# My oh my, were did the respect go? **URL:** \ **Category:** Women's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [July 28, 2009, 10:43am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-oh-my-were-did-the-respect-go/31065 "2009-07-28T10:43:40Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![djandarial](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/djandarial/32/1667_2.png) [@djandarial](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/djandarial)\ **Post date:** [July 29, 2009, 8:16pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-oh-my-were-did-the-respect-go/31065/41 "2009-07-29T20:16:22Z")
Here is where I am different sweetie, I never pickup drunks. They are no use to me. ---
**Author:** ![Bella](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/bella/32/1738_2.png) [@Bella](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Bella)\ **Post date:** [July 29, 2009, 8:31pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-oh-my-were-did-the-respect-go/31065/42 "2009-07-29T20:31:36Z")
> [@Domnk](#): > > _ **Now, my intent is not to bash the guys, really, it’s just.. that, I’ve been reading alot more of the women’s sections more of the forum, because, well, the men’s section seems to be putting a bad taste in my mouth, if you’ll excuse the turn of phrase. It’s the PUA material, I feel really bad when I read that type of thing, and it just lacks emotional presence, some empathy. It just hurts, it strikes a cord, which seems to be absent in that congregate, and I’m unsure about how I feel about that absence among… I don’t know whether to be saddened or angered, to cry, or disregard.** _ > > _ **Don’t get me wrong I love the people on this forum, but it is just, hurtful. Does anyone else feel this?** _ > > _ **‘Soon ripe, soon rotten; soon wise, soon foolish.’** _ > > _ **Think about it.** _ This thread has run off track because the very element that brought Dominick to THE WOMENS FORUM, to ask his question, has invaded it. I’m going to answer your question Dom. I won’t tell you not to let it bother you. There’s a lot to be bothered about and that’s easier said than done. My suggestion is to stay away from threads and people who upset you. Find your IGNORE button and use it. Don’t waste your time/energy with bankrupt personalities…way too much effort to try to reach those who are unreachable. They belong amongst themselves to conspire and inflict their brand of love and light upon the masses. You’d be amazed how much more pleasant your travels around the forum can be when you don’t subject yourself to them. Surround yourself with people who make the effort and who make you feel good when you’re around them. That’s what do. I don’t post as much as I use to because everywhere I turn, lately, makes me want to turn away. Not all PUA’s are jerks and PUA material isn’t all bad. It’s like anything else, you’ve gotta sift through the rubble to get to the rubies. Some of it, used the right way, can indeed aid in pick up…the rest is just plain PU material. There are some rockin’ guys on this forum, whom I adore them. They’re genuine, smart, fun, witty and hella classy guys. I’m proud to call them my friends. 🙂 Hugs and smoochies to them! Dom, if you’re looking for respite, you’re always welcome in the Ballroom. It’s a NO JERK ZONE. If one should make the mistake of crashing MY party, he’s gettin’ carried out…_if he’s lucky._ I’d be happy to have _you_ visit me there, anytime. 😉 🙂 Bella ---
**Author:** ![Geena](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/geena/32/570_2.png) [@Geena](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Geena)\ **Post date:** [July 29, 2009, 9:15pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-oh-my-were-did-the-respect-go/31065/43 "2009-07-29T21:15:01Z")
> [@djandarial](#): > > Here is where I am different sweetie, I never pickup drunks. > > They are no use to me. Well sugar britches, it’s nice to know you are different. I didn’t say this was everybody’s reality, but it’s something to think about..sweetie. ---
**Author:** ![Lor](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/lor/32/759_2.png) [@Lor](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Lor)\ **Post date:** [July 29, 2009, 9:23pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-oh-my-were-did-the-respect-go/31065/44 "2009-07-29T21:23:47Z")
Domnk, i have been on forums that PAY professionals to post ! im not implying that they are doing this here, but that you never really know who you are talking to. if the men’s forum seems different, it might very well be the influx of newbs. ---
**Author:** ![Domnk](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/domnk/32/2269_2.png) [@Domnk](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Domnk)\ **Post date:** [July 29, 2009, 11:04pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-oh-my-were-did-the-respect-go/31065/45 "2009-07-29T23:04:06Z")
> [@Bella](#): > > This thread has run off track because the very element that brought Dominick to THE WOMENS FORUM, to ask his question, has invaded it. I’m going to answer your question Dom. It’s alright if it goes a little of track, one of the reasons I made this thread was to express how I feel, and if others would like to do the same, that’s fine by me, just as long as it is void of personal attacks; long as it’s an open discussion and has love, I have no problem with it waning off-topic. Thank you for addressing my question too. 😃 > [@Bella](#): > > You’d be amazed how much more pleasant your travels around the forum can be when you don’t subject yourself to them. [http://www.ibleedgarnetandgold.com/storage/kitten.jpg](http://www.ibleedgarnetandgold.com/storage/kitten.jpg) Like a content little kitty. (Sorry I had to fit this little guy in this thread somewhere) > [@Bella](#): > > Not all PUA’s are jerks and PUA material isn’t all bad. It’s like anything else, you’ve gotta sift through the rubble to get to the rubies. Some of it, used the right way, can indeed aid in pick up…the rest is just plain PU material. Indeed, it is very fine line, between picking up to, stroke the ego, and trying to find a nice date, and I don’t mean one-night stands, that goes in with ‘stroking the ego’, because then they can brag all they want without ever having to face the possibility, reality, that it was awful. 😛🙂 Often though, it can be difficult to tell the difference of intent, initially, in PUA posts. 🙄 > [@Bella](#): > > Dom, if you’re looking for respite, you’re always welcome in the Ballroom. It’s a NO JERK ZONE. If one should make the mistake of crashing MY party, he’s gettin’ carried out…_if he’s lucky_. I’d be happy to have _you_ visit me there, anytime. 😉 🙂 > > Bella Aww, thank you 🙂 I’ll be sure to do so. > [@Lor](#): > > Domnk, > i have been on forums that PAY professionals to post ! > > im not implying that they are doing this here, > but that you never really know who you are talking to. > > if the men’s forum seems different, it might very well be the influx of newbs. Very true.. Dominick ---
**Author:** ![Domnk](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/domnk/32/2269_2.png) [@Domnk](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Domnk)\ **Post date:** [July 29, 2009, 11:14pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-oh-my-were-did-the-respect-go/31065/46 "2009-07-29T23:14:32Z")
😠 _How dare you question my motives of starting this thread, to imply that my intent was of a wicked nature, that’s despicable._ 😠 Negative reps are in no way called for… ---
**Author:** ![xev](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/xev/32/1993_2.png) [@xev](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/xev)\ **Post date:** [July 29, 2009, 11:19pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-oh-my-were-did-the-respect-go/31065/47 "2009-07-29T23:19:06Z")
> [@Domnk](#): > > 😠 _How dare you question my motives of starting this thread, to imply that my intent was of a wicked nature, that’s despicable._ 😠 > > Negative reps are in no way called for… Who are you replying to?😕 ---
**Author:** ![Mtnjim](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mtnjim/32/2010_2.png) [@Mtnjim](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Mtnjim)\ **Post date:** [July 29, 2009, 11:20pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-oh-my-were-did-the-respect-go/31065/48 "2009-07-29T23:20:47Z")
I’m guessing an anonymous neg-repper. _Noli nothis permittere te terere_ ---
**Author:** ![Domnk](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/domnk/32/2269_2.png) [@Domnk](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Domnk)\ **Post date:** [July 29, 2009, 11:24pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-oh-my-were-did-the-respect-go/31065/49 "2009-07-29T23:24:36Z")
> [@xev](#): > > Who are you replying to?😕 An anonymous negative-repper… ---
**Author:** ![BLADE](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/blade/32/2083_2.png) [@BLADE](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/BLADE)\ **Post date:** [July 29, 2009, 11:39pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-oh-my-were-did-the-respect-go/31065/50 "2009-07-29T23:39:06Z")
Someone needs to disable the ability to do that anonymously… For the record though, Domnk, I base my opinion of people’s reputation on here by what I see them write and report, not the little green squares. You don’t have anything to worry about 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Bella](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/bella/32/1738_2.png) [@Bella](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Bella)\ **Post date:** [July 29, 2009, 11:44pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-oh-my-were-did-the-respect-go/31065/51 "2009-07-29T23:44:03Z")
> [@Domnk](#): > > 😠 **_How dare you question my motives of starting this thread, to imply that my intent was of a wicked nature, that’s despicable._ 😠** > > **Negative reps are in no way called for…** Your right, Dominick. Fuggedaboudit. If he didn’t have the balls to leave his name, take a wild guess 🙄 and… I repeat…IGNORE. Love reps! 🙂 Bella ---
**Author:** ![Domnk](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/domnk/32/2269_2.png) [@Domnk](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Domnk)\ **Post date:** [July 29, 2009, 11:45pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-oh-my-were-did-the-respect-go/31065/52 "2009-07-29T23:45:58Z")
> [@](#): > > How is this hurtfull to you? Sounds like you are trying to stir empathy in women when not deserved. That is wrong Because, I care very deeply for others, I am a very emotional person, and when others are treated with disrespect, like objects rather than human beings deserving of respect and consideration, I tend to get very upset. Emotion is a valuable thing, learn to connect with it ☹ And I love you too, whether you like it or not.. Dominick ---
**Author:** ![ElectraComplex](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/electracomplex/32/1257_2.png) [@ElectraComplex](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/ElectraComplex)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2009, 1:50am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-oh-my-were-did-the-respect-go/31065/53 "2009-07-30T01:50:17Z")
> [@BLADE](#): > > Someone needs to disable the ability to do that anonymously… > > For the record though, Domnk, I base my opinion of people’s reputation on here by what I see them write and report, not the little green squares. > > You don’t have anything to worry about 😉 I agree actually. On both accounts. And if I ever neg rep someone I’ll bloody well let them know who and why and fix it if it was an issue of misunderstanding. Sigh. ---
**Author:** ![ElectraComplex](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/electracomplex/32/1257_2.png) [@ElectraComplex](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/ElectraComplex)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2009, 1:56am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-oh-my-were-did-the-respect-go/31065/54 "2009-07-30T01:56:54Z")
[http://icanhascheezburger.files.wordpress.com/2009/07/funny-pictures-kittens-are-jedis.jpg](http://icanhascheezburger.files.wordpress.com/2009/07/funny-pictures-kittens-are-jedis.jpg) ---
**Author:** ![Gegogi](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/gegogi/32/1536_2.png) [@Gegogi](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Gegogi)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2009, 2:03am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-oh-my-were-did-the-respect-go/31065/55 "2009-07-30T02:03:14Z")
> [@jankren](#): > > How different men and women are. > > I personally think women are wasting their money on pheromones. Why? Because unlike men who just want a boost in their chance to nail every single attractive woman he sees and move on, women want to find the one and only Mr. Right or preserve a long time relationship. I think it is a stupid and bad idea to use ‘artificial’ pheromones to seek a soulmate (unless you are the kinda woman who is into banging different handsome guys every night or somethin). For long term you want someone who likes you the way you are. You dont want to get a guy through pheromones and having to buy it for the rest of your life to keep him. > > As a guy I personally wear pheros only when I wanna get laid or wanna get into a short term relation. But for serious one I go ‘all natural’ so to speak. 😃 > > Anyway, I dont see any problem with PUA. Can someone tell me whats bad about it? Many of the guys on this forum don’t need mones to get laid or to attract women. We wear them to enhance professional and social relationships. I mainly wear A314 and SOE at work as it helps maintain respectful communication, cooperation and my chain of command. And when things run more smoothly, I have less stress, can focus on my work and ultimately be more productive. And the side effect is a happy successful guy gets busy more often than a stressed frustrated guy. And I think many of the women here are exactly the same. They may have started with the desire to improve things in the sack with hubby or attract Joe Cool, but found mones enhance all human relationships. Save a few teens and immature men, I really think most people here–both men & women–are interested in improving the full spectrum of human interaction. If you just wanna get laid it’s easy enough. Getting the most from your career and human relationships in general is a lot more tricky and valuable in the long run. ---
**Author:** ![mark-in-dallas](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mark-in-dallas/32/860_2.png) [@mark-in-dallas](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mark-in-dallas)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2009, 2:19am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-oh-my-were-did-the-respect-go/31065/56 "2009-07-30T02:19:16Z")
> [@Domnk](#): > > 😠 _How dare you question my motives of starting this thread, to imply that my intent was of a wicked nature, that’s despicable._ 😠 > > Negative reps are in no way called for… And now any negs anyone took from you have been more than replaced! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![moonwhisper](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/moonwhisper/32/1735_2.png) [@moonwhisper](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/moonwhisper)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2009, 2:28am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-oh-my-were-did-the-respect-go/31065/57 "2009-07-30T02:28:06Z")
Mark, you’re a good guy. Through and through. I love the little ways that it leaks out so we can see it. 🙂 My two cents worth: neg-repping without signing your name is cowardly and cheap. At least cowboy up and tell who you are. Otherwise you’re just spineless and not worth anyone’s time. And I had to comment on this: > [@Vespero](#): > > when you’ve seen a boar go after a tree smeared with musk, it would be silly not to wonder what effects they can have on humans, even if they are far more subtle. Oh my gosh, I hadn’t thought about that! What ever will I do when hunting season comes around again? I’ll have to go pheromone-naked! 😮 ---
**Author:** ![ElectraComplex](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/electracomplex/32/1257_2.png) [@ElectraComplex](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/ElectraComplex)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2009, 2:31am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-oh-my-were-did-the-respect-go/31065/58 "2009-07-30T02:31:51Z")
WHaaa? Naked where? oh pheros lol silly me. Oi if the hunter is cute you might save a deer 😛 wear extra? That was really sweet of you mark 🙂 Kudos. ---
**Author:** ![Domnk](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/domnk/32/2269_2.png) [@Domnk](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Domnk)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2009, 2:33am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-oh-my-were-did-the-respect-go/31065/59 "2009-07-30T02:33:30Z")
> [@mark-in-dallas](#): > > And now any negs anyone took from you have been more than replaced! 😃 Yeah, it wasn’t really about the reps though, it was about the questioning of integrity, and that the person was so inconsiderate. My post was an expression of my emotion, and they challenged that, and that, to me, felt malicious, and was upsetting. It’s ok though, I have their typo displayed for all too see, and they can’t change it, it’s spelled ‘hurtful’, not “hurtfull”, mwhahaha 😛😉 Edit: The message it what it was about, but I’ve received alot of loving comments in return, I love reading those. Dominick ---
**Author:** ![mark-in-dallas](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mark-in-dallas/32/860_2.png) [@mark-in-dallas](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mark-in-dallas)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2009, 2:45am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-oh-my-were-did-the-respect-go/31065/60 "2009-07-30T02:45:59Z")
Thanks folks! I just happen to be a firm believer in Karma, and what comes around goes around. Dom’s a good person and in no way deserved to be attacked for this post, and it’s my way of making up for it, at least a little. Cowards are just that, and will always live in fear for being found out for what they are! [Previous page](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-oh-my-were-did-the-respect-go/31065.md?page=2) [Next page](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-oh-my-were-did-the-respect-go/31065.md?page=4)