# New, gay, with questions **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [May 18, 2009, 10:35pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/new-gay-with-questions/29090 "2009-05-18T22:35:28Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Skyeguy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e9a140/32.png) [@Skyeguy](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Skyeguy)\ **Post date:** [May 18, 2009, 10:35pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/new-gay-with-questions/29090/1 "2009-05-18T22:35:28Z")
I came to this site in a search related to oxytocin because its purported pro-social effect. I’m generally comfortable with people I know or when I’m introduced to someone new, but I freeze up in groups, particularly in groups of strangers, like at bars or parties. I appear cool and calm but am anything but that underneath. Because I don’t appear nervous, people often assume I’m stuck up rather than too frightened to function. I have been looking into oxytocin in hope it will help break the ice in these types of situations. This site is taking me into additional areas, however, but here I’m confused since most of what’s published seems to be written with straight people in mind. Though I’d like to make friends of both genders, sexually I want to meet men. But most of what I read talks about men meeting women or women meeting men, which doesn’t apply. I don’t want to use something designed for men if it means I’ll be attracting women, but it’s rather pointless to use something designed for women if it means I’ll be attracting men who want women. How do I navigate the [pheromone](https://pheromonelabs.com/) waters? ---
**Author:** ![diamond](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/diamond/32/859_2.png) [@diamond](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/diamond)\ **Post date:** [May 18, 2009, 10:43pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/new-gay-with-questions/29090/2 "2009-05-18T22:43:51Z")
Hi Skye, welcome on board. Right, rest assured you are far from the ‘only gay in the village’ on this forum. Do a search for Mystery boy ( specific formulation for gay guys) and you’ll discover lots of information. As a generilisation, sexuality is irrelevant, women react to androstenone, gay guys react to androstenone, straight guys react to copulins, gay women react to Copulins. Now, before KatieA rips my head off, that is a generalisation 😃. If you want comfort and chattiness, look to the socials, IO, IH and I Shine. If you want subtle sexy, look to ammo, if you want rampant stud, then TUTH is the daddy. Your biggest friend on here will be the search button, learn to use it, learn to ask advice when needed and you will soon be fighting them off with a stick 😉 ---
**Author:** ![TheCentaur](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ea5d25/32.png) [@TheCentaur](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/TheCentaur)\ **Post date:** [May 18, 2009, 10:51pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/new-gay-with-questions/29090/3 "2009-05-18T22:51:57Z")
like diamond said, [pheromones](https://pheromonelabs.com/) aren’t gender specific, you can use whatever you would like to tailor your impressions with. but you must also remember that pheros enhance what you’ve already got, so pheros will definitely increase your chances of encounters, but it’s up to you to move them your direction. as for after that, they will definitely enhance any feelings you’ve got before, during, and after, too. searches are great, I try to do a few before I post a question. my preferences right now are CTTM2, TUTH, and Androsterone(a component of Instant Gentleman) there are a few threads about mystery boy. don’t worry, you’re in good hands here. welcome, and I hope we can help you out. p.s. how old are you and where are you from? age plays a big role in the pheromone dosage you apply, as well as the local weather. ---
**Author:** ![jamesbonded](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/jamesbonded/32/2090_2.png) [@jamesbonded](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/jamesbonded)\ **Post date:** [May 18, 2009, 11:20pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/new-gay-with-questions/29090/4 "2009-05-18T23:20:18Z")
Hi there, Welcome to the forum. For general social help, Shine and IO will help. Shine will boost your confidence and counter your shyness socially. IO will make the people want to talk to you. You will enjoy more conversation from people around you. For sexual attraction on men, try [Mystery Boy](https://a314.com/product/mystery-boy/). It is designed for gay community. Good luck ---
**Author:** ![Mtnjim](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mtnjim/32/2010_2.png) [@Mtnjim](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Mtnjim)\ **Post date:** [May 18, 2009, 11:26pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/new-gay-with-questions/29090/5 "2009-05-18T23:26:02Z")
Welcome aboard. Just remember that Gays and Lesbians are “wired backwards”. That is gays react to the same molecules as straight women and lesbians to the same molecules as straight men. So just follow the advice for catching a woman. ---
**Author:** ![Gone\_with\_the\_Wind](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/gone_with_the_wind/32/2227_2.png) [@Gone\_with\_the\_Wind](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Gone_with_the_Wind)\ **Post date:** [May 19, 2009, 4:20am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/new-gay-with-questions/29090/6 "2009-05-19T04:20:08Z")
I think it may be difficult to generalize to all gays. You might be interested in the social products, io and ih. They get people talking, regardless of gender. They might be what you’re looking for to break the ice with people. ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [May 20, 2009, 12:52am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/new-gay-with-questions/29090/7 "2009-05-20T00:52:14Z")
Hello Welcome to Pherotalk 🙂 Great advice from the members. Gay men would wear the same products the straight men wear to attract women usually spiked with a small amount of certain female mone molecules to soften the aggressiveness of it. This is why [Mystery Boy](https://a314.com/product/mystery-boy/) if such a great product for the Gay life style. Its got all the attraction of AMMO with some added female components all in one product. I also suggest Ishine for a warm charismatic charm. If you have questions just ask and we look forward to your participation in the forum. **Your GC is on its way** Tisha Hostess/Guide