# New member from Singapore **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [November 28, 2012, 12:08am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/new-member-from-singapore/57386 "2012-11-28T00:08:45Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 10\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![thenns](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/779978/32.png) [@thenns](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/thenns)\ **Post date:** [November 28, 2012, 12:08am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/new-member-from-singapore/57386/1 "2012-11-28T00:08:45Z")
Hello all everyone, I am a new member from Singapore. I am 37 yo, male married with 3 kids and a lovely wife. Why am I here? Well, I am trying to save my marriage and a little help from [pheromones](https://pheromonelabs.com/) will not hurt since I am at my wits end. Long story short, my wife has committed emotional infidelity with her client and partly due to my lack of TLC to her. I still love her very much and I want to salvage my marriage with her. Today we are cordial and is leading a superficial happy life. Sex with her is non-existent and a marraige without sex is doom. She does not want me to touch her without love and I guess she is still mad at me for not agreeing to have sex with her when she ask for it. So although we are still going out happily for date nights, there is something lacking in our sex life. I am hoping with the use of pheromones and kickstart the level of trust with her and slowly work my way up to have a healthy marriage with her. I would appreciate if members can offer some advices on which one should I purchase first. ---
**Author:** ![SomeoneOrNot](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/someoneornot/32/205_2.png) [@SomeoneOrNot](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/SomeoneOrNot)\ **Post date:** [November 28, 2012, 12:46am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/new-member-from-singapore/57386/2 "2012-11-28T00:46:18Z")
Wow, well it is important to understand that pheromones are not going to solve anything by themselves. They can help with situations, and they might be able to help with yours, but they will not be the solution - only help. Still, if you are looking for trust and rapport-building I find Instant Honesty is a very good pheromone to start with. Along with that, I would say that you need to think about how the distance between you formed - you said there was a lack of TLC in the relationship? I don’t know about your culture very well, but in my experience this is the sort of thing that can make a woman (or a man) feel unimportant to their partner and hurt their self-esteem. I would say that along with the Instant Honesty, good old-fashioned communication is very helpful. If that works, you might consider trying [Instant Gentleman](https://a314.com/product/gentleman/) or Ammo further down the line…but for now it sounds like you’re trying to repair trust and communications in the relationship, so I’d worry about rebuilding the sexual component after the bond isn’t so troubled. ---
**Author:** ![thenns](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/779978/32.png) [@thenns](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/thenns)\ **Post date:** [November 28, 2012, 12:50am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/new-member-from-singapore/57386/3 "2012-11-28T00:50:40Z")
> [@SomeoneOrNot](#): > > Wow, well it is important to understand that pheromones are not going to solve anything by themselves. They can help with situations, and they might be able to help with yours, but they will not be the solution - only help. > > Still, if you are looking for trust and rapport-building I find Instant Honesty is a very good pheromone to start with. Along with that, I would say that you need to think about how the distance between you formed - you said there was a lack of TLC in the relationship? I don’t know about your culture very well, but in my experience this is the sort of thing that can make a woman (or a man) feel unimportant to their partner and hurt their self-esteem. I would say that along with the Instant Honesty, good old-fashioned communication is very helpful. > > If that works, you might consider trying Instant Gentleman or Ammo further down the line…but for now it sounds like you’re trying to repair trust and communications in the relationship, so I’d worry about rebuilding the sexual component after the bond isn’t so troubled. Hi, Thanks for the reply. I truly understand pheromones can only kickstart or help with the situation I have. I am trying to repair trust and is actively communicating with my other half. I also recognise the fact that pheromones may or may not help with my issues but there is no harm trying. As the saying goes, the only way is up when you hit rock bottom. I just want to get out of the bottom as quickly as I can. ---
**Author:** ![SomeoneOrNot](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/someoneornot/32/205_2.png) [@SomeoneOrNot](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/SomeoneOrNot)\ **Post date:** [November 28, 2012, 1:04am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/new-member-from-singapore/57386/4 "2012-11-28T01:04:26Z")
That’s good! If you have a realistic view of what pheromones can and can’t do you’re more likely to get good use out of them. I definitely would recommend [Instant Honesty](https://a314.com/product/instant-honesty/) - it’s great for bonding, in my experience. ---
**Author:** ![thenns](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/779978/32.png) [@thenns](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/thenns)\ **Post date:** [November 28, 2012, 1:11am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/new-member-from-singapore/57386/5 "2012-11-28T01:11:16Z")
> [@SomeoneOrNot](#): > > That’s good! If you have a realistic view of what pheromones can and can’t do you’re more likely to get good use out of them. I definitely would recommend Instant Honesty - it’s great for bonding, in my experience. Indeed. I do have a very realistic view of what this product can do. I do not expect it to be an instant success. Anything that can help to “oil the rusty wheel to get it rolling quicker”, if you get drift, certainly help a lot. I will definitely try out the [Instant Honesty](https://a314.com/product/instant-honesty/) for a start. That is if I qualify for the $25 voucher. ---
**Author:** ![SomeoneOrNot](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/someoneornot/32/205_2.png) [@SomeoneOrNot](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/SomeoneOrNot)\ **Post date:** [November 28, 2012, 1:23am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/new-member-from-singapore/57386/6 "2012-11-28T01:23:17Z")
Good luck! I wish you the best, keep us posted! ---
**Author:** ![bigjoe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/b9bd4f/32.png) [@bigjoe](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/bigjoe)\ **Post date:** [November 28, 2012, 7:53pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/new-member-from-singapore/57386/7 "2012-11-28T19:53:08Z")
Hi thenns, I can’t really add much more than what SomeoneOrNot said, except that A314 would also be a good one to check out. It’s known for helping with trust and respect which you are looking for in your situation, though again keep that realistic view on how much this would help. I wish you the best of luck! ---
**Author:** ![thenns](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/779978/32.png) [@thenns](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/thenns)\ **Post date:** [November 28, 2012, 8:24pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/new-member-from-singapore/57386/8 "2012-11-28T20:24:01Z")
thank you for your advise. I will keep. mind. ---
**Author:** ![Kelsey](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/kelsey/32/8468_2.png) [@Kelsey](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Kelsey)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2012, 12:26pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/new-member-from-singapore/57386/9 "2012-11-30T12:26:34Z")
Welcome Thenns, Yes as someone said pheromones will not fix your problems but open up communication and the person to try solving these problems Emotional infidelity is more serious than the actual act especially since women are emotional creatures, most of us IH should open her up to talk but will also help with bringing about a closeness and intimacy I have experienced in my past relationships when using this product I suggest you use the times when you guys go out for dinner to use Ammo to give of that strong, masculine vibe and let her know without saying too much you are interested. It is subtle to be worn daily and to also give that punch Instant shine to make her feel good around you like she use to and while your pheromones are working so should you When you say your wife doesn’t have love you need to give her what she wants and needs, affection, understanding and whatever else she is getting out there she wants from you Most of all be patient I pray all the best for you and your marriage **Your gc was issued!** ---
**Author:** ![thenns](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/779978/32.png) [@thenns](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/thenns)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2012, 7:03pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/new-member-from-singapore/57386/10 "2012-11-30T19:03:46Z")
> [@kelsey](#): > > Welcome Thenns, > > Yes as someone said pheromones will not fix your problems but open up communication and the person to try solving these problems > > Emotional infidelity is more serious than the actual act especially since women are emotional creatures, most of us > > IH should open her up to talk but will also help with bringing about a closeness and intimacy I have experienced in my past relationships when using this product > > I suggest you use the times when you guys go out for dinner to use Ammo to give of that strong, masculine vibe and let her know without saying too much you are interested. It is subtle to be worn daily and to also give that punch > > Instant shine to make her feel good around you like she use to and while your pheromones are working so should you > > When you say your wife doesn’t have love you need to give her what she wants and needs, affection, understanding and whatever else she is getting out there she wants from you > > Most of all be patient > > I pray all the best for you and your marriage > > **Your gc was issued!** Hi Mickaelia, Thank you for your advice. I am realisitic about the use of pheromones on my situation and at the end of the day, it is up to me to make it work. I had already purchase the newbie kit and cant wait to use it and see if communication between her and myself can improve. Once again thanks for your advice.