Confident/attractive- I suggest AMMO and Instant Shine.
Approachable male- I suggest IO or Come Talk To Me 2
I came to this forum with a confidence problem, and found that Ammo, IS, and IO worn together has given my confidence a huge boost. Just make sure you try them out seperatly first. It will really help you in the long run. There is alot of great info in the sticky section. good luck
Take some time to read these threads. They will explain alot.