# Overreacting to hits? **URL:** \ **Category:** Men's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [October 6, 2008, 2:29am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/overreacting-to-hits/20896 "2008-10-06T02:29:47Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Junior\_the\_Third](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/91b2a8/32.png) [@Junior\_the\_Third](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Junior_the_Third)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2008, 2:29am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/overreacting-to-hits/20896/1 "2008-10-06T02:29:47Z")
I just wanted to bring this topic up because i do believe VERY STRONGLY that as far as [pheromones](https://pheromonelabs.com/shop/) go that a lot of people overreact to certain simple gestures such as a smile from someone thinking that this is a hit. The reason i bring this up is because i just found out from a co worker that one of my female co workers (24 yo girl and I am 27) is very attracted to me and she believes that by me smiling at her and being friendly to her is me hitting on her showing i am interested in her when this just simply is not the case. I am a friendly guy in general and smile at practically everyone, but unfortunately it seems a lot of people interpret this to me they are getting hit on. While this female co worker is very good looking, i am not attracted to her in any shape or form and now it makes me feel very akward working with her when i know she feels this way around me. I just wanted to get other peoples opinions on this and whether you have ever had someone overreacting to a simple gesture you have done such as smiling at someone and have them think you are hitting on them. It really complicates things, at least for me. Peace ---
**Author:** ![ariadne](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/ariadne/32/770_2.png) [@ariadne](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/ariadne)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2008, 4:41am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/overreacting-to-hits/20896/2 "2008-10-06T04:41:40Z")
> [@Junior\_the\_Third](#): > > While this female co worker is very good looking, i am not attracted to her in any shape or form and now it makes me feel very akward working with her when i know she feels this way around me. > > I just wanted to get other peoples opinions on this and whether you have ever had someone overreacting to a simple gesture you have done such as smiling at someone and have them think you are hitting on them. It really complicates things, at least for me. Hehehe, in my experience it is usually men who misinterpret friendliness in this manner. It sounds as if she is just projecting her eagerness onto your actions. If I were you, I would not make such a big deal out of it. Take it as a compliment and move on. Unless she makes a move on you, you really don’t have an appropriate way to tell her you are uninterested. Since most women won’t make the first move on a guy, I think you’re safe. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2008, 11:23am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/overreacting-to-hits/20896/3 "2008-10-06T11:23:02Z")
No I find people usually under estimate reactions when using mones. However in your situation, a smile is just a smile. Say you are in a bar a smile can mean a whole different thing. Now there is another possibilty, Are you wearing mones to work ? If so which ones ? If you have AMMO or TUTH on she is getting a sexual signal from the mones, coupled with the smiling she may think your interested. Dont feel bad or uncomfortable and continue smiling as usual. Just because she thinks you like her dosnt mean you do or that you have to act on it. Let the girl have her little fantasy. Tisha ---
**Author:** ![Tenant](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/tenant/32/1668_2.png) [@Tenant](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Tenant)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2008, 4:18pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/overreacting-to-hits/20896/4 "2008-10-06T16:18:18Z")
> [@Junior\_the\_Third](#): > > I just wanted to bring this topic up because i do believe VERY STRONGLY that as far as pheromones go that a lot of people overreact to certain simple gestures such as a smile from someone thinking that this is a hit. The reason i bring this up is because i just found out from a co worker that one of my female co workers (24 yo girl and I am 27) is very attracted to me and she believes that by me smiling at her and being friendly to her is me hitting on her showing i am interested in her when this just simply is not the case. I am a friendly guy in general and smile at practically everyone, but unfortunately it seems a lot of people interpret this to me they are getting hit on. While this female co worker is very good looking, i am not attracted to her in any shape or form and now it makes me feel very akward working with her when i know she feels this way around me. > > I just wanted to get other peoples opinions on this and whether you have ever had someone overreacting to a simple gesture you have done such as smiling at someone and have them think you are hitting on them. It really complicates things, at least for me. > > Peace Your situation is unique, though, because this person admittedly likes you. Psychologically, she will try to focus on positive signals you give her and maybe blow them out of proportion. Guys do the same thing, as aria indicated. What I am interested to know is if pheromones had a part in attracting you to her in the first place. ---
**Author:** ![castlerock](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/castlerock/32/1503_2.png) [@castlerock](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/castlerock)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2008, 4:37pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/overreacting-to-hits/20896/5 "2008-10-06T16:37:31Z")
You really can’t tell. At least I can’t, unless they make it very clear. Women are very strange and nobody can figure them out. 😃 There is a million stuff about there about body language and blah blah blah. I read alot about all that stuff and I came to the conclusion, you still can’t tell. ---
**Author:** ![bosshank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/91b2a8/32.png) [@bosshank](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/bosshank)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2008, 5:05pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/overreacting-to-hits/20896/6 "2008-10-06T17:05:02Z")
> [@ariadne](#): > > Hehehe, in my experience it is usually men who misinterpret friendliness in this manner. Ain’t that the truth … > [@tisha23](#): > > No I find people usually under estimate reactions when using pheromones. This is the flip side of guys. They think the cute blond smiling is interested in them (because they like blonds) but miss the equally cute brunette who really is interested in them doing everything but jumping into their lap … > [@ariadne](#): > > It sounds as if she is just projecting her eagerness onto your actions. If I were you, I would not make such a big deal out of it. Take it as a compliment and move on. > [@Tenant](#): > > Your situation is unique, though, because this person admittedly likes you. Psychologically, she will try to focus on positive signals you give her and maybe blow them out of proportion. Guys do the same thing, as aria indicated. As mentioned above - this is really the case here. Of course, knowing she is interested in you, you could always ask her out. Who knows - maybe you will find something in common … > [@Tenant](#): > > What I am interested to know is if pheromones had a part in attracting you to her in the first place. That is a good question … > [@castlerock](#): > > Women are very strange and nobody can figure them out. I would comment on this except Tisha is just waiting for an excuse after the RI - CT - New England - overseas thing … ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2008, 6:04pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/overreacting-to-hits/20896/7 "2008-10-06T18:04:18Z")
> [@](#): > > I would comment on this except Tisha is just waiting for an excuse after the RI - CT - New England - overseas thing … Dang I almost had him in my grasp, Ahhhh foiled again 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Seraphim54](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/seraphim54/32/514_2.png) [@Seraphim54](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Seraphim54)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2008, 6:24pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/overreacting-to-hits/20896/8 "2008-10-06T18:24:09Z")
And after 10 days of use, I _still_ can’t say I’m getting a response. ---
**Author:** ![lukester19](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/lukester19/32/1953_2.png) [@lukester19](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/lukester19)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2008, 6:48pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/overreacting-to-hits/20896/9 "2008-10-06T18:48:27Z")
Hey seraphim can you send me a link to your log. Wanted to read how it’s going currently cant find it. ---
**Author:** ![Seraphim54](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/seraphim54/32/514_2.png) [@Seraphim54](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Seraphim54)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2008, 6:52pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/overreacting-to-hits/20896/10 "2008-10-06T18:52:54Z")
> [@lukester19](#): > > Hey seraphim can you send me a link to your log. Wanted to read how it’s going currently cant find it. Log? Don’t have one. Am I supposed to lol? ---
**Author:** ![lukester19](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/lukester19/32/1953_2.png) [@lukester19](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/lukester19)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2008, 6:54pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/overreacting-to-hits/20896/11 "2008-10-06T18:54:56Z")
No just wanted to see how you went about applying the pheremones. Im starting to keep one so I can notice the positives and look back to the past when I start mixing. For me its a good way to keep track. I use this same method when I work out and it sure helps. When I keep track my weights go up and im thinking the same as in results but its just a way for me to keep track. ---
**Author:** ![Seraphim54](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/seraphim54/32/514_2.png) [@Seraphim54](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Seraphim54)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2008, 7:20pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/overreacting-to-hits/20896/12 "2008-10-06T19:20:20Z")
> [@lukester19](#): > > No just wanted to see how you went about applying the pheremones. Im starting to keep one so I can notice the positives and look back to the past when I start mixing. For me its a good way to keep track. I use this same method when I work out and it sure helps. When I keep track my weights go up and im thinking the same as in results but its just a way for me to keep track. Yea buddy, I honestly don’t have anything to write at this point. ---
**Author:** ![Junior\_the\_Third](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/91b2a8/32.png) [@Junior\_the\_Third](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Junior_the_Third)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2008, 7:33pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/overreacting-to-hits/20896/13 "2008-10-06T19:33:32Z")
> [@tisha23](#): > > Are you wearing pheromones to work ? Yes, for the past 2 weeks i have started wearing A314 and [Instant Honesty](https://a314.com/product/instant-honesty/) to work. Apprantly this girl has had a thing for me for some time and because i have only just found out about it tells me that she wasn’t into me solely because of the pheromones, but it seems that since i have started wearing them that it has enhanced her feelings towards me. Further proof of this is that fact that just today she literally threw herself into my lap and put her arm around me WHILE I WAS WORKING. I was wondering what the hell was going on as this is the most drastic thing she has done, but this seriously has me worried because i feel nothing for her and i don’t want to get into trouble. I think it is the Instant Honesty that has allowed me to find out about all this, because prior to wearing it I had no idea this stuff was going on with her and now it seems because i have started wearing it things have magnified 20x. Anyway, i will keep you posted. Peace ---
**Author:** ![bosshank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/91b2a8/32.png) [@bosshank](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/bosshank)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2008, 8:13pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/overreacting-to-hits/20896/14 "2008-10-06T20:13:36Z")
Seraphim - try keeping a journal for yourself at least so you can go through and track what it is you are doing each day - how much of what you apply and where. ---
**Author:** ![bosshank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/91b2a8/32.png) [@bosshank](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/bosshank)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2008, 8:17pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/overreacting-to-hits/20896/15 "2008-10-06T20:17:27Z")
> [@castlerock](#): > > Women are very strange and nobody can figure them out. > [@bosshank](#): > > I would comment on this except Tisha is just waiting for an excuse after the RI - CT - New England - overseas thing … > [@tisha23](#): > > Dang I almost had him in my grasp, Ahhhh foiled again Ahhh - another day _not_ spent as a salamander … do you know how tough it is to do martial arts when you are turned into a salamander? Even a really big one? Although the tail does come in handy sometimes your arms are so short you have no reach … lol.😛 ---
**Author:** ![CdubFTW](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/cdubftw/32/2463_2.png) [@CdubFTW](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/CdubFTW)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2008, 8:33pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/overreacting-to-hits/20896/16 "2008-10-06T20:33:43Z")
> [@Junior\_the\_Third](#): > > Yes, for the past 2 weeks i have started wearing A314 and Instant Honesty to work. Apprantly this girl has had a thing for me for some time and because i have only just found out about it tells me that she wasn’t into me solely because of the pheromones, but it seems that since i have started wearing them that it has enhanced her feelings towards me. Further proof of this is that fact that just today she literally threw herself into my lap and put her arm around me WHILE I WAS WORKING. I was wondering what the hell was going on as this is the most drastic thing she has done, but this seriously has me worried because i feel nothing for her and i don’t want to get into trouble. I think it is the Instant Honesty that has allowed me to find out about all this, because prior to wearing it I had no idea this stuff was going on with her and now it seems because i have started wearing it things have magnified 20x. > > Anyway, i will keep you posted. > > Peace Well that would be a hit right? I mean you’re not gonna overreact if you already knew about her, but with IH ppl tend to do/say things they normally wouldnt. When you read about some ppl on here getting happy about hits, its normally because they never got that reaction from random strangers before, let alone ppl tey know. There are some that were shy and the pheros helped them overcome it, now its a thing of the past for them. For others, its the norm so their “hits” are a little diff.. As stated before, its 90% you, 10% chemicals, in your case you’ve already done the 90%, you just added an edge w/ the pheros. Now you just gotta figure out what you want the outcome to be. ---
**Author:** ![ariadne](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/ariadne/32/770_2.png) [@ariadne](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/ariadne)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2008, 2:37am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/overreacting-to-hits/20896/17 "2008-10-07T02:37:09Z")
> [@Junior\_the\_Third](#): > > Further proof of this is that fact that just today she literally threw herself into my lap and put her arm around me WHILE I WAS WORKING. Well, what did you say when she did this? That would have been a prime opportunity to say something along the lines of “I don’t think you should be doing this sort of thing at work” in an emotionless - not angry - tone. Unless she is a dimwit that could have made her start to question her assumption that you like her in return. > [@Junior\_the\_Third](#): > > this seriously has me worried because i feel nothing for her and i don’t want to get into trouble. Unless you think she has the potential to start sexually harassing you or worse, I think you are overreacting. Make it known that you don’t appreciate that sort of thing while on the job, but continue to treat her the same way you treat every other coworker. If she does it again, then perhaps you can discuss it with a supervisor. ---
**Author:** ![Tenant](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/tenant/32/1668_2.png) [@Tenant](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Tenant)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2008, 2:42am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/overreacting-to-hits/20896/18 "2008-10-07T02:42:37Z")
> [@Junior\_the\_Third](#): > > Yes, for the past 2 weeks i have started wearing A314 and Instant Honesty to work. Apprantly this girl has had a thing for me for some time and because i have only just found out about it tells me that she wasn’t into me solely because of the pheromones, but it seems that since i have started wearing them that it has enhanced her feelings towards me. Further proof of this is that fact that just today she literally threw herself into my lap and put her arm around me WHILE I WAS WORKING. I was wondering what the hell was going on as this is the most drastic thing she has done, but this seriously has me worried because i feel nothing for her and i don’t want to get into trouble. I think it is the Instant Honesty that has allowed me to find out about all this, because prior to wearing it I had no idea this stuff was going on with her and now it seems because i have started wearing it things have magnified 20x. > > Anyway, i will keep you posted. > > Peace The cold shoulder technique has worked for me in the past. ---
**Author:** ![CdubFTW](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/cdubftw/32/2463_2.png) [@CdubFTW](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/CdubFTW)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2008, 2:48am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/overreacting-to-hits/20896/19 "2008-10-07T02:48:10Z")
I just found that dating chicks on the jo is just bad allll around..if everything is good, its heaven..midday nookie, lunch buddy, dont have to drive your var everyday since someone is sleeping at someones house, etc… BUT if it goes down the tubes, theres all that tension. And depending on what her personality is like, you might have to deal w/ gossip, her trying to make you jealous(Which is just plain DRAMA), and so on and so forth.. SO DONT FUCK UP, lol…j/k man.. Play it cool, and take it slow. Or if you’re gonna blow her off do it lightly and just friendzone her. ---
**Author:** ![Junior\_the\_Third](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/91b2a8/32.png) [@Junior\_the\_Third](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Junior_the_Third)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2008, 2:44am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/overreacting-to-hits/20896/20 "2008-10-09T02:44:55Z")
> [@ariadne](#): > > Well, what did you say when she did this? That would have been a prime opportunity to say something along the lines of “I don’t think you should be doing this sort of thing at work” in an emotionless - not angry - tone. Unless she is a dimwit that could have made her start to question her assumption that you like her in return. When she did this i just said, "Nice to see you too 🙂 " She isn’t a dimwit and is actually quite educated, but i just simply am not into her simply because i don’t mix relationships with my career, because it runs the risk of messing things up and then what do you do? When this sort of thing happens it is bad for both of us. If she did this in another environment i would probably jump at the chance. I am totally convinced now though that these pheromones do work (A314 and [Instant Honesty](https://a314.com/product/instant-honesty/) at least), because just yesterday while at work she invited me to go to lunch with her and i happily accepted, but then while we were at lunch she invited me to go back to her place after work for dinner and the real kicker to me that totally made me believe in this pheromone stuff is that before i even had a chance to answer her she says to me, “After dinner, you can even tuck me in if you want.” I declined and said i had other plans, but alarm bells were going off in my head that this pheromone stuff really does work I really could not believe what i was hearing. This is certainly going to be very interesting over the next few weeks. Peace