# n00b in Iraq **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [September 13, 2008, 1:26am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/n00b-in-iraq/19407 "2008-09-13T01:26:55Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 8\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Im4Vikes13](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/858c86/32.png) [@Im4Vikes13](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Im4Vikes13)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2008, 1:26am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/n00b-in-iraq/19407/1 "2008-09-13T01:26:55Z")
Hey everyone. I’m new to this forum and pretty much new to pheromones. I did try Realm about 14-15 years ago when I was young and single and it was still advertised via infomercial. I took a chance and liked the results. It smelled good and seemed to open me up a little bit (maybe it was a little bit of a Placebo affect. Maybe it was girls telling me I smelled good. Who knows?) Anyway, about me. I’m a 33 year old who has been divorced for about three and a half years. I was in the Air Force when I got my divorce but since Sep. 05 I’ve been an Army Contractor. I’ve spent about 29 of the last 36 months in Iraq. So as you can imagine, dating isn’t really much of an option. Despite the fact that there is a plethora of young men here, coupled with a lack of attractive women, I did meet a young female soldier, over here, who I seem to have a lot in common with (except the 13 year age difference). We hung out for a while and seemed to be doing really well. We had a couple really hot, sweaty nights together. Then I went on leave for a month. While I was gone she called me every day. When I got back she seems excited that she would see me soon, which made me excited. Once I got here, though, things seemed to cool quite a bit. She hasn’t said anything but she doesn’t seem as eager to see me. It even seems like I’m forcing it when I try to spend quality time with her. She still seems to enjoy talking to me, somewhat, but it’s like I’ve been pushed back into the friendzone without the just friends talk. My Grandfather died while I was home, so maybe I was subconsciously acting different than I did before. Maybe it’s just that I’m back in Iraq after a month of fun that changed my vibe. Either way I did something that turned her off. It’s been like quicksand ever since. We used to just converse freely, but now the conversation seems a bit uncomfortable. I’m hoping that some of the products I have already ordered can open me up a little bit with her without having the old, relationship killer why don’t you like me anymore talk. If it turns out she really doesn’t like me anymore that talk won’t help any and I’m really trying to grow out of that response. I was fine before I met her and I’ll live without her. The Oneitis I have over here probably won’t last when I get back to the states, anyway. Meeting her and having such a good time reminded me that I’m still fairly attractive(there’s a lot of competition over here). Also, that I’m divorced, not dead. I remembered how much I like Realm and actually found this sight looking for a place to buy it. I did read the stickies on the tips for men page and, with the exception of Turn up the Heat, I think I got a pretty good first time order A314, [Instant Openness](https://a314.com/product/instant-openness/), Instant Shine, Ammo and Turn up the Heat. I’ll probably save the heat for back in the states. I think the A314 will definately help me out over here dealing with the personalities in the Army. I realize that this is really long for a newbie post but I hope this stuff works as well as I’ve heard it can. Even if not with this girl maybe it will help me stand out a little amongst this sea of testosterone. Wish me luck. BTW. I think I’ll use my gift certificate to try adding some instant honesty to my list. I’ll let you know how it works in this uncommon environment. ---
**Author:** ![Tenant](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/tenant/32/1668_2.png) [@Tenant](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Tenant)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2008, 1:31am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/n00b-in-iraq/19407/2 "2008-09-13T01:31:35Z")
Hey Comm, Welcome to the community! This girl of yours sounds interesting, but definitely be careful with the oneitis. Particularly with [pheromones](https://pheromonelabs.com/) because they usually require you to project a congruent aura of self-confidence not supplication. That sounds like a good first product line up. Make sure you know what you are getting into with A314 though. And, as tempting as it is, try and test each of the products out individually, and separately from the others. ---
**Author:** ![remmy](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/remmy/32/2451_2.png) [@remmy](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/remmy)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2008, 1:32am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/n00b-in-iraq/19407/3 "2008-09-13T01:32:09Z")
hii! first off welcome to the forum! wow its so great to see people from all over all joining in 🙂 anyways. i havent used a lot of guys phero (since im a girl 😉 ) but i can tell you some about the instant lines that are unisex. for starters, instant shine would cheer you and other people up around, i use it alot for social functions. instant openness woudl be great also when ur meeting new people since it helps to make conversations, regardless of gender. anyways, hope i helped and welcome! ---
**Author:** ![schell0385](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/schell0385/32/199_2.png) [@schell0385](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/schell0385)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2008, 1:34am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/n00b-in-iraq/19407/4 "2008-09-13T01:34:46Z")
Hi there and nice to have you with us. What a great post from you…thank you. We have a great group here and they are very knowledgeable about phero’s. Good that your reading all the posts and looking at the information. Sounds like you have some phero’s that you would like to try out. I like [P74](https://a314.com/product/p74/) a lot, it is a friendly social phero… talk with you soon 😃 ---
**Author:** ![PhatSounds](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/phatsounds/32/233_2.png) [@PhatSounds](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/PhatSounds)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2008, 1:38am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/n00b-in-iraq/19407/5 "2008-09-13T01:38:02Z")
Hello Commshot, Good to have you in Pherotalk, so welcome on board 🙂 Hmm that was a long but great intro to me there 🙂 Sorry to hear about your divorce there. Btw congrats on your order there, you have order a good list of pheros here 🙂 Ok what i can help on your situation is try Turn Up The Heat & [Instant Honesty](https://a314.com/product/instant-honesty/) as these two is great for relationship & Instant shine or Instant Female magic to make her comfortable with you 🙂 I leave it to you to try my recommendation & i wish you all the best in trying the pheros here. See you 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2008, 9:58am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/n00b-in-iraq/19407/6 "2008-09-13T09:58:20Z")
Hello Welcome to Pherotalk 🙂 Great Post, I think you picked some good products although it heavy on the masculine side. I am glad your considering IH that will round it out more and may be the most helpful one to use around your target. If you need help or have qustions just ask. We look forward to your participation in the forum **Your GC is on its way 😃** Stay safe Tisha ---
**Author:** ![mark-in-dallas](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mark-in-dallas/32/860_2.png) [@mark-in-dallas](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mark-in-dallas)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2008, 4:28pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/n00b-in-iraq/19407/7 "2008-09-13T16:28:56Z")
Hey Comm, welcome to the forum. You’ve found yourself an awesome community full of some of the greatest people you could ever hope to meet, who are ready and willing to guide you along into the magical world of pheros. As to your girl, not wanting to burst your bubble but it sounds to me like she may have possibly started seeing someone else, and is either confused in what she wants, or trying to keep you at bay while she decides if there’s really anything there with the other guy. Rather than having the “Why don’t you like me anymore” talk, maybe try asking if she is seeing somebody else. If she is, you can stop beating yourself up over why things have cooled off between you, and if not, then you can work on the why and figuring out how to improve the relationship. Just an observation and suggestion though. I could be completely off base and reading something into the situation that’s not there. I’ve been in almost the same shoes, except for that I wasn’t in Iraq dodging terrorists. I was in the Air Force and dating a girl that was in the midst of a divorce. I took 2 weeks leave to go home because my father had surgery for cancer of the eusophagus. While I was gone we talked every day and everything seemed ok, but when I got back she was distant, avoided sex and I felt as you put it “like I’ve been pushed back into the friendzone without the just friends talk”. It turned out that while I was gone she decided to give the marriage another chance, but didn’t want to tell me, because she didn’t know if it was going to work out or not, but didn’t want to lose me just in case it did not. I ended things between us there and then, because I didn’t think she was being fair to either of us, I didn’t feel it was right to come between a marriage, and I figured even if the marriage didn’t wok out and I were to get her back, some day I’d probably be walking in the exes shoes too. Best of luck to you though, but regardless of what happens with this girl, you’ve found yourself a new group of friends! ---
**Author:** ![Im4Vikes13](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/858c86/32.png) [@Im4Vikes13](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Im4Vikes13)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2008, 5:19pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/n00b-in-iraq/19407/8 "2008-09-13T17:19:35Z")
Thanks everyone for the advice, so far. Tish, thanks much for the GC. Mark, The thought has crossed my mind that she may have found someone else. If I was in any other situation I would have given up on it a long time ago. The problem is men outnumber females, literally, 50-1 over here. And of those females, maybe 30% of them are worth talking to. It is the Army. I would love things to work out, but I am a realist. I figured the pheromones couldn’t hurt my cause. If it doesn’t work out it’s whatever. If there’s one thing I learned during my ugly separation, from the wife, it’s that needy guys aren’t attractive. That’s why I’ve avoided the talk, so far. I need to figure out a way to do it without sounding too needy or put pressure on her if it’s not another guy. I’ve had that problem with that in the past, which is why I kind of went with the masculine side of the pheros. I’m not sure if I’m really that hung up on this one, or if it was just so long between female companions. It gets pretty lonely over here at times. I got a taste of that new relationship feeling again, and it’s a little hard to let go of. We’ll see how it goes. BTW. I love to see all the support in this forum. I’m used to seeing forums that flame the newbs just because they are new. I feel really welcome here. Thanks again.