# Opinions and Advice Needed **URL:** \ **Category:** Men's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [August 1, 2010, 7:11am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/opinions-and-advice-needed/40481 "2010-08-01T07:11:00Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 12\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Wolfishgrin](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/wolfishgrin/32/1082_2.png) [@Wolfishgrin](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Wolfishgrin)\ **Post date:** [August 1, 2010, 7:11am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/opinions-and-advice-needed/40481/1 "2010-08-01T07:11:00Z")
Today at work I was incredibly tired. I needed some backup so I sprayed a spray of IS (2x) and 10mcg of P79. My former target, H2 and another cutie that started training last week were all working together. H1 actually talked with me today. The other two were receptive until I was talking up H1 more than them. They started throwing me the cold shoulder again. šŸ˜• Hereā€™s some background. Everyone at work has their numbers on the handout schedules that employees can take home. So I texted H1 one night to see what her favorite color was. She was very receptive until she figured out who it was fromā€¦ I never technically asked her for her number and she was pissed. She texted to say, ā€œGoodnight Wolf.ā€ Then texted me to state, ā€œThat isnā€™t what the employee schedule sheets were intended for and I think thatā€™s a misuse of those kinds of resources.ā€ I texted her and said, ā€œIā€™ll make it up to you sometime.ā€ She texted me back and stated, ā€œIā€™m not interested.ā€ Her body-language speaks differently. Especially today. I didnā€™t realize it until I was telling her a joke but she was mirroring every facial expression, and body position, anytime I would talk with her. She didnā€™t smile or laugh until I smiled and chuckled after a pregnant pause. Unlike the other two hostesses who left after her, she actually told me goodnight. The other two ignored me. šŸ™„ So really. Iā€™m confused about this girl. I donā€™t think she knows what she wants or is doing - unless itā€™s deliberate and a ploy to completely keep me confused. Like a cat playing with a mouse (her favorite animal is the Lion so that analogy seems fitting.) Sometimes it seems like I might be able to take it further than just a coworker relationship with her (from a lot of the indicators today especially) but I just donā€™t know. What should I think? What should I do? Should I try to ask her out? ---
**Author:** ![P51Mustang](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/p51mustang/32/1266_2.png) [@P51Mustang](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/P51Mustang)\ **Post date:** [August 1, 2010, 7:58am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/opinions-and-advice-needed/40481/2 "2010-08-01T07:58:20Z")
You know my stand with this bro. Ignore her, flirt with the other females and watch em run back. ---
**Author:** ![Scipio](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/3ec8ea/32.png) [@Scipio](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Scipio)\ **Post date:** [August 1, 2010, 9:36am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/opinions-and-advice-needed/40481/3 "2010-08-01T09:36:14Z")
Mustang said it best. ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [August 1, 2010, 10:17am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/opinions-and-advice-needed/40481/4 "2010-08-01T10:17:59Z")
Sometimes ā€œI am not interestedā€ means I am not interested. You may be picking up body language but BL alone doesnā€™t indicate interest. A good hostess learns fast to mimic customers. Watch her work and you will see this. She was probably just in work mode and it didnt even occur to her she was doing this with her co workers. If she was doing this in a social setting then perhaps it would be a indicator of interest. Mimicking on its own is just a technique used to create warmth and comfort. I dont think she is playing games or she doesnā€™t know what she wants. She already told you. Dont take it personal it can be a million reasons that have nothing to do with you personally. Tisha ---
**Author:** ![M\_M](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/9fc29f/32.png) [@M\_M](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/M_M)\ **Post date:** [August 1, 2010, 1:36pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/opinions-and-advice-needed/40481/5 "2010-08-01T13:36:51Z")
One never knows, BUT! If someone text me or called me, and I didnā€™t give them my number ā€¦ Iā€™D DEFINITELY NOT BE INTERESTED. If I were a girl, Iā€™d turn you in. If sheā€™s talking to you after the incident, you didnā€™t do any damage ā€¦ IF ā€¦ you ask me. Still ā€¦ one never knows. Some people LIVE for that kind of drama, so ā€¦ šŸ™„ ---
**Author:** ![RADMAN513](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/radman513/32/364_2.png) [@RADMAN513](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/RADMAN513)\ **Post date:** [August 1, 2010, 2:37pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/opinions-and-advice-needed/40481/6 "2010-08-01T14:37:28Z")
I gotta side with Tish here. But with this caveat she may have been interested at one point but in contacting her at her number when she never gave it to you for personal useā€¦well to some girls it might seem a little creepy. It can in a way create a stalkery feel. I mean granted because of work you would have had her number regardless but by using it for personal purposes instead of something work related. But because you got it through work you took away her choice in the matter. Itā€™d be like if you got a customer you were interested in and used her name to track her down on facebook and sent her a request. Even if she was feeling attraction early on, by using tactics like that to contact her youā€™re effectively killing the attraction. ---
**Author:** ![Wolfishgrin](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/wolfishgrin/32/1082_2.png) [@Wolfishgrin](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Wolfishgrin)\ **Post date:** [August 1, 2010, 3:28pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/opinions-and-advice-needed/40481/7 "2010-08-01T15:28:38Z")
You live and learn. Because if you donā€™t, you just might win the Darwin Award. Although in my case I already have two kids so itā€™d be more of an honorary mention if I didnā€™t educate myself, lol! I havenā€™t contacted her since that night. Thanks for the suggestions and support - Iā€™m going to ignore her and keep to my flirting with everyone else. Including H2 and H3 (if they donā€™t keep that cold-shoulder BS up that is. I was testing the waters with H1 to see if she was still angry with me.) ---
**Author:** ![unknown0001](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/unknown0001/32/559_2.png) [@unknown0001](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/unknown0001)\ **Post date:** [August 1, 2010, 4:45pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/opinions-and-advice-needed/40481/8 "2010-08-01T16:45:00Z")
> [@Wolfishgrin](#): > > You live and learn. Because if you donā€™t, you just might win the Darwin Award. Although in my case I already have two kids so itā€™d be more of an honorary mention if I didnā€™t educate myself, lol! > > I havenā€™t contacted her since that night. Thanks for the suggestions and support - Iā€™m going to ignore her and keep to my flirting with everyone else. Including H2 and H3 (if they donā€™t keep that cold-shoulder BS up that is. I was testing the waters with H1 to see if she was still angry with me.) Yeah, I side with Mustang on this oneā€¦always better to ignore and flirts with the other womenā€¦get them to like etcā€¦using mones like A314, [MX297](https://a314.com/product/mx297/), IJā€¦you can create a catfight feeling to the groupā€¦itā€™s happening to me at the moment with the women in my workplaceā€¦when we all go outā€¦they all sorta vibe for my attention ā€¦Iā€™m ignoring 2 of them, because I actually DO NOT like themā€¦ofcourse that makes them text me and want me moreā€¦ugh šŸ™„ so with the one I do like, I just ā€œplay the gameā€ ā€¦and Iā€™ll be soooo chatty and flirty with the other girlsā€¦then disappoint them at the end of the nightā€¦itā€™s working šŸ˜ƒā€¦like I;ve said in previous postsā€¦even the girlfriends of a few co-workers pick up on my ā€œgameā€ and my ā€œA314ā€ scentā€¦and flirt hardcore with meā€¦the whole time Iā€™m just sitting backā€¦enjoying my self, making sure NOT to make any commitments to any of them in the meantimeā€¦if that makes any sense šŸ˜ƒ ā€¦if you can get your hands on some A314 ā€¦it will change your social status man CHANGE! ---
**Author:** ![Wolfishgrin](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/wolfishgrin/32/1082_2.png) [@Wolfishgrin](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Wolfishgrin)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2010, 5:30pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/opinions-and-advice-needed/40481/9 "2010-08-02T17:30:11Z")
Well, things -were- looking better. But last night she had changed stations. Rather than being a hostess she was working in the station right next to mine.. So instead of having to walk all the way to the host station to strike up a conversation she was -right there- all night long. Walking back to my station, I would catch her looking at me and then sheā€™d look away. I asked her why she changed stations and she said hostessing was boring. I noticed she wasnā€™t too busy all night long at her new station and razzed her about having all sorts of excitement. She admitted it wasnā€™t any more fun than hostessing, it was about the same. I canā€™t wait until sheā€™s gone in a couple weeks. It looks like she requested to be off this weekend too. I just have to make it through tonight and hopefully I wonā€™t have to see her until next spring when she plans to come back. All I did was ask if she was ready to get back to school and she started babbling about how sheā€™ll be back next season. Okayā€¦ Why did she tell me that? Trying to make smalltalk and she asked me why I kept asking her questions. Now granted, nobody likes getting quizzed but I told jokes and a few stories too. So I blew up at that. I told her I was trying to be sociable but if she didnā€™t want to be then fine. Iā€™m really looking forward to tonight. Not! ---
**Author:** ![P51Mustang](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/p51mustang/32/1266_2.png) [@P51Mustang](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/P51Mustang)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2010, 7:42pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/opinions-and-advice-needed/40481/10 "2010-08-02T19:42:19Z")
Wear some IJ and ignore her. ---
**Author:** ![Wolfishgrin](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/wolfishgrin/32/1082_2.png) [@Wolfishgrin](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Wolfishgrin)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2010, 6:02am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/opinions-and-advice-needed/40481/11 "2010-08-03T06:02:02Z")
> [@P51Mustang](#): > > Wear some IJ and ignore her. I did not read this until after my day. I ignored her. She must not be used to that kind of treatment because towards the end of the night, she was trying to get my attention. It wasnā€™t even that hard to do. šŸ™„ ---
**Author:** ![P51Mustang](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/p51mustang/32/1266_2.png) [@P51Mustang](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/P51Mustang)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2010, 5:08pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/opinions-and-advice-needed/40481/12 "2010-08-03T17:08:25Z")
And the female becomes predictable, yet again.