# new too the crew **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [November 8, 2009, 1:10pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/new-too-the-crew/33915 "2009-11-08T13:10:12Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 6\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![rutabuga](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/f08c70/32.png) [@rutabuga](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/rutabuga)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2009, 1:10pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/new-too-the-crew/33915/1 "2009-11-08T13:10:12Z")
hey I’m Mitch from England male aged 20 Im from south london but am living in oxford at the moment for university. I’m have never really been to good with the ladies and since my freak up with my three year girlfriend I realised I really don’t have many female companions. Mainly because of a lack of confidence I have. I’m hoping with the help of some [pheromones](https://a314.com/shop/) I can skip the unsettling introductions and get strait to the interesting parts. Not sure really where to start though do I jump straight into the deep end and try everything or start out small? Or try out the test pheromones? I ultimate aim is to get my ex to realise that I’m a better person now, which is hard as she try hard to avoid me, but gets along well with me when we do meet up. Its extra frustrating as she lives with a friend of mine who I see multiple times a week ---
**Author:** ![jamesbonded](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/jamesbonded/32/2090_2.png) [@jamesbonded](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/jamesbonded)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2009, 1:20pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/new-too-the-crew/33915/2 "2009-11-08T13:20:34Z")
Hi there, Welcome. Sorry to hear about the break up. You can try IG, Shine and IO. IG will make girls feel you are the man. They will respect, trust and think you are capable. SHine will counter your shymess. It can also help to lighten your mood and the mood of the people around you. People will like to stay around you. IO will open up people. Tey will think they want to approach you and sart a conversation with you. Good luck ---
**Author:** ![Gone\_with\_the\_Wind](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/gone_with_the_wind/32/2227_2.png) [@Gone\_with\_the\_Wind](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Gone_with_the_Wind)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2009, 2:12pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/new-too-the-crew/33915/3 "2009-11-08T14:12:40Z")
Welcome to the forum. Great advice in the post above. The pheromones will help make the intro’s more fun but in most cases will not eliminate them. ---
**Author:** ![Kelsey](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/kelsey/32/8468_2.png) [@Kelsey](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Kelsey)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2009, 5:36pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/new-too-the-crew/33915/4 "2009-11-08T17:36:33Z")
Welcome to Rutabuga! You should always take things slow and or start at the beginning and work your way up. It allows for building a strong foundation that makes it hard to break what you built up. Confidence is key to everything in life. A good way to build up confidence is by working on yourself and always remembering that you can do something someone can’t and have something special about you. It really helps to develops skills and self. Pheromones are not magic and can’t fix relationships. I suggest you live your life and continue to work on yourself and if it has to happen you will get your girlfriend back or someone even better. Don’t allow yourself to be frustrated instead put that energy in something else that will allow you to grow. I am still missing some information to give you your gift certificate. Here is a link to assist you. [https://pheromonetalk.com/t/how-do-i-qualify-for-a-25-gift-certificate/19934](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/how-do-i-qualify-for-a-25-gift-certificate/19934) ---
**Author:** ![Warm\_It\_Up\_Chris](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/34f0e0/32.png) [@Warm\_It\_Up\_Chris](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Warm_It_Up_Chris)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2009, 9:19pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/new-too-the-crew/33915/5 "2009-11-08T21:19:29Z")
> [@rutabuga](#): > > hey I’m Mitch from England > > I’m have never really been to good with the ladies and since my freak up with my three year girlfriend I realised I really don’t have many female companions. Mainly because of a lack of confidence I have. I’m hoping with the help of some pheromones I can skip the unsettling introductions and get strait to the interesting parts. > > Not sure really where to start though do I jump straight into the deep end and try everything or start out small? > Or try out the test pheromones? > I ultimate aim is to get my ex to realise that I’m a better person now, which is hard as she try hard to avoid me, but gets along well with me when we do meet up. Its extra frustrating as she lives with a friend of mine who I see multiple times a week Heya Mitch! Welcome to the most interesting and informative forums available for pheromone usage! Sorry to hear about your break-up but the good news is that you have just located a place where you can find information on products that can really assist you in the social interaction department! In order for experts to recommend the products best suited to you, there is some information that would be good to know. You had mentioned that you are kind of shy around women and that you feel confidence is an issue, what were you’re interactions like before you started dating your girlfriend? If you felt you could meet someone new would you be able to get past the old relationship? Where and how had you met women before and were these typically successful interactions? Looks likes some good suggestions that have been put out there for pheros to try. I really like Instant Shine and feel it has down a lot to bolster my own confidence in social situations. A314 is great for work with the caveat that it can increase status sometimes to the point to be counter productive with attaining a greater level of social interaction, (people thinking you are “out of their league, so to speak”). Very important if you use A314 to buffer with social mixes like Instant shine, Instant Openness and Come Talk to Me 2. I have received the benefit of increased self-confidence when I have used it. Another product that is highly recommended on the forum is [Instant Gentleman](https://a314.com/product/gentleman/). Have not used I/G but have been seriously considering picking up a bottle as it is buffered to counteract the increase in status. Anyway, good luck getting back on the horse, and I really do wish you all the best, man! ---
**Author:** ![rutabuga](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/f08c70/32.png) [@rutabuga](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/rutabuga)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2009, 10:23pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/new-too-the-crew/33915/6 "2009-11-08T22:23:34Z")
hey thanks for the tips im looking forward to trying this stuff out, have dded a little to my post hope i qualify now.