Hey buddy, it is incredible that I’m in the exact same situation. I’m in the middle of the divorce process just like you. Living with her, in different rooms of course. A couple of months ago or like 3 months ago, I started playin’ at titty bars under high doses of none. Be careful; it is a good distraction but you spend a lot of money; money fly over there and you don’t notice it until you get home and you think “damn…200 hundred - 300 hundred bucks is nothing in there but outside, you’d do wonders with that money”. I’ve been quiet for a long time now, waiting to get out of this situation, settle down my new life, and then play again if I can/want.
The other day the detailed cell phone bill came, and my soon to be ex told me “there are a thousand of text messages from your little girlfriend”. She doesn’t know that that “little girlfriend” is a HAWT sexy exotic dancer. LOL. 1 month earlier, she went into my drawers and get my credit card bill. She saw the expenses for dances, drinks, etc…that was of course the reason for another fight. I used my card because didn’t want to get the money from the bank account she has access too, and here in south FL you can buy club money with your credit card; specially formulated for men in our situation. lol
But again, be careful; these ladies, I love them, but they are experts at their job. Just like an experienced car sales agent, he will be your friend, your buddy, the collest dude in the world, all to sell you that car. Dancers, will be the best girls in the world for you; they will tell you the most wonderful things for a man; they will raise your mood, self esteem, all for the money. You will think “that” girl is in love with you, she really appreciate you, but is not like that; they deal with hundreds of men every month and they use the same techniques to make their money. They will make you feel special; and we, men, fall into that because unfortunatelly testosterone is what drives our brain. I don’t blame them because is their job, and WE are going into their jobplace. Like any other professional, they do the best they can to earn their money. And the easiest target for them is guys like us, having some personal issues and looking for some distraction. They will make sure you get distracted; and Sir, testosterone will order you to pay yes or yes.