# So I guess Im not the only one, huh? **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [July 11, 2013, 2:52am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-i-guess-im-not-the-only-one-huh/59553 "2013-07-11T02:52:20Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 5\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![mike8668](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/85f322/32.png) [@mike8668](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mike8668)\ **Post date:** [July 11, 2013, 2:52am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-i-guess-im-not-the-only-one-huh/59553/1 "2013-07-11T02:52:20Z")
Just out of a 25 yr relationship and I guess Im looking ‘for an edge’ that might allow a woman to overlook some of my dork-i-ness. Not expecting miracles but being out of play so long… If i feel it gives me a leg up, I will recommend to friends!! These are 'gender specific" correct? Honestly, the GC is a real good attractant in itself..As I find funds tight now, loneliness sucks more ---
**Author:** ![mobocaster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c2a13f/32.png) [@mobocaster](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mobocaster)\ **Post date:** [July 11, 2013, 3:46am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-i-guess-im-not-the-only-one-huh/59553/2 "2013-07-11T03:46:12Z")
You are far from the only one! 😃 Good - pheros are not miracles by themselves but if you are taking yourself in hand in other ways, you will find pheros make it all hang-together and work better. Yes, some products are gender specific (male - Ammo, TUTH IJ, IG, A314) whilst others are unisex [Instant Shine](https://a314.com/product/shine/), IO, IH) and othes are experimental products that can steer consumer products in different ways or have their own standalone properties. A bit more info about your personality, people you want to use pheros around and your opportunities to use pheros will help us offer some pointers and earn you the GC to get started. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![mike8668](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/85f322/32.png) [@mike8668](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mike8668)\ **Post date:** [July 11, 2013, 9:46am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-i-guess-im-not-the-only-one-huh/59553/3 "2013-07-11T09:46:07Z")
Now that I am divorced, I find that I’m extremely self conscious. too many years of a “meh, who am i trying to impress” attitude has caught up with me. Not planning to use pheros in a large crowd. I have a lady ‘friend’ in mind. MIght be a good experiment as we are just ‘friends’ (now).. I could honestly get feedback from her. Not a club type of person, so would be in a closer atmosphere, restaurant table, drive in the car. Basically not looking for a Peannuts cartoon Pig-Pen type cloud to hang over but something more subtle. ---
**Author:** ![mobocaster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c2a13f/32.png) [@mobocaster](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mobocaster)\ **Post date:** [July 11, 2013, 10:48am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-i-guess-im-not-the-only-one-huh/59553/4 "2013-07-11T10:48:16Z")
OK, in that case I’d suggest you look into something with status and a moderate sexual undertone and some comfort/bonding pheros. But the good thing is that at 44, you can use a more overt signature and if she is co-aged (or at least over 30) she too will be responsive to more overt mixes. A314 is excellent for conveying status and good solid relationship qualities and IH has good bonding/closeness/sharing properties. Steer these two with some [Instant Shine](https://a314.com/product/shine/) for a happy/feelgood aura and you have an effective basic mix that can be used widely. You can further sexualise it with a small amount of TUTH as things progress and more uninhibited/sexual interactions develop. Don’t worry about TUTH’s overtness here - stick to the 1x formula initially, build your dose-up slowly and the other components will balance it nicely. IH/IS is also very viable in its own. Ammo (prob 2x) is also very useful as an all round social/sexy attractant. Although an experimental product so no warranty, P83 is very useful as a secondary phero to help take things physical. Go for around 10-12.5 mcg for starters so you can cover a fairly wide dose range. FTM there is an issue with the current (Rev31) A314 oil, which is a shame as oil is normally best in so many ways, so the sprays are the way forward here. The /b spray is dosed to be similar in impact to oil whilst the /a is higher-impact. Both are quite viable here. You should also search out threads on “Fallout Mixes” - which is an application of phero use well suited to promoting bonding and relationships, whilst taking it easy around someone. Plenty of good suggestions there. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Kelsey](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/kelsey/32/8468_2.png) [@Kelsey](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Kelsey)\ **Post date:** [July 14, 2013, 12:33pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-i-guess-im-not-the-only-one-huh/59553/5 "2013-07-14T12:33:27Z")
Welcome Mike, This is a super informal and not so tailored response if you will. I would luuuuuuuv to spend more time assisting you especially since you are a newbie. We are short staffed and these gift certificates are done manually. It takes a great deal and I am back logged. I am hoping that when I catch up on my work, I can start answering these intro threads the way I use to In fact, I am hoping that soon, someone more experienced than me can come in so I get to do what I am great at, customer service. Thank you for giving [pheromones](https://a314.com/) a chance. Your gc was issued!