# not having congruence on purpose

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**Category:** Men's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\
**Created:** [January 22, 2009, 10:33pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/not-having-congruence-on-purpose/25232 "2009-01-22T22:33:37Z")\
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**Author:** ![Manjushri](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c67d28/32.png) [@Manjushri](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Manjushri)\
**Post date:** [January 22, 2009, 10:33pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/not-having-congruence-on-purpose/25232/1 "2009-01-22T22:33:37Z")

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I’ve been thinking a lot about whether there would be any benefit not having congruence on purpose.

For instance, would a girl find you intriguing if you were very kind, modest and friendly, even timid-- but were wearing a decent amount of A134 or TUTH. Would she be confused, or interested?

Or if on the other hand you acted like a cocky jerk, but were wearing lots of [Instant Openness](https://a314.com/product/instant-openness/) and IS.

Those are the most obvious examples, but I think there could be other subtle ways to tweak your behavior and your sig to make things intriguing even confusing.

Anyways, if you all have any personal experience with this could you leave some feedback. Just interested

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**Author:** ![Gegogi](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/gegogi/32/1536_2.png) [@Gegogi](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Gegogi)\
**Post date:** [January 23, 2009, 12:22am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/not-having-congruence-on-purpose/25232/2 "2009-01-23T00:22:53Z")

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> For instance, would a girl find you intriguing if you were very kind, modest and friendly, even timid-- but were wearing a decent amount of A134 or Turn Up The Heat. Would she be confused, or interested?
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> Or if on the other hand you acted like a cocky jerk, but were wearing lots of Instant Openness and IS.

I don’t think you fully understand the concept of matching your phero signature with complementary behavior and persona. An A314 and TUTH mix suggests alpha male attributes. What is an alpha male? He is a man in a position of leadership. People want to follow him because of his strength of character, wisdom and social status. And most leaders I know are often kind, modest and friendly in their dealings with people–even their enemies are treated with respect as they crush them. They are supremely confident and secure in their position and have no need to threaten or put on airs. It’s the insecure alpha wannabes that put on a horse and pony show in an attempt to puff themselves up. I’d have to say a kind, modest and friendly alpha male will always have women following after him with their tongues hanging out. The mean son of a bitch alpha wannabe will be murdered in his sleep later. The trick is you must live your strength and confidence effortlessly and not use it as a social crutch or means of masking insecurity. Not an easy thing for a wannabe…

If you’ve ever made the mistake of wearing mones in front of friends while depressed or angry you may have noticed your negative energy is projected and enlarged. As for the cocky jerk with enhancing socials, the mones will still help direct attention to the wearer. The only diff is he will be a bigger than life cocky jerk! They won’t make him seem nicer. The extra focus on him will cause him to imprinted in their little minds as the ultimate asshole. The androstenol will also stimulate the verbal centers of his victims and the asshole may suffer some unusually harsh words…