# New to smartmones: is ISb or IO the safer choice around my ex boyfriend? **URL:** \ **Category:** Women's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [August 28, 2016, 5:42pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/new-to-smartmones-is-isb-or-io-the-safer-choice-around-my-ex-boyfriend/66329 "2016-08-28T17:42:17Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 3\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Sjdonahue](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/bbce88/32.png) [@Sjdonahue](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Sjdonahue)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2016, 5:42pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/new-to-smartmones-is-isb-or-io-the-safer-choice-around-my-ex-boyfriend/66329/1 "2016-08-28T17:42:17Z")
Hello. I tried ISb in a bar-concert environment and it has been my only social experience with it so far. I had mixed results, I’ll paste some of what I wrote in another post: "I’m from a small city and know most of the people who went on some level. I used 2.5 sprays (I sprayed onto a piece of plastic then dabbed it on me with my finger because I have a sensitive nose). Over the next hour I became easily frustrated and was in an unnecessarily bad mood, but by the time I got to the club I was feeling much better. Throughout the night, one person pretty much clung to me, some who don’t normally talk to me struck up conversation, I got a lot of hugs, and even some of the females who I thought didn’t like me were being nice to me. But some of the guys who’ve flirted with me in the past seemed to bounce back and forth throughout the night. They’d come over for a minute or two, happy to see me, then look distracted and leave. That went on the whole night. One of them had been telling me throughout the night the he was glad I came, happy to see me, etc, but when I sent him a message later on he read it and ignored it (It wasn’t a weird message, so that’s not why he ignored it). When I woke up the next morning, the scent had worn off but the unmistakable “sweat” smell from the [pheromones](https://a314.com/) was left behind and I instantly got a shower. I’m wondering if I may have used too much, if maybe it smelled bad or if it just didn’t have a good reaction depending on the person." I’ve been curious to try mones around my ex. But with these experiences, I got to wondering if ISb may have a negative effect on him and turn him off, or intimidate him or something, or that he’ll hate the smell. I’m also wondering if anyone has had a negative experience with IO. I’d like for him to open up to me or at least feel more comfortable, but I’m afraid that it’ll just make me too talkative or spill something emotional, which I feel would turn him off also. Delicate territory lol. Any input or personal experiences are welcome 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![1Alpha](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/1alpha/32/190_2.png) [@1Alpha](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/1Alpha)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2016, 5:27pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/new-to-smartmones-is-isb-or-io-the-safer-choice-around-my-ex-boyfriend/66329/2 "2016-08-31T17:27:47Z")
So here is my answer on the Men’s forum: > [@Mixed ISb results at a bar from a male perspective: is it wise to wear near my ex?](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/new-to-smartmones-mixed-results-is-it-wise-to-try-isb-or-io-around-my-ex-boyfriend/66330/13): > > Now, just to get this out of the way… What do you envision happening if you approach him sans mones? What would likely happen? I mean, you KNOW what he likes to see, what you wear and how to talk to him, you know, 1 1/2 years, you do pick up more than you realize, ESPECIALLY, you Women who have an additional sixth sense of these things, even the Geeky types.. wink Look, you do care for the guy, you’ve learned from your mistakes, and you’ve realized that you may be the only one doing the lea… Be strong and powerful! 1Alpha . ---
**Author:** ![justintime469](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/justintime469/32/1402_2.png) [@justintime469](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/justintime469)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2016, 12:11pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/new-to-smartmones-is-isb-or-io-the-safer-choice-around-my-ex-boyfriend/66329/3 "2016-09-02T12:11:57Z")
With your Ex it really depends on your goal and what you are trying to achieve here. I think you are safe using IS/B around him and because you 2 know each other I would not use the IO with him because it is not needed. If you have IH it would be worth a try to spray some on your wrists to see what he tells you. With IS/B there should be no intimidation and you should be ok in this area. I have actually tested IS/B and IS/A and is in the link below in my journal so you can see how it effected me and others around me.