# Result from my approach asked for help two weeks ago **URL:** \ **Category:** Men's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [July 24, 2009, 12:47am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/result-from-my-approach-asked-for-help-two-weeks-ago/30952 "2009-07-24T00:47:45Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 9\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Gam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/85e7bf/32.png) [@Gam](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Gam)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2009, 12:47am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/result-from-my-approach-asked-for-help-two-weeks-ago/30952/1 "2009-07-24T00:47:45Z")
Hey guys, well I’m back from the army. Well, for those of you who remember, (and the people who don’t can read this thread [What to wear when telling a coworker I like her, and reading her mixed signals](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/need-the-perfect-mix-for-cutting-the-crap-and-telling-the-girl-i-like-her/30546) ). First of all I would like to thank all of you who gave me advice and holding fingers for me. Well, I did it. I came up to her, told her that she is cool and I find myself thinking about her a lot. I have to say, like catlord said would happen, I was physically shaking, very hard for me to talk at first, breathing very heavily (I do think though I managed to hide it fairly well). I was wearing 1 drop of A314 on my chin, 1.5 spray ammo on my neck, and 1-3 sprays of IO (all sprayed about 5 hours before the conversation). Her reaction – completely shocked, shy. She said we should sit down, while the whole conversation she barley looked at me. She told me she was going out with someone. I asked her if it was serious, and she said she didn’t know. Anyway, she had no idea I liked her, completely shocked (or at least that’s how it looked, and she said she didn’t notice). After that I tired to break the ice, so I kind of laughed and asked her why she was so shocked and bummed (her still not looking at me) while saying I’m the one who should be bummed (said playfully). After that she complemented me on the nerves to come up to her and tell her. My situation now – I’m a total wreck. Guys, I am so depressed, I know this is sick and I shouldn’t be going for this one girl, but I CAN’T stop thinking about her. Seriously, my health is starting to be compromised. I am experiencing stomach aches for the past 2 weeks. I do try and act like nothing happened when I’m next to her. But the fact is, I can’t stand the fact I can’t be with her. So much for IOI’s I thought I was getting. Your thoughts, Gam ---
**Author:** ![mikotorocks714](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mikotorocks714/32/1509_2.png) [@mikotorocks714](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mikotorocks714)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2009, 2:41am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/result-from-my-approach-asked-for-help-two-weeks-ago/30952/2 "2009-07-24T02:41:00Z")
The next step, won’t be easy but _just get over it_. I know _it won’t_ be easy, but this is NOTHING to ruin your health over. It happens, don’t let her be your downfall. I know it will be hard, but look at you. You’re saying your being sick to your stomach, that’s not good. Just try to move on, it’s the only thing to do and in no way _do not_ let her see you affected. > [@Gam](#): > > Hey guys, well I’m back from the army. Well, for those of you who remember, (and the people who don’t can read this thread [What to wear when telling a coworker I like her, and reading her mixed signals](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/need-the-perfect-mix-for-cutting-the-crap-and-telling-the-girl-i-like-her/30546) ). > First of all I would like to thank all of you who gave me advice and holding fingers for me. > > Well, I did it. I came up to her, told her that she is cool and I find myself thinking about her a lot. I have to say, like catlord said would happen, I was physically shaking, very hard for me to talk at first, breathing very heavily (I do think though I managed to hide it fairly well). I was wearing 1 drop of A314 on my chin, 1.5 spray ammo on my neck, and 1-3 sprays of IO (all sprayed about 5 hours before the conversation). > > Her reaction – completely shocked, shy. She said we should sit down, while the whole conversation she barley looked at me. > She told me she was going out with someone. I asked her if it was serious, and she said she didn’t know. > Anyway, she had no idea I liked her, completely shocked (or at least that’s how it looked, and she said she didn’t notice). After that I tired to break the ice, so I kind of laughed and asked her why she was so shocked and bummed (her still not looking at me) while saying I’m the one who should be bummed (said playfully). After that she complemented me on the nerves to come up to her and tell her. > > My situation now – I’m a total wreck. Guys, I am so depressed, I know this is sick and I shouldn’t be going for this one girl, but I CAN’T stop thinking about her. Seriously, my health is starting to be compromised. I am experiencing stomach aches for the past 2 weeks. > I do try and act like nothing happened when I’m next to her. But the fact is, I can’t stand the fact I can’t be with her. > > So much for IOI’s I thought I was getting. > > Your thoughts, > Gam ---
**Author:** ![mikotorocks714](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mikotorocks714/32/1509_2.png) [@mikotorocks714](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mikotorocks714)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2009, 2:43am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/result-from-my-approach-asked-for-help-two-weeks-ago/30952/3 "2009-07-24T02:43:15Z")
By the way, you should’ve sprayed everything a little bit sooner. By the 5th hour mark I’m sure most of the [pheromones](https://a314.com/) were already very diminished in effect. However, if she doesn’t like you that way no pheromone was going to help you there so as mentioned, just move on. I’m sorry… ---
**Author:** ![Vangelis](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/vangelis/32/598_2.png) [@Vangelis](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Vangelis)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2009, 3:11am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/result-from-my-approach-asked-for-help-two-weeks-ago/30952/4 "2009-07-24T03:11:50Z")
“You can not be a lover of women if you don’t love yourself” I just heard this phrase and now I bump into your post. Whatever you decide as your path forward: fight for her, let her go, befriend her or many other possibilities, your first and foremost step is to respect and love yourself. Nothing is lost, the future unfolds a day at a time and many magnificent things maybe awaiting for you, are awaiting for you: other ladies, other adventures, how knows, surprises indeed. However, you have to act on your best interest and enact and act of love and appreciation to yourself first. You should be proud of yourself. You dared to talk to her and express your honest feelings. Just for that, you stand out of the crowd already. ---
**Author:** ![M\_M](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/9fc29f/32.png) [@M\_M](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/M_M)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2009, 3:19am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/result-from-my-approach-asked-for-help-two-weeks-ago/30952/5 "2009-07-24T03:19:57Z")
He should have NEVER told her how he felt UNLESS he KNEW she had feelings for him. Yeah, he’s standing out, alright. 🙄 It never fails … open your mouth before you’re sure, and you end up eating your own foot. Now he’s “THAT GUY that likes me.” Still … there’s always that chance that IT COULD WORK. It’s a learning process … you’ll be fine sooner or later. 😉 Good luck! > [@mikotorocks714](#): > > **By the way, you should’ve sprayed everything a little bit sooner. By the 5th hour mark I’m sure most of the pheromones were already very diminished in effect.** However, if she doesn’t like you that way no pheromone was going to help you there so as mentioned, just move on. I’m sorry… That, too. ---
**Author:** ![mikotorocks714](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mikotorocks714/32/1509_2.png) [@mikotorocks714](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mikotorocks714)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2009, 3:36am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/result-from-my-approach-asked-for-help-two-weeks-ago/30952/6 "2009-07-24T03:36:24Z")
That’s also true (what Vangelis and M&M posted,) but since the OP stated that he was getting IOI from her then I guess maybe that’s what made him think she probably liked him so in a way it was not his fault but perhaps also a misunderstanding. It’s hard to tell if someone likes you, and trying to find out first if she liked you would’ve been great, but unfortunately it’s never that easy. So as Vangelis also wrote, love yourself first and don’t be so hard on yourself… I mean you’re practically sick to your stomach (not good.) ---
**Author:** ![Vangelis](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/vangelis/32/598_2.png) [@Vangelis](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Vangelis)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2009, 3:39am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/result-from-my-approach-asked-for-help-two-weeks-ago/30952/7 "2009-07-24T03:39:30Z")
> [@M\_M](#): > > He should have NEVER told her how he felt UNLESS he KNEW she had feelings for him. Maybe… > [@mikotorocks714](#): > > OP stated that he was getting IOI from her > [@M\_M](#): > > Still … there’s always that chance that IT COULD WORK. I concur. > [@M\_M](#): > > When you give from the HEART … you’re giving away TOP OF THE LINE stuff! 😛 Totally Agree!!! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Vaccine](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/vaccine/32/2381_2.png) [@Vaccine](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Vaccine)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2009, 3:42am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/result-from-my-approach-asked-for-help-two-weeks-ago/30952/8 "2009-07-24T03:42:28Z")
First, sorry about how you are feeling. Second, you acted on your feelings, right or wrong, and you showed guts. No small thing. I can’t take away the hurt, you’ll do that on your own, but you’ll decide how fast that will happen. I can say that I have an idea of how you feel, but move on. She may be in your future, no one knows. Indulge yourself for a bit, then pick yourself up and soldier on, soldier. Acknowledge your feelings, but learn to put them aside and go on living. Think of this, imagine that she continues with her relationship and it founders, leaving her available. But in that time she sees you as hurt and broken, thinking maybe it was better we never had a relationship. Or she can see you as someone who rolled with life’s ups and downs and maybe worth getting to know. I can’t say, but if you become the person that rolls with the ups and downs, you’ll be prepared for whatever relationship comes your way - her or any other. Good luck to you. ---
**Author:** ![M\_M](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/9fc29f/32.png) [@M\_M](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/M_M)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2009, 3:55am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/result-from-my-approach-asked-for-help-two-weeks-ago/30952/9 "2009-07-24T03:55:43Z")
> [@mikotorocks714](#): > > That’s also true (what Vangelis and M&M posted,) but since the OP stated that he was getting IOI from her then I guess maybe that’s what made him think she probably liked him so in a way it was not his fault but perhaps also a misunderstanding. It’s hard to tell if someone likes you, and trying to find out first if she liked you would’ve been great, but unfortunately it’s never that easy. So as Vangelis also wrote, love yourself first and don’t be so hard on yourself… I mean you’re practically sick to your stomach (not good.) Sometimes you win, sometimes you learn. IF I was her and found out he was sick to his stomach, and we never had a relationship … I’d be AFRAID! I use to see IOI allllllll the time! At least I THOUGHT I did. I went out with a guy, not really knowing him. We were at a bar, this hottie smiles at him, he didn’t move. After about 2 hours, I ended up talking to her … can’t remember how it happened. I wasn’t attracted to her, we just somehow end up talking. On the way home, he said I took HIS girl. 😮 I said all that to say, you never know what someone is thinking, or how they are thinking it. My advice to him is to make sure, when he sees her, giver her that sunshine smile and ask her how she’s doing, etc. etc. WHATEVER he does … do not change what you’ve been doing. She’ll see it, she’ll know. No job is worth a crush. I was working at a company, where this guy spoke to a lady … he said, “Hi baby.” He says that to all women, it’s his way, but … FIRED! Nope, I’m not bashing … I’ve been there, and EVERY SINGLE TIME I opened my mouth about my feelings … CRASH AND BURN! And I **KNEW** they liked me … 'cause they always wanted a hug. I opened my mouth and shazamee … WHICH WAY DID THEY GO!? 😮 There’s always that EXCEPTION, and I wish that for him, but him feeling sick about her, and they’re not in a relationship, is NOT a GOOD sign. Hang in there as best as you can GAM. It will be alright.