# Need help Girl said she lost feelings the past few weeks **URL:** \ **Category:** Men's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [July 8, 2016, 1:36am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/need-help-girl-said-she-lost-feelings-the-past-few-weeks/66165 "2016-07-08T01:36:00Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![ScentHound](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/scenthound/32/1840_2.png) [@ScentHound](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/ScentHound)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2016, 4:43pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/need-help-girl-said-she-lost-feelings-the-past-few-weeks/66165/41 "2016-12-10T16:43:22Z")
Move out, move on and move up. Take all your things including the mattress, that way neither you or her have any excuse to drag things out. ---
**Author:** ![lifeoftheparty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ed8c4c/32.png) [@lifeoftheparty](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/lifeoftheparty)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2016, 7:22am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/need-help-girl-said-she-lost-feelings-the-past-few-weeks/66165/42 "2016-12-11T07:22:51Z")
She said she wants to discuss her reasoning behind it, i decided to just leave. ---
**Author:** ![mobocaster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c2a13f/32.png) [@mobocaster](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mobocaster)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2016, 11:05am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/need-help-girl-said-she-lost-feelings-the-past-few-weeks/66165/43 "2016-12-11T11:05:31Z")
> [@lifeoftheparty](#): > > so here is the update: everything executed perfectly as mobo and all said it would. i ended up moving in with the girl and all was well till about a month ago when i allegedly(i have no recollection of this) told her to get lost while she was trying to take some of the covers from me while sleeping and hasn’t acted the same after asking me “if i’m not expressing all my feelings to her”. this is not the case i just am ruthless in my sleep and just have issues with anyone bothering me whether it be her or back in my day my own parents. i get very vulgar when messed with in my sleep-side note. this happened the week before thanksgiving break and since then i have been on a one lay a week and am starting to have enough of it. she claims that she simply doesn’t want to have sex due to her acne progressively getting worse and she is quite obsessed with it. i’m honestly at the point where i am planning a different place of residence for next semester but don’t want to be the one that drops the ball about it. i just don’t understand how it went from 3 lays a day to one a week. i honestly don’t know what to do but at the same time i don’t believe i would be too upset about ending it even though i don’t want to…i guess i just maybe have kind of lost hope at this point. i really like her but at the same time as pathetic as it may sound for a guy feel neglected. i was considering taking a break over winter break and disappearing for at least a week or two in hopes to make her realize she misses me. not sure if this is a good idea though.i appreciate any questions, input and/or advice. thanks in advance guys! This sounds to me like the wheel has turned full circle and you are back at the top of the cycle all over again. And its got very little to do with you - More I see it that she is back to finding any reason she can to end/shake-up the relationship to gratify her own feelings. IME this is a pretty typical behaviour pattern from women who have unstable/abusive/emotionally deprived backgrounds - When a relationship begins to solidify and move to its next stage, they can’t go there and seek (often unconsciously) to throw things back to the emotional highs and lows of when it started. This is where you need to short-circuit matters less destructively in advance of her starting to spin-out on you by introducing your own bit of dissonance to give her the emotional ups and downs she craves and it is time to think long and hard about if you really want to continue down this road as this can go-on for a very long time before she finally settles down to let a relationship move forward, sometimes for many years. ---
**Author:** ![lifeoftheparty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ed8c4c/32.png) [@lifeoftheparty](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/lifeoftheparty)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2016, 2:12pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/need-help-girl-said-she-lost-feelings-the-past-few-weeks/66165/44 "2016-12-11T14:12:29Z")
I know I planned on doing so over winter break but she beat me to it, So do I take the matress , leave the keys to the place and give her the silent treatment or leave the matress, leave the keys and the silent treatment to give me the best odds? Much appreciated ---
**Author:** ![lifeoftheparty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ed8c4c/32.png) [@lifeoftheparty](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/lifeoftheparty)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2016, 6:10pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/need-help-girl-said-she-lost-feelings-the-past-few-weeks/66165/45 "2016-12-11T18:10:41Z")
Mobo or somebody please give me a option 1 or 2? I only have until 8pm eastern time to make a choice before she gets back to her place ---
**Author:** ![mobocaster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c2a13f/32.png) [@mobocaster](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mobocaster)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2016, 7:15pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/need-help-girl-said-she-lost-feelings-the-past-few-weeks/66165/46 "2016-12-11T19:15:39Z")
I’d certainly step right away from her - and leaving the matress/keys might IMO be the better choice as it looks more like you are willing to flit for good, which may have the greater impact on her emotionally. ---
**Author:** ![lifeoftheparty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ed8c4c/32.png) [@lifeoftheparty](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/lifeoftheparty)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2016, 7:42pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/need-help-girl-said-she-lost-feelings-the-past-few-weeks/66165/47 "2016-12-11T19:42:11Z")
double post ---
**Author:** ![lifeoftheparty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ed8c4c/32.png) [@lifeoftheparty](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/lifeoftheparty)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2016, 11:21pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/need-help-girl-said-she-lost-feelings-the-past-few-weeks/66165/48 "2016-12-11T23:21:36Z")
still no responses ---
**Author:** ![lifeoftheparty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ed8c4c/32.png) [@lifeoftheparty](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/lifeoftheparty)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2016, 2:00am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/need-help-girl-said-she-lost-feelings-the-past-few-weeks/66165/49 "2016-12-12T02:00:38Z")
So she ended asking me if I was coming to talk…I assume this was before she made it into her room, I replied a hour later saying :something came up and have work, I just need some space , nonetheless I hope your happy. She simply replied “ok” half hour later. Now that I think about it I probably should have left the happy part out. ---
**Author:** ![mobocaster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c2a13f/32.png) [@mobocaster](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mobocaster)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2016, 5:34pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/need-help-girl-said-she-lost-feelings-the-past-few-weeks/66165/50 "2016-12-12T17:34:18Z")
> [@lifeoftheparty](#): > > Really? I would think taking my mattress with me and leaving the keys would be the larger impact? But you really think I would be better off leaving the matress here with her for the best results? You know her best of all - So it is absolutely your call. 🙂 And stop all communication now for a good while to let the message hit-home. It won’t do any good if she knows she can still call you-up. ---
**Author:** ![lifeoftheparty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ed8c4c/32.png) [@lifeoftheparty](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/lifeoftheparty)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2016, 8:22pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/need-help-girl-said-she-lost-feelings-the-past-few-weeks/66165/51 "2016-12-12T20:22:00Z")
Recieved a text today telling me she has a bag of my stuff at her place ---
**Author:** ![lifeoftheparty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ed8c4c/32.png) [@lifeoftheparty](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/lifeoftheparty)\ **Post date:** [December 16, 2016, 10:13pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/need-help-girl-said-she-lost-feelings-the-past-few-weeks/66165/52 "2016-12-16T22:13:16Z")
small update, she tried reaching out to me again today asking if i have a rented textbook of hers…i obviously dont. also turns out i did have her pants and i told her i would ship them out to her on monday, havn’t done so yet as i really dont have the time with hitting the gym everyday for a good 4 hours a day and just trying to make the most drastic changes i can in the next 5 weeks i have left before i see her again in classes. ---
**Author:** ![lifeoftheparty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ed8c4c/32.png) [@lifeoftheparty](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/lifeoftheparty)\ **Post date:** [December 19, 2016, 4:08pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/need-help-girl-said-she-lost-feelings-the-past-few-weeks/66165/53 "2016-12-19T16:08:54Z")
so on a side note i have a really funny experience from over the weekend with a1, i was at an old family friends party(mind you i left the house with a spray of CTTM2 and NPA) all was fun and good for the forst 2 hours just catching up with people. then hosts recent (week ago) ex girlfriend shows up(shes a 10/10 minimum). So just out of pure curiosity/bordem i went into the bathroom, sprayed on some a1(50mcg) to the back of my hands and sat back into my seat. when she came by her cousin who was sitting next to me she wouldn’t stop squirming; fixing her dress, tossing her hair around and just kept glancing at me. i just sat there and watched tv while being quiet entertained by her behavior at the bar drinking my seltzer water just to be a dick and see how long this will go on for. well she did this for about 10 minutes until her ex boyfriend came and introduced us at which point she called me out on my behavior and said i was “shying away over there” i simply laughed at her and continued on to mind my own business. (mind you if this was anybody elses ex i wouldn’t have though twice about it but the truth of the matter is, i just couldn’t do it to the guy. i have a whole sea of fish at school and this dude is set on getting wifed up from what i gathered that night.) but yea just my funny story from the weekend. ---
**Author:** ![lifeoftheparty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ed8c4c/32.png) [@lifeoftheparty](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/lifeoftheparty)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2016, 4:00am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/need-help-girl-said-she-lost-feelings-the-past-few-weeks/66165/54 "2016-12-21T04:00:18Z")
> [@mobocaster](#): > > This sounds to me like the wheel has turned full circle and you are back at the top of the cycle all over again. > > And its got very little to do with you - More I see it that she is back to finding any reason she can to end/shake-up the relationship to gratify her own feelings. > > IME this is a pretty typical behaviour pattern from women who have unstable/abusive/emotionally deprived backgrounds - When a relationship begins to solidify and move to its next stage, they can’t go there and seek (often unconsciously) to throw things back to the emotional highs and lows of when it started. > > This is where you need to short-circuit matters less destructively in advance of her starting to spin-out on you by introducing your own bit of dissonance to give her the emotional ups and downs she craves and it is time to think long and hard about if you really want to continue down this road as this can go-on for a very long time before she finally settles down to let a relationship move forward, sometimes for many years. So how does one go about short circuiting as you mentioned above? Can you elaborate or give me an example? Many thanks ---
**Author:** ![lifeoftheparty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ed8c4c/32.png) [@lifeoftheparty](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/lifeoftheparty)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2016, 4:24am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/need-help-girl-said-she-lost-feelings-the-past-few-weeks/66165/55 "2016-12-21T04:24:39Z")
> [@lifeoftheparty](#): > > So how does one go about short circuiting as you mentioned above? Can you elaborate or give me an example? Many thanks also mobocaster i have a very important question to ask you but cant run the risk of doing it on a public forum only to be indexed by google…lol ---
**Author:** ![mobocaster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c2a13f/32.png) [@mobocaster](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mobocaster)\ **Post date:** [December 22, 2016, 3:52am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/need-help-girl-said-she-lost-feelings-the-past-few-weeks/66165/56 "2016-12-22T03:52:13Z")
> [@lifeoftheparty](#): > > So how does one go about short circuiting as you mentioned above? Can you elaborate or give me an example? Many thanks Mainly by keeping a little mystery/life to yourself. Do stuff that doesn’t involve her, triggers her curiosity and keep your options open - a few friends she doesn’t really approve-of can also work wonders . Never put her completely at her ease about you. That way she she’s kept slightly challenged emotionally and has to keep-up with you, keep proving/qualifying herself and you don’t become the doormat to be walked over. PM me if you wish - I can go months between looking at my G+ account and I don’t do Whatsapp/FB etc. ---
**Author:** ![lifeoftheparty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ed8c4c/32.png) [@lifeoftheparty](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/lifeoftheparty)\ **Post date:** [December 26, 2016, 11:44pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/need-help-girl-said-she-lost-feelings-the-past-few-weeks/66165/57 "2016-12-26T23:44:00Z")
> [@mobocaster](#): > > Mainly by keeping a little mystery/life to yourself. Do stuff that doesn’t involve her, triggers her curiosity and keep your options open - a few friends she doesn’t really approve-of can also work wonders . Never put her completely at her ease about you. That way she she’s kept slightly challenged emotionally and has to keep-up with you, keep proving/qualifying herself and you don’t become the doormat to be walked over. > > PM me if you wish - I can go months between looking at my G+ account and I don’t do Whatsapp/FB etc. PM’d you ---
**Author:** ![mobocaster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c2a13f/32.png) [@mobocaster](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mobocaster)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2016, 2:20am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/need-help-girl-said-she-lost-feelings-the-past-few-weeks/66165/58 "2016-12-27T02:20:43Z")
Got it - had a visitor in all night so not had time to give you a proper reply - which I’ll try and do tomorrow. its 2:20 AM here and I’m fading! ---
**Author:** ![lifeoftheparty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ed8c4c/32.png) [@lifeoftheparty](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/lifeoftheparty)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2016, 7:53am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/need-help-girl-said-she-lost-feelings-the-past-few-weeks/66165/59 "2016-12-27T07:53:25Z")
its the holidays i get it, just making sure it didn’t get lost among the many others…lol thanks again ---
**Author:** ![lifeoftheparty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ed8c4c/32.png) [@lifeoftheparty](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/lifeoftheparty)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2017, 5:05am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/need-help-girl-said-she-lost-feelings-the-past-few-weeks/66165/60 "2017-01-19T05:05:56Z")
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