# So what would be best to attract her again ? **URL:** \ **Category:** Men's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [March 6, 2015, 10:44am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-what-would-be-best-to-attract-her-again/63963 "2015-03-06T10:44:23Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 10
**Author:** ![replay25](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/7ba0ec/32.png) [@replay25](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/replay25)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2015, 10:42pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-what-would-be-best-to-attract-her-again/63963/181 "2015-04-10T22:42:52Z")
> [@mobocaster](#): > > And if you do get a setback, make no issue of it and don’t let her see you bothered by it - you see how your going for the kiss doesn’t seem to have changed anything! 🙂 Well in a way maybe the kiss worked in my favor. She might be thinking in the lines of “OK he tried to kiss me, he want’s to get back together, but I don’t want to…” so she might be expecting much more “pressure” than me, which I do not give her. This might make her wondering… Even if she is having bad thoughts, any thoughts at all should be good… 😉 ---
**Author:** ![mobocaster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c2a13f/32.png) [@mobocaster](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mobocaster)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2015, 10:47pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-what-would-be-best-to-attract-her-again/63963/182 "2015-04-10T22:47:55Z")
Its also maybe important you don’t insinuate anything - Attraction/sexuality is carried at least as much by nonverbal cues - which is why a positive attitude. good bearing/kino, body language and eye contact count for so-much. Which is why you don’t want to sell yourself short by over-communicating without them to back you-up. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![replay25](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/7ba0ec/32.png) [@replay25](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/replay25)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2015, 10:52pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-what-would-be-best-to-attract-her-again/63963/183 "2015-04-10T22:52:38Z")
> [@mobocaster](#): > > Its also maybe important you don’t insinuate anything - Attraction/sexuality is carried at least as much by nonverbal cues - which is why a positive attitude. good bearing/kino, body language and eye contact count for so-much. > > Which is why you don’t want to sell yourself short by over-communicating without them to back you-up. 🙂 Yeah you are right. I was just thinking of just commenting on some personal jokes that we shared, or some sexual experiences. But this is better left out of the game for now. I wouldn’t want her to have any footing on which to reject me… Positive attitude and tension on the other way are just there, they cannot be rejected 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![mobocaster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c2a13f/32.png) [@mobocaster](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mobocaster)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2015, 11:05pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-what-would-be-best-to-attract-her-again/63963/184 "2015-04-10T23:05:28Z")
Exactly! ---
**Author:** ![replay25](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/7ba0ec/32.png) [@replay25](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/replay25)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2015, 11:08pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-what-would-be-best-to-attract-her-again/63963/185 "2015-04-10T23:08:29Z")
> [@mobocaster](#): > > Exactly! The funny thing now is, currently I am staying in the room she will have once she is here. And her future roommate is here too. And she is warming up to me a lot. I mean we were friends before and I really have no attraction for this girl. But we keep hanging out all the time, watching movies every night and when she starts talking to me she really does not stop… Seems like a mini fallout here… But really I am not attracted to this girl at all, but could I use this situation to my advantage ? Or could it possibly backfire ? ---
**Author:** ![mobocaster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c2a13f/32.png) [@mobocaster](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mobocaster)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2015, 12:44am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-what-would-be-best-to-attract-her-again/63963/186 "2015-04-11T00:44:44Z")
Yes, it could well be a secondary fallout here and a slightly smitten/highly impressed roommate could be very useful indeed - It might provide competition, jealousy, increase your challenge to her and if they talk, her stories of you, maybe pining **slightly** for a certain “mystery woman” could prove very supportive - but this time, don’t try to actively enlist her to your side - let her see all the good/attractive things and overall positive qualities all for herself - it will seem much more convincing and your target will likely admire you all the more if you don’t identify her to the roommate. ---
**Author:** ![replay25](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/7ba0ec/32.png) [@replay25](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/replay25)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2015, 8:13am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-what-would-be-best-to-attract-her-again/63963/187 "2015-04-11T08:13:19Z")
> [@mobocaster](#): > > Yes, it could well be a secondary fallout here and a slightly smitten/highly impressed roommate could be very useful indeed - It might provide competition, jealousy, increase your challenge to her and if they talk, her stories of you, maybe pining **slightly** for a certain “mystery woman” could prove very supportive - but this time, don’t try to actively enlist her to your side - let her see all the good/attractive things and overall positive qualities all for herself - it will seem much more convincing and your target will likely admire you all the more if you don’t identify her to the roommate. The roommate knows the whole story. But she doesn’t know who it is about. I haven’t identified her. Actually she knew it was a very bad period for me. But now I seem happier so this should be no problem. And as they will definitely talk I should think of something clever to tell her so she will communicate it to her… I have some time for that yet… ---
**Author:** ![alvin101](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/91b2a8/32.png) [@alvin101](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/alvin101)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2015, 1:17pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-what-would-be-best-to-attract-her-again/63963/188 "2015-04-11T13:17:09Z")
This journal is a great read! I wish you could’ve get physical with her before you left. But anyway you can definitely use her future roommate to your advantage. If her future roommate has a crush on you and the roommate tells her about it or even better if she can see for herself that her roommate has a crush on you it will definitely spark jealousy. After all she can’t fault you if other girls like you. The only question is how much does her future roommate like you? ---
**Author:** ![replay25](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/7ba0ec/32.png) [@replay25](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/replay25)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2015, 3:06pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-what-would-be-best-to-attract-her-again/63963/189 "2015-04-11T15:06:23Z")
I don’t know if it’s a real crush. But she is the kind of girl who has trouble having fun and is always working. And she is very happy I am here because I “force” her to have fun. I even think that when my girl is here, having her roommate telling her how much fun I can be (although she knows it) will be even better for attraction then her (roommate) having a crush on me. ---
**Author:** ![mobocaster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c2a13f/32.png) [@mobocaster](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mobocaster)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2015, 3:10pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-what-would-be-best-to-attract-her-again/63963/190 "2015-04-11T15:10:37Z")
Don’t try anything too clever - That could be taken as conniving or manipulative. Both of which will work against you big-time. The very last thing you want to happen is that the roommate reports back to her about someone like that. Keeping it simple and direct - but with a positive/capable slant is good and if the roommate is attracted to you to any great degree, that could well trigger posessive/competitive responses in your ex. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![replay25](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/7ba0ec/32.png) [@replay25](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/replay25)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2015, 3:30pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-what-would-be-best-to-attract-her-again/63963/191 "2015-04-11T15:30:58Z")
Yes mobo you are right. Just keep the fun coming. No plans and no expectations is the best thing to do. Well of course I can plan my strategy with your help guys. All is fair in love right? 😉 In another note, what kind of mix would you recommend for pub/bar scene in the UK ? Remember my collection is : a314, IS, IH, TUTH TO GO, Ammo regular and world edition, P74, P135 ---
**Author:** ![mobocaster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c2a13f/32.png) [@mobocaster](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mobocaster)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2015, 4:15pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-what-would-be-best-to-attract-her-again/63963/192 "2015-04-11T16:15:47Z")
For an all-round mix, Ammo/IS is great and if you move to a club or somewhere more raunchy, add-in an equal amount of TUTH to the Ammo. If you want a sociable/alpha vibe, A314/IS is great. IH/IS is more fun/engaging and both can be effectively sexualised by adding TUTH if needed. P74 is usable with all of these for a close/friendly effect - but too much loses any sexual edge unless its heavilly offset by TUTH It would be a good place to test p135 solo, then steer it with something else if needed. At 34, you are into the age range where A314/TUTH is very effective in clubs. Go higher than normal on the A314 and use a smaller amount of TUTH as steering - this may be a bit much around younger women though. ---
**Author:** ![replay25](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/7ba0ec/32.png) [@replay25](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/replay25)\ **Post date:** [April 12, 2015, 10:57am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-what-would-be-best-to-attract-her-again/63963/193 "2015-04-12T10:57:55Z")
Sanity check : last contact was on Tuesday… Do I keep waiting or do I make some contact? I hate when I start overthinking. You guys should put me on the right track again 😐 ---
**Author:** ![Dream\_Brother](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/dream_brother/32/1559_2.png) [@Dream\_Brother](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Dream_Brother)\ **Post date:** [April 12, 2015, 11:12am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-what-would-be-best-to-attract-her-again/63963/194 "2015-04-12T11:12:32Z")
Don’t cave in. Try and keep occupied with other things and leave contact for a little while longer. What was the absolute last thing she said to you, roughly? ---
**Author:** ![replay25](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/7ba0ec/32.png) [@replay25](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/replay25)\ **Post date:** [April 12, 2015, 11:22am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-what-would-be-best-to-attract-her-again/63963/195 "2015-04-12T11:22:34Z")
Asked for a picture of her room and said thank you when I sent it. Unimportant but when asking for the picture she also sent two smilie faces 😜 ---
**Author:** ![mobocaster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c2a13f/32.png) [@mobocaster](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mobocaster)\ **Post date:** [April 12, 2015, 11:35am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-what-would-be-best-to-attract-her-again/63963/196 "2015-04-12T11:35:17Z")
Yup - hang-on till after the weekend at least, then just a few messages to and fro if she responds, and back to silence for a while. ---
**Author:** ![replay25](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/7ba0ec/32.png) [@replay25](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/replay25)\ **Post date:** [April 12, 2015, 7:39pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-what-would-be-best-to-attract-her-again/63963/197 "2015-04-12T19:39:49Z")
Good thing the weekend is over and I’ll be busy again tomorrow… This is not going well for me… If she was not receptive and was lost off the face of the earth I would probably have moved on by now. But this contact that we had (convo/lunch/dinner…) is getting under my skin. I am thinking that I should be more active about it, but then again all you guys tell me to hold it and I am choosing to listen to you… If she doesn’t send anything the next few days I will try to initiate some contact. Maybe a phone call would be better than a message ? ---
**Author:** ![mobocaster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c2a13f/32.png) [@mobocaster](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mobocaster)\ **Post date:** [April 12, 2015, 9:33pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-what-would-be-best-to-attract-her-again/63963/198 "2015-04-12T21:33:36Z")
No - It was probably your being so “active” that was at least part of her getting cold feet to begin with - IME, its always best to let the woman make more of the running for a relationship than the man. That way they invest themselves emotionally more and are far less likely to pull back. A week or two without contact is just fine - Maybe drop her a message in a couple of days but don’t worry about it. That lunch/dinner/convo is probably doing much the same for her too. If you think you can handle a phonecall better than a message then go-for it but the same general principles apply. Its just a placeholder to keep contact/interest going till you see her again in person. So don’t let it drag-out, leave her wanting and keep it upbeat and positive. Also don’t get dragged into relationship talk. ---
**Author:** ![replay25](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/7ba0ec/32.png) [@replay25](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/replay25)\ **Post date:** [April 12, 2015, 9:46pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-what-would-be-best-to-attract-her-again/63963/199 "2015-04-12T21:46:53Z")
> [@mobocaster](#): > > No - It was probably your being so “active” that was at least part of her getting cold feet to begin with - IME, its always best to let the woman make more of the running for a relationship than the man. That way they invest themselves emotionally more and are far less likely to pull back. > > A week or two without contact is just fine - Maybe drop her a message in a couple of days but don’t worry about it. That lunch/dinner/convo is probably doing much the same for her too. > > If you think you can handle a phonecall better than a message then go-for it but the same general principles apply. Its just a placeholder to keep contact/interest going till you see her again in person. So don’t let it drag-out, leave her wanting and keep it upbeat and positive. Also don’t get dragged into relationship talk. Maybe I should not do anything… Each time I holded out she was the first to make contact. Even if limited… Mobo am I going too far putting my faith in a fallout mix ? Could this actually work in the end or am I just holding on to a fading hope here ? I mean I know all indications were good so far, but in the end if she wanted to truly be with me nothing would matter right ? ---
**Author:** ![mobocaster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c2a13f/32.png) [@mobocaster](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mobocaster)\ **Post date:** [April 12, 2015, 10:00pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-what-would-be-best-to-attract-her-again/63963/200 "2015-04-12T22:00:05Z")
The mix works in support of your personality/presence - so you will need to be doing something but as you say, **she** has made contact each time - so you can probably bet she will do so again. All your pressing contact upon her will do is remove any incentive to invest herself emotionally in you and possibly confirm every reason she had to not continue a relationship with you. And in the meantime, you should be concentrating on getting your emotional strength together so you are not bothered by her lack of contact - That way you will come-over as far more attractive/stronger when you are eventually in touch. [Previous page](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-what-would-be-best-to-attract-her-again/63963.md?page=9) [Next page](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-what-would-be-best-to-attract-her-again/63963.md?page=11)