# The guy I like says I stare at him all the time: is that a good or bad sign? **URL:** \ **Category:** Women's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [April 17, 2009, 3:15am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/the-guy-i-like-says-i-stare-at-him-all-the-time-is-that-a-good-or-bad-sign/28132 "2009-04-17T03:15:22Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Maromi](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/maromi/32/809_2.png) [@Maromi](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Maromi)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2009, 8:39pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/the-guy-i-like-says-i-stare-at-him-all-the-time-is-that-a-good-or-bad-sign/28132/21 "2009-04-18T20:39:02Z")
Lots of great advice here. Thanks guys! šŸ™‚ Though I do feel like he could be won over (possibly), thats not really my way of doing things. If heā€™s not gonna be cool about a girl thinking heā€™s hott, then I donā€™t really want to waste my time. Irronically he showed up at the same restuarant as me last night and his group walked up to our table. Being a bit shaken about what he had said I didnā€™t make eye contact with him. That may seem like Iā€™m just not trying at all, but like you guys saidā€¦ if he really thinks Iā€™m worth it he will act on it. I also didnā€™t want to give him any reason to go off bragging about how I stare at him all the time. ---
**Author:** ![Sillykitty](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/sillykitty/32/1574_2.png) [@Sillykitty](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Sillykitty)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2009, 8:53pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/the-guy-i-like-says-i-stare-at-him-all-the-time-is-that-a-good-or-bad-sign/28132/22 "2009-04-18T20:53:31Z")
> [@Maromi](#): > > Lots of great advice here. Thanks guys! šŸ™‚ > > Though I do feel like he could be won over (possibly), thats not really my way of doing things. If heā€™s not gonna be cool about a girl thinking heā€™s hott, then I donā€™t really want to waste my time. Irronically he showed up at the same restuarant as me last night and his group walked up to our table. Being a bit shaken about what he had said I didnā€™t make eye contact with him. That may seem like Iā€™m just not trying at all, but like you guys saidā€¦ if he really thinks Iā€™m worth it he will act on it. I also didnā€™t want to give him any reason to go off bragging about how I stare at him all the time. Exactly. Plus, if you had acted on it, you may have risked an embarrassing and possibly painful rejection (if heā€™s not interested, that is). If he actually said, ā€œSheā€™s always staring at meā€ to someone, he might just be a thoughtless insensitive jerk who youā€™re better off without. ---
**Author:** ![Julia](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/julia/32/1388_2.png) [@Julia](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Julia)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2009, 11:12pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/the-guy-i-like-says-i-stare-at-him-all-the-time-is-that-a-good-or-bad-sign/28132/23 "2009-04-18T23:12:09Z")
yeah, he really could have embarrassed you big timeā€¦ way to go!!! Being very very sensitive myself to insult and criticismsā€¦ I have come to pay very close attention to how a guy (or anyone) speaks to me and about me/ and even othersā€¦ its a big indicator of just what kind of person he/she is. Luckily, Im engaged now! Anyways, if this one does end up liking you.. whether or not you like him it may be in his best interest long term to have an idea of how his words affected you, possibly others for his futureā€¦ Good karmaā€¦ and he may have been talking out of his a%\* when he said that to your friends boyfriend or the fact he said that may have been made up entirely. ---
**Author:** ![jankren](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/f0a364/32.png) [@jankren](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/jankren)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2009, 1:51am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/the-guy-i-like-says-i-stare-at-him-all-the-time-is-that-a-good-or-bad-sign/28132/24 "2009-04-19T01:51:02Z")
> [@Maromi](#): > > Lots of great advice here. Thanks guys! šŸ™‚ > > Though I do feel like he could be won over (possibly), thats not really my way of doing things. If heā€™s not gonna be cool about a girl thinking heā€™s hott, then I donā€™t really want to waste my time. Irronically he showed up at the same restuarant as me last night and his group walked up to our table. Being a bit shaken about what he had said I didnā€™t make eye contact with him. That may seem like Iā€™m just not trying at all, but like you guys saidā€¦ if he really thinks Iā€™m worth it he will act on it. I also didnā€™t want to give him any reason to go off bragging about how I stare at him all the time. So did anything happen on the table? Did you get to know more about him through your own observation? > [@](#): > > If he actually said, ā€œSheā€™s always staring at meā€ to someone, he might just be a thoughtless insensitive jerk who youā€™re better off without. Honestly please someone explain how this is insulting? When I told a friend of mine when someone kept staring at me I didnt say that because I didnt like her but because I felt SCARED and unfcomfortable that someone I didnt know kept on looking at me but wont talk to me. LOL ---
**Author:** ![Diatris](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/diatris/32/1066_2.png) [@Diatris](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Diatris)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2009, 2:35am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/the-guy-i-like-says-i-stare-at-him-all-the-time-is-that-a-good-or-bad-sign/28132/25 "2009-04-19T02:35:05Z")
> [@Julia](#): > > yeah, he really could have embarrassed you big timeā€¦ way to go!!! > > Being very very sensitive myself to insult and criticismsā€¦ I have come to pay very close attention to how a guy (or anyone) speaks to me and about me/ and even othersā€¦ its a big indicator of just what kind of person he/she is. > > Luckily, Im engaged now! > > Anyways, if this one does end up liking you.. whether or not you like him it may be in his best interest long term to have an idea of how his words affected you, possibly others for his futureā€¦ Good karmaā€¦ and he may have been talking out of his a%\* when he said that to your friends boyfriend or the fact he said that may have been made up entirely. Look everyone has their opinion and I respect that but we are not in the 3rd grade or high school. Hellooooooooo First of all, donā€™t just go on hear say. If he caught you staring at him and he made a note of then fine. He didnā€™t say you were creepy or anything like that. Secondly, this is the 21st century and if you can walk away without wondering then fine. I suggest you find out for yourself and then done with it. I am not encouraging you to go throw yourself at the guy, just start a conversation. Who knows you guys could not end together but end up being good friends. I seriously think all this what if he insults me and embarrasses me and blah blah blah sounds like fear. I personally donā€™t encourage fear. Why should I be afraid of another human being who is on the same level as me. PLEASE! You want me cool letā€™s see where it goes. You donā€™t , thatā€™s cool too we can be friends. Things happen life goes on. :DThatā€™s just my two cents in the matter. ---
**Author:** ![Maromi](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/maromi/32/809_2.png) [@Maromi](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Maromi)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2009, 2:56am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/the-guy-i-like-says-i-stare-at-him-all-the-time-is-that-a-good-or-bad-sign/28132/26 "2009-04-19T02:56:39Z")
> [@Julia](#): > > yeah, he really could have embarrassed you big timeā€¦ way to go!!! > > Being very very sensitive myself to insult and criticismsā€¦ I have come to pay very close attention to how a guy (or anyone) speaks to me and about me/ and even othersā€¦ its a big indicator of just what kind of person he/she is. > > Luckily, Im engaged now! > > Anyways, if this one does end up liking you.. whether or not you like him it may be in his best interest long term to have an idea of how his words affected you, possibly others for his futureā€¦ Good karmaā€¦ and he may have been talking out of his a%\* when he said that to your friends boyfriend or the fact he said that may have been made up entirely. Yeahā€¦ I can be easily offended aswell. I tend to think the worst about what others think of me sometimes. Bad habit I know, but Iā€™m working on it! lol šŸ™‚ ---
**Author:** ![Maromi](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/maromi/32/809_2.png) [@Maromi](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Maromi)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2009, 3:04am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/the-guy-i-like-says-i-stare-at-him-all-the-time-is-that-a-good-or-bad-sign/28132/27 "2009-04-19T03:04:36Z")
> [@jankren](#): > > So did anything happen on the table? Did you get to know more about him through your own observation? Well I didnā€™t look his way for the most part (definitely no eye contact), but he was standing next to his friends that were talking to people at our table. I quickly switched my attention to my friend sitting next to me and when I later looked up I noticed he was talking to one of his friends. Then he left. > [@jankren](#): > > Honestly please someone explain how this is insulting? When I told a friend of mine when someone kept staring at me I didnt say that because I didnt like her but because I felt SCARED and unfcomfortable that someone I didnt know kept on looking at me but wont talk to me. LOL Lol yeah, Iā€™m mostly just worried he thinks Iā€™m a creeper or something. ---
**Author:** ![Maromi](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/maromi/32/809_2.png) [@Maromi](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Maromi)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2009, 3:12am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/the-guy-i-like-says-i-stare-at-him-all-the-time-is-that-a-good-or-bad-sign/28132/28 "2009-04-19T03:12:41Z")
> [@Diatris](#): > > Look everyone has their opinion and I respect that but we are not in the 3rd grade or high school. Hellooooooooo > > First of all, donā€™t just go on hear say. If he caught you staring at him and he made a note of then fine. He didnā€™t say you were creepy or anything like that. > > Secondly, this is the 21st century and if you can walk away without wondering then fine. I suggest you find out for yourself and then done with it. > > I am not encouraging you to go throw yourself at the guy, just start a conversation. Who knows you guys could not end together but end up being good friends. > > I seriously think all this what if he insults me and embarrasses me and blah blah blah sounds like fear. I personally donā€™t encourage fear. Why should I be afraid of another human being who is on the same level as me. PLEASE! > > You want me cool letā€™s see where it goes. You donā€™t , thatā€™s cool too we can be friends. Things happen life goes on. > > :DThatā€™s just my two cents in the matter. Lol yeah just as long as he doesnā€™t think Iā€™m wierd then Iā€™m good. My friend understands how I feel and told me she was going to casually bring it up to her boyfriend and ask if his friend thinks Iā€™m creepy or something. This way I donā€™t make a fool out of myself šŸ†’. ---
**Author:** ![Julia](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/julia/32/1388_2.png) [@Julia](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Julia)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2009, 3:20am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/the-guy-i-like-says-i-stare-at-him-all-the-time-is-that-a-good-or-bad-sign/28132/29 "2009-04-19T03:20:33Z")
Oh Maromi~ Youā€™re totally NOT CREEPY!!! dont even bring that upā€¦ saddens me that one jerky comment and your second guessing yourselfā€¦ this guy def is not for you! ---
**Author:** ![jankren](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/f0a364/32.png) [@jankren](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/jankren)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2009, 3:26am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/the-guy-i-like-says-i-stare-at-him-all-the-time-is-that-a-good-or-bad-sign/28132/30 "2009-04-19T03:26:11Z")
> [@Maromi](#): > > Lol yeah, Iā€™m mostly just worried he thinks Iā€™m a creeper or something. Lol, yeah to be honest Im a ā€˜starerā€™ my self. But the thing is I love beauty. Im a very visual person. I like to enjoy anything beautiful around me. Im not gay but when I see a very beautiful man I even like to stare at him too while sometimes thinking if only I looked like him. šŸ™„:D:roll\_eyes: However, I admit that staring is a bad thing because first the longer you stare the less courage you have to make a move. And second when the person notices you staring at him/her repeatedly and feels creeped out by it then your chance to get to know that person will greatly diminish due to awkwardness. So what I usually do is that when Im attracted to someone I tell myself, ā€œDude, either you immediately try to get to know that person or forget her completely and pretend as if she didnt exist.ā€ šŸ˜‰ ---
**Author:** ![Maromi](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/maromi/32/809_2.png) [@Maromi](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Maromi)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2009, 4:00am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/the-guy-i-like-says-i-stare-at-him-all-the-time-is-that-a-good-or-bad-sign/28132/31 "2009-04-19T04:00:03Z")
> [@Julia](#): > > Oh Maromi~ Youā€™re totally NOT CREEPY!!! dont even bring that upā€¦ saddens me that one jerky comment and your second guessing yourselfā€¦ this guy def is not for you! Thanks Julia šŸ™‚. Perhaps he isnā€™t. ---
**Author:** ![Maromi](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/maromi/32/809_2.png) [@Maromi](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Maromi)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2009, 4:08am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/the-guy-i-like-says-i-stare-at-him-all-the-time-is-that-a-good-or-bad-sign/28132/32 "2009-04-19T04:08:12Z")
> [@jankren](#): > > Lol, yeah to be honest Im a ā€˜starerā€™ my self. But the thing is I love beauty. Im a very visual person. I like to enjoy anything beautiful around me. Im not gay but when I see a very beautiful man I even like to stare at him too while sometimes thinking if only I looked like him. šŸ™„:D:roll\_eyes: Lol yeah, I often look at people wondering if they are better looking then myself šŸ˜›. > [@jankren](#): > > However, I admit that staring is a bad thing because first the longer you stare the less courage you have to make a move. And second when the person notices you staring at him/her repeatedly and feels creeped out by it then your chance to get to know that person will greatly diminish due to awkwardness. > > So what I usually do is that when Im attracted to someone I tell myself, ā€œDude, either you immediately try to get to know that person or forget her completely and pretend as if she didnt exist.ā€ šŸ˜‰ Good advice, Thanks šŸ™‚! ---
**Author:** ![Maromi](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/maromi/32/809_2.png) [@Maromi](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Maromi)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2009, 12:41am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/the-guy-i-like-says-i-stare-at-him-all-the-time-is-that-a-good-or-bad-sign/28132/33 "2009-04-23T00:41:08Z")
In case anyone would like the latest update on this situation.. lol My friend was talking to her boyfriend about the whole deal and asked if the guy thought I was creepy or something. Her boyfriend said that no he didnā€™t and he told him he was going to start staring at me a lot now šŸ˜•. Lol I donā€™t really know what to think, but this kinda sounds like itā€™s turning into a game. Another noteā€¦ I wasnā€™t at church this sunday (he goes to my church) but my mom said he kept staring at themā€¦ hahaha so itā€™s not just me who (apparently) stares! I feel much better now šŸ˜‰. ---
**Author:** ![remmy](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/remmy/32/2451_2.png) [@remmy](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/remmy)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2009, 12:56am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/the-guy-i-like-says-i-stare-at-him-all-the-time-is-that-a-good-or-bad-sign/28132/34 "2009-04-23T00:56:37Z")
haha to me, it seems like heā€™s trying to play games with you. it seems like he likes u if he was staring at where ur supposed to be at church and stuff. i just think itā€™s stupid/insensitive for him to say ā€œwell sheā€™s always staring at meā€ honestly, not that im great at games (cuz my TG always plays me ā˜¹ ), i wouldve told my friends to ignore him but flirt with him sometimes if he makes contact with you first šŸ˜‰ \<3 ---
**Author:** ![Axus](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/axus/32/2296_2.png) [@Axus](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Axus)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2009, 1:50am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/the-guy-i-like-says-i-stare-at-him-all-the-time-is-that-a-good-or-bad-sign/28132/35 "2009-04-23T01:50:26Z")
Maromi, thatā€™s so great that things look like theyā€™re heading up for you! I read the first post and somehow ended up reading them allā€¦and from what Iā€™ve gotten, your chances are starting to get a bit better. I have to say, though, please be careful with him staring- if your mom caught him staring as well, he may just be the type of person who stares and doesnā€™t realize it. If thatā€™s the case, then him watching you may not mean much. On the other hand, he may actually be into you, and obviously, since you going for him didnā€™t catch his interest earlier, keep letting him try and get YOUR attention. Also, if heā€™s the type that likes to play games, then that itself speaks for him. I personally find the guy who goes for the gold immediately to be a bit less finnickyā€¦or fickle. Definitely keep up the game and see what happens. Who knows? You may end up with the prize fish in your hands šŸ˜‰. Canā€™t wait to hear more updates! ---
**Author:** ![Maromi](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/maromi/32/809_2.png) [@Maromi](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Maromi)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2009, 2:30am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/the-guy-i-like-says-i-stare-at-him-all-the-time-is-that-a-good-or-bad-sign/28132/36 "2009-04-23T02:30:09Z")
> [@remmy](#): > > haha to me, it seems like heā€™s trying to play games with you. it seems like he likes u if he was staring at where ur supposed to be at church and stuff. i just think itā€™s stupid/insensitive for him to say ā€œwell sheā€™s always staring at meā€ > > honestly, not that im great at games (cuz my TG always plays me ā˜¹ ), i wouldve told my friends to ignore him but flirt with him sometimes if he makes contact with you first šŸ˜‰ > \<3 Yeah I have to agree here. I definitely think heā€™s trying to play games šŸ™„ā€¦ eh maybe Iā€™ll play along. I guess we will just wait and see where this goes šŸ˜‰. I donā€™t really know if this changes anything, but my friends boyfriend recently told me that his exact words were ā€œDo you know that Tiffany girl? Well she looks at me like all the time.ā€ lol. ---
**Author:** ![Maromi](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/maromi/32/809_2.png) [@Maromi](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Maromi)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2009, 2:34am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/the-guy-i-like-says-i-stare-at-him-all-the-time-is-that-a-good-or-bad-sign/28132/37 "2009-04-23T02:34:19Z")
> [@Axus](#): > > Maromi, thatā€™s so great that things look like theyā€™re heading up for you! I read the first post and somehow ended up reading them allā€¦and from what Iā€™ve gotten, your chances are starting to get a bit better. I have to say, though, please be careful with him staring- if your mom caught him staring as well, he may just be the type of person who stares and doesnā€™t realize it. If thatā€™s the case, then him watching you may not mean much. On the other hand, he may actually be into you, and obviously, since you going for him didnā€™t catch his interest earlier, keep letting him try and get YOUR attention. > Also, if heā€™s the type that likes to play games, then that itself speaks for him. I personally find the guy who goes for the gold immediately to be a bit less finnickyā€¦or fickle. Definitely keep up the game and see what happens. Who knows? You may end up with the prize fish in your hands šŸ˜‰. > Canā€™t wait to hear more updates! Yeahā€¦ I really wish guys my age wouldnā€™t play so many games šŸ™„. I will definitely keep you guys updated if anything interesting happens!! šŸ™‚ ~Tiffany~ šŸ˜ƒ ---
**Author:** ![remmy](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/remmy/32/2451_2.png) [@remmy](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/remmy)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2009, 2:36am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/the-guy-i-like-says-i-stare-at-him-all-the-time-is-that-a-good-or-bad-sign/28132/38 "2009-04-23T02:36:49Z")
yaa i think he was trying to figure u out but i think he did it kinda obnoxiouslyā€¦ but yeah.. flirt with him only when he pays attention to u first. hmph. i hate guys who play games šŸ˜› ---
**Author:** ![Maromi](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/maromi/32/809_2.png) [@Maromi](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Maromi)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2009, 2:42am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/the-guy-i-like-says-i-stare-at-him-all-the-time-is-that-a-good-or-bad-sign/28132/39 "2009-04-23T02:42:56Z")
> [@remmy](#): > > ] hmph. i hate guys who play games šŸ˜› Blahā€¦ Me too!! ---
**Author:** ![remmy](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/remmy/32/2451_2.png) [@remmy](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/remmy)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2009, 2:56am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/the-guy-i-like-says-i-stare-at-him-all-the-time-is-that-a-good-or-bad-sign/28132/40 "2009-04-23T02:56:23Z")
hahaha or love them, apparently, for both of us šŸ˜‰ [Previous page](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/the-guy-i-like-says-i-stare-at-him-all-the-time-is-that-a-good-or-bad-sign/28132.md?page=1) [Next page](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/the-guy-i-like-says-i-stare-at-him-all-the-time-is-that-a-good-or-bad-sign/28132.md?page=3)