I second that suggestion. I find that instant shine gives you this happy glow while mx300 makes you seem strong and alpha. The is just makes you seem less intimidating if that makes any sense.
I’m also naturally alpha so I tend to be easy on tal (I prefer tal over tah). But I do soften things up by also using mx135, mx274, est, SOE, instant shine or even instant openness. These products make me seem more approachable.