# my story **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [February 12, 2009, 7:27pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-story/26016 "2009-02-12T19:27:48Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![msweezer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/3be4f8/32.png) [@msweezer](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/msweezer)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2009, 7:27pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-story/26016/1 "2009-02-12T19:27:48Z")
34yrs, Female, NY I have always had an interest in the science behind attraction, why one chooses a particular partner etc. Anyway, I would describe myself as shy. I am attractive but do very little to enhance it. It takes me a while to open up to people. While most people would probably have nice things to say about me I have very few friends and I prefer to have a few close friends than numerous acquaintances. Parties, bars, and people staring at me make me uncomfortable. My goals are I would like to find a serious relationship/marriage. I am very bored and need to find a lover or friend/s that like to do adventuresome things - sports, travel, biking, walking. For me, it has been difficult to find women that like outdoor activities. I need something that makes me more outgoing and something for attracting potential long-term mate. I realize that I have to start putting more into my appearance and becoming outgoing . I have a tendency to attract men that are not very passionate, afraid of their own sweat, and that I am not physically attracted to. I work with the public, have to deal with people’s moods and pecularities, and would be interested in anything that could help. People I feel, have a tendency to say things to me that they would not say to a man whether it is because I am a woman or that I give off a certain vibe that allows them to think they can get away with this I don’t know. I would like to start alleviating this b/c it makes my already stressful job more stressful. Also on a side note, I have to purchase some large ticket items and dread having to deal with salespeople and the potential for being ripped-off b/c people read me as passive. Thanks in advance ---
**Author:** ![Xiphoid](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/xiphoid/32/1852_2.png) [@Xiphoid](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Xiphoid)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2009, 7:37pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-story/26016/2 "2009-02-12T19:37:17Z")
Hi and welcome to the forum! That’s a great introduction there! You told us a lot about yourself and your personality which is great, helps us suggest phero’s that you can try. It sounds to me like you need a confidence boost as your number one thing? I absolutely love **Instant Shine** for this…it’ll boost your mood and confidence at the same time as it gives you a happy, youthful and sociable vibe. It’s great on it’s own as well as in a combo. If you are looking to find a man then there’s **Instant Sexiness** … There are 2 versions, IS/a and IS/b. IS/a is a more dominant, confident and alpha type sexiness like ANgelina Joli. IS/b is more girly, feminine and softer in its sexiness, like Marilyn Monroe. Both are great, I love them for different reasons 🙂 If you find chatting to people difficult I’d suggest **[Instant Openness](https://a314.com/product/instant-openness/)**. It’s a great social phero that helps increase the quantity of conversation. It makes you and those around you more comfortable and chatty. Hope that helps 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Robbie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/2acd7d/32.png) [@Robbie](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Robbie)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2009, 7:39pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-story/26016/3 "2009-02-12T19:39:28Z")
Hi, welcome to the forum. Instant Shine will help your confidence levels. I also suggest that you look at [Instant Openness](https://a314.com/product/instant-openness/), which will encourage light chatter with people around you and Instant Honesty which will spark deeper conversations. All of these products can be used to make you more social and confident! Make sure to read the links in my signature to understand what these products can and cannot do. They will help, but against pushy sales people, you’re gonna have to do some work too! 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![diamond](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/diamond/32/859_2.png) [@diamond](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/diamond)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2009, 7:53pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-story/26016/4 "2009-02-12T19:53:22Z")
Hi Msweezer So, who are we looking to attract, outdoorsy women, passionate men or both 😉 You mention both in your post and I’m a little confused. Either way, the recommendations you have had already are brilliant social products, have a read of some of the threads and you will see what can be achieved with them. Pushy salesmen seeing you as an easy prospect, once you’ve got used to the socials, have a look at MX134 ( if it’s back in stock) or MX300, same [pheromone](https://pheromonelabs.com/shop/) mix in a different perfume carrier. My wife uses this and controls 40 rough and ready guys at work with no problem ---
**Author:** ![msweezer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/3be4f8/32.png) [@msweezer](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/msweezer)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2009, 7:59pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-story/26016/5 "2009-02-12T19:59:15Z")
> [@diamond](#): > > Hi Msweezer > > So, who are we looking to attract, outdoorsy women, passionate men or both 😉 You mention both in your post and I’m a little confused. > > Either way, the recommendations you have had already are brilliant social products, have a read of some of the threads and you will see what can be achieved with them. > > Pushy salesmen seeing you as an easy prospect, once you’ve got used to the socials, have a look at MX134 ( if it’s back in stock) or MX300, same pheromone mix in a different perfume carrier. My wife uses this and controls 40 rough and ready guys at work with no problem thanks for all the replies looking to make friends and find a passionate man. If I had to choose just one I’d pick the man anyone have thoughts on MX138 and liquid sunshine?- looked promising for the confidence thanks for the mx134 recommend ---
**Author:** ![Xiphoid](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/xiphoid/32/1852_2.png) [@Xiphoid](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Xiphoid)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2009, 8:09pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-story/26016/6 "2009-02-12T20:09:11Z")
> [@msweezer](#): > > thanks for all the replies > looking to make friends and find a passionate man. If I had to choose just one I’d pick the man > anyone have thoughts on MX138 and liquid sunshine?- looked promising for the confidence > thanks for the mx134 recommend Liquid Sunshine and Mx138 were experimental mixes…I’m pretty sure they aren’t available anymore ☹ [Instant Shine](https://a314.com/product/shine/) is brilliant though…It has great self effects for confidence and it does what it says on the bottle…it makes you shine 😃 Have a read in the womens section for the womens phero’s, you’ll find loads of useful and fun stuff to read 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2009, 6:52am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/my-story/26016/7 "2009-02-13T06:52:54Z")
Hello Welcome to Pherotalk 🙂 Fabulous intro You gave the members just what they need to point you to products that will help fit your needs. First lets cover becoming more out going and female friendships. Some products effect both males and females when you use them and in these economic times thats good news. [Instant sexiness](https://phera.com/product/instant-sexiness/) A is one of those products. When worn around men it gives a strong sexy confident female vibe. Its attractive and mildly arousing to a male so its safe for use in any situation. The strong confident vibe can also work well when you deal with those sales people. You come off as a strong more capable female less likely to fall for there crap, (no offense sales members LOL) I have personally found that this one attracts womens friendships very well. It gives sort of the “girl you need to know” vibe. Its low in the highly sexual mones so you don’t get any cattiness from women when using it. Next I would suggest Ishine another one that can help in many situations. Its warm, uplifting, charismatic, draws people to you and makes them feel great. It can boost your own confidence levels and feeling of well being. Next to help you open up I would suggest IO or IH. IO is more a fun chatty attractive friendly mix. Since you prefer deeper more meaningful friendships though I would go with IH. This one induces conversation but on a deeper more connected level. Gives a feeling of rapport and connection. Now all of the products will produce a certain amount of attraction and attention. To attract stronger men unafraid of there own sweat I think Instant sexiness A is a good place to start as well. Like attracts like and you going for the stronger more confident man. I see mention of MX138. My beloved Sunshine series. There wasn’t one in the whole series I didn’t love. Next week a lot of products are coming back into stock and I am hoping one of this series will be with it. These give that sunny happy girl next door vibe. In the mean time MX274 is great to look at for a sunny joyful bonding vibe. Keep in mind these are experimental and do not fall under the Guarantee. One more Tip, I live in CT so I am your neighbor so to speak and if you like the outdoors check with your town hall and library for some clubs they offer in your area. I know here they have hiking clubs and we hile a lot in NY . I am a member of ours and you can meet a lot of like minded people in a comfortable no pressure setting. If you have questions just let me know. **Your GC is on its way** 😃 I look forward to chatting with you in the forum Tisha Hostess/Guide