# Newbie woman: Instant Sexiness seems to push my target away, what now? **URL:** \ **Category:** Women's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [July 21, 2008, 3:38pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/newbie-woman-instant-sexiness-seems-to-push-my-target-away-what-now/15997 "2008-07-21T15:38:25Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 8\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Smitten](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a4c791/32.png) [@Smitten](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Smitten)\ **Post date:** [July 21, 2008, 3:38pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/newbie-woman-instant-sexiness-seems-to-push-my-target-away-what-now/15997/1 "2008-07-21T15:38:25Z")
Hey EVERYONE! I’m extremely new to the world of [pheromones](https://a314.com/) and to this whole scene, but look forward to getting to know you guys . I just started using Instant Sexiness . . . it hasn’t really done anything as of yet - towards my intended target . . . don’t know why, but I had had the impression that this person was somewhat attracted to me, was given the advice to try Instant Sexiness, and if anything it seems to drive him away - make him indifferent . . . and NO it wasn’t in my head about the way he felt! Any new suggestions? ---
**Author:** ![Wrlprchnx](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/wrlprchnx/32/1360_2.png) [@Wrlprchnx](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Wrlprchnx)\ **Post date:** [July 21, 2008, 4:43pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/newbie-woman-instant-sexiness-seems-to-push-my-target-away-what-now/15997/2 "2008-07-21T16:43:02Z")
How many sprays did you use and where? IS/A or IS/B… I’ve read that IS/A can produce the opposite to intended effect on some guys (Read - Hostility) because it makes an alpha female type feeling (and some guys just can’t handle a strong woman). If you have any socials maybe you can try buffering the sexiness with some Shine or [Instant Openness](https://a314.com/product/instant-openness/)? ---
**Author:** ![Smitten](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a4c791/32.png) [@Smitten](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Smitten)\ **Post date:** [July 21, 2008, 5:04pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/newbie-woman-instant-sexiness-seems-to-push-my-target-away-what-now/15997/3 "2008-07-21T17:04:07Z")
well I sprayed it behind my ears, wrist, elbow and knee joints, armpits, hair, just pheromones all over . . . I did NOT see that mentioned anywhere on the site about it being way too overpowering, can I somehow tone it down? spray less? or do you suppose it doesn’t sit well w my own perfume? I really like this guy, totally not want to scare him away ---
**Author:** ![queenie-t](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/queenie-t/32/1580_2.png) [@queenie-t](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/queenie-t)\ **Post date:** [July 21, 2008, 5:16pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/newbie-woman-instant-sexiness-seems-to-push-my-target-away-what-now/15997/4 "2008-07-21T17:16:30Z")
yeah.. it maybe he doesnt like the alpha vibes… i think the good advice above applies.. try more buffers (Instant shine or openness.. or maybe even honesty).. if that doesn’t work.. he maybe a tah boy. so is/b or mx135 applies.. good luck!! (just fyi my hubby responds that way to the tah’s and much much better to tal (is/a) ).. so it just depends on the guy… and well.. the girl too 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Wrlprchnx](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/wrlprchnx/32/1360_2.png) [@Wrlprchnx](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Wrlprchnx)\ **Post date:** [July 21, 2008, 6:16pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/newbie-woman-instant-sexiness-seems-to-push-my-target-away-what-now/15997/5 "2008-07-21T18:16:23Z")
> [@Smitten](#): > > well I sprayed it behind my ears, wrist, elbow and knee joints, armpits, hair, just pheromones all over . . . I did NOT see that mentioned anywhere on the site about it being way too overpowering, can I somehow tone it down? spray less? or do you suppose it doesn’t sit well w my own perfume? I really like this guy, totally not want to scare him away If I’m reading this right you have 5-8 sprays on? That is definetly TOO MUCH! Try 1-2 sprays - split between your neck and wrists to start off with - try to stay away from armpits, knee pits and the “private” areas - apparently its basically useless putting 'mones there. Hope this helps ---
**Author:** ![msselva](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/msselva/32/943_2.png) [@msselva](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/msselva)\ **Post date:** [July 21, 2008, 6:24pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/newbie-woman-instant-sexiness-seems-to-push-my-target-away-what-now/15997/6 "2008-07-21T18:24:26Z")
> [@Wrlprchnx](#): > > If I’m reading this right you have 5-8 sprays on? That is definetly TOO MUCH! 5-8 sprays? 😮 omg girl, that is definately too much lol, I think you may have “overwelmed” him. Start with little and build it up, don’t jump into high doses so fast. You’re wasting your pheros and you’re not really getting the results you want. If you think is/a makes you come out too strong, buffer it with some tah/instant shine or mx135, and it should balance out well. ---
**Author:** ![djacquelyn](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/djacquelyn/32/2180_2.png) [@djacquelyn](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/djacquelyn)\ **Post date:** [July 21, 2008, 7:08pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/newbie-woman-instant-sexiness-seems-to-push-my-target-away-what-now/15997/7 "2008-07-21T19:08:55Z")
> [@msselva](#): > > 5-8 sprays? 😮 > > omg girl, that is definately too much lol, I think you may have “overwelmed” him. > > Start with little and build it up, don’t jump into high doses so fast. You’re wasting your pheros and you’re not really getting the results you want. > > If you think is/a makes you come out too strong, buffer it with some tah/instant shine or mx135, and it should balance out well. Welcome, Yeah, what Mselva said. Maybe a bit too much, so even if you used the proper type Instant sexiness, he may have felt way out of sorts as it was hard for him to adjust to you new signature, which he would already need some time to get use to it, but now havin worn so much I think his system was going crazy like an overload of sorts. Definitely try it agin with maybe one-two sprays to say your wrist or chest…if he still seems to pull away or seems aloof try adding some Tah if you have it…give him a couple days of wear to get use to the pheromone signature and see if it makes a difference… If all else fails you can try IS/B to see if he responds better. Two stickies that will definitely help you out are [Womens pheromone](https://phera.com/) guide and What pheromones can and cannot do. These are located in this section at the top of the page and are very helpful source to us newbies…I still read them over and over. Good luck and don’t worry between all the helpful people here and all the info to read you will get it right I promise 😉 djacquelyn 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [July 21, 2008, 11:05pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/newbie-woman-instant-sexiness-seems-to-push-my-target-away-what-now/15997/8 "2008-07-21T23:05:53Z")
5 to 8 sprays is a big change in your natural pheromone signature for him to adjust to that quickly. Plus dont spray it in your pits the bacteria there just converts the pheromones and makes them smelly. You want to enhance not overwhelm. 2 sprays hair and chest, work with that and let him get used to it. Later on once he is adjusted to this new sig you can up the dose if you need to. Keep in mind there are two kinds of [Instant sexiness](https://phera.com/product/instant-sexiness/). If A comes on to strong for you then try B. Dont forget the guarantee. Tisha