# My Situation... need advise! **URL:** \ **Category:** Women's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [October 7, 2008, 8:50pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-situation-need-advise/21005 "2008-10-07T20:50:56Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 9\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Gothic\_doll](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/gothic_doll/32/2215_2.png) [@Gothic\_doll](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Gothic_doll)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2008, 8:50pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-situation-need-advise/21005/1 "2008-10-07T20:50:56Z")
Hola! 😃 So… let’s describe my situation, I need an advise from you Ladies. My TG is… a college classmate. Just one year older than me (he’s 19, I’m 18) and he’s Mexican (International Student like me, only I’m italian!). He’s tall, skiny and.. kind of quiet and mysteriou guy… I cannot understand if he’s interest or not: He does look at me during class, and outside he’s really nice (but NOT always) and I did notice him looking at me the first day we meet (and at the time I did not wear any pheros!). We really don’t speak a lot, and in chat he looks completly not interest in any conversation ☹ . At the same time I can tell that when he’s with me his friends make some joke that I cannot really understand (they’re in spanish) but looks like they’re joking about him and me. What I can use to make this situation more clear? To understand if he likes me or not? I got invited in a party at his house friday night 😃 , what can I wear? All I have is: IS/A Istant shine Istant Openess P74 [Come Talk To Me](https://a314.com/product/come-talk-to-me-cttm/) MX235 (not really working for me!) MX335 (not really working for me!) Lust After Me and, not particularry important, I’m changing my look completly today (starting wear new glasses and new hair cut) so I want to be like.. a BOMB!!! 😉 any suggestion? Goth\_Doll 🆒 ---
**Author:** ![Butterfly](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/butterfly/32/1942_2.png) [@Butterfly](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Butterfly)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2008, 9:21pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-situation-need-advise/21005/2 "2008-10-07T21:21:27Z")
My guess is that he is attracted, but has a girl back home. Guess who want to date you give clear signals, mixed signals usually mean: "Yes, I think you are sexy, but no, I wont date you. " I would wear Shine, CTTM, [P74](https://pheromonelabs.com/product/p74/) and IS/A and just have fun laughing and chatting with the guys that approach you. If this guy talks to you, try to steer the conversation to your home countries and the friends you left behind, maybe you will find out something.If not, you can ask him outright. ---
**Author:** ![Gothic\_doll](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/gothic_doll/32/2215_2.png) [@Gothic\_doll](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Gothic_doll)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2008, 9:57pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-situation-need-advise/21005/3 "2008-10-07T21:57:15Z")
I don’t think so… in the meaning, in his facebook account he’sa listed like Single and I NEVER heard him talk about a GF… 😕 😕 😕 e’s hiding her 😕 😕 😕 ---
**Author:** ![Butterfly](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/butterfly/32/1942_2.png) [@Butterfly](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Butterfly)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2008, 10:01pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-situation-need-advise/21005/4 "2008-10-07T22:01:38Z")
If his friends back in Mexico are also posting on his facebook he probably does not have a girl back home. In that case his attraction for you has not (yet) surpassed his nerves. Just look good, wear a phero combo he likes and see if he asks you out. ---
**Author:** ![Butterfly](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/butterfly/32/1942_2.png) [@Butterfly](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Butterfly)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2008, 10:07pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-situation-need-advise/21005/5 "2008-10-07T22:07:22Z")
By the way, are you looking for love or something temporary? ---
**Author:** ![msselva](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/msselva/32/943_2.png) [@msselva](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/msselva)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2008, 11:04pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-situation-need-advise/21005/6 "2008-10-07T23:04:42Z")
lol, you never know unless the ice is broken 😉 His signals are slightly confusing, who knows he might have a little something for you…or he might not. I suggest instant openness (this is one of those holy grail products lol), instant shine and [instant sexiness](https://phera.com/product/instant-sexiness/) a. It’s a nice mix, he’ll respect you, admire you, and feel all happy and chatty with you. Next time, get yourself some instant honesty so he can spill stuff out 😉 I need to get one of those myself About instant sexiness a, I find that when I wear this product I **need** to pair it up with another happy-go-lucky phero (like is/o, mx135, or instant shine) cause when I wear it alone, I only get stares, but no approaches (cause you’re giving out a really strong and sexy signature -which is attractive but it makes guys feel like “hmm…I better not mess around with this young lady”)…I find that when I wear is/a shy men, feel even shy lol which is not that helpful, even though it’s adorable lol Lust After Me is a fantastic product from many reports that I’ve read, but it’ll only make him sexually aroused, period. I think it’s not necessary to wear it around him, if you want to know whether he sincerely likes you or not. Hope it helps! ---
**Author:** ![Gothic\_doll](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/gothic_doll/32/2215_2.png) [@Gothic\_doll](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Gothic_doll)\ **Post date:** [October 8, 2008, 2:07am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-situation-need-advise/21005/7 "2008-10-08T02:07:45Z")
```php By the way, are you looking for love or something temporary? ``` I’ll totally have a serious story with him if I have the possibility. So not something temporary.. We are from 2 different countries but we’re gonna live here in US for at least 4 years, so it’s possible. Msselva thank you so much, definitly useful, tomorrow I’ll try the MX IS/A & MX235 (i do not have 135.. I wish they make it avaliable again!!!) and see what’s up. I will report if something moves… just hoping so baddddd!!!🙄 ---
**Author:** ![Butterfly](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/butterfly/32/1942_2.png) [@Butterfly](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Butterfly)\ **Post date:** [October 8, 2008, 8:40am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-situation-need-advise/21005/8 "2008-10-08T08:40:55Z")
Okay, if you want something serious, just wear your pheros, look cute, be friendly to everyone and smile a lot. Have patience for him to find the courage to ask you out. If not this time, maybe the next. Wear something that is very pretty, in colours that bring out your features and make you look great. Let it also be fairly modest, to make it clear you are not looking for anything temporary. When he talks to you, listen attentively, be impressed when he mentions an accomplishment and express your gratitude when he does something for you. Don’t complain, don’t criticize and don’t condemn anyone. Giggle at his jokes, even if they are a bit lame, be patient and relaxed with him. Doing this will make him feel comfortable with you and makes it easy for him to ask you out. He will also connect to you emotionally and see you as a nice girl for a long term connection, if he is ready for that. Of course his first attraction is sexual, but this attraction will make him seek you out again and again and when he finds emotional rather than sexual satisfaction with you, he will bond to you emotionally long before you have sex with him. When he is getting emotionally bonded, he will start to do romantic things for you. Some guys will write a poem, others will buy you a gift, again others will help you with something difficult; every guy has his own way to tell you he cares about you. Take time to get to know him and show appreciation for his romantic gestures by smiling, complimenting the thing he did for you and telling him he is sweet to do this. In any case, no matter what kind of guy he is, if he is feeling bonded he will try to spend lots of time with you, show you off to his friends, tell his family about you and make you feel good. At some point, the emotional bond is so strong that he considers himself to be in love. Hope that helps! ---
**Author:** ![Gothic\_doll](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/gothic_doll/32/2215_2.png) [@Gothic\_doll](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Gothic_doll)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2008, 2:15am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-situation-need-advise/21005/9 "2008-10-09T02:15:19Z")
It did help a lot 😉 Thanks so much ^^ So, Toady was… good. I wear 3 spray of IS/A to go to college anad there (after 1 h and 30 min of bus) I added 2 spray of MX 335 (i love the smell but for now I do not have any effect!). TG seats near me (casually or not I cannot really tell!!!) but doesn’t talk to me for a while until he tells me that he likes my new hair cut and glasses. 🙄 All fine, work in group but the guy near me in the other side he’s REALLY effected by pheros (everytime I wear them he goes just crazy over me) so I have to do the work with him! =D But after clas me and TG walk togheter and he DOES pay really attention at what I tell… even if I’m not talking to him. In the Cafeteria doesn’t seat near me but when I call him to ask about the party friday night he letterally run to me (and he was looking at me) and, since maybe I cannot go home (I need a ride) he pop up: you can always sleep there at my house.😮 YUHUUU! I’m not gonna stay, but was nice to hear. what do you think? xoxo PS= **IS/A ROCKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKK** make me feel so sexy!!!