# So me and my GF want a threesome. Sugestions? **URL:** \ **Category:** Men's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [May 2, 2009, 8:09pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-me-and-my-gf-want-a-threesome-sugestions/28593 "2009-05-02T20:09:25Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 17\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![whyler](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/a183cd/32.png) [@whyler](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/whyler)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2009, 8:09pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-me-and-my-gf-want-a-threesome-sugestions/28593/1 "2009-05-02T20:09:25Z")
So my GF is bi and we would like to be able to just pick girls up for casual 3somes every now and then. The problem is neither of us has ever done this before and since we have been dating for almost 4 years we have lost any and all of the little pickup experience we had before. I’m also sure picking someone up for a threesome is quite different than a normal pickup. We are both pretty attractive (probably 7 to 8 on 10 scale) but we are kinda shy (part of the reason we havent really tried this yet). So I was wondering if anyone had any ideas on venues, strategies, and pheros to use for this type of thing. Any help is appreciated, thanks. ---
**Author:** ![aequitas300](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ed8c4c/32.png) [@aequitas300](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/aequitas300)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2009, 8:48pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-me-and-my-gf-want-a-threesome-sugestions/28593/2 "2009-05-02T20:48:56Z")
Pics of the girls would help us decide what pheromones would be best… lol Are you familiar with Ammunition or Turn up the Heat? You might want to look at pheros for her also… Instant Sexyness for example. If [Instant Female Magic](https://a314.com/product/instant-female-magic/) ever comes back in stock, there’s a woman’s version of that you’d want to check out. ---
**Author:** ![whyler](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/a183cd/32.png) [@whyler](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/whyler)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2009, 9:12pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-me-and-my-gf-want-a-threesome-sugestions/28593/3 "2009-05-02T21:12:17Z")
I have TUTH, IS, IO, and AMMO. I might try to get here to post on here and get the GC so she can get some samples as well. As far as our looks go: We are both caucasian and 21 years old. I am of average height (5 10) and have an athletic build. Its a thinner athletic build becuase I was a runner and a swimmer. She is petite and also has a thinner athletic build. She was a dancer in highschool (mainly ballet). I hope that helps clarify our builds. I am lightly tanned with dark blond hair. She is fair skinned (so smooth and soft lol) with dark brown hair. I am not going to post pictures but I hope this helps. ---
**Author:** ![aequitas300](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ed8c4c/32.png) [@aequitas300](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/aequitas300)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2009, 9:15pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-me-and-my-gf-want-a-threesome-sugestions/28593/4 "2009-05-02T21:15:10Z")
> [@whyler](#): > > I have TUTH, IS, IO, and AMMO. I might try to get here to post on here and get the GC so she can get some samples as well. > > As far as our looks go: > We are both caucasian and 21 years old. > I am of average height (5 10) and have an athletic build. Its a thinner athletic build becuase I was a runner and a swimmer. > She is petite and also has a thinner athletic build. She was a dancer in highschool (mainly ballet). I hope that helps clarify our builds. > I am lightly tanned with dark blond hair. > She is fair skinned (so smooth and soft lol) with dark brown hair. > I am not going to post pictures but I hope this helps. I was kidding about the pics… lol Having her sign up for the GC sounds like a good idea. Once she finds out what pheros work best for her, you can both coordinate something and improve your odds.. ---
**Author:** ![SoulCreator](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/soulcreator/32/236_2.png) [@SoulCreator](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/SoulCreator)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2009, 11:20pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-me-and-my-gf-want-a-threesome-sugestions/28593/5 "2009-05-02T23:20:24Z")
I can’t say I’ve ever been skilled/lucky/foolish enough to ever bed two girls at the same time… but have you ever considered one of those online dating sites? I’m sure there’s got to be at least a few sites that would cater to the type of situation your looking to get yourself into. Sounds to me to be a hell of a simpler and straight forward then going to a bar and attempting locate another bisexual girl that you are both attracted to, and then attempting to convince her to have sex with the both of you. ---
**Author:** ![Julia](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/julia/32/1388_2.png) [@Julia](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Julia)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2009, 11:31pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-me-and-my-gf-want-a-threesome-sugestions/28593/6 "2009-05-02T23:31:39Z")
From experience on this front I can honestly say…Have your girl do the picking… she’ll be much less uninhibited and you will not have potential problems with jealousy or craziness on her part… and will feel safer to enjoy herself. ---
**Author:** ![whyler](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/a183cd/32.png) [@whyler](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/whyler)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2009, 11:55pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-me-and-my-gf-want-a-threesome-sugestions/28593/7 "2009-05-02T23:55:22Z")
Soulcreator, All of those sites cost money and give me a “scam vibe” if you know what I mean. Then there is crailist but I get a "dirty vibe " there lol. Julia, We are both very liberal and are in an open relationship. There should not be any jealousy issues (especially seeing as it should be as fun for her as for me). We do have similar taste in women so if she were too pick it would be fine but really I think we should both be involved equally in the decision. Thanks for the suggestions though. I will probably let her have a bigger part in everything the first time just to be safe I guess. 😉 Anyway, any suggestions on how either of us should go about approaching someone? And what kind of pheros would be good? ---
**Author:** ![Julia](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/julia/32/1388_2.png) [@Julia](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Julia)\ **Post date:** [May 3, 2009, 12:09am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-me-and-my-gf-want-a-threesome-sugestions/28593/8 "2009-05-03T00:09:28Z")
Whyler… your welcome.. it sounds like your both on the same page as to what you find attractive which is helpful… my suggestion is if and when you guys are actively looking… maybe if she wears a girl to girl phero so she can attract another bi or bi curious girl. As far as jealousy goes, sexual persuasions aside… when we love someone its hard to see them intimate with someone else so giving her the control in picking might actually ease any possible friction. Give her the fantasy and see what ideas she comes up with… she may even know someone she has in mind herself, you never know. ---
**Author:** ![SoulCreator](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/soulcreator/32/236_2.png) [@SoulCreator](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/SoulCreator)\ **Post date:** [May 3, 2009, 12:20am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-me-and-my-gf-want-a-threesome-sugestions/28593/9 "2009-05-03T00:20:08Z")
> [@whyler](#): > > Soulcreator, > All of those sites cost money and give me a “scam vibe” if you know what I mean. Then there is crailist but I get a "dirty vibe " there lol. Eh, if you run a google search you will find there are a handful of free dating sites out there if you look for 'em. But to each their own. ---
**Author:** ![whyler](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/a183cd/32.png) [@whyler](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/whyler)\ **Post date:** [May 3, 2009, 12:46am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-me-and-my-gf-want-a-threesome-sugestions/28593/10 "2009-05-03T00:46:11Z")
Soul, I guess Ill have to look harder 😉 Julia, My GF and I have been together for 4 years and have talked about this for about a year…to say the least we have talked about many fantasies :o. Also, all of the people she has had in mind have not really worked out so we have decided to go on the hunt. Believe me we have thought about this alot. 😃. Also, as I said we are in an open relationship in that we allow each other to do what we want as long as we are safe and retain the same love for eachother. She has taken advantage of that situation whereas I have not and this is completely fine with me because it is in tune with our philosify. 🙂 We know eachother well enough to know what would make the other uncomfortable. Thanks again for all the replies. Keep them comming. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![data4](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/data4/32/272_2.png) [@data4](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/data4)\ **Post date:** [May 3, 2009, 1:20am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-me-and-my-gf-want-a-threesome-sugestions/28593/11 "2009-05-03T01:20:42Z")
Craigslist. \ ---
**Author:** ![AlexanderG](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/alexanderg/32/891_2.png) [@AlexanderG](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/AlexanderG)\ **Post date:** [May 3, 2009, 2:00am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-me-and-my-gf-want-a-threesome-sugestions/28593/12 "2009-05-03T02:00:14Z")
Hey whyler, This isn’t all that difficult, so many women have these fantasies. For starters, you will need to target the right venues, where like minded ladies may hang out. Next, I suggest one of you approach a target, or if you’re together, casually make a passing comment over your shoulder, then if the signs are right continue to engage. If you’ve got the charm (chose your [pheromones](https://a314.com/) carefully 🙂 ) I suggest you open a set on your own, when your girlfriend is not present jokingly complain about how horny your girlfriend is for another woman, as she used to be a lesbian etc. Then ask the target for ‘suggestions’ to remedy this. She will either indicate an interest in meeting your girl, or she will not. After a couple minutes your girlfriend should arrive and say hi, just for maybe 15 seconds. Do a quick intro, to build some initial comfort, then your girl should point to another side of the room, like she is involved in an interaction over there, and leave. Joke further with the target that your girl is probably picking up. In a few minutes your girl should return and its a good time to isolate the target, buy her a drink etc and get into further conversation. At some point, you or your girlfriend should whisper in her ear that there is an interest, or use bodylanguage to communicate a romantic interest. Now, you will need to find a reason to bounce, preferably back to your home – hopefully it’s not far away, this will make it easier. The reason can be something simple like showing a dvd collection, photos, more partying etc. Once at home, to get things moving, you come up with the ‘eureka’ idea to do “dual-massages” on each other, which can feel fantastic with 2 sets of hands working a body. Give your target plenty of attention. When you and your girlfriend massage her, you and your girlfriend should kiss. Then when the target and your girlfriend massage, that’s when your girl has to pull the target in for a kiss. Then, you’re on your way to an ‘innocent and spontaneous’ threesome, hopefully 🙂 This strategy can be shuffled around in so many ways, ie your gf does most of the communication and builds most of the comfort. Kiss games can also be good at a club for instance, with the goal of getting your girlfriend and another girl to practice kissing on each other in order to ‘test’ how good of a kisser they are, etc. These are just a couple techniques which can work. I hope this helps, good luck 😃 ---
**Author:** ![reishi](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/reishi/32/411_2.png) [@reishi](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/reishi)\ **Post date:** [May 3, 2009, 2:28am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-me-and-my-gf-want-a-threesome-sugestions/28593/13 "2009-05-03T02:28:50Z")
Anytime I want to have a threesome, I just go on down to the Circle-K and pick up some flavored condoms and a bottle of Magnum from the Malt liquer repository. Then I just go wait outside and when a fine momma comes walking up I say" Damn momma, what you trying to smuggle in that big ass of yours." I will flash her a smile and when she gets a load of my solid gold grille she will pretty much leave with me on the spot. Fine chicks love a man with a gold grille. Then we will go a block over to the chicken stand and I will pull the same move while my first lady-angel is sipping on the bottom half of my Magnum. I generally have little to no problem over at the chicken stand because women love to see me eat chicken. Women like to see men eat with their fingers and shit. Makes them look more realistical. especially when the grease from the chicken mixes in and reflects in the light from the polished gold grille in my mouth. a real woman would melt on the spot Ultimately, the hardest part is figuring out which woman I DON’T want to take home from the chicken shack. Long story short: I would save the money from your next purchase and get a grille set for your teeth. ---
**Author:** ![whyler](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/a183cd/32.png) [@whyler](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/whyler)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2009, 4:14am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-me-and-my-gf-want-a-threesome-sugestions/28593/14 "2009-05-04T04:14:55Z")
Thanks for the suggestions guys. Keep them coming. Anyone have any personal stories to share?😃 ---
**Author:** ![Ball.Saxbury](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/ball.saxbury/32/1063_2.png) [@Ball.Saxbury](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Ball.Saxbury)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2009, 7:13am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-me-and-my-gf-want-a-threesome-sugestions/28593/15 "2009-05-04T07:13:16Z")
> [@reishi](#): > > Anytime I want to have a threesome, I just go on down to the Circle-K and pick up some flavored condoms and a bottle of Magnum from the Malt liquer repository. > > Then I just go wait outside and when a fine momma comes walking up I say" Damn momma, what you trying to smuggle in that big ass of yours." I will flash her a smile and when she gets a load of my solid gold grille she will pretty much leave with me on the spot. Fine chicks love a man with a gold grille. Then we will go a block over to the chicken stand and I will pull the same move while my first lady-angel is sipping on the bottom half of my Magnum. I generally have little to no problem over at the chicken stand because women love to see me eat chicken. Women like to see men eat with their fingers and shit. Makes them look more realistical. especially when the grease from the chicken mixes in and reflects in the light from the polished gold grille in my mouth. a real woman would melt on the spot > > Ultimately, the hardest part is figuring out which woman I DON’T want to take home from the chicken shack. Long story short: I would save the money from your next purchase and get a grille set for your teeth. This is disgustingly funny. Mega reps. ---
**Author:** ![Walkertxrangr0](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/walkertxrangr0/32/1344_2.png) [@Walkertxrangr0](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Walkertxrangr0)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2009, 8:53am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-me-and-my-gf-want-a-threesome-sugestions/28593/16 "2009-05-04T08:53:44Z")
I’ll leave the Phero ideas to the pros, on a personal level though… Take your vitamins, do some cardio, and thank whatever higher being you pray to 😃 ---
**Author:** ![onthornsilay](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/onthornsilay/32/1427_2.png) [@onthornsilay](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/onthornsilay)\ **Post date:** [October 28, 2009, 12:15am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-me-and-my-gf-want-a-threesome-sugestions/28593/17 "2009-10-28T00:15:46Z")
i got a 3 some once, i had to be very cocky about it, i pulled a girl went back to hers, and since her mate didn’t like my friend, i said i will have the both of u and it happened lol… as far as sprays go.. theres no need.. just tell your gf to put an add up in an online dating site, there will be tons of girls that will be eger.