# Post Break Up Cleaning/Renewing Mode **URL:** \ **Category:** Women's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [May 13, 2007, 5:14pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/post-break-up-cleaning-renewing-mode/3645 "2007-05-13T17:14:03Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![EnchantedApril](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/enchantedapril/32/2385_2.png) [@EnchantedApril](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/EnchantedApril)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2007, 5:14pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/post-break-up-cleaning-renewing-mode/3645/1 "2007-05-13T17:14:03Z")
Yup, so RIGHT after my break up I went out and bought NEW THINGS for my bed. In fact, I want a new headboard/bed frame as well to REDO my room as I had wanted to do when I first moved in here months ago but just didn’t have as a top priority. Now, it IS a Top Priority for my attracting NEW Fabulous Men into my life. I know Mia Farrow chopped off her hair with the famous Frank Sinatra breakup, but MY locks are NOT coming off! In fact, I am being INDUSTRIOUS to CLEAN/DECLUTTER my new digs. I even cleared out the trunk of my car, aka The Dumping Group, this morning and am going through all that stuff to throw it out, recycle paper, and Goodwill items. Meanwhile, on the Phero Front, I have a new order in for all my favorite (Instant Shine because I am SUCH a shiny girl!) as well as [Lust After Me](https://phera.com/product/lust-after-me/). I figure, I want ALL the good ammunition I can get in my arsenal of Dating Tools! When you have a break up, what are some of the things you do to CLEANSE and RENEW you & your space? April ---
**Author:** ![Lor](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/lor/32/759_2.png) [@Lor](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Lor)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2007, 10:57am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/post-break-up-cleaning-renewing-mode/3645/2 "2007-05-14T10:57:22Z")
im into color therapy.change dominant colors to lighter, “me” colors that usually dissapear when the manly colors come in 🙄 i also dont jump into the dating mode right away. i take a good few months to be all about me. kind of like shaking-off his residual vibe. ---
**Author:** ![EnchantedApril](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/enchantedapril/32/2385_2.png) [@EnchantedApril](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/EnchantedApril)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2007, 8:16pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/post-break-up-cleaning-renewing-mode/3645/3 "2007-05-14T20:16:10Z")
> [@Lor](#): > > im into color therapy.change dominant colors to lighter, “me” colors that usually dissapear when the manly colors come in 🙄 > > i also dont jump into the dating mode right away. > > i take a good few months to be all about me. > kind of like shaking-off his residual vibe. I LIKE what you’re saying about color. Actually that IS happening as well. And the clearing things out from my bedroom and getting ride of all signs of him is another part of it. He left shampoo in the downstairs bathroom, but even that I am inclined to el chucko. Gonzo - everything, please. All the best, April ---
**Author:** ![Lor](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/lor/32/759_2.png) [@Lor](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Lor)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2007, 8:29pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/post-break-up-cleaning-renewing-mode/3645/4 "2007-05-14T20:29:13Z")
> [@EnchantedApril](#): > > I LIKE what you’re saying about color. Actually that IS happening as well. And the clearing things out from my bedroom and getting ride of all signs of him is another part of it. He left shampoo in the downstairs bathroom, but even that I am inclined to el chucko. Gonzo - everything, please. > > All the best, > > April oh April, no freaking doubt!! dont they all leave their shampoo? 🙄 and they are soooo subtle, not like the way they joke about how women come into their lives and put curtains up hahaha but they sneak their colors and whatnot into the house ever so slowly…and before i know it the whole freakin place is BEIGE blue or black, and nothing is soft ☹ omg. i think im getting man-blues. im going to go spray some TAH and listen to some stevie nicks 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![EnchantedApril](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/enchantedapril/32/2385_2.png) [@EnchantedApril](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/EnchantedApril)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2007, 10:27pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/post-break-up-cleaning-renewing-mode/3645/5 "2007-05-14T22:27:47Z")
> [@Lor](#): > > oh April, no freaking doubt!! dont they all leave their shampoo? 🙄 > > and they are soooo subtle, not like the way they joke about how women come into their lives and put curtains up hahaha > but they sneak their colors and whatnot into the house ever so slowly…and before i know it the whole freakin place is BEIGE blue or black, and nothing is soft ☹ > omg. > i think im getting man-blues. > > im going to go spray some TAH and listen to some stevie nicks 🙂 As ever, you are TOO FUNNY! Well, no way I’d ever give him any of my Keraste shampoo! Oye! LOL! I’m thinking I’m chucking the shampoo now for an additional layer of cleansing to make room for Mr. New Man. And, of course, there is already a front runner! Whee! April ---
**Author:** ![LaurieNY](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/bbce88/32.png) [@LaurieNY](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/LaurieNY)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2007, 11:09pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/post-break-up-cleaning-renewing-mode/3645/6 "2007-05-14T23:09:00Z")
> [@](#): > > i also dont jump into the dating mode right away. > > i take a good few months to be all about me. > kind of like shaking-off his residual vibe. I’ve actually been pretty good about that this time (I had a “breakup” from a very long-term but unofficial relationship in March), but I usually rebound like I’m in the WNBA. 🙄 > [@](#): > > oh April, no freaking doubt!! dont they all leave their shampoo? 🙄 In more ways than one, baby. That, they do. ---
**Author:** ![EnchantedApril](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/enchantedapril/32/2385_2.png) [@EnchantedApril](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/EnchantedApril)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2007, 11:56pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/post-break-up-cleaning-renewing-mode/3645/7 "2007-05-14T23:56:44Z")
> [@LaurieNY](#): > > I’ve actually been pretty good about that this time (I had a “breakup” from a very long-term but unofficial relationship in March), but I usually rebound like I’m in the WNBA. 🙄 > > In more ways than one, baby. That, they do. I am sensing a STORY here lady! DO TELL! All the best, April ---
**Author:** ![Honeythief](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/honeythief/32/350_2.png) [@Honeythief](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Honeythief)\ **Post date:** [May 15, 2007, 12:35am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/post-break-up-cleaning-renewing-mode/3645/8 "2007-05-15T00:35:47Z")
> [@EnchantedApril](#): > > He left shampoo in the downstairs bathroom, but even that I am inclined to el chucko. Gonzo - everything, please. If you’re going to el chucko his shampoo, you might as well chuck yours as well - try going [No 'poo](http://www.naturalfamilyonline.com/go/index.php/389/why-you-should-go-no-poo/)! My hair has never looked better and I am not wasting a fortune on stripping the oils out of my hair (shampoo) and then putting them back in (conditioner). But anyway April, sorry you are going through this. It sucks to be in that position, but at least it’s only temporary and you have a great attitude about moving forward from here. ---
**Author:** ![Kitten](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/kitten/32/1051_2.png) [@Kitten](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Kitten)\ **Post date:** [May 15, 2007, 5:08am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/post-break-up-cleaning-renewing-mode/3645/9 "2007-05-15T05:08:38Z")
I’m with you. Throw it alllll out. I seem to always get left with odd old dark blue towels after a break up…And you may discover sockballs where you least expect them. Once, after the breakup of an LTR where we had been living together, I found my ex’s long-forgotten porno stash! Was enlightening. After the end of a very short and very creepy romance, I once used native american sage to “smudge” my place. Whatever helps and makes you happy, go ahead and do it! ---
**Author:** ![EnchantedApril](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/enchantedapril/32/2385_2.png) [@EnchantedApril](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/EnchantedApril)\ **Post date:** [May 16, 2007, 5:17am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/post-break-up-cleaning-renewing-mode/3645/10 "2007-05-16T05:17:03Z")
Cleaning out the energy MOST especially in my bedroom! Lots of windows open. Airing everything out. Then lighting scented candles to make it newly romantic for ME to enjoy and attract someone fabulous and new! Thank-you ALL for the kind words of encouragement! All the best, April ---
**Author:** ![dolly](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/dolly/32/1591_2.png) [@dolly](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/dolly)\ **Post date:** [May 16, 2007, 8:37pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/post-break-up-cleaning-renewing-mode/3645/11 "2007-05-16T20:37:10Z")
> [@Honeythief](#): > > If you’re going to el chucko his shampoo, you might as well chuck yours as well - try going [No 'poo](http://www.naturalfamilyonline.com/go/index.php/389/why-you-should-go-no-poo/)! My hair has never looked better and I am not wasting a fortune on stripping the oils out of my hair (shampoo) and then putting them back in (conditioner). I actually stopped using traditional shampoo as well…I use WEN products. They are cleansing conditioners, and my hair is like silk. It is long, straight, and fine, and since I color it red every 4-6 weeks, it would get crispy on the ends. It no longer does that…and I am not experiencing a drain full of hair due to breakage either…I love it! ---
**Author:** ![Lor](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/lor/32/759_2.png) [@Lor](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Lor)\ **Post date:** [May 16, 2007, 9:00pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/post-break-up-cleaning-renewing-mode/3645/12 "2007-05-16T21:00:15Z")
> [@dolly](#): > > I actually stopped using traditional shampoo as well…I use WEN products. They are cleansing conditioners, and my hair is like silk. It is long, straight, and fine, and since I color it red every 4-6 weeks, it would get crispy on the ends. It no longer does that…and I am not experiencing a drain full of hair due to breakage either…I love it! i demand a link, woman ! whoops, that was your MX216 talking… mine gets crispy-ends. need help. need WEN. ---
**Author:** ![dolly](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/dolly/32/1591_2.png) [@dolly](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/dolly)\ **Post date:** [May 16, 2007, 9:12pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/post-break-up-cleaning-renewing-mode/3645/13 "2007-05-16T21:12:34Z")
> [@Lor](#): > > i demand a link, woman ! > whoops, that was your MX216 talking… > > mine gets crispy-ends. > need help. > need WEN. You can either get it at [qvc.com](http://qvc.com), or you can go to [chazdean.com](http://chazdean.com) and purchase from there. QVC is a little cheaper, but their shipping has been really slow lately. It takes a little getting used to, but after about a month of use, I have passed the learning curve, and am loving it…I’m definitely hooked!! ---
**Author:** ![EnchantedApril](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/enchantedapril/32/2385_2.png) [@EnchantedApril](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/EnchantedApril)\ **Post date:** [May 18, 2007, 5:21am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/post-break-up-cleaning-renewing-mode/3645/14 "2007-05-18T05:21:02Z")
I use Keraste, L’Oreal’s salon line. LONG hair and color treated. It’s doesn’t drain my hair, has moisture and protein, too. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![EnchantedApril](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/enchantedapril/32/2385_2.png) [@EnchantedApril](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/EnchantedApril)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2007, 6:32am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/post-break-up-cleaning-renewing-mode/3645/15 "2007-05-22T06:32:57Z")
Tonight I CHUCKED the remainder! I wasn’t being true to my spirit before. I was being… PRACTICAL! “I could use that soap/shampoo for other guests…” OYE! This stuff is CHEAP! CHUCK IT. Tonight, I did. I feel feminine, cherished (by MYSELF!) and cleansed! Whee! I KNEW you’d be supportive, ladies! All the best and THEN SOME! April ---
**Author:** ![sophie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/35a633/32.png) [@sophie](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/sophie)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2007, 8:37am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/post-break-up-cleaning-renewing-mode/3645/16 "2007-05-23T08:37:52Z")
Hi Enchanted April, I am glad to hear that you had a major clearout and felt better for it!! A question I would like someone to help me out with is, I finished with my ex b/f on New Years Eve. Thing is, he gave me lots of rings, bracelets, etc… during the time we were together and most of it I never put on. I feel as if I should give it all back to him, but at the same time I don´t want to hurt his feelings. He always used to say that I never put any of it on. Now we aren´t an item, I look at these things in my drawer and it makes me uncomfortable. Any ideas about what I should do? 2007 most impressive screensaversmyscreensavers.info ---
**Author:** ![Mtnjim](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mtnjim/32/2010_2.png) [@Mtnjim](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Mtnjim)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2007, 4:43pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/post-break-up-cleaning-renewing-mode/3645/17 "2007-05-23T16:43:31Z")
> [@sophie](#): > > Any ideas about what I should do? Birthdays and Christmas is coming! ---
**Author:** ![Kitten](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/kitten/32/1051_2.png) [@Kitten](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Kitten)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2007, 8:21pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/post-break-up-cleaning-renewing-mode/3645/18 "2007-05-23T20:21:17Z")
> [@sophie](#): > > Hi Enchanted April, > I am glad to hear that you had a major clearout and felt better for it!! A question I would like someone to help me out with is, > I finished with my ex b/f on New Years Eve. Thing is, he gave me lots of rings, bracelets, etc… during the time we were together and most of it I never put on. I feel as if I should give it all back to him, but at the same time I don´t want to hurt his feelings. He always used to say that I never put any of it on. Now we aren´t an item, I look at these things in my drawer and it makes me uncomfortable. Any ideas about what I should do? > 2007 most impressive screensaversmyscreensavers.info Sell em and buy pheros.😉 ---
**Author:** ![EnchantedApril](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/enchantedapril/32/2385_2.png) [@EnchantedApril](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/EnchantedApril)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2007, 5:05am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/post-break-up-cleaning-renewing-mode/3645/19 "2007-05-24T05:05:13Z")
The only piece of jewelry ever to be returned is an engagement ring when YOU break things off. Keep/wear what you, eBay the rest. 😃 All the best! April ---
**Author:** ![Rbt](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/rbt/32/2066_2.png) [@Rbt](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Rbt)\ **Post date:** [June 11, 2007, 11:40pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/post-break-up-cleaning-renewing-mode/3645/20 "2007-06-11T23:40:28Z")
Wonder if Love Potions Perfumes would have something for “cleansing” your old vibes… Try one in an Oust fan??? Hmmm… [Next page](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/post-break-up-cleaning-renewing-mode/3645.md?page=2)