# My attraction do's & don't's list **URL:** \ **Category:** Lounge\ **Created:** [May 26, 2008, 6:38am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-attraction-dos-donts-list/13126 "2008-05-26T06:38:26Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 1\ **Showing post:** 1
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[http://download.yousendit.com/EEF8E62F09A6471A (print copy)](http://download.yousendit.com/EEF8E62F09A6471A) The-do list 1. Do not play hard to get. A girl always rises to a challenge but if she thinks it is too much, she will probably invest her time in something (and someone) more worthwhile. 2. Find out what a girl likes by trying to work it into the conversation and then go out and buy the spray of cologne. It will drive her crazy. Just make sure that you do not use too much; a little bit is good but over-applying makes her want to run away. 3. Tell good jokes but do not try too hard. Experiment; find out what makes other people laugh and see if she reacts the same. Even if it does not make her giggle, you will be one step closer to learning how to make her laugh. 4. Compliment a girl the right way. Watch closely when you are around her. You can probably tell from, for example, how romantic and sappy she is, say on Valentine’s Day, or is she adorns her folders with cute animals and hearts. If she does, she probably like it if people are sappy to her. In this case, lay on the compliment, but do not get too overboard. If you find out that she does not do any of these things, she might find it strange, creepy and intimidating if you compliment her too much. Keep the compliments subtle but nice and compliment her one feature that she would not think you would notice. 5. Smile. The best thing that boys can do is smile. It helps if you have a nice smile and she definitely will love it to see you smile and see that you know how to lighten up and put a cheer on you face. Be happy, though, do not take life too seriously and show her that you can laugh and you are exciting. 6. Always be there for her…but when she needs you to be. Do not totally stalk her and listen to all of her conversations but when she looks upset or sad, gently ask her if she is okay and try to help her cheer up. Try and use some of the techniques from Step Three to make her laugh. She will like you so much more if she knows that you are always on hand with a big smile and a caring heart. 7. Be daring. Most girls do not like boys who always live by the rules; going to bed at nine o’ clock PM and studying like crazy. They also do not like boys who only talk about computers and math. If you are guilty of any of these things, change your ways or find a different girl. Do not just talk; listen and when it is your turn to talk, be interesting. Do not be boring; be exciting and different. 8. Be social. Do not let her think that if she stops talking to you that will be the end of the world. This sounds kind of bad but do not just stick to her. Live freely. Do not let her think that you are completely stuck on her, even if you are. If she sees you flirting with other girls, she will **want** you more but she might write you off as a lost cause if you look like a complete player. 9. Be sweet. On valentines day, get her a little teeny gift or a card or something. Don’t worry, she won’t embarrass you if she doesn’t like you back. 10. Personal hygiene is a must. Do not be disgusting, do not smell like a skunk, and do not have hair like a chimp, and keep your fingernails clean. 11. Be friendly; remember all the things that adults and other people have ever told you about how to treat girls and having manners. 12. Try to give her few surprises girls just love surprise.(that doesn’t mean buying her lots of things!) 13. when you see her make sure to greet her with a smile before you say anything. that makes her comfortable and welcomed. 14. Seek eye contact. Maintain eye contact while trying to keep underwear and armpits dry. 15. Smile. Avoid appearing overconfident as she may find you cocky, but you mustn’t be shy either. Some girls do like shy guys. 16. Approach with confidence; don’t use cheesy pick-up lines, they rarely work. A simple “Hi, how are you tonight?” should break the ice. Or, if you’re a teenager, a less formal “Hey, how’s it going?” or “Hey, what’s up?” will suffice. Being polite and friendly always helps. 17. Wait for the signals that she is interested: laughing (at your hilarious jokes), flicking her hair around, etc. If she makes any physical contact, like touching your arm while she laughs, it’s a good sign. 18. Take a hint if she’s not interested. If she’s busy, or if your comic genius is not being appreciated, then say, “It was great to meet you” and cut your losses. If you come on too strong, some women might feel threatened. 19. Take it small steps at a time. If you think she is interested, don’t overdo it: be brief, return to your friends, say, “Maybe we can have a chat later.” **-Be nice.** There’s nothing sweeter to a woman than a genuinely kind man. Have manners and act mature. **-Use your niceness correctly.** Being nice doesn’t mean you have to be timid, stuttering, and a pushover. You have to be confident in yourself. But this is where you have to draw the line between confident-and-nice and confident-and-a-jerk. Care about people. Don’t be unnecessarily mean. Don’t ill-wish anybody you don’t know, and when speaking to new people, appear interested in what they’re saying. Say kind things. Making fun of people is extremely unattractive. **-Be honest with her.** Nothing is attractive about lies. If you really want to be with her, always tell the truth and never twist stories. If you’re only looking for a one-time thing and not a relationship, tell her. Nothing is worse than a lying jerk. **-Have a sense of humor.** For the aspiring, funny guy, don’t tell racist or stupid jokes. **-Be confident.** Show that you want a commitment towards the girl. Appreciate life and your future and it may be given back to you. **-Have eye contact.** Always look into her eyes and don’t disconnect before she does. It proves your confidence. -Not all women want the same things in men. Some women might want the muscle, jerk type; others tend to shift their eyes towards geeks or nerds. Above all, just be and show your true self. -Give them that which they do not have. A woman with a “great personality” probably doesn’t hear about how beautiful her eyes are that often, whereas a drop dead gorgeous woman may hardly be respected enough to be asked what her political views on a topic are. Know your audience, and adapt. If they are used to what you are saying, what the hell gives you the advantage over the next guy? -Notice the stupidest, most minute detail. It shows you care enough to notice, or gives you a good opener in a bar. -Many women prefer a toned look-your muscles are visible but they are not so large you cant put your arms all the way down. -Scope, scope, scope! If you check out a girl _before_ you hit on her, you might actually know what to say to her. Comment on her highlights, new shoes, whatever, just make sure your line is actually smooth and not something you say to all the girls. Don’t compliment her too much. 20. Be a good flirter! To be a good flirter you need confidence, you need that “I don’t care” attitude, but then **care**. Girls think it’s totally sweet when they finally find something that a “whatever” guy cares about. **Especially** if it’s them! 21. This means that as long as you flatter and protect her, make her feel feminine and special like a flower, you can act obnoxious to others as long as you treat her with specialty, kindness, and of course respect! Realize though most girls might not like the fact you treat her friends, even your friends, or people in general poorly. Only drop the rude act towards others if you know she’s sensitive of that. But keep in mind that girls find Prince Charming and even Gentlemen at times too boring as it can seem textbook and not having any **spark** creativity. 22. Remember that one strong reason girls do in fact admire the popular boy at school is because he’s a wild class clown type. And that’s very fun to be around. The PERFECT BOY is a boy who is funny, popular at school, have some athletic strength (like basketball&soccer&baseball), and is the class clown but still knows how to treat a girl like she’s _special_ by **reserving** your **gentlemen side** for her **only**. 23. Talk to her friends. This move can work for you in a bunch of ways. First, “girl talk” girls _always_ talk with their friends before making any decision about a boy. Second, jealousy factor. If you get close with her friends she’ll totally want you more. No one wants their best friend to have the cutest guy at school. Lastly, divide and conquer. If you flirt it up with her friends you might just end up with a few girls. 24. Make sure you can back up your smooth words with something. Play sports, join a gym, whatever. Oh, by the way, girls love boys with six pack abs. Keep your weight normal. 25. If a girl turns you down, act slightly disappointed but don’t make it a huge deal. After that treat her as you usually do. A real “ladies man” wouldn’t care if just one girl turned him down. -If you’re not the kind of guy who can pull this off, try reinventing your look. Girls always notice when a guy gets cute. Grow your hair out (the Ashton cut - so hot right now) Get a new beanie (if your school lets you wear hats) If you’re a skater, try the surfer look and vice versa. 26. If you have your eye on a girl, try to hang out places she does, than next time you see her at school tell her you saw her at the mall, gym, beach etc 27. you definitely need a good group of guy friends. A guy that’s by himself and always hitting on girls is just a creep. Also girls will see that you’re popular and stuff. 28. A ladies man is always prepared. Gum, mints, body spray, gel.. 29. Once you and a girl are kind of talking, call her things like babe and hun. But don’t overdo it, and don’t let her catch you saying it to other girls 30. Get lots of personal jokes with girls, but never get them confused! Girls love a funny guy and it’s smooth when you have jokes that are unique for a girl 31. Be Funny! Girls totally dig funny guys. 32. Wear a really sexy cologne. Girls totally dig that and are really observant on what a guy smells like. That also means don’t smell like you just came from a gym workout. 33. used a deodorant not a antiperspirant, there are [pheromones](https://pheromonelabs.com/) in sweat that girls are naturally drawn to in your sweat. 34. Axe works (but not like advertised). Cheap, yet strangely effective. 35. smell is the strongest sense related to memory… 36. BE YOUR BEST SELF. Women like men who are confident in themselves. -The most important of all: be funny! Make jokes, do silly stunts, tease her in a nice way. It is near-impossible to woo a girl without humor. 37. If you two are listening to some music, sing along. Most girls think its adorable when guys sing. 38. Engage in physical engagement. For example, touch her arm, etc. If you are daring and know her well, go in for a hug. Then look at her facial expressions to see if she likes it. 39. Flirt a lot. For example, tell past experiences, and definitely compliment her hair or something. 40. If you’re with a group of friends, tell one of them to say something like, “You’re bad at flirting” or something to her and then defend her. She’ll think its sweet. 41. Smile at her a lot, even for no reason. Look her in the eyes as well. 42. Have at least one friend with you one time. Usually it’s easier for someone else to tell if a girl is interested in you because it’s harder for you to concentrate. 43. If you try to act all macho when you’re not, you are telling the girl, “I’m such a bad person that I have to pretend to be a better one.” That is probably not true. Loosen up and let this girl see how you **really** are. 44. Smile. This can help a lot. It shows that you are enjoying the conversation and that you feel comfortable, which will make the girl continue talking with you. 45. Bring something up but don’t seem too obvious about liking them. When you talk just be yourself, then you can see if the girl likes you for who you really are. 46. Look in her eyes and be serious and not desperate. But if she looks away don’t try it again. When she looks away, it’s almost always her way of saying “oh great, I don’t like you, but how can I be nice about it” 47. Act interested in her opinions and thoughts on different subjects. Listen intently when she speaks. Girls like guys that listen to them and like what they say. Don’t constantly interrupt her, let her talk and share thoughts with you. 48. Comment on her sense of humor, good taste in music, or prowess on the dance floor. It’s all right to compliment her clothes, hair, jewelry, etc., but you’ll really win a girl’s heart if she sees that you’re into more than just her outside. 49. Don’t tell girls — for that matter, anyone at all — they have a flaw unless you are obviously poking fun at them, even then only if you know they can take a joke, and know you well enough to know how to react to your teasing. Otherwise you risk putting them off. 50. Be funny. If you can make her laugh, you’ve as good as got her number then and there. 51. Be confident in yourself and don’t be afraid of saying something stupid. If you’re not afraid then you probably won’t. If you have been friends with her for years, and are comfortable talking pretend you are just talking to her about another girl you like. 52. Make her laugh (have I gotten this point across yet?). Tell her you like her ear rings for example. Maybe if you are sitting next to her you could put an arm around the chair or something. If she clearly does not want you… give up. You will be made fun of by every single girl if she doesn’t like you and dumps you in front of everyone. If you want to ask her out,do it in private, people spread rumors. 53. Stop her in the hallway just to give her a hug and tell her she smells nice. Smile and walk away. It will show her that you care enough to stop her and pay attention to details like smell (that makes girls feel uncomfortable when you do it randomly). 54. Always have manners, open doors for her, chew food with your mouth shut, and be polite to staff. - The do not want-list - Do not be a “typical boy” around girls. Sure, the boys may think that passing wind is funny and the boys may think that pulling girls’ hair is funny but be respectful in front of her. Girls just think these kinds of things are childish and annoying. Be different from all those immature idiots and show her that you **can** be mature. - Do not be rude or dirty or swear; some girls may think dirty comment are funny and flirty but most girls find them creepy and wrong. Do not bother if you ever want to get a girlfriend. - Do not be the geek in the corner with no friends. Attract the right attention instead of looking like the person no one wants. - Some girls are just as shallow and immature as some boys. For them, some of these games will probably work. The problem is, as soon as this game is over, you have nothing left but to start another game with someone else. - Remember, there is a huge difference between “being popular” and “being loved”. Most really popular kids are not really happy about it. They hate being constantly used by others to look more popular themselves. What is good advice for people to feel popular because they have a bunch of (even more) insecure people hanging onto them is not good advice for someone looking for a great and long-lasting relationship with another person. - Remember that real relationships are complex things with stuff happening on different levels all at the same time. - DON’T BE OVER CONFIDENT- it always makes you do lots of complimenting and talking…about yourself. don’t brag about yourself(even if there is something to brag about). it always makes you seem attention seeking and typical. - Do not have bad breath. - Do not act perverted around her. She will not think it is funny! - It really irritates smart women when men prefer the bimbo, no matter how nice she is. - When you scope out a girl don’t let her catch you. You want her to know you’re into her, but you don’t want to make it obvious - Never wear the same clothes two days in a row. Girls definitely notice. - If you get a really bad pimple, or anything like that, think about staying home sick. It’s so much better than having your crush see you like that. - Do not be too loud or too proud. If you love yourself and you do not let anyone else be number one for a while, people are soon going to start avoiding you. -Never let a girl know how much you are into her. Girls like a guy who’s into them, but not too into them. That’s just creepy! \*]Don’t try too hard. Girls will see you as needy and will not be attracted to you. ([Hightail](http://download.yousendit.com/EEF8E62F09A6471A)) --- _[View the full topic](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-attraction-dos-donts-list/13126)._