# My New York Total Life Make Over **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [October 22, 2008, 4:09pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-new-york-total-life-make-over/21838 "2008-10-22T16:09:55Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 12\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![ladynerd](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8dc957/32.png) [@ladynerd](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/ladynerd)\ **Post date:** [October 22, 2008, 4:09pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-new-york-total-life-make-over/21838/1 "2008-10-22T16:09:55Z")
Hi everyone, I’m 34, from New York. I actually discovered this site several months ago and did some reading on here, but wasn’t ready at that point to start my phero experiments. Since then, I have started over in a number of different ways. You could say that I am undergoing a total life makeover! I have made a big relocation, I lost a few pounds (wasn’t too bad in that area before, but still), am making a career transition, etc. I want to use pheros to help me take the world by storm and get more dramatic effects from these big actions I am taking in my life. The last few years have been kind of difficult for me, and my self confidence has really taken a beating. I have suffered a lot of rejection and now I feel like I behave in a very low-status manner, like I anticipate social rejection and expect people to have a low opinion of me. Soon I will reconnect with people from my past who think highly of me, but I am afraid that they will reject me when they see me again; I suffer from doubts that anyone really wants to be around me. I will soon have the opportunity to meet many new people, some of whom are very well-connected and run in some exclusive circles, but I am afraid that I will blow my chance with those people by acting like a loser. I’m also applying for new jobs right now, and while I know I have great qualifications, I need to amp up my confidence and tenacity if I want to find something good in this economy. In short, the last few years have conditioned me to act like a depressed, meek loser. I want to use pheromones to make myself over as a much higher value person so I don’t squander my opportunities. me now: somewhat shy, can be witty and funny in social situations but way too anxious (lots of self-deprecating humor), people used to tell me I seemed cool and intimidating, but people who have met me recently don’t seem to notice or respect me very much. I come off as innocent, awkward, and too serious. I think I still know how to be charming and fun, but mostly I seem to project the “loser” pheromone. no sexual response at all, people never flirt with me anymore or treat me like a sexual being. (btw, I’m not unattractive. not gorgeous, but I have a symmetrical face with good features.) what I’m going for: confident, hip, charming, fun in a more relaxed way, sexy (less sweet, more strong), understated alpha female (don’t want to get bitchy, just a calm command of respect), the girl you want to hang out with. others want my approval, not the other way around. less serious/intense, more ease in interactions, more assertive, subtle swagger. charismatic but not showy. not too ditzy or girly. slightly mysterious is good, but I don’t want to go overboard and create distance. What I plan on getting in my first order: MX103 - want some DHV effect without the sexual component for work. MX134 - for socializing, I want that TAL boost to go along with the DHV effect. I think I make more TAH naturally. Instant Sexiness A [Instant Shine](https://a314.com/product/shine/) P74 - I need a cool injection, stat! other things I want to try: P79 - not sure if this will make me more mood-swingy or prone to saying weird off the wall remarks. seems like it would be good for going out as a “make it happen” injection when things are already going well for scoring contacts, phone numbers, invitations, etc. TAL - need to vamp it up to shake off the little girl image I have TAF - for work concentration to keep the ADD away! Openness Honesty Before you tell me that my expectations are too extreme, let me assure you that I have read all of the FAQs, stickies, etc. I am excited to try out these pheros along with other life changes. I will keep you updated in my experiments. Nice to meet all of you! ---
**Author:** ![jamesbonded](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/jamesbonded/32/2090_2.png) [@jamesbonded](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/jamesbonded)\ **Post date:** [October 22, 2008, 4:25pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-new-york-total-life-make-over/21838/2 "2008-10-22T16:25:09Z")
Hi there, Welcome to the forum. Nice ling introduction. It looks like you have done lots of reading here. For the start I recommend you try social pheros. Try IO as the ice breakers. It will nake people want to talk to you. It will bost your social ability. IH on the other hand will make people clser to you. They will feel like knowing you for ong time. For confidence boosting, Shine will be great. It can increase your confidence to deal with people socially. Try them to see whether you like the product before going into more advance phero. Good luck ---
**Author:** ![remmy](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/remmy/32/2451_2.png) [@remmy](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/remmy)\ **Post date:** [October 22, 2008, 4:29pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-new-york-total-life-make-over/21838/3 "2008-10-22T16:29:56Z")
hey welcome! that was a really nice intro 🙂 you should start with instants and some of the pheros u were looking into, i can give u some feed back on 🙂 instant shine would be great for confidence booster. also, u should look into [instant sexiness](https://phera.com/product/instant-sexiness/) A also since that would give off that vibe as well. instant openness would also be great for u since that would enable people to talkt o u more without u having to put urself out there too much. i find that quantity of conversatin increaes with this phero. anyways, gluck and feel free to pm me if u have more questions 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![PhatSounds](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/phatsounds/32/233_2.png) [@PhatSounds](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/PhatSounds)\ **Post date:** [October 22, 2008, 4:30pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-new-york-total-life-make-over/21838/4 "2008-10-22T16:30:48Z")
Hello ladynerd, Interesting nickname btw 🙂 Good to have a female member on board. Welcome 😃 I see that you have been here for some time & now you decided to post your intro, that’s good 🙂 Ok nice selection of pheros you have make there, you have done your research really well 🙂 All the pheros that you have selected well i was going to recommend you the same thing instead how about i explained to you a bit more info about some of the pheros that you have selected. Instant Sexiness is a good attraction phero & is a hot favourite among the ladies from what i know, [Instant Shine](https://a314.com/product/shine/) is good for boosting self confidence & make people feel good with you & MX134 is good for jobs interviews as it is a variant of A314. Anyway great intro & i wish you all the best in trying the pheros when you get them 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![ladynerd](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8dc957/32.png) [@ladynerd](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/ladynerd)\ **Post date:** [October 22, 2008, 4:34pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-new-york-total-life-make-over/21838/5 "2008-10-22T16:34:04Z")
Hi Jamesbonded and Remmy, Thanks for your replies! I am glad to see you both think that Instant Sexiness A and Instant Shine would be good pheros for me to try. I am also really excited about trying [Instant Openness](https://a314.com/product/instant-openness/); maybe I will get that one now, too. (I’m already ordering so much! lol) I think I will hold off on Instant Honesty for a little while. I already have a tendency to blurt out weird stuff, and people are usually very honest with me to begin with. (Although it might be fun to hear more secrets!) Thanks for your help! ---
**Author:** ![ladynerd](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8dc957/32.png) [@ladynerd](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/ladynerd)\ **Post date:** [October 22, 2008, 4:35pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-new-york-total-life-make-over/21838/6 "2008-10-22T16:35:43Z")
Thanks Phatsounds! I will def use that MX134 in interviews. It sounds like a good one. I did want to try A314, but realized that 134 is probably a better choice for a young woman like me. ---
**Author:** ![PhatSounds](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/phatsounds/32/233_2.png) [@PhatSounds](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/PhatSounds)\ **Post date:** [October 22, 2008, 4:46pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-new-york-total-life-make-over/21838/7 "2008-10-22T16:46:32Z")
> [@ladynerd](#): > > Thanks Phatsounds! I will def use that MX134 in interviews. It sounds like a good one. I did want to try A314, but realized that 134 is probably a better choice for a young woman like me. Your Welcome ladynerd 🙂 Yes MX134 will suit you better than A314 for your interviews as it is a women version of A314 & i have read a lot of good reports about it too 🙂 You can check the Women Section for more reports on it 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![jamesbonded](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/jamesbonded/32/2090_2.png) [@jamesbonded](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/jamesbonded)\ **Post date:** [October 22, 2008, 4:48pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-new-york-total-life-make-over/21838/8 "2008-10-22T16:48:36Z")
> [@ladynerd](#): > > Hi Jamesbonded and Remmy, > > Thanks for your replies! I am glad to see you both think that Instant Sexiness A and Instant Shine would be good pheros for me to try. I am also really excited about trying Instant Openness; maybe I will get that one now, too. (I’m already ordering so much! lol) I think I will hold off on Instant Honesty for a little while. I already have a tendency to blurt out weird stuff, and people are usually very honest with me to begin with. (Although it might be fun to hear more secrets!) > > Thanks for your help! Good luck again 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [October 22, 2008, 7:28pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-new-york-total-life-make-over/21838/9 "2008-10-22T19:28:24Z")
Hello Welcome to Pherotalk. Hmmm I would not recomment MX103 for a women myself even if your looking for respect without a sexy kick. MX134 is best for this on a women. Its not so much sexy as it is female. It gives a strong alpha female vibe, The independant lady who knows what she wants and how to get it but is not against having a gentleman open doors and pull out chairs for her. MX103 could give off a butch aura and I just find men and women get confused by it. Of course if your just looking to test it out and see what you think we would love to hear about it. Just want you to start out on the best foot on your pheromonal journey. The rest of your order looks great. If you have any questions just ask. **Your GC is on its way 😃** Tisha ---
**Author:** ![ladynerd](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8dc957/32.png) [@ladynerd](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/ladynerd)\ **Post date:** [October 22, 2008, 7:52pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-new-york-total-life-make-over/21838/10 "2008-10-22T19:52:31Z")
Hi Tisha, Thanks for your thoughts and for the gift cert!! 🙂 I definitely want to try 134, but I am still interested in 103. I don’t mind if that gives me a little butch kick. Not that I want to confuse people. But I actually have the problem where people often think I’m straight when I’m actually a lesbian. I thought that MX103 would be better than A314, because it might be a little bit younger. But I would like to experiment with having a little more androgynous/masculine vibe. Does that make sense? I actually wanted to try other 314 derivatives besides 103, but 103 is the only one available right now. ---
**Author:** ![ladynerd](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8dc957/32.png) [@ladynerd](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/ladynerd)\ **Post date:** [October 22, 2008, 8:00pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-new-york-total-life-make-over/21838/11 "2008-10-22T20:00:28Z")
Hi Tisha, Thanks so much for the GC and your thoughts! 🙂 I really can’t wait to try the MX134, although I am still interested in 314 derivatives. I am a lesbian who is often mistaken for straight, so I wanted to experiment with a little butch kick and thought that 314 would be too old/fatherly. I want a more boyish/androgynous thing. I picked 103 because I saw it was available, but now I looked and it says out of stock! ☹ Oh well. ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [October 22, 2008, 10:10pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-new-york-total-life-make-over/21838/12 "2008-10-22T22:10:48Z")
> [@](#): > > I am still interested in 314 derivatives. I am a lesbian who is often mistaken for straight, so I wanted to experiment with a little butch kick and thought that 314 would be too old/fatherly. How did I miss that LOL Ok thats a whole different vibe then. The derivatives are good but I would suggest the origonal over them. It will last you forever being a oil. Diffuse slower giving you the Alpha without overwhelming. Last all day. It wont give you a old fatherly aura thats more IG. Not sure when the others wil be back in stock. Usually its not long though. Tisha