# Need a guys perspective - To Pursue or Not **URL:** \ **Category:** Men's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [January 29, 2008, 4:13am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/need-a-guys-perspective-to-pursue-or-not/8714 "2008-01-29T04:13:03Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 9\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![sugarspice](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/sugarspice/32/1772_2.png) [@sugarspice](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/sugarspice)\ **Post date:** [January 29, 2008, 4:13am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/need-a-guys-perspective-to-pursue-or-not/8714/1 "2008-01-29T04:13:03Z")
So I have this girlfriend, adorable, friendly girl. Might of given off the impression she wanted to get laid on first encounter. Well she got involved with this guy. They made out once, had sex once and then he stopped calling her for 3 months already. So New Years she decides to text him. It takes him a while so I think about a week later he returns the text. So she asks him to lunch. He says yes. They have a friendly convo, but he never makes any future plans to hang out with her. My question is, should she pursue him or is that to needy and desperate? Well she is very much infactuated with him and he probably questions how he really feels, granted I understand guys tend to judge party girls. Second what is the chances of her living happily ever after taking the sales lady route. She feels she really has to “sell” herself to him. You think as a good friend I should advise her the possible pitfalls or should I just support her in what I think is a no win situation. I know when your infactuated you don’t want to listen to anyone. But I also know it’s not my place to tell her what will make her happy. What to do? You think a shot of [pheromones](https://pheromonelabs.com/) with up her game? Or will she just come off as a sex needing woman. I mean really you guys know how you feel about girls you bed early and why you don’t call and what happens if she pursues. Is there a happy ending for this kind of relationship??? ---
**Author:** ![gitsmw](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/85e7bf/32.png) [@gitsmw](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/gitsmw)\ **Post date:** [January 29, 2008, 10:34am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/need-a-guys-perspective-to-pursue-or-not/8714/2 "2008-01-29T10:34:43Z")
You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take. So if you want to get with him and he isn’t calling you, you call him. If that doesn’t work, then fuck it. At least you tried. ---
**Author:** ![Ospitalieri](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/ospitalieri/32/685_2.png) [@Ospitalieri](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Ospitalieri)\ **Post date:** [January 29, 2008, 11:36am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/need-a-guys-perspective-to-pursue-or-not/8714/3 "2008-01-29T11:36:46Z")
Hey girl , Like I read past, she already tried more than a couple of time to have a relationship/more with this guy… and it seems from the response/time from the guy that he is not very interested in her…. (very slow response) but what also can be possible is that if someone calls to much it can be overwhelming and also annoying…. 😮 (I have that response if I am not interested or not jet in love) She can give it a try with pheromones and have a lot of fun/laughter with him so that he can remember the things he and she did together… And give it a rest for a little time so that he has the chance to think about her ( that’s the time when a person will fall in love or not) And a good advice is be your self when you are with someone and have fun And when the guy don’t respond back after a little time I would back off … He is probably not interested in her …. That’s my advice 🙂 Some nice quotations :🆒 Hold faithfulness and sincerity as first principles. Everything has its beauty but not everyone sees it. Respect yourself and others will respect you. ---
**Author:** ![malleus](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/malleus/32/1722_2.png) [@malleus](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/malleus)\ **Post date:** [January 29, 2008, 12:15pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/need-a-guys-perspective-to-pursue-or-not/8714/4 "2008-01-29T12:15:09Z")
It is hard to say without knowing the players involved, but my gut reaction is for her to give up. If he wants her, he’ll pursue her. He knows she’s game if he wants to go out–they slept together, after all. I usually find that a girl’s sleeping with a guy so soon, as I’m under the impression that she did, can create a major hurdle for a girl wanting any kind of relationship with a guy. It usually just serves to give the guy what he wants and allows him to move on. Just my two cents. ---
**Author:** ![bosshank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/91b2a8/32.png) [@bosshank](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/bosshank)\ **Post date:** [January 29, 2008, 1:55pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/need-a-guys-perspective-to-pursue-or-not/8714/5 "2008-01-29T13:55:37Z")
Nope - he has pretty well indicated that he was there for the one night stand and really has no further interest in her. If he did he would have demonstrated that from the beginning. She needs to forget him and move on. ---
**Author:** ![codemax](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/codemax/32/5173_2.png) [@codemax](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/codemax)\ **Post date:** [January 29, 2008, 2:55pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/need-a-guys-perspective-to-pursue-or-not/8714/6 "2008-01-29T14:55:01Z")
sounds to me like the guy is a douche. he’s prolly not interested. if he were, then it wouldnt matter if she put in a lot of effort into meeting him again. it wouldnt look needy because he’d already like her. it normally doesnt take much effort to get a guy interested, she shouldnt have to be her own saleswoman just to get his attention. i would say that he could be shy and just doesnt pursue women, but he didnt have any problems having sex with her that one time, so no, he’s not shy. he’s just a douche without any sense of social consequences. if he’s thinking that he had sex easily with her and she’s somehow not worth anything else because of that, then he’s just naive (and a douche). did it ever cross his mind that people may have very strong and lasting feelings for him right away, and that those feelings may materialize in sex right away. if i want a girl for a steady GF, i’ll be having sex with her all the time once we’re dating, then why whould i wait? i start right away. it’s like quitting smoking: if you say you’ll quit next week, then what’s to stop you form quitting right now? get my point? i’ve had long running GF’s whom i had sex with on day 2-3 of meeting them. lasted months and months, it wasnt just a one night sex thing. however, if she REALLY likes him and cant just forget about him, then it’s a diff story. i think his mind is made up, so she’ll have to change it. tell her to hack his brain with pheromones, that’ll change his perception of her and make HIM want HER. and when he is calling her to set up lunch dates and cant wait, let her take a good look at him and see if she still wants him. ---
**Author:** ![bubblebob](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/bubblebob/32/2120_2.png) [@bubblebob](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/bubblebob)\ **Post date:** [January 29, 2008, 3:29pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/need-a-guys-perspective-to-pursue-or-not/8714/7 "2008-01-29T15:29:22Z")
I’d say if it takes him a whole week to answer your friend, he’s simply not interested into going for more than just a one-night-stand. Or he plays an idiotic game with her - which makes him not desirable at all! So in any way - she should forget him and look for someone decent… 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Casanova](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/casanova/32/621_2.png) [@Casanova](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Casanova)\ **Post date:** [January 29, 2008, 3:34pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/need-a-guys-perspective-to-pursue-or-not/8714/8 "2008-01-29T15:34:17Z")
Well this is typical case of seducer.Obviously he saw the opportunity, used it and forget about it.And she became more interrested/in-love.That’s bad.She has to find a way to forget about this guy or she will suffer alot.U see usually women play with men and they think that it’s impossible men to play with women.Well there are alot of guys who really can’t but those who can are far more dangerous to women than even the most trickie and beautifull woman can be to a man.So u are a woman and know woman’s prespective on playing with men, feeling good not when being with some guy in a relationship but knowing that he’s in desperate love with you.It’s the same with guys.We really love girls to be interrested in us, to obey every of ours desires, to be ready waiting on the phone wondering when we will be so generous as to call…So I judge his nice friendly behaviour like that. I agree with Max, if a guy likes a girl and the girl likes the guy there is no place for more games.The games are ussually plaied till they make sex.Then the relationship path is wide open.So , it is sad to say but obviously he is a player and don’t have any interrest in her as long term girlfriend. Better NOT to persue anymore but from I’ve read she’s already poisoned by his charm so it will be verry painfull.As to the selling herself, well obviously he is not interrested in the product so she cannot make hime jelous or even more interrested by other tricks.He will see all this (while girls are more intuitive and get what’s happening more quickly than men, guys have bulletproof logic witch can easly figure out all the combinations and see what’s really happening.And if he understands, and he will believe me, that she’s desperate he will feel pitty for her at best.At worst he won’t see /hear her ever again again.That’s the thruth in my opinion given the facts u wrote in the beginning of this thread.I don’t want to be pesimistic or rude but want to give reallistic advice. ---
**Author:** ![sugarspice](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/sugarspice/32/1772_2.png) [@sugarspice](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/sugarspice)\ **Post date:** [January 29, 2008, 4:58pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/need-a-guys-perspective-to-pursue-or-not/8714/9 "2008-01-29T16:58:58Z")
You guys are awesome. Thank you for such uneditted honest responses. This thread should really be posted on top somewhere permanently. When your friends are disillusioned they don’t come to you for advice. They come to hear how great their idea is. So it’s hard to give it to them, when you know the truth will hurt them. If you do, you end up jeapordizing the friendship. Better to let strangers and no name faces tell them the truth. Hehe. There are a lot of weird broken people out there who seem to love to spread the lack of love on everyone they meet. Sad… Moral of the story, use you your new love attracting powers wisely. With power comes responsibility. Kisses to you all.