/13126/5 "2008-05-26T12:32:37Z")
Well done Eldros…the teenagers guide to picking up girls lol Tealeaves its funny you mention clean nails Im a painter (yes the arty kind), and im always getting paint, solvent and all kinds of crap on my hands. Yet when im with my gal my nails are self-manicured…seriously clean, clipped and filed lol She teases me but i think she likes it Its tough to find a unique cologne but i found “PHEROS”…Mmmm its so good! Unfortunately, its now a collectors item that i cant resist using lol…so im on the hunt for something else. ---
**Author:** ![PhatSounds](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/phatsounds/32/233_2.png) [@PhatSounds](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/PhatSounds)\ **Post date:** [May 26, 2008, 1:16pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-attraction-dos-donts-list/13126/6 "2008-05-26T13:16:04Z")
Thanks for that awesome guide Eldros you wise guy 😃 Reps for you 🙂 Also thanks Tealeaves for the additional advices you have given there. I like your avatar. Cute kitten 🙂 Reps for you too 🙂 So reps for both of you 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Eldros](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/eldros/32/279_2.png) [@Eldros](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Eldros)\ **Post date:** [May 26, 2008, 1:56pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-attraction-dos-donts-list/13126/7 "2008-05-26T13:56:12Z")
Thanks for the rep/lies. I’m writing/touching up my “how to flirt” list. ---
**Author:** ![PhatSounds](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/phatsounds/32/233_2.png) [@PhatSounds](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/PhatSounds)\ **Post date:** [May 26, 2008, 2:07pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-attraction-dos-donts-list/13126/8 "2008-05-26T14:07:53Z")
Will look forward to it buddy 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Carrie](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/carrie/32/1537_2.png) [@Carrie](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Carrie)\ **Post date:** [May 26, 2008, 2:42pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-attraction-dos-donts-list/13126/9 "2008-05-26T14:42:59Z")
- Seek eye contact. Maintain eye contact while trying to keep underwear and armpits dry. (this one is my favorite) ---
**Author:** ![ariadne](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/ariadne/32/770_2.png) [@ariadne](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/ariadne)\ **Post date:** [May 26, 2008, 2:59pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-attraction-dos-donts-list/13126/10 "2008-05-26T14:59:44Z")
> [@Tealeaves](#): > > " smell is the strongest sense related to memory…" > > …so go for something unique, and make it your signature cologne 🙂 Girls are very scent-conscious. **If you’re not into colognes, use an unscented deodorant so that your natural smell is dominant.** Amen to this! I cannot get this point across enough to men, that their natural smell is intoxicating! Nothing turns me off faster than a guy who is drenched in Polo or whatever and I can’t smell anything else when I’m within 5 feet of him. ---
**Author:** ![mark-in-dallas](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mark-in-dallas/32/860_2.png) [@mark-in-dallas](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mark-in-dallas)\ **Post date:** [May 26, 2008, 3:06pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-attraction-dos-donts-list/13126/11 "2008-05-26T15:06:09Z")
I WANT TO BE A TEENAGER AGAIN. DAMNIT!!! 😃 Excellent post Eldros. Now reread it again over-and-over until it sinks in and you can start taking your own advice! 🙄 😉 > [@flaming](#): > > Its tough to find a unique cologne but i found “PHEROS”…Mmmm its so good! > Unfortunately, its now a collectors item that i cant resist using lol…so im on the hunt for something else. You know, I picked up a bottle of Pheros awhile back (I actually ordered it a day or two before you suggested it to me), and while I do like it, I think I like Aqua Di Gio better. A couple others I like are: Issey Miyake, Sexual by Michael Germain and Burberry Weekend. ---
**Author:** ![bubblebob](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/bubblebob/32/2120_2.png) [@bubblebob](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/bubblebob)\ **Post date:** [May 26, 2008, 3:18pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-attraction-dos-donts-list/13126/12 "2008-05-26T15:18:04Z")
Thanks for the great list Eldros! I’ll pin it over my bed and read it every evening… 😃 I guess it’s easier to find a unique cologne when one does not live in the US - a lot of the stuff that people on this forum like is not to be found in german perfumeries. I’ve bought Marc Jacobs off eBay and love it. And I’ll get a bottle of Sexual from there, too. Both are not available in normal shops here… ---
**Author:** ![Eldros](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/eldros/32/279_2.png) [@Eldros](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Eldros)\ **Post date:** [May 26, 2008, 9:55pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-attraction-dos-donts-list/13126/13 "2008-05-26T21:55:12Z")
> [@ariadne](#): > > Amen to this! I cannot get this point across enough to men, that their natural smell is intoxicating! Nothing turns me off faster than a guy who is drenched in Polo or whatever and I can’t smell anything else when I’m within 5 feet of him. Is that a no-go with products from androtics too? ---
**Author:** ![Bella](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/bella/32/1738_2.png) [@Bella](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Bella)\ **Post date:** [May 26, 2008, 10:45pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-attraction-dos-donts-list/13126/14 "2008-05-26T22:45:06Z")
> [@mark-in-dallas](#): > > _ **Excellent post Eldros. Now reread it again over-and-over until it sinks in and you can start taking your own advice** _! 🙄 😉 IDK mark…I think sombody’s been paying attention in class…🙄 😉 > [@ariadne](#): > > Amen to this! I cannot get this point across enough to men, _ **that their natural smell is intoxicating! Nothing turns me off faster than a guy who is drenched in Polo or whatever and I can’t smell anything else when I’m within 5 feet of him.** _ We have so much in commom…lol. There’s a thread I have to share with you, let me find it and I’ll PM you…lol. I don’t mind a nice masculine cologne on a man…if it’s subtle. I don’t want to smell him comin’ or for five minutes after he leaves. > [@mark-in-dallas](#): > > _ **I WANT TO BE A TEENAGER AGAIN. DAMNIT!!! 😃** _ LOL…😛 > [@mark-in-dallas](#): > > You know, I picked up a bottle of Pheros awhile back (I actually ordered it a day or two before you suggested it to me), and while I do like it, I think I like Aqua Di Gio better. A couple others I like are: Issey Miyake, _ **Sexual by Michael Germain** _ and Burberry Weekend. I have both the men’s and women’s version…nice. ---
**Author:** ![ariadne](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/ariadne/32/770_2.png) [@ariadne](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/ariadne)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2008, 12:00am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-attraction-dos-donts-list/13126/15 "2008-05-27T00:00:01Z")
> [@Eldros](#): > > Is that a no-go with products from Androtics too? Oh no, those don’t count. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Eldros](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/eldros/32/279_2.png) [@Eldros](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Eldros)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2008, 12:09am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-attraction-dos-donts-list/13126/16 "2008-05-27T00:09:11Z")
**How to flirt: The Basics** ~Flirting is really just a way to meet potential mates, but flirting is a lot of fun too ^^. In some situations, such as at a dance or a party. . . or at skool, flirting is the only way to open the door to a romantic relationship with someone you don’t know and might not otherwise ever see again. Because of all of this, **flirting is a very important skill, and it’s one that makes a lot of people nervous (yes me too. I’m only human. . . a young one too).** There is an art to flirting, though, and it’s an art that can be learned. Here are some pointers. ~ 1. **FIRST** \*\*: Lower your expectations.\*\* Flirting is fun, but only if you don’t take it too seriously. Most of the time, you’ll just flirt with someone for a short time and then maybe never talk to them again. If you always go in to flirting expecting to date or even marry the person you’re flirting with, you’re going to be very disappointed–and you’ll probably seem a little desperate. Remember, you’re just flirting. **SECOND** \*\*: Look approachable.\*\* **Relax and smile**. Use your body language to give signals that you are the fun person that you are, and to show that you’re comfortable and confident. **There’s nothing to be nervous about.** \*\*THRID: \*\*\*\*Learn to read body language. \*\*Does the person look approachable? Do they appear interested in you (or in talking)? From the moment you see someone with whom you might want to flirt, you should read his or her body language. Once you’re actually flirting with the person, body language is often the only way to tell if the person is actually interested in you . We all have a natural ability to read body language, but it’s easy to misread signals, so be careful and take it slow. If you see one signal that indicates the person is interested in you, watch for other signals that might confirm that. Remember, girls love to flirt. When you flirt back, you’re just making her happy. 2. Make eye contact, but not for more than a couple seconds. Do not stare open-mouthed like a fish. Just shoot the person a quick gaze, smile with your eyes, and then slowly look away. If you look back and notice the person looking back to meet your eyes, they’re likely interested in flirting a bit. 3. Initiate a conversation with the person you’re interested in. If you don’t already know them simply make small talk, but don’t make it sound too generic. What you say isn’t ultra-important. You don’t really need an answer to the question; you are simply inviting the person to talk with you. If the person responds pleasantly, continue the conversation. If the person doesn’t respond or seems preoccupied or disinterested, he or she probably isn’t interested in flirting with you. At the beginning of the conversation, you don’t want to talk about anything personal. Talk about the environment around you, the show you just saw, etc., but don’t talk much about yourself and don’t ask the other person personal questions, you may activate her ASD (anti-slut defense) or her bitch shield. 4. If this small talk goes well, proceed to share a little information about yourself–just something small like what you do for a living or how you liked the show you just saw, for example. At some point, of course, you’ll want to introduce yourself and, hopefully, get the other person’s name. **The key to sharing information is that you both _gradually_ open up**. Take turns talking, and each time the other person gives you some information about himself or herself, give similar information about yourself, and maybe give slightly more personal information than that person gave. For example, if you’re talking to a girl who says she’s taking summer classes, you might disclose that you are also taking summer classes, and then proceed to tell her which class you are most excited about. This invites her to disclose more information about herself. In this manner, the intimacy of the conversation increases over time. You don’t want to share too much about yourself too quickly, and you shouldn’t try to get the other person to do so either. 5. TOUCH!!! It shows your confidence level, it breaks the ice, and stimulates the person. Places to touch: hands, neck, lower back, hips, & any ‘tickle’ places. Make sure to touch her right, not stiffly, do it naturally, like you would with a good friend. Also, limit how long you keep your hand there or it becomes uncomfortable for her. Keep it natural. Also, don’t look at where you’re going to touch, people see that and it becomes awkward. If you have to get up and go somewhere, place you’re hand at the center of your back, whisper your farewell, and slide your hand down her back softly as you leave. If her hair falls in front of your face, move it with your index finger and slider it back over her ear. Use your hands when you talk so it doesn’t look like you just whipped them out of your pants to touch her. 6. Body proximity! Two chairs side by side is all thats needed. Don’t get so close that you’re breathing down her neck/chest(\<–don’t get caught looking down there either XD). -Do not touch too much or they will just think all you want is action -Don’t be ruff -Don’t touch in spots you shouldn’t touch a lady -Don’t act like you’re trying to impress -Don’t act needy -Don’t become an annoying pest -DON’T BE STUPID. Don’t say anything that will make her mad, sad or uncomfortable. -Try you’re best to not overreact to anything she says or you’ll seem like you’re mocking her. -Be prepared for rejection. It happens to everyone ---
**Author:** ![flaming](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/flaming/32/212_2.png) [@flaming](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/flaming)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2008, 7:48am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-attraction-dos-donts-list/13126/17 "2008-05-27T07:48:08Z")
> [@mark-in-dallas](#): > > You know, I picked up a bottle of Pheros awhile back (I actually ordered it a day or two before you suggested it to me), and while I do like it, I think I like Aqua Di Gio better. A couple others I like are: Issey Miyake, Sexual by Michael Germain and Burberry Weekend. Thanks Mark Which Issey Miyake..i tried the latest one recently…not bad! The spicy one is good too..sorry iv completely forgotten their names.Michael Germain’s Sexual..hmmm iv tried it and loved it now i cant find it here in Australia (which is good because its rarer) Burberry Weekend is good but i like London as well…like how they showed all the notes cool idea Aqua Di Gio is so so popular..im sure lots of scent memory there…Mark Jacobs is very distinctive! and very available here lol ---
**Author:** ![PhatSounds](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/phatsounds/32/233_2.png) [@PhatSounds](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/PhatSounds)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2008, 8:35am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-attraction-dos-donts-list/13126/18 "2008-05-27T08:35:42Z")
> [@Eldros](#): > > **How to flirt: The Basics** > > ~Flirting is really just a way to meet potential mates, but flirting is a lot of fun too ^^. In some situations, such as at a dance or a party. . . or at skool, flirting is the only way to open the door to a romantic relationship with someone you don’t know and might not otherwise ever see again. Because of all of this, **flirting is a very important skill, and it’s one that makes a lot of people nervous (yes me too. I’m only human. . . a young one too).** There is an art to flirting, though, and it’s an art that can be learned. Here are some pointers. ~ > > 1. **FIRST** \*\*: Lower your expectations.\*\* Flirting is fun, but only if you don’t take it too seriously. Most of the time, you’ll just flirt with someone for a short time and then maybe never talk to them again. If you always go in to flirting expecting to date or even marry the person you’re flirting with, you’re going to be very disappointed–and you’ll probably seem a little desperate. Remember, you’re just flirting. > **SECOND** \*\*: Look approachable.\*\* **Relax and smile**. Use your body language to give signals that you are the fun person that you are, and to show that you’re comfortable and confident. **There’s nothing to be nervous about.** > \*\*THRID: \*\*\*\*Learn to read body language. \*\*Does the person look approachable? Do they appear interested in you (or in talking)? From the moment you see someone with whom you might want to flirt, you should read his or her body language. Once you’re actually flirting with the person, body language is often the only way to tell if the person is actually interested in you . We all have a natural ability to read body language, but it’s easy to misread signals, so be careful and take it slow. If you see one signal that indicates the person is interested in you, watch for other signals that might confirm that. Remember, girls love to flirt. When you flirt back, you’re just making her happy. > 2. Make eye contact, but not for more than a couple seconds. Do not stare open-mouthed like a fish. Just shoot the person a quick gaze, smile with your eyes, and then slowly look away. If you look back and notice the person looking back to meet your eyes, they’re likely interested in flirting a bit. > 3. Initiate a conversation with the person you’re interested in. If you don’t already know them simply make small talk, but don’t make it sound too generic. What you say isn’t ultra-important. You don’t really need an answer to the question; you are simply inviting the person to talk with you. If the person responds pleasantly, continue the conversation. If the person doesn’t respond or seems preoccupied or disinterested, he or she probably isn’t interested in flirting with you. At the beginning of the conversation, you don’t want to talk about anything personal. Talk about the environment around you, the show you just saw, etc., but don’t talk much about yourself and don’t ask the other person personal questions, you may activate her ASD (anti-slut defense) or her bitch shield. > 4. If this small talk goes well, proceed to share a little information about yourself–just something small like what you do for a living or how you liked the show you just saw, for example. At some point, of course, you’ll want to introduce yourself and, hopefully, get the other person’s name. **The key to sharing information is that you both _gradually_ open up**. Take turns talking, and each time the other person gives you some information about himself or herself, give similar information about yourself, and maybe give slightly more personal information than that person gave. For example, if you’re talking to a girl who says she’s taking summer classes, you might disclose that you are also taking summer classes, and then proceed to tell her which class you are most excited about. This invites her to disclose more information about herself. In this manner, the intimacy of the conversation increases over time. You don’t want to share too much about yourself too quickly, and you shouldn’t try to get the other person to do so either. > 5. TOUCH!!! It shows your confidence level, it breaks the ice, and stimulates the person. Places to touch: hands, neck, lower back, hips, & any ‘tickle’ places. Make sure to touch her right, not stiffly, do it naturally, like you would with a good friend. Also, limit how long you keep your hand there or it becomes uncomfortable for her. Keep it natural. Also, don’t look at where you’re going to touch, people see that and it becomes awkward. If you have to get up and go somewhere, place you’re hand at the center of your back, whisper your farewell, and slide your hand down her back softly as you leave. If her hair falls in front of your face, move it with your index finger and slider it back over her ear. Use your hands when you talk so it doesn’t look like you just whipped them out of your pants to touch her. > 6. Body proximity! Two chairs side by side is all thats needed. Don’t get so close that you’re breathing down her neck/chest(\<–don’t get caught looking down there either XD). > > -Do not touch too much or they will just think all you want is action > -Don’t be ruff > -Don’t touch in spots you shouldn’t touch a lady > -Don’t act like you’re trying to impress > -Don’t act needy > -Don’t become an annoying pest > -DON’T BE STUPID. Don’t say anything that will make her mad, sad or uncomfortable. > -Try you’re best to not overreact to anything she says or you’ll seem like you’re mocking her. > > -Be prepared for rejection. It happens to everyone Thanks buddy for the second guide 🙂 It was very helpful 🙂 Reps coming your way 😃 ---
**Author:** ![mark-in-dallas](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mark-in-dallas/32/860_2.png) [@mark-in-dallas](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mark-in-dallas)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2008, 12:44pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-attraction-dos-donts-list/13126/19 "2008-05-27T12:44:06Z")
I actually have knockoffs that I got from the-commone-scents site. I have the original spicy Issey Miyake and I also picked up a bottle of Issey Miyake - Blue. Both are good, but I like the spicy better too. I also got Burberry Weekend from their site, at a couple of bucks a bottle, it’s hard to go wrong. Not many stores here carry Sexual either. I ended up getting mine without actually having a chance to smell it first, on the net. > [@flaming](#): > > Thanks Mark Which Issey Miyake..i tried the latest one recently…not bad! The spicy one is good too..sorry iv completely forgotten their names.Michael Germain’s Sexual..hmmm iv tried it and loved it now i cant find it here in Australia (which is good because its rarer) Burberry Weekend is good but i like London as well…like how they showed all the notes cool idea > Aqua Di Gio is so so popular..im sure lots of scent memory there…Mark Jacobs is very distinctive! and very available here lol ---
**Author:** ![flaming](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/flaming/32/212_2.png) [@flaming](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/flaming)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2008, 1:46pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-attraction-dos-donts-list/13126/20 "2008-05-27T13:46:01Z")
Yes im tempted to pick up the spicy Issey Miyake its really unique (perhaps because he is japanese and a perfumer before he got into fashion) …You went on faith with the Sexual but i bet your happy with it! I may have to resort to purchasing it online.Not sure why its not that available its one of the best scents for the price iv ever tried. [Next page](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-attraction-dos-donts-list/13126.md?page=2)