# Reconciliation with a friend, thanks to A314-b **URL:** \ **Category:** Men's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [March 23, 2018, 4:10pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/reconciliation-with-a-friend-thanks-to-a314-b/67661 "2018-03-23T16:10:10Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 3\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![TheAttractor](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/theattractor/32/575_2.png) [@TheAttractor](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/TheAttractor)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2018, 4:10pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/reconciliation-with-a-friend-thanks-to-a314-b/67661/1 "2018-03-23T16:10:10Z")
First, a bit of backstory. Last month (February), me and my friend had a mild falling out. Nothing to fully destroy the friendship, but enough to go from hanging out twice a week, to periodic courtesy texts. I tried telling her I was sorry, without beta-izing myself too much, but I still felt like some damage was done. This past Sunday, however, I called her and persuaded her to meet me for a taco Tuesday, to talk things out and patch things up. That’s when I found a empty bottle of A314, to-go spray version. I know there was _something_ still there, but it was all dried out and caked on the inside. I must have forgotten to screw on the lid tightly when I stuck the bottle into my medicine cabinet back in 2016. So I poured about a teaspoon of rubbing alcohol into it, then shook the bottle hard, to salvage the dried-out contents. So this is what I wore: A314: unknown amount, smeared on forehead **Self** I could smell the A314 after putting it on, so I knew it was there. On the way over, I was on a mini-roller coaster, to be honest. My mind kept flip-flopping: from feeling sad about things not being the same, to feeling pumped about being persuasive earlier. As with many other [pheromones](https://a314.com/), the glow of streetlights (it was dusk) seemed to elevate my mood a little. I got there first, texted her “here”, and waited in front of the cantina we agreed to meet at. **Friend** _Demographics: Caucasian, early 20’s_ This is the same friend I talked about before. She saw me on the street, and looked happy to see me. We briefly caught up, although no apologies were exchanged; it was either implied or unnecessary. We went inside and sat down at a 4-seater table of her choice (read below). We weren’t as flirty as before, but our conversation was as smooth as always. She smiled and joked a lot, with periodic eye contact, and seemed happy to hang out with me again. We ordered beers and tacos; I got fish, and she got al pastor (spicy pork). **New people** Demographics: Caucasian, late 20’s to early 30’s About 10 minutes into the night, she told me more people are on the way. It was a couple, a man and a woman, who she knows through her job. I suspected she invited them to cut down on the awkwardness factor, but they seemed fun when I met them. I ended up talking a lot to the guy, and she ended up talking a lot to the girl, although everyone talked to everyone. The guy in particular seemed to think I was really cool: his eyes practically lit up and he high-fived me, when I started passionately trashing Windows 8. (He works in IT, like me.) Me and him exchanged LinkedIn contacts at the end. The girl looked really pleased when I told her I knew how to waltz, and overtly hinted at the four of us going to a ballroom dance studio. **Conclusion** This stuff works! 😃 It possibly kept a great friendship from fading into nonexistence. Plus, I’m sure the new people’s positive reaction to me helped rebuild my image in my friend’s eyes (a.k.a. social proofing) in an alpha way. I realize I might not be out of the woods yet, and more time might be necessary to smooth things out, but the worst seems to be over. I also met cool new people who could be job contacts, activity partners, etc. (I’ll hold off on saying “friends” until I spend enough time with them, should that happen.) This night also clinches what I read on PUA forums: it helps to be opinionated about something specific, without being angry about it. It makes you look confident. **Closing question** Based on the hits I got, how much A314 do you think there was? A lot, a little, or just right? Because everyone I interacted with that night seemed to react overwhelmingly positively to me. ---
**Author:** ![Anne\_s](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/b782af/32.png) [@Anne\_s](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Anne_s)\ **Post date:** [May 21, 2018, 6:52am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/reconciliation-with-a-friend-thanks-to-a314-b/67661/2 "2018-05-21T06:52:51Z")
Nice post. I’ll try wearing my a314 later. I’m going to attend a seminar where my former boss is the resource person. He is a friend. Although our friendship was affected months after I started working for him. Let’s see if A314 can help me level the field with him again. He’s also a leader in our church. ---
**Author:** ![Anne\_s](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/b782af/32.png) [@Anne\_s](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Anne_s)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2018, 6:59am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/reconciliation-with-a-friend-thanks-to-a314-b/67661/3 "2018-05-22T06:59:30Z")
I end up using A314 Royale instead, and a couple of drops of IShine. I think it elevated my status, without any antagonistic vibe to my former boss friend. He’s acting cool and chummy with me again during breaks.