# New User from Philadelphia, PA **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [September 5, 2009, 12:48am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/new-user-from-philadelphia-pa/32200 "2009-09-05T00:48:00Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 6\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![namdsibor](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/7ba0ec/32.png) [@namdsibor](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/namdsibor)\ **Post date:** [September 5, 2009, 12:48am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/new-user-from-philadelphia-pa/32200/1 "2009-09-05T00:48:00Z")
Hi, My name is Rob from Philadelphia, PA. I just turned 28, have two kids and basically married for 12 years now (not officially 🙂… Just with the same person). I know there are a few colognes/scents out there that attract or turn-on people. I don’t think I was ever a guy to have one of those colognes though… I always just heard from my wife or other girls of how good a guy may smell. Well, I have long desired to be that person that walks buy girls in a mall/bar and can get them to look up at me as I seen done for others. 2nd… After 12 years with the same person, my sex life has kind of become a boring. We are very open to each other, and I am just looking for something to really take it to the next step. Instead of it all just being talk, I was hoping to have action. Hope someone can help. Thanks, Rob ---
**Author:** ![tezza23](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/tezza23/32/1375_2.png) [@tezza23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tezza23)\ **Post date:** [September 5, 2009, 12:57am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/new-user-from-philadelphia-pa/32200/2 "2009-09-05T00:57:24Z")
Hey Rob, On the pheromone front I’d recommend Turn Up The Heat, that can get women very turned on. For her, Instant Sexiness may be worth trying; makes a woman feel sexy and confident, and makes a man think she’s more sexy. [Instant Honesty](https://a314.com/product/instant-honesty/) can deepen the communication between you, even though you are open to each other, it may be worth trying… You could also try Instant Shine; it just makes people feel good around you. Which can always be good. ---
**Author:** ![Gone\_with\_the\_Wind](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/gone_with_the_wind/32/2227_2.png) [@Gone\_with\_the\_Wind](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Gone_with_the_Wind)\ **Post date:** [September 5, 2009, 1:51am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/new-user-from-philadelphia-pa/32200/3 "2009-09-05T01:51:02Z")
Welcome Rob. Tell us a bit about your personality, and that of your sig other. How do you relate to each other now? How would you like that to change? ---
**Author:** ![moonwhisper](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/moonwhisper/32/1735_2.png) [@moonwhisper](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/moonwhisper)\ **Post date:** [September 5, 2009, 1:55pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/new-user-from-philadelphia-pa/32200/4 "2009-09-05T13:55:50Z")
Hi Rob, welcome to the forum. I came here for similar reasons, things had grown quiet and sort of stale at home. I hope you find as much success with these products as I have. There is no one-size-fits-all cure, so take a deep breath. This isn’t going to mend itself in a day, and there’s always more than meets the eye. First of all let me say that women are not anything like men. I understand your desire to increase/improve the sex in your relationship, but for us girls there’s always a little more to it. Often a decrease in sex is a symptom of a decrease in some other intimacy that is vital to us. For instance, if your communication has taken a nose-dive, then she will find it harder to be physically intimate with you in the bedroom. If you used to be attentive and considerate, but not anymore, she will not be nearly as likely to be attentive in the bedroom as she used to be. I don’t mean to discourage you, and I hope you don’t feel as if I’m criticizing. I’m not. Just speaking from experience, and from a female perspective. I always recommend [Instant Honesty](https://a314.com/product/instant-honesty/) for those who are in a relationship, because it helps so much in re-opening the lines of communication, or deepening them, so that those underlying causes can be revealed. I think that’s the first order of business, Instant Honesty. Turn up the Heat is androstenone based, unbuffered and not the least bit subtle. It clearly states your intentions, and will sexually arouse her. Whether or not she acts on that is up to her. Pheros do not turn people into robots, and often we suppress the signals we’re receiving due to social constraints, or because our minds have overridden them for any number of reasons. It doesn’t work like Ocean’s 13. That’s a fairy tale. One more thought, an important one. You’ve been together for a long time. She is already very familiar with the pheromone signature that you produce naturally, every day. Any sudden changes may spark some suspicions, at least at first. Try to be patient. It took my husband a month to stop giving me suspicious glances and to just relax and react to the pheros. A lot of spouses don’t take that long to come around, but you should know about the possibility ahead of time. Glad you’re here. Hope to hear what you chose and how it worked out for you. ---
**Author:** ![namdsibor](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/7ba0ec/32.png) [@namdsibor](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/namdsibor)\ **Post date:** [September 7, 2009, 1:31pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/new-user-from-philadelphia-pa/32200/5 "2009-09-07T13:31:29Z")
Can I use more than one at the same time? Thanks MoonWhisper for the great advice. Actually even when things are shitty elsewhere in our relationship she doesn’t normally hold out on sex. I do here a lot of other girls do that, I guess I am very fortunate there. Sometimes we are just not on the same page… I am sure there is a psychological reason for everything we do and don’t do, and ways to try to repair it. Yes, 12 years is a longtime, and I have tried much, with little success, which is why I am here now. I guess I can explain it like this; she is in the mood a few times a week as am I, but the timing is never right, so I wanted more control over that. So that way it’s not a 1am thing on a day I have to be to work at 6am. Also, lets say we each have our fantasies, and we both are very open in those areas (we talked about these things often), but it is very difficult to get her to act when the moment has arrived, it’s like her shyness overcomes her. I seen her wildside and it just takes a lot of damn work to get it out. So it’s there, and just need help on getting it out on-demand, if there is such a thing. I forgot about Ocean’s 13, that part probably got a lot of people looking, lol. But its not like that, I am not desperate to get some girl who I just met to sleep with me at the drop of a dime. I am trying to get suppressed desires to come out of a girl which after 12 years she still holds back. > [@moonwhisper](#): > > Hi Rob, welcome to the forum. > > I came here for similar reasons, things had grown quiet and sort of stale at home. I hope you find as much success with these products as I have. > > There is no one-size-fits-all cure, so take a deep breath. This isn’t going to mend itself in a day, and there’s always more than meets the eye. First of all let me say that women are not anything like men. I understand your desire to increase/improve the sex in your relationship, but for us girls there’s always a little more to it. Often a decrease in sex is a symptom of a decrease in some other intimacy that is vital to us. For instance, if your communication has taken a nose-dive, then she will find it harder to be physically intimate with you in the bedroom. If you used to be attentive and considerate, but not anymore, she will not be nearly as likely to be attentive in the bedroom as she used to be. > > I don’t mean to discourage you, and I hope you don’t feel as if I’m criticizing. I’m not. Just speaking from experience, and from a female perspective. I always recommend Instant Honesty for those who are in a relationship, because it helps so much in re-opening the lines of communication, or deepening them, so that those underlying causes can be revealed. > I think that’s the first order of business, Instant Honesty. > > Turn up the Heat is androstenone based, unbuffered and not the least bit subtle. It clearly states your intentions, and will sexually arouse her. Whether or not she acts on that is up to her. Pheros do not turn people into robots, and often we suppress the signals we’re receiving due to social constraints, or because our minds have overridden them for any number of reasons. It doesn’t work like Ocean’s 13. That’s a fairy tale. > > One more thought, an important one. You’ve been together for a long time. She is already very familiar with the pheromone signature that you produce naturally, every day. Any sudden changes may spark some suspicions, at least at first. Try to be patient. It took my husband a month to stop giving me suspicious glances and to just relax and react to the pheros. A lot of spouses don’t take that long to come around, but you should know about the possibility ahead of time. > > Glad you’re here. Hope to hear what you chose and how it worked out for you. ---
**Author:** ![SteveO](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/87869e/32.png) [@SteveO](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/SteveO)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2009, 7:44pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/new-user-from-philadelphia-pa/32200/6 "2009-09-08T19:44:23Z")
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