# Somechick's Journal **URL:** \ **Category:** Women's Journals\ **Created:** [October 5, 2011, 8:28pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/somechicks-journal/52679 "2011-10-05T20:28:18Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 27
**Author:** ![somechick03862](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/278dde/32.png) [@somechick03862](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/somechick03862)\ **Post date:** [November 5, 2017, 12:26am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/somechicks-journal/52679/522 "2017-11-05T00:26:23Z")
You win some, you lose some…☹ ---
**Author:** ![Dee\_A](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/7bcc69/32.png) [@Dee\_A](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Dee_A)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2017, 3:18pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/somechicks-journal/52679/523 "2017-11-06T15:18:35Z")
??? what happened? ---
**Author:** ![somechick03862](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/278dde/32.png) [@somechick03862](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/somechick03862)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2017, 11:06pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/somechicks-journal/52679/524 "2017-11-06T23:06:11Z")
If anyone has read this whole, exceedingly long journal, you know that my ex love, Mr Wonderful was a bipolar alcoholic. He was mean and emotionally abusive and at the end of the relationship stole from me and put me through a door. So I am incredibly leery of being around alcoholics. We were going to meet at the beach and take a walk and then go get pizza at this long time local favorite place. Seemed like a great date idea. I met him at the beach and I had a few minutes before he got there so I got out and started walking. This is my beach, the one I go to when I need solace, the one that I went to every day for a year trying to get my head back on. When he got there, he came out on the beach and we saw each other for the first time since 1985. He has gained quite a bit of weight but I am not shallow about that, but he could have brushed his teeth. That mouth was not coming anywhere near me! But I was trying to keep an open mind because he is great to talk to, makes me laugh, I feel very natural talking to him, we have the same political views and very similar values. He’s sweet and he makes an effort. Good morning texts, but doesn’t bug me during the work day kind of thing. So, we got in my car to talk for a bit and he smelled like beer. Nerves, I thought. But then he pulled out a 24 ounce 8% alcohol beer. The kind I sell tons of every day to the local alcoholics. The only people who buy those are the real drunks. RED FLAG! He was drinking that in the car and he was kind of slurring his words a little. He was spitting a lot when he talked, which was kind of off putting. So, I knew I didn’t want to get pizza and watch him get drunker. I told him I should probably go because I needed to make the kids dinner( I didn’t really, they were with friends). And I left, disappointed on one hand but at least I tried. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. But maybe there is just something wrong with me… So I can’t figure out how to tell him this isn’t going to work, and he has continued to be sweet and thoughtful and make an effort. Yesterday I had a drunk customer completely lose his shit and freak me out at work. He was off the rails in a big way and directing it at me! I was in such shock! and scared and hurt, so I posted it on FB and he saw the post. Today after I left work the boss texted me that I had flowers at the store! He sent me a beautiful arrangement because he heard I had a bad day and wanted me to know he was thinking of me. Now I am in over my head and I don’t know how to let him down easy, because he is SUPER nice, I really like him, he’s sweet, he’s funny and obviously very kind, but I can’t go down the alcoholic road again. I can’t keep him dangling, that’s not fair to him. How do you tell someone they are great except you can’t date a drunk, without hurting them? ---
**Author:** ![somechick03862](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/278dde/32.png) [@somechick03862](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/somechick03862)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2017, 2:26am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/somechicks-journal/52679/525 "2017-11-09T02:26:25Z")
God, what do I DO!?!? he is thoughtful, kind, sweet, cares whether my day sucks, wants to do things with me, and for me, talks to me and listens and remembers what I say, makes an effort and all the little things that I haven’t had anyone do in a very long time! One of my co-workers told me that I don’t really KNOW that he is a drunk, that maybe he drinks because he doesn’t have anything else in his life. I have to admit, I have know good people who spent way too much time in bars because they didn’t have anything at home to go home to. Not a good first impression, BUT we have tons of common friends who all say he is a great guy. Should I give him one more chance? If he is as bad as I think he was the first time, then at least I know I tried…? HELP! ---
**Author:** ![Dee\_A](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/7bcc69/32.png) [@Dee\_A](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Dee_A)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2017, 3:43pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/somechicks-journal/52679/526 "2017-11-10T15:43:46Z")
Give him a chance by telling him about your worries. At least he will have the chance to enlighten you about that little alcohol incident. You are both adults, so it’s better to be honest about it and be done with it. 🙂 IHonesty + IShine might help. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![somechick03862](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/278dde/32.png) [@somechick03862](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/somechick03862)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2017, 5:51pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/somechicks-journal/52679/527 "2017-11-11T17:51:47Z")
Thank you, Dee, for being the voice of reason. I am hoping to see him again tomorrow for a little while. I will see how that goes and I will try some IHonesty and IShine… ---
**Author:** ![justintime469](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/justintime469/32/1402_2.png) [@justintime469](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/justintime469)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2017, 9:22am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/somechicks-journal/52679/528 "2017-11-13T09:22:29Z")
I agree with Dee, I would give him a chance unless the attraction just is not there at all. But I would be firm and let him know where you stand about this thing with the alcohol and that you WILL NOT go down that road again because you will just be miserable and let him know this. So I would give him a chance and see where it goes and just take things slow and see if it works out, and if not no worries. I would not stress to much about it and sjust see what happens. ---
**Author:** ![somechick03862](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/278dde/32.png) [@somechick03862](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/somechick03862)\ **Post date:** [November 15, 2017, 1:47pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/somechicks-journal/52679/529 "2017-11-15T13:47:01Z")
I will post more later, but wanted to update quickly. We have talked a TON on the phone and texted a lot and I just REALLY liked him. He has a great personality, we have a ton in common, we laugh, it’s just super easy and natural feeling. So we went out again last night. I do think he drinks too much, but through more conversation, I don’t think he is anything like my alcoholic ex. And I may be biased because I do NOT drink . Anyway, we met for apps and then went to a movie and we had a great time! I don’t know why I was so critical after the first time, because there are plenty of sparks. Conversation is great. Anyway, more later! THANKS! ---
**Author:** ![somechick03862](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/278dde/32.png) [@somechick03862](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/somechick03862)\ **Post date:** [November 16, 2017, 4:17am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/somechicks-journal/52679/530 "2017-11-16T04:17:10Z")
This whole thing is just kind of strange. He sent me the friend request on Facebook because he knows my cousin and thought he was my brother. I didn’t really know why he friend requested me, but I accepted because I knew who he was and that we had tons of common friends. So, it happened and we started talking and we decided to meet and then things went bad. I am somewhat confused because honestly, unless the phero combo I wore last night made me have a Shallow Hal thing going, he looked so frigging much better than when we met at the beach. Anyway, we met at a restaurant near the theater and he had a couple of beers, but it wasn’t like he pounded them, like the other beer. And to be fair, the first time we met, he said he was going through something and he was having some anxiety about it. I had really forgotten about that until after I met him and decided it was never going to work. So, we had some really good conversation, lots of laughs and then went to the movies. He held my hand, and that was kind of old school sweet. No one has held my hand in a really long time. We enjoyed the movie, it was funny and entertaining and we both love Marvel/DC movies. After the movie was over, he walked to my car with me and I started to get a little nervous about him kissing me. I am kind of pathetic that way. I have kissed fewer than ten guys in my life, so I always worry about the first kiss. Plus, there is always that butterfly/excitement thing about it, too. He gave me a hug, which is nice. He is not tall, he’s 5’8" and I am 5’1",we fit nicely so it was a nice feeling and then I knew he was going to kiss me. And he did, then we kind of both went back for something a little more exciting and then we were in the car making out like kids. And he was all like, “Wow! You are an amazing kisser”, which made me blush and he could see it because I foolishly parked near a light post…lol We talked some more and then he gave me a hug and we parted company. He lives about 30 minutes from me so I got home and my daughter met me at the door with the hounds. She was all needy. Tonight she said she has never had to share me before. She has a point but as my kids get more social and spend more time away from home, I want something in my life, too. It has been years since I had a real relationship. I want to see where this one goes. Sitting on the couch talking to her last night, I said, “I think he should text me and say good night’ and in less than a minute he texted and said 'best date in forever!!” We texted for a few minutes and he knows why I have some of the insecurities that I have and he texted me and said Don’t worry too much about my intentions or feelings. I don’t want to rush this. You’re very special to me and I have also had relationships crash and burn. I won’t play games with you or hurt you. So I asked him if there were sparks because of something we had talked about before the movie and he was very emphatic about the sparks. I gotta say, when we were sitting in the theater and he was holding my hand, I was finding him very appealing. I am kind of shaking my head writing this since I basically called him an ogre after the beach. I don’t understand, but he didn’t look remotely Shrek-like last night. He texted this morning and said he hoped I slept well and to have a good day. We texted tonight while I was running my daughter around then he called and we talked for an hour and a half. We have really easy conversation. It is not hard to open up to him( never thought I would say that!), and we just seem to laugh and joke very easily. It is important to me that I have someone I can laugh with. Ex Mr W was not a very humorous guy, so I missed having someone that gets my sarcasm. He wants to see me again tomorrow or Friday, then we are going to meet up Saturday for the high school football state championship. The school we went to, the school my kids go to now, is undefeated and playing for the championship. Very exciting around these parts. His sister is a teacher there and she is going, so at some point he says we will go say hello to her. I am just shaking my head. I just don’t know what the hell is wrong with me! LMAO! It’s like the first meeting was with someone else or something. He is much more attractive than I was giving him credit for and we just feel very natural. I don’t even sound like I make sense to myself! I wore 30 mcg P74 and 20 mcg [P130](https://pheromonelabs.com/product/p130/) with a tiny bit of cops underneath it. SO nothing there should make him so damn appealing! He was all I thought about all day! And then he texted me about how much he liked me kissing him and I couldn’t stop thinking about kissing him! WTF!? What is going on here !? ---
**Author:** ![somechick03862](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/278dde/32.png) [@somechick03862](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/somechick03862)\ **Post date:** [November 16, 2017, 4:18am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/somechicks-journal/52679/531 "2017-11-16T04:18:35Z")
Today at work, I wore 20 mcg P74, 20 mcg [P130](https://a314.com/product/p130/) and 10 mcg P96 and it was crazy flirty there today. Like over the top flirting and lots of DIHL … ---
**Author:** ![justintime469](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/justintime469/32/1402_2.png) [@justintime469](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/justintime469)\ **Post date:** [November 16, 2017, 7:43pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/somechicks-journal/52679/532 "2017-11-16T19:43:41Z")
I have found for myself that over 20MCG or so that it does something to where I find people much more attractive for sure! I would love to hear others thoughts on this though? I say have fun and take things slow and just enjoy them and see where things go. I will tell you that it is hard having kids, does he have kids? My wife’s daughter is 13 now and it is always a fight because my wife does not make enough time for the marriage and it creates a lot of fights with us. There has to be a balance and there HAS to be understanding on both sides as kids should always come first don’t get me wrong, but the relationship also needs time to. I am glad you gave him another chance! ---
**Author:** ![somechick03862](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/278dde/32.png) [@somechick03862](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/somechick03862)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2017, 5:24am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/somechicks-journal/52679/533 "2017-11-17T05:24:56Z")
> [@justintime469](#): > > I have found for myself that over 20MCG or so that it does something to where I find people much more attractive for sure! I would love to hear others thoughts on this though? > > I say have fun and take things slow and just enjoy them and see where things go. I will tell you that it is hard having kids, does he have kids? > > My wife’s daughter is 13 now and it is always a fight because my wife does not make enough time for the marriage and it creates a lot of fights with us. There has to be a balance and there HAS to be understanding on both sides as kids should always come first don’t get me wrong, but the relationship also needs time to. > > I am glad you gave him another chance! He is SO understanding of my relationship with my kids. His mom raised six kids after his dad died, so he is very respectful of single moms. He has really been amazing the past two days, because I have been battling with my daughter. She is PMSy and bitchy and awful. She is so difficult some days and I just don’t know what to do with her. I know she isn’t used to having to share me, but he hasn’t tried to take me away from them or insert himself into our life. I haven’t met someone so respectful in a really long time. He has a daughter, who is 16. We have such a good time talking. I cannot believe how natural and easy it is, and he said the same thing. I am still shaking my head, trying to figure out how I ended up here. He was cute in high school and I never would have had the nerve to talk to him. He says he was shy. I asked him about the girls he dated in school. He dated two, and I know them both a little bit. Super nice people. One of them was an amazing artist and when I said that he said something about seeing me in the art room. Which was funny because I really didn’t think he could possibly remember me, but his girlfriend took another art class at the same time as me and she was always around the art rooms, so any time he met her there, he could have seen me. I just wouldn’t have thought he’d notice me. It’s just weird to connect with a cute guy from high school, 32 years later, totally out of the blue, on a mutual friend’s Facebook post. They say it happens when you least expect it… I don’t know if I mentioned that I met his sister a couple of weeks before this all started. She is one of my son’s teachers. We went to a benefit at a local pizza place that does a lot of community stuff, and she was there. I think she thought she knew me, because she came over and was talking to me. After he and I started talking, I saw her post on Facebook and was a little shocked. She was nice to me, at least. LOL, already meeting the family… I don’t know if it’s weird that it seems to be moving fast. I haven’t dated in so long, I just don’t know. It’s just so easy. I know I keep saying that, but we just hit it off. I really want to see where this goes. Any suggestions for what I should wear next time I see him, which will probably be tomorrow night? He wants to grab some dinner and watch a movie at his apartment. I am NOT going to sleep with him tomorrow. Although, if he kisses me, I am going to want to…😮 ---
**Author:** ![somechick03862](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/278dde/32.png) [@somechick03862](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/somechick03862)\ **Post date:** [November 20, 2017, 4:57am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/somechicks-journal/52679/534 "2017-11-20T04:57:26Z")
Oh, where to begin!? Things have been going well. He is very attentive. Actually, I am beginning to think he is too attentive. I have gone back and forth on this twenty times today. I think I am just doomed! He and I have talked a lot and we have so much fun on the phone. He is so easy to talk to and we never seem to run out of things to say. We had a great time at the movies and he wanted to see me again, so we got together last night. We were going to meet at a bar and grill type of place but it was super packed, so we ended up meeting at a little dive bar nearby. That was kind of a drag, so we went to his place to watch a movie. His apartment is humble but neat and well kept with some nice mementos displayed. He turned on the tv and one of our favorite movies was on, so we started watching that. Then of course, one thing led to another and we started making out. We did some hard core kissing and some groping. I was not ready to have sex with him, and he was okay with that. But it was very steamy. There was some sexual conversation, nothing too crazy, but it really helped build the sexual tension between us. My kids kept texting me and it was very distracting but I had to be reachable, so I couldn’t shut off my phone. He was really understanding, thank God. He had actually posted that he was with me on Facebook and my cousin saw it and asked him how we met. I didn’t even know they were friends on FB. At least he isn’t hiding me, I guess. Anyway, I had to leave and I was seriously wanting him. We get along really well, and we are super comfortable with each other, and I was feeling like it would be very natural to be with him. He told me to text him when I got home, so he would know I made it safely. It was a nasty night and he lives on a dark, windy road about half an hour from me. I went to bed last night thinking about him and really liking him. Today I was doing my job and I happened to look out the window just as he drove in. It was kind of nice, because he said he was going to drive down and see me but I didn’t think he would. He hung out for a while, talked to some of my regulars and it was nice to see him. Then he texted me tonight and said something about me being beautiful and I said I didn’t think I was. He got mad and called me and we talked for a few minutes and straightened it out. He wasn’t crazy mad like ex Mr W, he wasn’t scary or out of control. Then he texted me after I made dinner and he said he needed a ride home from a strip club, and I was like 'really, you want me to pick you up at Tens and drive you home?" and he called laughing, saying he was just kidding, he was at home. We talked for a while, lots of good conversation but he is really starting to seem clingy. He wants to see me all the time, and this is still new to me, and I am very independent and I like my space. He was a little pushy about seeing me Tuesday and I said we would see. He didn’t seem to want to hang up and we ended up talking for a long time. Then he told me he hit on some other girl from high school on FB and she blew him off, so he blocked her. I just don’t know. Maybe we really do just get along well and he is kind of swept up in that. He is super thoughtful, but he could be a little less attentive. It’s okay to make me miss him. He just doesn’t seem to understand that seeing him a couple of times a week and talking to him every day, multiple times, for hours, and texting every few hours, is not really my idea of slow. I flat out told him that I need space, but I don’t think he gets it. I went from being ready to show up at his house and get naked, to ready to kick him to the curb for being clingy today. There is a ton of sexual tension. We are both wanting each other pretty bad. We are attracted to each other, and those of you who thought I was shallow because I liked Hot Scott so much, will be happy to know he is a chubby guy with crooked teeth. He is still cute, but he had changed since school. Haven’t we all? We get along well, I do really like him and I think the sex would be pretty good. But the clinginess is a turn off. A big turn off. And I don’t know how to make him understand that no matter how much I like him, if I feel he is trying to take over my life, he is out. I thought it was going well, now I am not sure and I have the feeling it won’t end well. ---
**Author:** ![somechick03862](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/278dde/32.png) [@somechick03862](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/somechick03862)\ **Post date:** [November 20, 2017, 4:58am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/somechicks-journal/52679/535 "2017-11-20T04:58:46Z")
Oh, and he called himself my boyfriend and said he loved me tonight and I think that is way too soon ---
**Author:** ![justintime469](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/justintime469/32/1402_2.png) [@justintime469](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/justintime469)\ **Post date:** [November 20, 2017, 7:38pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/somechicks-journal/52679/536 "2017-11-20T19:38:25Z")
I thought it was going really well to. Whatever you do at this point if you have sex with this guy this clingy thing will only get worse. Just tell him your concerns and you want to take it slow and let him know this. Maybe he is just a bad dater LOL. Well I hope it works out as you were so excited and things were going so well. ---
**Author:** ![somechick03862](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/278dde/32.png) [@somechick03862](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/somechick03862)\ **Post date:** [November 24, 2017, 3:26pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/somechicks-journal/52679/537 "2017-11-24T15:26:29Z")
I was hoping there would be some nice Black Friday specials! LOL, those always make me happy! And since I had to spend $500 on my Tahoe on Wednesday, any savings on anything I buy is good! Okay, so I didn’t give him the boot. I don’t know why I can’t seem to do that, it’s not that I can’t be alone. I can. I have for a while now. I just really like him. I don’t know if it could develop into more feelings or not, only time will tell, I guess. I did explain to him that I need my space, and I have to go slow and he has been much better. I think he is very lonely. I didn’t hear from him much yesterday, because he was with family. We talked on the phone last night after he got home. We can talk for hours, and it is just so easy. We talked for 2 last night and it hardly seemed like it. We have spent much more time on the phone than we have in person. It is kind of good, though, because we are really getting to know each other. I told him I am not going to sleep with him too soon and he is okay with that. I don’t know if it’s BS or not, but he says that makes him respect me more. He wants to see me tonight, and I will probably see him. He wanted to make me dinner, but for some reason, I just don’t want to do that. It’s probably my cooking snobbery. LOL My kids are gone, I could have him come to my house. I am not going to cook for him yet, because every time I feed someone I can never get rid of them, and I don’t know where this is going yet. I think it would be okay to have him here. I am not going to let things go too far, but it would be nice to just relax with him. I am very comfortable with him. Last night after we hung up so he could go to bed, I missed him. How sad is that? I may just be fighting it because I haven’t had a normal relationship in so long and I am scared. He is pretty much all the things I said I wanted someone to be. He’s nice to me, thoughtful, sweet, make an effort, isn’t pushy about sex. He’s just a nice guy. In pursuit of me. So, what is my problem? ---
**Author:** ![datadragon](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/datadragon/32/1252_2.png) [@datadragon](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/datadragon)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2017, 7:06pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/somechicks-journal/52679/538 "2017-11-26T19:06:56Z")
Hi Somechick, nothing is wrong with your thinking and you dont have a problem… Most women I know also absolutely hate it when a man is too attached to a single outcome with a woman, whether its just wanting sex or ALSO being their boyfriend.. ESPECIALLY when the relationship is new… If you NEED the outcome to be happy, women always sense this and think you are NEEDY.. **And neediness repels womens attraction like nothing else as you are finding…** It comes off I’m sure like desperation, needing her affection in order to be happy, needing her to return your calls or texts not to feel stressed… Needing her to reciprocate everything you did to not feel hurt, acting jealous when other men give attention also… If they act jealous or act like they NEED to be the only man in your life, it usually can cripple attraction for you, especially when a relationship is still new.. At the same time you havent been in a normal relationship in awhile and scared of getting close to someone and that too is normal… So you are lowering your standards a bit and why you didnt kick him. Many people settle, some even after just a couple drinks lol. Just take your time and you will find the right guy who will set off those oxytocin and serotonin bells naturally… ---
**Author:** ![somechick03862](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/278dde/32.png) [@somechick03862](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/somechick03862)\ **Post date:** [November 28, 2017, 5:35am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/somechicks-journal/52679/539 "2017-11-28T05:35:05Z")
What is it that keeps me hanging on? I keep being wrong about him! He isn’t a giant drunken ogre like I originally thought. He isn’t clingy like I thought. He totally backed off and respects my need to go slow, like I thought he wouldn’t. He hasn’t pushed me to meet my kids, or take me away from them when they need me, and actually tells me to go be with them when we are on the phone. I knew I would end up letting him come to my house on Friday night and I did. It was just easier and more relaxed than going someplace after I got out of work at 6 PM. So he came to the house and he survived my three dogs, who actually all seemed to like him and he was gracious and let them pester the crap out of him. He brought a couple of beers, but didn’t drink more than one. So again, not the drunk I thought. He had texted me earlier and asked me if I wanted to go horseback riding on Saturday. I said I loved horses and he asked me if I rode, he had no way of knowing I grew up with horses. We talked about that and watched some tv and fooled around and it got very, very hot and I wouldn’t take him to bed and I wouldn’t let him spend the night. I just wasn’t ready. He came and picked me up to go riding and it was very relaxed and comfortable in the car. I navigated because I couldn’t stand listening to his stupid gps talk. For God’s sake man, use a map! LOL, sorry, I am a little map nerd. Riding was fun, barn was a dump, I impressed the barn owner because she thought she was going to have to teach me how to ride. It was a beautiful night, we had a blast, we tease each other and banter constantly, and it is very natural. We stopped and ate on the way home. He has decent table manners. Then on the drive home, his phone rang in the car. I saw the phone and the number was not stored in his phone, it came up with the area code and number. But when he answered it was some girl and he kind of blew her off, she called back a few minutes later and he declined the call. It was kind of a mood killer and I asked him about it and he said it was someone he went out with once a few months ago. I don’t know what to think about that, he didn’t have her in his contacts, so I don’t think she could have been someone very important to him. I know he had been on Match a while back, because he was very upfront that he had dated a little bit but hadn’t really hit it off with anyone. As much effort as he has put into wooing me, and all the hours we spend on the phone, he can’t have much time to have something else going on. He said he doesn’t. He was visibly upset that I was upset about it. I don’t really know what to make of it. Probably nothing, but I tend to make mountains out of molehills. I mean, everyone has a past. Even me. I didn’t tell him about Rob or Scott…he didn’t ask about FWBs Anyway, it kind of put a damper on the evening for a while but he appeared very honest when I asked him about it. I didn’t get any type of negative body language or shadiness. We watched some tv and cuddled on the couch. He’s like a big teddy bear. I really like being with him, we have a great time. He brought me roses and helped me put up my Christmas tree. He is nice to me and sweet. We can talk about anything. Honestly, maybe we are too comfortable talking about some things because we have already talked about sexual turn ons and offs… I wore [P130](https://pheromonelabs.com/product/p130/), P96 and a spray of IH X2 with a little bit of yummy cops from another company. He loves how I smell and he is totally smitten at this point. I am just fighting falling for him. I don’t know if I will or not, because I am an asshole, and I just won’t let myself get attached… ---
**Author:** ![datadragon](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/datadragon/32/1252_2.png) [@datadragon](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/datadragon)\ **Post date:** [November 28, 2017, 5:54pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/somechicks-journal/52679/540 "2017-11-28T17:54:59Z")
You aren’t an asshole except maybe to SIRI because you dont like her voice for GPS lol.. You are just currently at different points in what you are seeking… You are ready for casual dating and allowing yourself some enjoyment in your life while wanting to maintain your own space and identity at this point. pretty normal… Preferable to do so with several guys and take things at your pace and can always take things to the next level when Mr Right comes around… This guy however is looking for a LTR but isnt meeting your standards yet of what you’d prefer in a long term mate… He hasnt given you time to even think about it, saying he loves you and is your boyfriend after such a short time.. He was acting needy as well as not emotionally stable getting visibly upset. He does however meet your standards of someone for casual dating to get to know if he doesnt push too much… My suggestion is to NOT use pheromones around him for now, as things like P96, Cops, or most attraction blends will just enhance his overly strong feelings which you are unsure you want yet. If he doesnt push, go casual and get to know him to see if he can meet your standards for more. And if he ultimately does and you do wish sex, dont use TAC or other sex blends and see how he makes you feel NATURALLY.. Use the pheromones for enhancing the natural sex or love attraction once bonds are there, or to help you get in the door with someone easier.. I found that women who are lucky enough to graduate from my free multi orgasm training class have a very nice imprint without pheromones 😃… ---
**Author:** ![justintime469](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/justintime469/32/1402_2.png) [@justintime469](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/justintime469)\ **Post date:** [November 28, 2017, 6:17pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/somechicks-journal/52679/541 "2017-11-28T18:17:03Z")
Just take it slow and see where things go. It sounds like you are really resisting things with letting yourself go in fear of getting hurt which is totally normal. IH would be ok I think and see where it goes. I hope this is what you want and it works out for you. [Previous page](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/somechicks-journal/52679.md?page=26) [Next page](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/somechicks-journal/52679.md?page=28)