well well well…
with all that in mind,
my recommendations are definately instant shine, Instant Openness applied to the hair is a social firecracker, and for the love or everything scented, pick you up some TAH.
not some 5 mcg stuff, but hook you up with the 15-20 mcg stuff.
TAH is magic! - PheroTalk Pheromone Forum
read this, its a beginning to why TAH is a beautiful thing.
there have been a million threads about TAH alone since, but this one is a good beginners thread.
you’ll be sold.
as for the mixing in oils, thats very tricky.
sillage is everything ,and im afraid the oils dont do much to help that for alot of this stuff.
keep us posted, im sure you will have lots of fun here 
P.S. im here for the help,sorry if calling you sneaky was offensive; where i reside sneaky is not only a compliment, but its the air i breathe…mua hahahahahaha…