# Tell Stories To Get The Girl **URL:** \ **Category:** Lounge\ **Created:** [September 28, 2010, 6:13pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/tell-stories-to-get-the-girl/42139 "2010-09-28T18:13:02Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 5\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![savoy](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/savoy/32/2369_2.png) [@savoy](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/savoy)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2010, 6:13pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/tell-stories-to-get-the-girl/42139/1 "2010-09-28T18:13:02Z")
When you get down to it, there are two fundamental ways to attract beautiful women. **1. How you act toward HER.** This includes all of the rapid-fire “flirting” stuff like Teasing, Role Plays, Cold Reads, and so on. We’ll come back to those in a moment. **2. What she sees about YOU.** This includes things like your body language, fashion and identity, and what you tell her about yourself. In a couple paragraphs, we’re going to give you some tips you can use tonight. **Tell Stories to Get the Girl** - by Jeremy Soul, Love Systems Master Instructor A lot of Attraction is about helping a woman discover your good qualities. Telling stories is one of the best ways to do this. (Storytelling is also great for building Comfort a bit later, but we’ll stick to Attraction here.) Telling stories about yourself also encourages her to do the same – a very good thing. Storytelling is a big part of my “game.” It’s something my clients on Daytime Dating (aka “Day Game”) bootcamps have consistently found really useful for their own game and for watching me demonstrate with women we meet. So, here’s how I do it: 1. A Hook Line 2. The Flow (main content of the story) 3. Embedded Information 4. Opportunities for Input 5. Open Threads 6. Conclusion **1) Hook Lines** A mistake I see guys make is just launching into a story right after meeting a woman without “hooking” her interest. The best ways to get a woman’s interest are doing something unexpected or making her curious. Or, do both at the same time. Either way, she will want to listen to what comes next. There are some great, provocative “hook lines” that lead off into stories in both volumes of the Love Systems Routines Manual – since those two books are, after all, what the best guys in the world actually say (word-for-word) when attracting women – but here we’ll keep it simple: “Have you ever been to Mexico?” works just fine as a hook line for a story about a vacation you just had there. It’s also a great way of testing the waters. If she says, “No, but I’ve always wanted to go,” you have a story she’ll be interested in. If she says, “I’ve never been; I’m not really that interested in that part of the world,” you might not have a winner. Or you might want to change the story around a bit. (Advanced note: If you know she’s going to be interested in a story from her reaction to your hook line, see what happens if you DON’T tell it right away. She might start asking you to tell her that story… now she’s the one chasing you!) **2) The Flow** Skip the “preamble.” Get straight to the action. If your story takes place on vacation in Mexico, skip the bit about trying to decide whether to go, getting the time off work, the flight over there, etc. In particular, skip factual (as opposed to emotional) details. Women listen differently from men; make your story one that is centered on emotions and feelings. Keep it short – a good “attraction” story should be a minute or two at most. If she wants to know more, she’ll ask. (Advanced note: Experienced men often have several “versions” of the same story depending on who they are talking to and the logistics. What you might tell to someone you just met at a crowded mall will be shorter and punchier than what you tell to someone sitting next to you on a 4-hour train trip.) **3) Embedded Information** “Embedding” is a breakthrough concept from the book Magic Bullets and is the key to Storytelling-for-Pickup. Basically, it’s when you tell a story that appears to be about one subject in order to subtly tell her about something else. The “something else” is usually a positive characteristic about yourself that you wouldn’t want to just say directly because you don’t want to turn her off by bragging or trying too hard. (As for what these “positive characteristics” are, it depends a bit on you, and what you know about her. One thing I really found useful in Magic Bullets when I first got started was that it explained 8 of these characteristics, called attraction switches that most beautiful women like. A few of those were really surprising!) For example, if you went to a prestigious college, you can embed that piece of information in a story that takes place when you were in college. In the USA, for example, you can sometimes do that by location – when you tell a story about something you did at college living in New Haven, most women will know that means Yale. Another way to do it would be by mentioning a story about the college sports team you root for. That way the fact that you went to a top school naturally comes out in the conversation, and you don’t have to force it. (Advanced note: As you get good at this, experiment with how little information you need to provide for her to understand the embedded information. The less, the better, as long as she’s hearing what you want her to hear.) **4) Opportunities for Input** The best stories involve their audience in the journey. It makes the interaction more of a dialogue than a monologue, and, if you’re new, prevents your stories from seeming “artificial.” Just be careful that the input a woman gives doesn’t take you somewhere you don’t want the conversation to go. The easiest way to get input is to ask a question. For example, if you’re talking about scuba diving, you should ask the woman you’re talking to if she dives. **5) Open Threads** A great story should be like a highway, with lots of on- and off-ramps, instead of inflexible train tracks. While telling a story, you should plant other topics or conversation paths within the story so that she can ask about these later. For example, if you’re telling a story about something that happened earlier that day while you were walking down the street, you might mention that you were on your way to a friend’s photo shoot. She might ask about that later, and now you have the opportunity to tell her another story – and the conversation gains momentum. (Advanced note: As you get good at leaving “bait” for women to pick up on during your stories, you can even use open threads to advance the action in the direction you wanted to go anyway. For example, if you mention something that happened in New York and she asks why you were there, you can then tell her that you were at your five year reunion from Columbia journalism school. You’re not bragging, because you’re just answering a factual question she asked.) **6) Conclusion** The ending of a good story doesn’t have to get everyone breaking out in laughter like the end of a classic Seinfeld episode. What’s important is that you end the story on a high point in a way that resolves what’s been going on. However, if there is any humor in your story – and there should be humor in an Attraction story; it’s valuable in Comfort stories too but not necessary – try to set it up as the conclusion or high point. (Advanced note: Humor is often not about WHAT you say but HOW you say it.) _ **Bonus Humor Tips** _ #1. Use vivid language: help your audience feel like they are there with you. Use sensory language to spark the visual part of your audience’s mind. As Savoy says, you should be able to see, smell, feel, hear, and taste everything that you were sensing at that moment. #2. Tell stories you care about. How many of your stories are about things you really care about, know about, etc.? If you tell too many stories about things that are peripheral to who you are, then you are diluting your image. Even worse, no one will care about them! #3. Loud, Slow, and Clear. Generally speaking, the best method of storytelling is speaking in a slow, measured pace. This allows you to tell your story clearly and gives you ample opportunity to emphasize different parts of the story where appropriate. Speeding up a little or speaking softly at certain points can add to the story… just make sure you aren’t doing it so often that it becomes more the rule than the exception. Also, changing your tone when quoting another person from your story is often well received (especially when telling a funny story). #4. No one cares about all the big/fancy words you know. One of the biggest mistakes people make when talking is being too abstract. It’s hard for people to create a mental image of your story if they don’t understand what you’re saying, and/or you use too many abstract words. #5. Keep it focused. Try and stick to the rule of three (i.e. if you try to talk about more than three things at once you will end up talking about nothing, or at least your audience won’t remember any of it). If you’re all over the place with your story you’ll confuse your audience. #6. Learn from the best examples. For storytelling, there’s nothing better than the Love Systems Routines Manual since these are actual transcripts of stories and lines used by the world’s best pick up artists. Some other great resources to look at include Made to Stick by Chip and Dan Heath. Also, if you want examples of great storytelling to look at, I would encourage you to read any of Malcolm Gladwell’s books, or to check out his New Yorker archive. ---
**Author:** ![Butterfly](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/butterfly/32/1942_2.png) [@Butterfly](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Butterfly)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2010, 8:36pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/tell-stories-to-get-the-girl/42139/2 "2010-09-28T20:36:14Z")
I like stories, especially with vivid, sensual language. They can give a taste of someone’s inner world and the best storytellers just seem to know how to delve into my own fantasies and weave themselves into them. ---
**Author:** ![RADMAN513](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/radman513/32/364_2.png) [@RADMAN513](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/RADMAN513)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2010, 1:14am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/tell-stories-to-get-the-girl/42139/3 "2010-09-29T01:14:05Z")
I’d like to add, just like the saying “you can’t win 'em all”…nobody loses all the time. In other words no matter how boring or unremarkable you think your life may be, we have all had times when we shined brighter than usual. What I usually suggest for guys I advise, is this. Consider the typical attraction switches, say for example the “leader of men” attraction switch. Remember a time when you were in a leadership position, either officially or just by stepping up in the moment. Build your story around that occasion. Don’t make it the actual main point…you don’t want to come off as a braggart. It should be a casual “aside” embedded in the story. You can do this for any and all of the attraction switches…if you can cover all four in a single story like the “stripper girlfriend drives home.” You have gold. ---
**Author:** ![JAYCEE1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/b4bc9f/32.png) [@JAYCEE1](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/JAYCEE1)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2010, 1:35am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/tell-stories-to-get-the-girl/42139/4 "2010-09-29T01:35:35Z")
I’m terrible at telling stories. Are there any canned stories, ones that can be used by anyone? ---
**Author:** ![RADMAN513](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/radman513/32/364_2.png) [@RADMAN513](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/RADMAN513)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2010, 3:06am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/tell-stories-to-get-the-girl/42139/5 "2010-09-29T03:06:33Z")
> [@JAYCEE1](#): > > I’m terrible at telling stories. > > Are there any canned stories, ones that can be used by anyone? I always advise against it. I have no problem with canned “ie reheared or memorized” material but it should be your own. IE the stories you tell a girl about yourself should be true and simply presented in the most interesting way possible. You use prewritten generic routines written by somebody else and you run two possible scenario’s. 1.) Congrats, you found this super sweet story on a pua website that has all sorts of attraction switches embedded in it, it’s fuckin GOLD! However, consider in a nation the size of the US how many guys just like yourself might have happened upon the same story. Now imagine the feeling when you start running your game on the girl and she finishes your story for you…because some other guy told her the EXACT same true story a week earlier. Option 2.) You tell the girl a few fake stories (lie) and it works, you got attraction, you build on it, eventually escalate to sex and you realize whoah waitaminute…I really like this girl! Sadly however she doesn’t actually like you. The feelings she’s displaying toward you are not based off of stories you told about yourself, but generic stories traded online that may or may not have been true for some faceless nameless stranger that originally wrote them. Even if your conscience and ego could handle lying to a girl you like, and having her like you for things that aren’t true…the fact is eventually you’ll screw up and mention how you were laid up in bed with measles and missed the halloween party last year…when she says “wait…I thought that was the year you spent the night in Dracula’s castle with some B movie scream queen?” It’s almost impossible to keep lies straight and in the end never a good idea. Like I said, think about events in your life where you were a leader of men, an occasion when you were a protector of loved ones, Something that happened with an ex girlfriend etc. Now without making the actual attraction switch the main thrust of the story…think about what happened. What is the story about? Flesh is out with descriptive details. I’m going to give you an example of a story, not mine..originally heard it from Matador but I don’t even know if it was his, pay close attention to how it’s worded descriptively. Now context is important, you can’t just dive into a story like this. But if you were talking about how some guys just can’t take no for an answer something along these lines could be useful. > [@](#): > > …Belive me I know what you mean. See I used to date a stripper (hold hand up in mock defense) don’t be a hater. It was really funny because I mean of course she was gorgeous and all but while all my buddies were just crazy about her, she was my little knucklehead…real nerdy smart chick I’m talkin about here. She only did the dancing gig because the money was so awesome. I actually used to tell myself I would never date “that kind of girl” but you know after we were together for a while I realized this chick rejects 10-20 men 5 nights a week! I mean she gets asked for her number, for dates, for sex, hell one cat offered her 10 grand to spend the weekend with him in tahiti…or was it fiji, I can never remember which. Anyway my point is that once they choose a guy they’re very loyal. > > So where was I?..oh yeah. So one night I’m working late (instert somthing about your job that makes it sound somewhat impressive here) when I get a call from her. Seems a couple of really drunk guys had been a little pushy asking her to go party with them and got tossed from the club. Now when it’s time for her to leave these clowns are standing in the parking lot calling her…I mean try and imagine being alone in a parking lot at 2 am and two drunk guys are trying to talk to you. (This places her in the girls position so she feels that hint of anxiety). Anyway she rushed into her car and pulled out (dramatic pause) they get in their car and start following her (at this point you’re voice should sound like you’re remembering how mad you were at the time.) > > So she calls me and fills me in. So I’m trying to calm her down (hold hand to your head as though mimicking holding a phone) "Yeah baby?, ok where are you now? On the 99? ok are they drunk? ok calm down babe it’s ok, drive as slow as you can so you don’t beat me there, I’m on my way._click_ > > So I get in the car with my coworker John (or whatever) and we take off, I get on the phone and call my brother. "Jim, get your ass dressed and wake up Koolaid too…yeah I know what fuckin time it is, I’ll explain later just be ready I’m on my way"_click_ Now my bro is about as big as me but his roomate…well his name ain’t really koolaid, he’s samoan and you know they’re just like really big people. His real name is ka’luai or ku lua ai or something like that but we always called him koolaid because when he played football he smashed through the lines like the Koolaid guy smashing through the walls in the old commercials. So I pick them up and figuring something was up, my bro had a couple of bats with him. > > Meanwhile my girl gets home about 5 minutes before I get there, she lived in a gated community but if you’ve ever been to one of those places you know that gate is useless. You punch in your code and drive through and the gate closes so slow a whole convoy of trucks could drive in right behind you…THEY…FOLLOW…HER…IN!!! (break up each word for emphasis)…now seriously, this is fucking unacceptable behavior. > > So she starts circling her block and then I show up and punch in the code and drive in. I come up to her block and I see her so I call. “yeah baby do you see me? ok when you get to the intersection I’m gonna tell you to punch it and floor it ok…ok punch it!” > > She floors it and zooms across the intersection and these jokers try to follow her STILL. So I step on the gas and **BAM!!!** (loud enough to maybe startle your target a little) drive right into him, got the back corner of his car so he spun out a little. So I get out of the car and my crew of friends follows suit and I walk up carrying a bat and I look at the guy for a minute and I (make a bat swinging motion) I swing…not hard enough to hit the guy but just enough that he was covered in broken glass. And I say look…look at me (do the two finger eye thing while saying this part)..look at me, I’m the one that did this to you, now take your friend and get the fuck out of her, I never want to see your face around her again… and cut Now, this story is fake, and not part of my usual routines but I do use it as an example of how attraction spikes can be embedded into a story (again Credit goes to Matador) From the story you convey Preselection of an attractive and intelligent (nerdy student) woman who is used to men asking her out all the time Leader of men in that I can have some big strong guys ready to throw down for me anytime day or night with a phone call. Protector of loved ones…pretty obvious Willingness to emote and that your emotions are appropriate. Drunk guys stalking your girl is something worth getting angry about and worth acting on that anger. The story has a buildup of tension and fear followed by a release and sense of relief. This helps the girl to imagine how it would feel to be in a scary situation and know that you could be the guy that comes to her rescue. As I said, I don’t use this story and I don’t recommend that anyone else does but if you can learn from it when fleshing out your own TRUE stories, then that’s awesome.