# So what would be best to attract her again ? **URL:** \ **Category:** Men's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [March 6, 2015, 10:44am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-what-would-be-best-to-attract-her-again/63963 "2015-03-06T10:44:23Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![mobocaster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c2a13f/32.png) [@mobocaster](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mobocaster)\ **Post date:** [March 17, 2015, 4:40pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-what-would-be-best-to-attract-her-again/63963/61 "2015-03-17T16:40:01Z")
Its belt and braces - don’t deny yourself the possibility of other options. She broke-up with you, so FTM you are free to encourage interest from anyone! 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![replay25](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/7ba0ec/32.png) [@replay25](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/replay25)\ **Post date:** [March 17, 2015, 5:11pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-what-would-be-best-to-attract-her-again/63963/62 "2015-03-17T17:11:44Z")
Yeah you are right. Anyway, did you get my long PM ? 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![mobocaster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c2a13f/32.png) [@mobocaster](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mobocaster)\ **Post date:** [March 17, 2015, 5:19pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-what-would-be-best-to-attract-her-again/63963/63 "2015-03-17T17:19:06Z")
I did - not had time to give it a proper reply but I will soon. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![replay25](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/7ba0ec/32.png) [@replay25](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/replay25)\ **Post date:** [March 17, 2015, 5:53pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-what-would-be-best-to-attract-her-again/63963/64 "2015-03-17T17:53:34Z")
Awesome. Thanks man. And my package was found after all. So I have about a week to find any sweet spots 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![replay25](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/7ba0ec/32.png) [@replay25](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/replay25)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2015, 11:08pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-what-would-be-best-to-attract-her-again/63963/65 "2015-03-23T23:08:08Z")
I guess all good(?) things come to those who wait… I was supposed to go see her today, try my new phero cloud, but I thought it would look too needy. So I decided to wait. And in the evening she sent me an email. Nothing much, she just asked me how life is. After a couple of weeks of no contact. I did not answer, thinking of going over her office just to say hi… What do you guys think ? ---
**Author:** ![mobocaster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c2a13f/32.png) [@mobocaster](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mobocaster)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2015, 1:21am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-what-would-be-best-to-attract-her-again/63963/66 "2015-03-24T01:21:07Z")
> [@replay25](#): > > I was supposed to go see her today, try my new phero cloud, but I thought it would look too needy. Good - You approach her with an attitude that your time for her is scarce for now. 🙂 > [@](#): > > So I decided to wait. And in the evening she sent me an email. Nothing much, she just asked me how life is. After a couple of weeks of no contact. > > I did not answer, thinking of going over her office just to say hi… Excellent - Just what I was hoping to hear. You are still very much on her mind. 🙂 Yes, not replying straight away is good, in fact FTM, never be in too much of a hurry to reply or get drawn into long email/text exchanges - Keep it face to face for now and keep it short when you see her initially. She may in some ways be looking for validation/confirmation that her splitting from you was the right thing for her to do - **so you do not give it to her** and don’t get drawn into explaining why or why not. It will be a long time yet before you get into any kind of heart to heart or postmortem. If she starts down that route when you see her, simply wind-up the interaction and go but without seeming too bothered by it. ---
**Author:** ![replay25](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/7ba0ec/32.png) [@replay25](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/replay25)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2015, 1:19pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-what-would-be-best-to-attract-her-again/63963/67 "2015-03-24T13:19:55Z")
So I saw her today. Just went to her office to say hi… She was smiley and seemed happy, I don’t mean because she saw me or anything… We had a small chat, mostly she initiated, wanting to show me some stuff on the internet. I kept it short and casual. Broke it off early, we must have chatted less than 5 minutes, touched her shoulder and saying we should get back to work… I think she didn’t expect me to go so fast. Leaving I heard her and her colleagues giggling, which might have been a bad thing maybe… So now I think I will not take any more action and wait a bit… Any suggestions ? ---
**Author:** ![mrseeker](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mrseeker/32/5177_2.png) [@mrseeker](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mrseeker)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2015, 1:43pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-what-would-be-best-to-attract-her-again/63963/68 "2015-03-24T13:43:10Z")
> [@replay25](#): > > So I saw her today. Just went to her office to say hi… > > She was smiley and seemed happy, I don’t mean because she saw me or anything… We had a small chat, mostly she initiated, wanting to show me some stuff on the internet. I kept it short and casual. Broke it off early, we must have chatted less than 5 minutes, touched her shoulder and saying we should get back to work… I think she didn’t expect me to go so fast. Leaving I heard her and her colleagues giggling, which might have been a bad thing maybe… > > So now I think I will not take any more action and wait a bit… Any suggestions ? Oh, having the giggling girls is always a sign of joy 😃 It means that they like you in that office… And I expect a lot of chatter and gossip coming up! Sounds like she is having a blast 😛 ---
**Author:** ![replay25](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/7ba0ec/32.png) [@replay25](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/replay25)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2015, 1:56pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-what-would-be-best-to-attract-her-again/63963/69 "2015-03-24T13:56:08Z")
> [@mrseeker](#): > > Oh, having the giggling girls is always a sign of joy 😃 It means that they like you in that office… And I expect a lot of chatter and gossip coming up! Sounds like she is having a blast 😛 A good thing then ? 😛 ---
**Author:** ![mrseeker](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mrseeker/32/5177_2.png) [@mrseeker](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mrseeker)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2015, 2:12pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-what-would-be-best-to-attract-her-again/63963/70 "2015-03-24T14:12:27Z")
Usually when girls are giggling they are having a blast. Its like guys who are boasting about their latest catch. But based on what you wrote down, my thought is that your hand on her made her blush, and her colleagues noticed but you did not. Next time, stick a bit around longer. I think she still likes you, and her colleagues noticed that much faster than you. Let her initiate contact again, I think what you did was a good sign though 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![replay25](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/7ba0ec/32.png) [@replay25](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/replay25)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2015, 2:30pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-what-would-be-best-to-attract-her-again/63963/71 "2015-03-24T14:30:21Z")
Well at least she doesn’t hate me… In the end I would be happy having her in my life even as a friendly acquaintance… And time will tell… ---
**Author:** ![mobocaster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c2a13f/32.png) [@mobocaster](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mobocaster)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2015, 4:05pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-what-would-be-best-to-attract-her-again/63963/72 "2015-03-24T16:05:14Z")
> [@replay25](#): > > So I saw her today. Just went to her office to say hi… > > She was smiley and seemed happy, I don’t mean because she saw me or anything… We had a small chat, mostly she initiated, wanting to show me some stuff on the internet. I kept it short and casual. Broke it off early, we must have chatted less than 5 minutes, touched her shoulder and saying we should get back to work… I think she didn’t expect me to go so fast. Leaving I heard her and her colleagues giggling, which might have been a bad thing maybe… > > So now I think I will not take any more action and wait a bit… Any suggestions ? That is absolutely great - She did most of the work, you didn’t overstay your welcome, you got some kino in-there and left her laughing. Perfect! 😃 Now just step back and let her miss you till you can see her again with the same sig. Hopefully it won’t be too long. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![replay25](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/7ba0ec/32.png) [@replay25](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/replay25)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2015, 4:48pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-what-would-be-best-to-attract-her-again/63963/73 "2015-03-24T16:48:29Z")
Well she posted on our facegroup group about this early evening drinks in our school and asked who is going. It’s in two day, but I kind of think that not going will make a bigger impact… ---
**Author:** ![mobocaster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c2a13f/32.png) [@mobocaster](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mobocaster)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2015, 5:43pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-what-would-be-best-to-attract-her-again/63963/74 "2015-03-24T17:43:17Z")
Yes, that is a the right idea. You want to start her thinking-on you in one-to-one situations again, not as part of a wider friend group. ---
**Author:** ![replay25](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/7ba0ec/32.png) [@replay25](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/replay25)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2015, 5:50pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-what-would-be-best-to-attract-her-again/63963/75 "2015-03-24T17:50:09Z")
On the other hand wouldn’t this be a chance to see me and make an impression on her ? Other choice is go and return her the book on the day of the drinks, then if we talk about it I can say that I will maybe go… Keep her wondering maybe… ---
**Author:** ![mobocaster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c2a13f/32.png) [@mobocaster](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mobocaster)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2015, 7:09pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-what-would-be-best-to-attract-her-again/63963/76 "2015-03-24T19:09:52Z")
I’d do the latter - the more you keep her guessing/wondering and maybe even be a little exasperated about you the better just now. It can trigger surprising responses. Also, it is most important you don’t normalise yourself into a “friend”/orbiter relationship just yet, so be a little upredictable in all but your phero-sig. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![replay25](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/7ba0ec/32.png) [@replay25](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/replay25)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2015, 7:27pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-what-would-be-best-to-attract-her-again/63963/77 "2015-03-24T19:27:36Z")
yeah this makes sense. The only thing that bummed me out today was the fact that she will have a male roommate when she moves to the UK… ---
**Author:** ![replay25](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/7ba0ec/32.png) [@replay25](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/replay25)\ **Post date:** [March 25, 2015, 5:20pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-what-would-be-best-to-attract-her-again/63963/78 "2015-03-25T17:20:45Z")
I am now starting to understand the power of the no contact period. Not because she sent me an email, but because I was calmer. After yesterday I feel like I am back in square one. Wanting to contact her, missing her, and pretty much feeling miserable again… But I have to wait it out I guess, she might contact me again as she did already… At least this is what I hope might happen… I even have girls hitting on me and I couldn’t care less… ---
**Author:** ![mobocaster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c2a13f/32.png) [@mobocaster](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mobocaster)\ **Post date:** [March 25, 2015, 7:55pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-what-would-be-best-to-attract-her-again/63963/79 "2015-03-25T19:55:43Z")
Yes, it does have effects on you too - If only to make you slow-down and think about the situation and your alternatives. Breaking-up with someone is in some ways akin to dealing with an addiction and yes, it is all too easy to get a short-term fix by seeing them again and feeling good for just a little while - but this would happen with or without no-contact and it would be a whole lot worse if you were slammed in the friendzone whilst she started showing interest in other guys. Ideally, you would want to wait till you can meet her in the same way as other girls - ie you couldn’t care less. Then you can concentrate on much more effective attraction building behaviour but given your time limitations, you need to support your pheros by at least presenting this aspect to her and dealing with it as best you can when you are away from her - but remember that a non-needy man is far more attractive to almost any woman than a downbeat and needy one. ---
**Author:** ![mrseeker](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mrseeker/32/5177_2.png) [@mrseeker](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mrseeker)\ **Post date:** [March 25, 2015, 8:47pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-what-would-be-best-to-attract-her-again/63963/80 "2015-03-25T20:47:32Z")
Replay25: What you are experiencing is the withdrawal effect. My girlfriend compared it with a toddler that just cannot let go of the towel. I noticed that behavior sometimes too when it comes to me and my relationship with my girlfriend, but on other days when I do use A314 I noticed that it helps me calm down and get my act together. It was thanks to A314 that I actually began to realize I should stop acting like shit and just get a kick in my ass. Since then, I changed my lifestyle and just began to look better (and receive more attention from my girlfriend). Last month I went back to my girlfriend. She was a bit annoyed by the fact that I was wearing too much “shitty perfumes” but I did notice she digged into a couple of my sprays, mostly the ones that were related to emotional attraction. Now its almost a month later and she is slowly realizing that if she does not want to see me, then I won’t do anything at all and just plain ignore her. That does drive her nuts though, because then she does not know what is actually happening with me, and creates a loop where she starts asking about me. We are in a LAT relationship that is now going on for almost 8 years now, and I hope that when that timer reached 10 we are married. I would recommend just to let it go and don’t think too much about her. Think about yourself, think about ways you can improve yourself, change your behavior, change your lifestyle, think about new hobbies, things you always wanted to do, and just ignore her for a while. If you find someone else, so be it. If she does not care about you, then you are out of her mind and you were not that important for her after all. If she calls you, sends you messages, wants to know how you are, then she cares about you, and that is usually a sign that she still has feelings for you. But don’t try to start to chase a woman, that is similar to a barbarian running after a young maid (and trust me, the maid runs faster than you). [Previous page](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-what-would-be-best-to-attract-her-again/63963.md?page=3) [Next page](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-what-would-be-best-to-attract-her-again/63963.md?page=5)