# New guy with a fairly specific goal. **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [March 2, 2009, 3:48am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/new-guy-with-a-fairly-specific-goal/26647 "2009-03-02T03:48:30Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 8\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![KeepTalking](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/258eb7/32.png) [@KeepTalking](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/KeepTalking)\ **Post date:** [March 2, 2009, 3:48am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/new-guy-with-a-fairly-specific-goal/26647/1 "2009-03-02T03:48:30Z")
Hello, my name is James. The reason i find myself here today is, unsurprisingly a girl. This specific girl is a coworker and good friend of mine. However, she wants only to be a friend, while I would like more. i have expressed my feelings to her and she has told me they are not mutual, but that she still likes me as a friend. That old route. However, she seems like she’s not entirely opposed to the idea, but something is missing. Enter [pheromones](https://a314.com/shop/). Recently I come across an article on pheromones, which i was familiar with, however I did not know that they could be applied in such an active way. I find myself on this site as it certainly seems like the most helpful and trustworthy site on the matter. The problem is I am completely new to the world of pheromones. All of the different types seem like they would be helpful, so I really don’t know which to choose or in what amounts to use it. A bit more: I know this girl pretty well so it’s not like I have trouble talking to her, but I’m a little shy and have trouble ‘seducing’ her if you will. We also have very different tastes and are really quite dissimilar people, which i feel has been another factor in holding a relationship back. I’m not hideous but my looks won’t win her over. Maybe I appear boring or too different to her. I feel like I just need a little something to give me the edge to make that leap into something more, and then I’ll be good to go. Anyway, thanks for hearing me out on this and any advice is much appreciated. If it doesn’t work I don’t really care, I just want to give it a try. Thanks, James ---
**Author:** ![therapygirl](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/therapygirl/32/1880_2.png) [@therapygirl](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/therapygirl)\ **Post date:** [March 2, 2009, 3:50am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/new-guy-with-a-fairly-specific-goal/26647/2 "2009-03-02T03:50:54Z")
Hello James! You came to the right place! You should try some Instant honesty to help you both open up and her to feel closer and bonded to you. A little Androstenone may heat up the sexual side of it for you! I hope this helps! ---
**Author:** ![future777](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/future777/32/2258_2.png) [@future777](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/future777)\ **Post date:** [March 2, 2009, 3:54am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/new-guy-with-a-fairly-specific-goal/26647/3 "2009-03-02T03:54:08Z")
Hey James and welcome to the forum! Based on your description, I recommend Ammo. It is an attractant that can be worn in daily situations and consistently shows great results. You say that you are shy. [Instant Shine](https://a314.com/product/shine/) is a great social mone that seems to really bring out the best in people. It gives many users the effects of more self confidence, and people will really enjoy being around you. It projects you as a fun, “vital” guy. ---
**Author:** ![jessejester](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/jessejester/32/1683_2.png) [@jessejester](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/jessejester)\ **Post date:** [March 2, 2009, 5:19am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/new-guy-with-a-fairly-specific-goal/26647/4 "2009-03-02T05:19:20Z")
Hi James, Welcome to the forum. I agree with Future, [Ammo](https://a314.com/product/ammo/) is a great atraction product. I would also suggest some Instant shine to go with it. It sounds like you may need a bit of a confidence boost. I had the same problem. Ammo and IS together really boosts my mood and confidence. As therapy girl said IH is a great product too, and is really good for deepening convo. Your in a good forum. The people here are very knowledgable about the products, and are great at giving advice. Let us know what you decide on, and good luck ---
**Author:** ![Gone\_with\_the\_Wind](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/gone_with_the_wind/32/2227_2.png) [@Gone\_with\_the\_Wind](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Gone_with_the_Wind)\ **Post date:** [March 2, 2009, 5:43am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/new-guy-with-a-fairly-specific-goal/26647/5 "2009-03-02T05:43:11Z")
This is just a gut feeling, but I’d hold off on IH for now. You might hear something you’d rather not, and that could cause her to firm up a classification that hasn’t entirely solidified yet. I’d suggest some ammo to throw in a bit of sexual interest. After a few days of that then try the IH and the “honest reaction” may be different. ---
**Author:** ![d23](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/d23/32/1465_2.png) [@d23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/d23)\ **Post date:** [March 2, 2009, 11:53am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/new-guy-with-a-fairly-specific-goal/26647/6 "2009-03-02T11:53:08Z")
> [@Gone\_with\_the\_Wind](#): > > This is just a gut feeling, but I’d hold off on IH for now. You might hear something you’d rather not, and that could cause her to firm up a classification that hasn’t entirely solidified yet. > > I’d suggest some ammo to throw in a bit of sexual interest. After a few days of that then try the IH and the “honest reaction” may be different. I agree Ammo and Instant Shine as [Instant Honesty](https://a314.com/product/instant-honesty/) may only chuck you deeper into the Friend zone and we dont want that heppening ---
**Author:** ![Lor](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/lor/32/759_2.png) [@Lor](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Lor)\ **Post date:** [March 2, 2009, 1:29pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/new-guy-with-a-fairly-specific-goal/26647/7 "2009-03-02T13:29:51Z")
heres an idea. find something you _do_ have in common. if the only thing 2 people have in common is that they both like sex, that will never be enough to get her off the fence. if you both are truely that different, i can see why she has blown this off,even if there is some attraction. try getting interested in what she likes and who she is. in this way, IH wouldnt be so bad. ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [March 3, 2009, 2:19am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/new-guy-with-a-fairly-specific-goal/26647/8 "2009-03-03T02:19:57Z")
Hello Welcome to Pherotalk 🙂 I am gonna be straight up with you here. If she is truly not interested mones wont change that. They enhance whats already there make it more noticeable. Please read “what mones can do and what they cant do” in my signature below. Now that being said… If she does have feelings for you that she is suppressing then mones can help those come to the surface more. I suggest AMMO for a mildly arousing sex appeal to help her see more then a friend. IH for a deep feeling of closeness and connection and to help open her up more. If you have any questions just ask. **Your GC is on its way** 😉 Tisha Hostess/Guide