# Perfect Before/After Situation **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [February 26, 2010, 1:10am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/perfect-before-after-situation/36550 "2010-02-26T01:10:12Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 6\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Perspiration20](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/43a26b/32.png) [@Perspiration20](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Perspiration20)\ **Post date:** [February 26, 2010, 1:10am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/perfect-before-after-situation/36550/1 "2010-02-26T01:10:12Z")
**Age: 31** **Sex: male** **Location: Louisiana** **My Situation** I am about to start a near perfect test of A314 and TUTH. I am leaving North Carolina to start a new job in Louisiana on March 1. This means I will be around new people at work and in my social life. Additionally my wife will be staying in NC for 2 weeks to complete our relocation. So she will be suddenly introduced to me using A314 and TUTH. **My Background** I have always been kind of under respected despite accomplishments. Growing up in athletics I was always the hardest worker but was viewed as an over-achiever despite earning a scholarship to play in college. In college I was in the same situation of being seen as an over-achiever that didn’t really belong there. With girls I was always seen as their best friend and never romantic. Now that I am 6 years into my working career, I am still seen as the over-achiever that doesn’t really belong at this level. I get this attitude despite having two masters degrees and several certifications and accomplishments that make me more qualified than the people that look down on me. **Results I Want** I want my fresh start in Louisiana to be where people see me as a person they expect to be successful and not a person they are surprised to see successful. I want to loose the “Cinderella” success label and be known just as “the guy we all knew would get it done.” I want this attitude to translate into fast promotions and/or recognition with my new company. As for my wife, she seems to be more physically interested in me when her friends are telling her they saw me jogging around town shirtless. Maybe if she started seeing other girls paying attention to me in situations where I have my shirt on, she may be more into me all the time. I welcome any advice on how to achieve my goals. I look forward to my new job and using Androtics products. ---
**Author:** ![reddog](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/reddog/32/2091_2.png) [@reddog](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/reddog)\ **Post date:** [February 26, 2010, 1:28am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/perfect-before-after-situation/36550/2 "2010-02-26T01:28:17Z")
Good introduction. I would say the products you have chosen should accomplish the task at had; if you are in sales you may want to try Instant Honesty with A314. You may also put out a very strong alpha vibe due to the A314; if that happens add a social product like Instant Shine, [Instant Openness](https://a314.com/product/instant-openness/), or Instant Honesty to tone the effect down and make you more approachable … welcome to the forum and good luck with your new job. ---
**Author:** ![Sillykitty](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/sillykitty/32/1574_2.png) [@Sillykitty](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Sillykitty)\ **Post date:** [February 26, 2010, 1:28am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/perfect-before-after-situation/36550/3 "2010-02-26T01:28:40Z")
Hi and welcome to the forum! I understand that you want to start out with just A314 and TUTH. They are both great products, though TUTH is specifically for the bedroom only, not for anywhere else. A314 is a great confidence and respect product, though often used with social products such as IH or IShine to soften it and make you a bit more approachable. What I need to know, in order to advise you further, is a little more about your personality and communication skills, both at work and with your wife. Are you trusted at work? How are your relationships with bosses and coworkers? More detail is better! ---
**Author:** ![Perspiration20](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/43a26b/32.png) [@Perspiration20](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Perspiration20)\ **Post date:** [February 26, 2010, 2:08am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/perfect-before-after-situation/36550/4 "2010-02-26T02:08:46Z")
> [@Sillykitty](#): > > Hi and welcome to the forum! > > I understand that you want to start out with just A314 and TUTH. They are both great products, though TUTH is specifically for the bedroom only, not for anywhere else. > > A314 is a great confidence and respect product, though often used with social products such as IH or IS to soften it and make you a bit more approachable. > > What I need to know, in order to advise you further, is a little more about your personality and communication skills, both at work and with your wife. Are you trusted at work? How are your relationships with bosses and coworkers? More detail is better! Thanks for the response! My career has me in change agent roles. Other than technical skills and knowledge, I have to rely on getting input from a lot of people, get them coordinated on a common vision, and motivate them to pursue the vision. My strenght is definitely in getting people to open up to me. My weakness is in pursausive communication. My relationship with bosses has been very open as well. We speak freely about issues and our personal lives. The main issue is with people I do not work closely with. They are the ones who see me as an unexpected success or not quire ready for a big leadership role. Some people seem to resent me getting a leadership role over them. I try to ignore these vibes and keep people focused on the task but I beleive it has prevented me from advancing at a faster rate. I treat my wife the same way I try to treat those I lead at work. I beleive in servant leadership. At work I try to learn about what is going and be able to step in and do any task. At home I try to do the same. Sometimes she really takes advantage of that and runs over me. ---
**Author:** ![Sillykitty](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/sillykitty/32/1574_2.png) [@Sillykitty](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Sillykitty)\ **Post date:** [February 26, 2010, 2:16am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/perfect-before-after-situation/36550/5 "2010-02-26T02:16:58Z")
Thanks for the info! I have a couple of idea that I think would work really well for you. First, for the work situation, you should consider [Instant Honesty](https://a314.com/product/instant-honesty/). Instant Honesty will add depth and intimcay to your conversations, people will feel more comfortable opening up to you and talking about personal things. They will also trust you more. Instant Honesty will also be helpful at home, because it sounds like you and your wife may have drifted apart, and perhaps a little rebonding is in order. Another one for use with your wife is Ammo. Ammo will give your confidence and ex appeal a boost and can be worn comfortable in any environment. These p[roducts also mix well with A314, but make sure you learn each one first before combining them. This post should help: [How to find your sweet spot…](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/how-to-find-your-sweet-spot/22146) I hope this helps, and let me knopw if you have more questions! 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Kelsey](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/kelsey/32/8468_2.png) [@Kelsey](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Kelsey)\ **Post date:** [February 26, 2010, 8:41pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/perfect-before-after-situation/36550/6 "2010-02-26T20:41:48Z")
Hello and welcome to PheroTalk. I am so happy you were able to discover this most amazing community. We consider each other like family here and are totally committed to helping each other out. There are so many great people here and now another too 🙂. I will be issuing your GC in just a short while to your email. I would love to be able to personally respond to every new user signing on, but because I want to ensure you get the GC in time I can only reply with this message at this time. I’m sure you are anxious to get started, just like the rest of us were too 🙂. Its cool! Of course Steve is available to answer any questions you might have regarding moons. Please call Steve personally on the hotline. Please select extension one and he will be able to consult you one on one. Welcome to the forum.