# Question from a first time (and skeptical) pheromone user **URL:** \ **Category:** Men's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [July 11, 2014, 5:18pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/question-from-a-first-time-and-skeptical-pheromone-user/62394 "2014-07-11T17:18:00Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 6\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Futureman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/3da27b/32.png) [@Futureman](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Futureman)\ **Post date:** [July 11, 2014, 5:18pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/question-from-a-first-time-and-skeptical-pheromone-user/62394/1 "2014-07-11T17:18:00Z")
Hello folks. First post here. I’ll be getting my first [pheromones](https://pheromonelabs.com/) in the mail today and will be using them this evening (Pheromonexs XiSt and Love Boat). I’m in my 40’s and looking to encourage more flirtatious and romantic chemistry with my wonderful wife. Of course, attention from other women is certainly nice and does help with one’s confidence (and my wife loves confidence, so I’m not ashamed to admit that this would be a secondary aim for me). I’m wondering if the putative success of pheromones can be explained by a placebo effect (making its wearer believe he is more desirable, resulting in more confidence) and/or the wearer’s good looks. I’m a reasonably confident person (but not one to initiate small talk) and decent looking (but by no means a head-turner. Women usually become interested and engaged once I speak with them). I ask because I’m hoping to rule out certain reasonable, non-pheromone-related explanations for any positive effects I may perceive. I’m sure others have wondered about this and have discussed it. Any thoughts and suggestions for this initiate would be appreciated. ---
**Author:** ![mobocaster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c2a13f/32.png) [@mobocaster](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mobocaster)\ **Post date:** [July 11, 2014, 6:16pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/question-from-a-first-time-and-skeptical-pheromone-user/62394/2 "2014-07-11T18:16:51Z")
For some people it may be a part of the story but for most of us its a whole lot more about the way others respond to them - I’d suggest you don’t look for immediate hits/responses and instead look to how things are a few weeks/months down the line. In fact I’ll almost always suggest that people looking to use pheros for self-confidence/self-effects should look elsewhere, for something more tangible and more permanent as phero self-effects tend to be highly variable between individuals and individual pheros, sometimes fleeting and easily adapted to, untll the doses they require get to levels that will very likely work right against them. Improving confidence/self-image/projection in other ways is usually much better, then any self effects from pheros are a bonus and you don’t feel the need to depend on pheros - although they do help every other improvement to hang together better. Sometimes you do get immediate/in your face results, certainly but a lot of the time (and this does depend on phero choice) you don’t realise till some time later that things have changed for the better. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Blacky\_Chan](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/blacky_chan/32/973_2.png) [@Blacky\_Chan](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Blacky_Chan)\ **Post date:** [July 11, 2014, 7:54pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/question-from-a-first-time-and-skeptical-pheromone-user/62394/3 "2014-07-11T19:54:50Z")
Easiest way to see if onerous work is to purposely OD. 5-6 sprays of tuth or IO and see what happens ---
**Author:** ![Futureman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/3da27b/32.png) [@Futureman](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Futureman)\ **Post date:** [July 11, 2014, 8:16pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/question-from-a-first-time-and-skeptical-pheromone-user/62394/4 "2014-07-11T20:16:00Z")
Thanks for the responses. My order just came in, and I’ll be trying a blend that has been recommended elsewhere: XiSt+Love Boat+Taboo (all from PheromonesXS). As an initial trial, not sure if two sprays of all three would be too much. We’ll see… ---
**Author:** ![Blacky\_Chan](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/blacky_chan/32/973_2.png) [@Blacky\_Chan](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Blacky_Chan)\ **Post date:** [July 11, 2014, 9:07pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/question-from-a-first-time-and-skeptical-pheromone-user/62394/5 "2014-07-11T21:07:27Z")
> [@Futureman](#): > > Thanks for the responses. My order just came in, and I’ll be trying a blend that has been recommended elsewhere: XiSt+Love Boat+Taboo (all from PheromonesXS). As an initial trial, not sure if two sprays of all three would be too much. We’ll see… Well it’s a proven combo, but with all pheromones you should start with one product and get a feel before mixing. ---
**Author:** ![Futureman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/3da27b/32.png) [@Futureman](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Futureman)\ **Post date:** [July 12, 2014, 1:41pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/question-from-a-first-time-and-skeptical-pheromone-user/62394/6 "2014-07-12T13:41:21Z")
Thanks for the tip. This probably needs a new thread, but shortly after application I felt pretty agitated and light-headed. Later in the evening I noticed my wife sweeter and more affectionate than usual. But multiple tries in various environments will help determine whether this was causation or just correlation.