# Opening Up and Saying Hello... **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [September 26, 2009, 7:02am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/opening-up-and-saying-hello/32807 "2009-09-26T07:02:54Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 9\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![mysteryman19](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b19c9b/32.png) [@mysteryman19](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mysteryman19)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2009, 7:02am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/opening-up-and-saying-hello/32807/1 "2009-09-26T07:02:54Z")
well im 20 im sum what attractive all out kinda guy, but i guess i still dont have what it takes to actually get up the guts to talk to them so im thinking of trying a phew out to see if i can be more calm and relaxed with someone instead of tense and see how it goes from there, in general im just wanting to be able to go up to a woman and be more open and not have her think im a freak i guess and in return think im a cool kinda guy, and just see if we can actually have a conversation and too see what might happen after that but my main objective is to get over this talking issue for me when im at a club ill have plenty come over too me and try and strike a conversation but im just at loss of words and then they just walk off, but its cool how people already give me advice with what i should try and i appreciate it guys/gals. ---
**Author:** ![Alfa1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a183cd/32.png) [@Alfa1](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Alfa1)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2009, 7:17am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/opening-up-and-saying-hello/32807/2 "2009-09-26T07:17:53Z")
Hi Mysterman, Welcome to the forum. For self affects you could try Instant shine and IO they will both make you feel a bit more up bet and chatty. A314 could also help and make you feel more valuable (if that is the word…) Give us some more info about yourself and I’m sure others will be able to help you out with a few other suggestions. Good luck ---
**Author:** ![LeafStamp](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/leafstamp/32/376_2.png) [@LeafStamp](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/LeafStamp)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2009, 7:58am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/opening-up-and-saying-hello/32807/3 "2009-09-26T07:58:25Z")
A bit more specifics would be good. Like what are you hoping to achieve? Just talking to girls/guys? Dating the girl/guy? Getting with the girl/guy? You never specified your orientation! Let’s get some more information from you so we can help you more specifically and better and also get you a shmancy $25 GC! Read this thread for more information! [https://pheromonetalk.com/t/how-do-i-qualify-for-a-25-gift-certificate/19934](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/how-do-i-qualify-for-a-25-gift-certificate/19934) ---
**Author:** ![AlexanderG](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/alexanderg/32/891_2.png) [@AlexanderG](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/AlexanderG)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2009, 9:13am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/opening-up-and-saying-hello/32807/4 "2009-09-26T09:13:19Z")
Welcome mysteryman Do tell us a bit more about you, but based on the info you have provided seems like the social products would be best. Consider instant honesty and instant openness. Will help draw people to you and you all feel comfortable around each other. Also consider [Ammo](https://a314.com/product/ammo/), this is an attractant that is very popular with members here. Do try to write 2 paragraphs about you and the results you want, this will ensure you qualify for the gift certificate 😉 ---
**Author:** ![moonwhisper](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/moonwhisper/32/1735_2.png) [@moonwhisper](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/moonwhisper)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2009, 3:06pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/opening-up-and-saying-hello/32807/5 "2009-09-26T15:06:20Z")
Being tense and nervous in a social situation is very common. We all suffer from it to some degree. But there are lots of things that can help, and pheros is just one tool in that process. [Instant Openness](https://a314.com/product/instant-openness/) will make you seem more approachable, and will encourage a chatty feeling in others. It will make them more likely to want to talk, and therefore more receptive to you when you approach. Instant Shine is a feel-good phero that brightens up and uplifts the mood. It can give people a feeling of general wellbeing and cheerfulness, making them glad to be near you. It can also be a confidence booster. Ammo is an attractor, and will increase the amount of attention you get from the opposite sex. It is mildly sexually arousing to women, and will give you a warm, charming sexiness that should get you a few second looks. The rest is up to you. There is no quick fix for social jitters or approach anxiety. There is work to be done on the inside, as well as outer changes like pheros. Take a look at MetalTree’s journal to see that changes that he has made. The transformation has been amazing. > [@To be less harmless and more polarizing](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/to-be-less-harmless-and-more-polarizing/29931): > > I’m 36 years old and I’ve played with [pheromones](https://a314.com/shop/) for a couple of weeks now. It’s time that I become more disciplined about logging my results and to focus my goals. Without pheromones people perceive me nice and harmless. They see me as someone who would be a good family man, a good father, and a good husband. People who meet me instantly think I am very reliable person they can trust. The problem with this is that I really don’t want to get married or have children. My biggest “problem” is… ---
**Author:** ![tezza23](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/tezza23/32/1375_2.png) [@tezza23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tezza23)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2009, 5:13pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/opening-up-and-saying-hello/32807/6 "2009-09-26T17:13:12Z")
Someone mentioned A314, I wouldn’t recommend that one in your case, because it can create distance between you and others. However [Instant Gentleman](https://a314.com/product/gentleman/) will work similarly without the distance. ---
**Author:** ![Alfa1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a183cd/32.png) [@Alfa1](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Alfa1)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2009, 11:02pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/opening-up-and-saying-hello/32807/7 "2009-09-26T23:02:41Z")
> [@tezza23](#): > > Someone mentioned A314, I wouldn’t recommend that one in your case, because it can create distance between you and others. However Instant Gentleman will work similarly without the distance. Yes that was me, I would have (after all my reading here) suggested ammo (but its not available at the moment) but like you have said [Instant Gentleman](https://a314.com/product/gentleman/) would work… not that I have tried this one yet so cant really comment on that either. I said A314 because the few times i have used it now, it has made me feel bullet proof and with that come the woman… I guess you need to be able to pull it off to make this one work for you. Test and test some more, its lots of fun! I have a neat self and other person affect to report on later. It’s a good one if I do say so myself (non sexual) but pretty amazing. It involves A314, spaceland and IO… Work to do now, so I’ll be back later with the report (not on this thread though..) ---
**Author:** ![Aggie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/f07891/32.png) [@Aggie](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Aggie)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2009, 7:02pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/opening-up-and-saying-hello/32807/8 "2009-09-27T19:02:13Z")
Hello, Instant openness to the hair – works wonders for making you open up more. A314 gives you confidence, and ammo makes you extremely attractive. ---
**Author:** ![SteveO](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/87869e/32.png) [@SteveO](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/SteveO)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2009, 9:32pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/opening-up-and-saying-hello/32807/9 "2009-09-27T21:32:47Z")
Hello and welcome to PheroTalk. I am so happy you were able to discover this most amazing community. We consider each other like family here and are totally committed to helping each other out. There are so many great people here and now another too 🙂. Currently we are in the process of seeking out an additional forum Host or two to help with the upkeep of the forum. With that in mind I will be issuing your GC in just a short while to your email. I would love to be able to personally respond to every new user signing on, but because I want to ensure you get the GC in time I can only reply with this message at this time. I’m sure you are anxious to get started, just like the rest of us were too 🙂. Its cool! Of course I am available to answer any question you might have regarding mones selection by calling me personally on the hotline. Please select extension one and I will be able to consult you one on one. Welcome to the forum.